Posted April 16, 2015 About two years ago I saw a well reviewed FBSM provider in Denver and thoroughly enjoyed myself. Since then I have tried to see her again when I travel to Denver(I live over three hours away). The first time I set up an appointment with her. The day before the appointment I sent an e-mail to confirm and she replied saying that she couldn't make the appointment. I was fine with it, but I thought it was a little strange that she hadn't contacted me first to cancel. I set up another appointment on a trip to Denver. She confirmed it, but when I got to her location she wouldn't answer. I finally got ahold of her "assistant" who said she would try and get ahold of her. 30 minutes after her appointment I get an e-mail saying that she has car trouble and health issues and can't make it. She also mentions that she lives 30 minutes away from her incall location, which made me think, "She should have known an hour ago that she wasn't going to be at this appointment." I send her an e-mail expressing frustration that she cancelled on me twice now, and she responds pretty much recounting all her excuses and acting offended that I would be frustrated by any of this. I wasn't looking for anything except a sincere, "I'm sorry you were so inconvenienced by this." Finally, two months ago, I figure I'll try again. I figure she had what sounded like legitimate excuses before. She still has good reviews. I must have caught her on two bad days. I set up an appointment and she cheerfully accepts. We confirm and I head down to Denver again. An hour before the appointment I was in a store and I miss a couple of calls. When I leave I check my e-mail and she tells me that she is going out of town for a funeral and her mother insisted that she leave before the storm comes in. So instead of keeping our appointment, she will be packing. Again, this might be a legitimate excuse, but I can't help but be frustrated by the whole thing. I've gone back and forth a few times on writing a "No-show" review, but I'm not sure if I should. Any thoughts? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 No review as the events are over 30 days past. You should have posted this two months ago. STOP MAKING APPOINTMENTS WITH HER! Perhaps she is just making legitimate sounding excuses to avoid telling you that she doesn't want to see you anymore. Perhaps her assistant hasn't gotten this message as well and continues to make the appointments. Even if this isn't her reason, she doesn't seem very reliable as a provider. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 I think that second attempt would qualify for a no show review. Like you said she had to know at least an hour out that she would not make it. Reviews are for the benefit of the hobbying public, and know who this is would be a benefit to the public. PS, you might want to show around. There are other fish in the sea. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 Perhaps she is just making legitimate sounding excuses to avoid telling you that she doesn't want to see you anymore. If that is the case, why did she confirm them first? Just to be clear, I have stopped trying at this point. I know how dumb it sounds when you put all that together, but I really enjoyed my time before. Lesson learned. Adding that to the fact that she still is getting great reviews, is why I tried that one last time. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 If that is the case, why did she confirm them first? Just to be clear, I have stopped trying at this point. I know how dumb it sounds when you put all that together, but I really enjoyed my time before. Lesson learned. Adding that to the fact that she still is getting great reviews, is why I tried that one last time. Could be because she is flaky. Could also be that you creeped her out, either during or sometime after you first session. Maybe you creeped her out so much that she feels the easiest way to dissuade you is to initially accept the appointment, then make up a "legit" excuse later for not keeping it. She clearly doesn't want to see you, whatever her reasons are. You should have posted a review after the second time she "flaked" on you. What you SHOULD do now: 1) Take a hint 2) stop calling her 3) evaluate your behavior to determine if maybe you made her uncomfortable 4) learn & move on And next time someone wastes your time, post a damn review so the rest of us can use the information. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 If that is the case, why did she confirm them first? ... ... Perhaps her assistant hasn't gotten this message as well and continues to make the appointments. Even if this isn't her reason, she doesn't seem very reliable as a provider. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 What you SHOULD do now: 1) Take a hint 2) stop calling her 3) evaluate your behavior to determine if maybe you made her uncomfortable 4) learn & move on Trust me. I've been going over what I might have done, but I have no idea. I have ongoing relationships with many other providers that are closer to me and have never had an experience like this. Everyone I've ever seen before has gladly welcomed me back. Like I said before, I haven't spoken to her since she cancelled our last appointment. My hesitation in posting a review comes out of some ignorance. Has anyone on here ever gotten retaliation for posting a bad review? That is my main concern. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 ... Has anyone on here ever gotten retaliation for posting a bad review? That is my main concern. Depends on your definition of "bad review". There are some gals who get miffed at a VERY GOOD review. But the worst I've experienced (so far) is not being able to make another appointment with her. