Posted February 26, 2016 What are your thoughts on married providers? Not ones with pimps but have a legit stable life? It's seemingly more common, and most partners know their SO is hobbying. Has it ever deterred you from seeing someone again? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 As long as both parties in the relationship are aware and are happy with it, I see no problem what so ever. That is my take on it, for what ever it is worth. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 I have seen a wonderful provider in the Springs who is married. And I'd see her again. Once again, it's really none of my business. They have their lives and they're happy. More power to them. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 The fact that a provider is married would not deter me from seeing her. It's none of my business. I however do not want to talk about her SO or mine for that matter. I don't really like being in a relationship so any talk about SOs of any kind is a huge turn off. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 I believe in marriage equality for all!! Share the pain!! I see you wear your ring in your advertising; it hasn't affected my wanting to meet you 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 1 hour ago, SpiceInCo said: What are your thoughts on married providers? Not ones with pimps but have a legit stable life? It's seemingly more common, and most partners know their SO is hobbying. Has it ever deterred you from seeing someone again? Personally, I kinda hope that most providers have a boyfriend, or husband. I'm sure it helps to have someone to talk to, and share good and bad experiences. I was in such a relationship (she's retired - we're still together), and never had any issue. It's a job, just a very intimate and personal one. I'm happy if a girl has a supportive mate. Everybody wants to be loved! 6 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 2 minutes ago, pfunk said: Personally, I kinda hope that most providers have a boyfriend, or husband. I'm sure it helps to have someone to talk to, and share good and bad experiences. I was in such a relationship (she's retired - we're still together), and never had any issue. It's a job, just a very intimate and personal one. I'm happy if a girl has a supportive mate. Everybody wants to be loved! Can I change my answer? I like this one better.^^^ 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 I agree. As someone who as hobbied as a single woman, and hobbied as a married woman. I found being married actually kinda of helped the provider client situation relationship, you could both bitch about your SOs together. I mean I don't think a woman who is marriwd that hobbies doesn't enjoy the fun kinky nonsense that they also don't get at home just also said also said married client. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 If I somehow know that she has an SO i also need to KNOW the SO approves of her being a provider. The last thing I want is drama from an SO finding out and going ape shit. I also do not care for assisting her in cheating (and cheating it is if SO does not KNOW AND APPROVE). If SO does know and approves all is fine by me and frankly none of my business beyond that. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 3 minutes ago, SpiceInCo said: I agree. As someone who as hobbied as a single woman, and hobbied as a married woman. I found being married actually kinda of helped the provider client situation relationship, you could both bitch about your SOs together. I mean I don't think a woman who is marriwd that hobbies doesn't enjoy the fun kinky nonsense that they also don't get at home just also said also said married client. Bitch about your SO and i am gone, not to return. Don't need to hear that drama. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 26 minutes ago, pfunk said: Personally, I kinda hope that most providers have a boyfriend, or husband. I'm sure it helps to have someone to talk to, and share good and bad experiences. I was in such a relationship (she's retired - we're still together), and never had any issue. It's a job, just a very intimate and personal one. I'm happy if a girl has a supportive mate. Everybody wants to be loved! The best relationship I have ever had is with someone who started out as a client. Never had to have the "talk" about what I do which is such a relief. He is totally understanding and always listens to me gripe even if he has no idea what's going on (he doesn't participate in the community). I will only talk about him when asked or if I feel someone wants to push some boundaries Tell that SO of yours hello for me. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 1 hour ago, gr8owl said: If I somehow know that she has an SO i also need to KNOW the SO approves of her being a provider. The last thing I want is drama from an SO finding out and going ape shit. I also do not care for assisting her in cheating (and cheating it is if SO does not KNOW AND APPROVE). If SO does know and approves all is fine by me and frankly none of my business beyond that. Do you have a SO? If so, does she approve of your envolvment in the hobby? Im just trying to understand why it's relevant whether or not a providers SO knows what she does or not. 90% of the men I see are cheating w me. Is that somehow not the same? Thoughts? 🙏😘 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 I really don't care one way or the other I just don't want any drama to occur from an unhappy relationship 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 6 hours ago, Just Jos said: Do you have a SO? If so, does she approve of your envolvment in the hobby? Im just trying to understand why it's relevant whether or not a providers SO knows what she does or not. 90% of the men I see are cheating w me. Is that somehow not the same? Thoughts? 🙏😘 I wouldn't cheat on you Jos! oh wait.... you said with... hmmm.... That I would do! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 7 hours ago, Just Jos said: Do you have a SO? If so, does she approve of your envolvment in the hobby? Im just trying to understand why it's relevant whether or not a providers SO knows what she does or not. 90% of the men I see are cheating w me. Is that somehow not the same? Thoughts? 