do you send email via backpage

[dredrocker]

Some BP ads have a click here to send a provider a email.

Do you use this function? Is it secure ? could it be trouble ?

I have used it and rarely get any response. Just wondering what

consensus is.

-RED

[MAG]

Some BP ads have a click here to send a provider a email.

Do you use this function? Is it secure ? could it be trouble ?

I have used it and rarely get any response. Just wondering what

consensus is.

-RED

Read the ad -- if it says "no emails", then don't send an email.

If the ad says "email preferred", then send an email.

If the ad doesn't specify, then do what you want, and don't be surprised if you don't get a response.

[FuriousInch]

I would never see a BP girl that does not include a phone number or her personal email in her ad. Plain and simple. From all I've read and heard, if a girl doesn't have either of those, you are just asking for trouble. BP is a crap shoot to begin with, add to that the lack of a phone number and the odds go even further south. Read some of the negative reviews on the various sites and you'll find several BP girls with no numbers in their ads.

Patient: Doctor, it hurts when I do this.

Doctor: Then don't do that.

[N6_in_the_village]

I can report an observation, which is even better than a "consensus": I checked the most recent 15 or so Denver BP escort ads. They all include an "Email this ad" link. Which agrees with my memory of BP ads.

I think my observation means that Backpage automatically inserts an "Email this ad" link in every ad, whether the advertiser wants it or not. Usually the advertiser doesn't want the "Email this ad" link. That explains why the OP "rarely gets any response" when sending a message to "Email this ad".

So when a phone number or personal email is given in the text of the ad, just respond to that and ignore "Email this ad". But how about the ads that include no contact information except for "Email this ad"? I agree with FuriousInch there:

I would never see a BP girl that does not include a phone number or her personal email in her ad. Plain and simple. From all I've read and heard, if a girl doesn't have either of those, you are just asking for trouble. BP is a crap shoot to begin with, add to that the lack of a phone number and the odds go even further south.

Conclusion: your best bet is to never click "Email this ad". A legit ad will include personal contact info (phone or e-mail). If "Email this ad" is the only contact option, odds are very high that the ad is a scam of some kind.

[shopguy]

It is like selling stuff on craigslist or eBay. Your reply is forwarded through BP, If the person posting the ad doesn't feel like responding, you don't ever really have their personal e mail to stalk or harass later. I have replied to these and get 25% response. Kind of like texting the phone number. I keep it light to sort out general location and availability. First step considering my location. Booking an appt may involve driving 1 1/2 - 2 hours drive in some cases.

[Velvet Valentine]

I've used that function VERY successfully for 8+ years , never needing to post a phone number or email EVER. Guess what?! Cops don't call me when there is a sting either! It has weeded out many timewasters, guys pulling pranks, photo collectors, late night calls from someone drunk or on drugs, LE ... so everyone has a different opinion. Many have a real life outside of this, so maybe they prefer to keep it very seperate sometimes. Sometimes this isn't always first or 24/7 for many.

Just because someone doesn't post a number (or email) doesn't make them bad or a scammer. That is a myth or the minority opinion. It's more about doing your homework to find reputable, genuine providers. Basically the way one requires to be contacted has NOTHING to do with the type of provider she is.

It's my opinion that LE loves texting...but again, that is my own opinion. I also know girls who only text. Their choice.

Maybe she has another job and can't speak.

Maybe she has a family, and can't speak to you at any given moment.

Maybe she is so damn busy with clients that the email response works best for her. I can name many very successful girls who made well over 6 figures for a damn long time by email only. Some have retired very nicely and are sitting pretty right now.

A bad provider will be bad no matter which way she prefers to be contacted.

Who the heck knows? Everyone is different. One has nothing to do with the other. ....You click with some, and some you don't. Since when is anyone way the only correct way? You know the saying, "50 ways to skin a cat..."

IMO, Thinking like that is shallow, and you might be missing out on great times with great girls. Just sayin'.

[pitbull]

I tried it once with an FBSM provider and got a response. Our schedules never meshed, but she responded.

[Goggles Paesano]

Personally, I don't like initiating contact or corresponding with a provider via email. There are a few different reasons for this...

For one thing, I see it as a safety issue of sorts. For anybody who wishes to practice discretion and maintain at least a certain degree of anonymity, email just doesn't seem like a very good idea. I mean, how do you know your messages aren't being saved and stored somewhere by the provider or someone else? How do you know who has access to that email? Yes, I suppose the same could be said for text messages. But there's just something about having that email out there that can be saved, printed and forwarded to who knows where.

Secondly, there's just something so cold and impersonal about email. It's like calling tech support or customer service and getting connected to one of those stupid automated systems when all you want is to speak to an actual person. It just doesn't give me the best of impressions.