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 And the last sentence of the last e-mail she sent me is, "I would be happy to reschedule for next week if interested?" Why say that if you are trying to get someone to leave you alone? I kind of wonder if she didn't like when I called her on the no-show, so she decided to mess with me. If that is the case, it makes me nervous to post a negative review. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 No review as the events are over 30 days past. You should have posted this two months ago. STOP MAKING APPOINTMENTS WITH HER! Perhaps she is just making legitimate sounding excuses to avoid telling you that she doesn't want to see you anymore. Perhaps her assistant hasn't gotten this message as well and continues to make the appointments. Even if this isn't her reason, she doesn't seem very reliable as a provider. +1 you should have posted a review when it happened 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 In my experience I find this pretty typical. Being reliable is not an escort's virtue. Get used to it. Have an alternate you can call when this happens. Yes, nasty things have happen to those that write a negative review. Especially to those that have given out personal information. Sorry this happened to you. It makes you appreciate those providers that are reliable and not a flake. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 And the last sentence of the last e-mail she sent me is, "I would be happy to reschedule for next week if interested?" Why say that if you are trying to get someone to leave you alone? I kind of wonder if she didn't like when I called her on the no-show, so she decided to mess with me. If that is the case, it makes me nervous to post a negative review. When you review, don't use a handle that would indicate who you are. Then she can't black-ball you. Who knows why she says what she says. Bottom line, she flaked on you. If she valued your business, she'd communicate better & stop wasting your time. I think you're trying too hard to analyze & figure her out. Kick her to the curb & find a new ATF - there are lots of other available providers. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 ...Yes, nasty things have happen to those that write a negative review. Especially to those that have given out personal information... I just checked reviews and it appears to the OP you don't review under your TOB handle (of course this is another discussion). Not sure if you wrote a positive review of her (or several) in the past, but a NO SHOW review isn't as bad as a RIP OFF, TERRIBLE or NOT GOOD. You are just relaying your experience this time around. Who knows, maybe all of those excuses were legit excuses and she'll make it up to you down the line. If your a glutton for punishment and try again to see her, and she gives you another excuse, then I think you have your answer! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2015 I'm going to agree with BBB. Schedule an appointment & post a review no matter what. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 17, 2015 Its too late, and as stated above, the "no show" is only valuable if there is a pattern, thats why we dont see it often. Move to the next one and keep your fingers crossed that she rocks it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 17, 2015 And next time someone wastes your time, post a damn review so the rest of us can use the information. This. The reviews are very helpful in deciding who to spend your time with and who will just waste it. Timely info is important though. Good luck with your next visit to another provider! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 20, 2015 I think all of you gentlemen should review. Unfortunately, only a select few of you have the balls to do so. Its not like you use your real name. Review the good and the bad. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 21, 2015 It could be just the ever-present "flake factor." You will find it in every profession (oldest and otherwise). For them, your appt is a minor thing. To you, it's a huge drive and time commitment. Some people just don't understand, and they should not get your business. Find an FBSM gal close to you man, for the love any deity you choose. Whatever you do, don't try a fourth time. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 21, 2015 Whatever you do, don't try a fourth time. Man, no kidding. Where are you? Hell, I've been doing this for, like, five minutes. Even I can give you a couple of names that will not let you down and are all anyone could ever want. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 21, 2015 Have an alternate you can call when this happens. Yes, nasty things have happen to those that write a negative review. Especially to those that have given out personal information. Sorry this happened to you. It makes you appreciate those providers that are reliable and not a flake. Could be because she is flaky. Could also be that you creeped her out, She clearly doesn't want to see you, whatever her reasons are. You should have posted a review after the second time she "flaked" on you. What you SHOULD do now: 1) Take a hint 2) stop calling her 3) evaluate your behavior to determine if maybe you made her uncomfortable 4) learn & move on And next time someone wastes your time, post a damn review so the rest of us can use the information. No review as the events are over 30 days past. You should have posted this two months ago. :(STOP MAKING APPOINTMENTS WITH HER! ^^^this^^^ Did you not write the review because you gave her your personal info and now your shit up creek if you write the review? Man how come you guys keep taking chances with your personal info? How easy would it be to get p411 blocked your identity. The provider is healed accountable for her actions. You write a bad review for poor actions. You see this way the girls who are reliable, and show up... are a much better option. There are several girls in Denver who are reliable. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