🙏😘 This was the reason I brought this up. On the other board I used to be on there is a discussion going on exactly like this. 2 providers admitted to being married and the men jumped on them. It really baffled me since so many clients are married. Seemed a little hypocritical. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 9 hours ago, Just Jos said: Do you have a SO? If so, does she approve of your envolvment in the hobby? Im just trying to understand why it's relevant whether or not a providers SO knows what she does or not. 90% of the men I see are cheating w me. Is that somehow not the same? Thoughts? 🙏😘 It is relevant because i don't need hubby who knows nothing about her escorting coming home in the middle of a session. Or a jealous and suspicious SO following her to my hotel room, etc. Way too much potential for drama, and drama avoidance is a big reason to do this. As to SO, no I do not have one of those at present. Each to their own, but if I did she would know or i wouldn't be doing. But I am not remotely attempting to judge anyone else on their relationships - that is their business. But I have a right to choose not to participate in THEIR relationship choices if it makes me uncomfortable or especially if it causes me drama. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 21 minutes ago, gr8owl said: It is relevant because i don't need hubby who knows nothing about her escorting coming home in the middle of a session. Or a jealous and suspicious SO following her to my hotel room, etc. Way too much potential for drama, and drama avoidance is a big reason to do this. As to SO, no I do not have one of those at present. Each to their own, but if I did she would know or i wouldn't be doing. But I am not remotely attempting to judge anyone else on their relationships - that is their business. But I have a right to choose not to participate in THEIR relationship choices if it makes me uncomfortable or especially if it causes me drama. Do you ask the providers that you see if they're involved with someone? How do you know what their relationship choices are without being nosy? I wouldn't answer those questions, they're personal and not really anyone's business. My personal relationship status is personal and doesn't have anything to do with "Lucy". I would also guess that the lady who has a jealous husband probably isn't going to tell you the truth. I think the flip-side of that is more common. Jealous and angry wives calling providers. But we don't ask about that we just assume that guys are sharp enough to keep that stuff hidden. I would like to think that I have a right not to see a client based on how his personal relationship could affect me but I don't because it's not really my business. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 (edited) 1 hour ago, gr8owl said: It is relevant because i don't need hubby who knows nothing about her escorting coming home in the middle of a session. Or a jealous and suspicious SO following her to my hotel room, etc. Way too much potential for drama, and drama avoidance is a big reason to do this. Not all escorts are liars. Only some of them. As for the jealous and suspicious that what divorce lawyers are for. 3 hours ago, SpiceInCo said: 2 providers admitted to being married and the men jumped on them. It really baffled me since so many clients are married. Seemed a little hypocritical. Thats like saying, I can have a wife, cheat on her, but you cant have a husband and be honest. Yes this definitely hypocritical. 13 hours ago, gr8owl said: Bitch about your SO and i am gone, not to return. Don't need to hear that drama. That is what reviews are for. Im pretty sure the client inst paying you to hear about your husband. 13 hours ago, pfunk said: Personally, I kinda hope that most providers have a boyfriend, or husband. I'm sure it helps to have someone to talk to, and share good and bad experiences. I was in such a relationship (she's retired - we're still together), and never had any issue. It's a job, just a very intimate and personal one. I'm happy if a girl has a supportive mate. Everybody wants to be loved! I agree with Pfunk. ~~~~My personal thoughts are, I am very honest about the life style I live. No one is entitled to my personal business. I do whatever I want and date whoever I want. If someone doesn't like it tuff shit. Its not their personal life. No one wants to be lonely. Everyone deserves to be happy and have that special someone in their life. Just don't send your boyfriend/husband over to get another providers incall location. Edited February 26, 2016 by Nikki Holiday 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 13 hours ago, SpiceInCo said: you could both bitch about your SOs together I don't give a hoot about a gal's personal relationships, other than generally I wish everyone well. On the other hand, I don't understand marriage as a competitive advantage, but that's because I'm not an escort so I have no frame of reference. Personally, I'm not remotely interested in spending any part of my time with an escort listening to her bitch about her SO. However, I'm also not interested in listening to her bitch about anything. During our time together, I solemnly promise the same. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 I'm talking on the long term client spectrum. Not on hey this is out first visit type thing. When I was with my ex husband there were common denominations between the clients and myself that we were experiencing together like, lack luster sex life, no lovey dovey, divorce etc. This wasn't meant as in you pour your heart to someone you've only seen a few times lol. Sorry for not saying it that way the first time 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 (edited) 14 hours ago, pfunk said: Personally, I kinda hope that most providers have a boyfriend, or husband. I'm sure it helps to have someone to talk to, and share good and bad experiences. I was in such a relationship (she's retired - we're still together), and never had any issue. It's a job, just a very intimate and personal one. I'm happy if a girl has a supportive mate. Everybody wants to be loved! And knowing them both (pfunk & mate), I can say that they are very good for each other. This was also true before she retired. Very +1 on the highlighted portion. (EDIT: We (M or F) are not going to get that here (from clients or providers) on a regular basis.) Edited February 26, 2016 by Bit Banger 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 A provider's personal life is her personal business and not a determining factor whether or not I will see her. If the subject comes up after we've established a long term relationship, then it just gives us more in common to discuss. