Rough Play with a Submissive

[Parsnip]

I have had some great experiences recently with some very submissive women. I am a dom player in the bedroom and really am turned on by submissive (but not bottom) women. Some of the adult play has included bondage of tying their wrists or holding their wrists in a tight grip above their head. Also pulling of their hair during doggie or missionary. Ass slapping is another play method. But I have been asked/requested to slap them in the face and light choking. They just ask not to be bruised up. I am kind of uncomfortable with this and wanted to see if anyone had a website recommendation that discusses this type of erotic play, methods, etc. PM me if you want.

[Blue-eyedTraveler]

In my experience, you're going to need a BDSM club and to join the local BDSM community. Most places, and I'm sure Denver is no different, have "leather clubs" or other such organizations that you can join and attended regular functions. Most BDSM clubs also have calendars of events for the "community," where you can get to know the kinds of people you seem to be seeking.

My personal opinion after many, many years in "the lifestyle" is that there is no such thing as "rough play." Think about it for a minute. It's an oxymoron. Certain ladies like certain things, and the problem is always finding the right connection, something I've had rarely, although I have had it. People who "like it rough" really do, and they are generally quite submissive and rare, although, again, it all depends.

Bottom line? Do your research, join the clubs, get involved in the D/s lifestyle, if that floats your boat.

[macho]

Is parsnip gonna have to chock a bitch? Why are people requesting this? Do the owe you money?

[fork]

Try Fetlife.

[2Big]

Choking/face slapping/etc. are completely off the table for me, no matter how much she asks for it. Pain/humiliation is a total turn off for me, especially with a stranger.

Now, a little slap on the azz - that's a different matter.

[Pirate]

BDSM is one of those things that it's important to learn as much as you can about before getting deeply involved. Everybody has different, and very specific, kinks and hard limits. Some girls are into fairly extreme stuff, but are totally against other things which seem minor in comparison. Others enjoy certain sensations or experiences but are totally against bondage or face slapping. You need to be careful you don't cross their lines. Always discuss what they want and don't want IN ADVANCE, then have them use a safeword if things get too intense.

One disturbing thing I've heard is that there is at least one guy in Denver who claims to be a "Dom" but no-one who knows his reputation will have anything to do with him, so he's been beating up escorts and taking his donation back afterwards. I don't have access to the "blacklist" but maybe someone who does could check if there has been any reports like that lately.

[Nightrain]

submissive (but not bottom) women.

Sorry, but I gotta ask - what this is? Sorry if I'm tracking this thread off topic.

I know what a top and bottom man is in a gay relationship (not personal knowledge, mind you). But what the heck is a "submissive (but not bottom) woman" in a dominant relationship?

[Daphne Love]

I have had some great experiences recently with some very submissive women. I am a dom player in the bedroom and really am turned on by submissive (but not bottom) women. Some of the adult play has included bondage of tying their wrists or holding their wrists in a tight grip above their head. Also pulling of their hair during doggie or missionary. Ass slapping is another play method. But I have been asked/requested to slap them in the face and light choking. They just ask not to be bruised up. I am kind of uncomfortable with this and wanted to see if anyone had a website recommendation that discusses this type of erotic play, methods, etc. PM me if you want.

I love being slapped/choked sometimes.. what a turn on. I don't usually ask if it's our first time playing together though.

[Bit Banger]

Choking/face slapping/etc. are completely off the table for me, no matter how much she asks for it. Pain/humiliation is a total turn off for me, especially with a stranger.

Now, a little slap on the azz - that's a different matter.

A massive +1, on both counts.

I tested my BDSM limits years ago, both Dom & Sub. Does NOT turn my crank!

[Ghost_Rider]

Choking/face slapping/etc. are completely off the table for me, no matter how much she asks for it. Pain/humiliation is a total turn off for me, especially with a stranger.

Now, a little slap on the azz - that's a different matter.

+1. I'd find it difficult to hit/hurt a lady in any manner, even if it's requested. Maybe it's a taste you can aquire over time and practice.......

Heck, the other day a provider asked me to pull her hair while behind her......it was next to impossible for me to do .

I wouldn't mind trying it again today though.......just to see if I could do a little better .

[Kaduk]

Sorry, but I gotta ask - what this is? Sorry if I'm tracking this thread off topic.

I know what a top and bottom man is in a gay relationship (not personal knowledge, mind you). But what the heck is a

"submissive (but not bottom) woman"

in a dominant relationship?

My guess in the realm of a Dom/Submissive encounter;

this would mean "Forced Anal" for which the OP seems to drawn the line at...