But getting back to the op's original question... I don't necessarily think backpage email is any more or any less secure than a provider's personal email. But personally, I prefer talking on the phone.

[boink36]

Personally, I don't like initiating contact or corresponding with a provider via email. There are a few different reasons for this...

For one thing, I see it as a safety issue of sorts. For anybody who wishes to practice discretion and maintain at least a certain degree of anonymity, email just doesn't seem like a very good idea. I mean, how do you know your messages aren't being saved and stored somewhere by the provider or someone else? How do you know who has access to that email? Yes, I suppose the same could be said for text messages. But there's just something about having that email out there that can be saved, printed and forwarded to who knows where.

Secondly, there's just something so cold and impersonal about email. It's like calling tech support or customer service and getting connected to one of those stupid automated systems when all you want is to speak to an actual person. It just doesn't give me the best of impressions.

But getting back to the op's original question... I don't necessarily think backpage email is any more or any less secure than a provider's personal email. But personally, I prefer talking on the phone.

They are.

[Goggles Paesano]

I've used that function VERY successfully for 8+ years , never needing to post a phone number or email EVER. Guess what?! Cops don't call me when there is a sting either! It has weeded out many timewasters, guys pulling pranks, photo collectors, late night calls from someone drunk or on drugs, LE ... so everyone has a different opinion. Many have a real life outside of this, so maybe they prefer to keep it very seperate sometimes. Sometimes this isn't always first or 24/7 for many.

Just because someone doesn't post a number (or email) doesn't make them bad or a scammer. That is a myth or the minority opinion. It's more about doing your homework to find reputable, genuine providers. Basically the way one requires to be contacted has NOTHING to do with the type of provider she is.

It's my opinion that LE loves texting...but again, that is my own opinion. I also know girls who only text. Their choice.

Maybe she has another job and can't speak.

Maybe she has a family, and can't speak to you at any given moment.

Maybe she is so damn busy with clients that the email response works best for her. I can name many very successful girls who made well over 6 figures for a damn long time by email only. Some have retired very nicely and are sitting pretty right now.

A bad provider will be bad no matter which way she prefers to be contacted.

Who the heck knows? Everyone is different. One has nothing to do with the other. ....You click with some, and some you don't. Since when is anyone way the only correct way? You know the saying, "50 ways to skin a cat..."

IMO, Thinking like that is shallow, and you might be missing out on great times with great girls. Just sayin'.

I respectfully disagree with most of this...

It is entirely possible to have a life outside of this and keep it very separate without necessitating correspondence via email (don't most providers have separate work phones?)

I think the way one requires to be contacted has A LOT to do with the type of provider she is.

If LE is determined to nail you, they're going to do it by whatever means they can regardless of whether it's via text, talk or email (wouldn't emails also create a paper trail or transcripts that could be later used as tangible evidence against you?)

As far as having the other job, family and fully booked appointment schedule that you mention, those can all be easily accomodated with the aforementioned separate work phone.

I do, however, agree that it's about doing your homework to find a reputable. genuine provider. I also agree that a bad provider will be bad no matter which way she prefers to be contacted (although I'd argue that if one were to do some research and look at the resulting data, statistically the ratio of bad providers who use email as their only or primary means of contact would be higher than those who don't)

[Seeking ~P]

Mmmmmmk!!! Goggles Paesano

[lola]

I use the BP email option as an initial mode of contact. It's useful as a screeining tool to read what he has to say and how he expresses this. Because of my career, I place a good deal of respect on the written word. Doesn't mean he has to be an author, just respectful. Reading his words is part of the fun for me but I limit emails to one or two before there is a phone call. So to answer your question, yes I've used it successfully for years.

[Guest]

When I advertise under body rubs on BP I do not list my phone number or e mail. Like Velvet said, by doing this it weeds out the time wasters, the guys that call 50 times between 3 and 4am. The guys that ask all the naughty questions.

It is really simple to click on the ad, and inquire, I respond with my web address (backpage wont let you post a website) and then the rest is up to you. Here's the kicker, you are the one in control of setting the appointment at that point:eek: you either call or you don't.

I have the best idea for the guys who are afraid of BP, DON'T USE IT! Stick to Escort boards, and check the reviews. MUCH SAFER!

[dredrocker]

Just had some luck doing just that.

I let the asp know I was going to be in the Springs on Friday and if she had 30 mins to see me.

I'll be damn she replied and sent me the time and place.

Joined her for some good time.

Money was never mentioned, I just gave her what I thought was fair for the session and she said thanks.

By the email we sent know one would ever know what took place.

She could have been selling me anything.

I think I will use this feature on Backpage again.

Dred

[Velvet Valentine]