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 12 hours ago, Just Jos said: Im just trying to understand why it's relevant whether or not a providers SO knows what she does or not. 90% of the men I see are cheating w me. Is that somehow not the same? Thoughts? 🙏😘 It's not relevant. The "angry cuckolded husband getting violent" thing is about as likely as getting struck by lightning during a session. All of us are keeping our involvement in the hobby secret from somebody (and spare me the "not me" responses). I say, let's all just keep the secrets we want to keep, talk about the things we want to talk about, relax, and have a good time together. It is not complicated. If a provider wants to talk to me about her husband, boyfriend, kids, dog, shitty ex-, asshole boss, divorce, it's all good. We can talk for a while about whatever. I'm a patient listener. And after a while I am going to put my tongue somewhere deep between your legs. If she doesn't want to talk and we go right to the other stuff, also good. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 2 minutes ago, pejo said: It's not relevant. The "angry cuckolded husband getting violent" thing is about as likely as getting struck by lightning during a session. All of us are keeping our involvement in the hobby secret from somebody (and spare me the "not me" responses). I say, let's all just keep the secrets we want to keep, talk about the things we want to talk about, relax, and have a good time together. It is not complicated. If a provider wants to talk to me about her husband, boyfriend, kids, dog, shitty ex-, asshole boss, divorce, it's all good. We can talk for a while about whatever. I'm a patient listener. And after a while I am going to put my tongue somewhere deep between your legs. If she doesn't want to talk and we go right to the other stuff, also good. Ummm.... be quiet and get licking. lol 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 2 hours ago, Lucy Kitten said: Do you ask the providers that you see if they're involved with someone? How do you know what their relationship choices are without being nosy? I wouldn't answer those questions, they're personal and not really anyone's business. My personal relationship status is personal and doesn't have anything to do with "Lucy". I would also guess that the lady who has a jealous husband probably isn't going to tell you the truth. Back up a few squares. My first post - "If I become aware ................" No I do not ask, but if it somehow comes to my attention that she has an SO and that the SO is not aware and good with it, I am gone. Her business is her business, but mine is mine. No harm no foul, but gone. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 2 minutes ago, gr8owl said: Back up a few squares. My first post - "If I become aware ................" No I do not ask, but if it somehow comes to my attention that she has an SO and that the SO is not aware and good with it, I am gone. Her business is her business, but mine is mine. No harm no foul, but gone. Seems reasonable to me. Not something I would worry about, personally. But hard to see why this is wrong if it's what you need to be comfortable. (And, yes, gr8owl, I'm sure you have been waiting breathlessly for my approval ). 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 9 minutes ago, pejo said: It's not relevant. The "angry cuckolded husband getting violent" thing is about as likely as getting struck by lightning during a session. Till it happens to you all is good. Not as rare as you think, but good luck with it. All of us are keeping our involvement in the hobby secret from somebody (and spare me the "not me" responses) Cause after all your opinion is above question so spare me any evidence to the contrary?????. I say, let's all just keep the secrets we want to keep, talk about the things we want to talk about, relax, and have a good time together. It is not complicated. If a provider wants to talk to me about her husband, boyfriend, kids, dog, shitty ex-, asshole boss, divorce, it's all good. We can talk for a while about whatever. I'm a patient listener. And after a while I am going to put my tongue somewhere deep between your legs. Whatever works for you I fully support your right to do. I make my own choices. If she doesn't want to talk and we go right to the other stuff, also good. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 2 hours ago, Nikki Holiday said: Not all escorts are liars. Only some of them. As for the jealous and suspicious that what divorce lawyers are for. And where precisely did I say any provider was a liar?? As for the lawyer suggestion - yeah, next time a jealous hubby is intent on kicking my ass or pointing a gun, I will be sure to say "STOP, before I call a divorce attorney!!" -2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 (edited) 36 minutes ago, gr8owl said: Till it happens to you all is good. Not as rare as you think, but good luck with it. Cause after all your opinion is above question so spare me any evidence to the contrary?????. Whatever works for you I fully support your right to do. I make my own choices. You are 100% spot on, its not as rare. Edited February 26, 2016 by Nikki Holiday 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 26, 2016 (edited) 38 minutes ago, gr8owl said: And where precisely did I say any provider was a liar?? Don't put words in my mouth. Your GRUMPY TODAY lol I never said you did, I was simply pointing it out. As for the lawyer suggestion - yeah, next time a jealous hubby is intent on kicking my ass or pointing a gun, I will be sure to say "STOP, before I call a divorce attorney!!" WOW Some boys need spankings. Edited February 26, 2016 by Nikki Holiday 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
