Meeting an escort as a virgin?

[zonab360]

I am 22 years old and still a virgin. I guess most people would rate me as average looking guy. I just have not had the chance to lose it. Was very shy in high school, and have missed all the "normal" ways such as college parties(live at home), long term gf, one night stand, ect

However, I am finishing up school and will be living on campus finally! I leave in two weeks and was thinking that it would be cool to go to college without this cloud over my head.

Do you think an escort is the way to go, or should I chance it in college? If so how do I go about it. BP sort of scares me and a lot of these professional pages seem too good to be true. I also dont know how meeting an escort works. So communication would be weird also given my situation that I would bring up?

Do you know of any woman that have done things like this?

Thanks

[Paul Pudenda]

Well, that certainly lends a new meaning to the term "newbie."

In the old days, fathers took their sons to bordellos to become schooled in these ways. That kind of made sense.

[socutesocurvy]

Find a reviewed gal with an in call

[Servius]

If you tell her and ask for her help, it is the best way to learn. For various reasons, I recommend someone in her late 20s or older, and that you pay a little more for two hours. Schedule it in the morning so you are very likely her first that day. It might well be the best investment you'll make. And don't fall in love, btw.

[fork]

Hey, I didn't lose mine till 23. Made it all the way through college without getting even a kiss.

If you are average looking, you have a chance in college. I was a fat tub of lard in college (although I'm not anymore). I would say - wait a few years. Because once you experience a professional, you're not going to want to hang out with the amateurs. You should at least try a civilian first IMHO. Professionals can get pretty expensive, especially if you're paying for college.

I didn't become jaded enough to seek out a pro till I was well into my 30's and had a nice bank account.

30 is the death of dating as far as I'm concerned. At 22, you have a huge potential with dating web sites these days, but as soon as you turn 30 all of the sudden the women you're communicating with become terrifyingly just like Mom.

[pitbull]

I lost it at 21. Circumstances were such that it was the time. As an odd aside, Alfred Hitchcock lost his virginity at 25. He mentioned this off-handedly in an old interview and thus we know.

First of all, there is no shame in losing it to a pro. None. My dad was a 20-year-old in the Navy during the Korean War. They were stationed in Hawaii, he got off the boat and the first person he saw was a lovely lady who said, "Hey sailor, new in town?" He followed her all the way to her house and eagerly laid down all his saved cash.

Anyway, I think you SHOULD lose it before going to college. I agree that you don't need that hanging over your head. I do NOT agree that you will somehow be "spoiled" by the amazing talents of a working lady. No, you'll be plenty amazed and grateful with the amateurs/civilians.

Make it a youngish lady, but not too young. And make sure that she knows you are a virgin. Again, there is no shame here and I agree with the previous poster who suggested a two-hour session. Now you might not make it all of one minute, but you will likely be ready for another try a short time later. She will put on the condom, etc and guide you to the promised land. Don't overthink it, let nature take its course, and get it over with.

And for god's sakes, don't go with some backpage girl. Find a well-reviewed lady. And once you get it over with, don't go back to a working lady for a long time. I do not happen to think it's healthy for 20-somethings to forego normal relationships and make a habit of paying for sex. No. Use the services of a paid lady to get it over with, then move on the real world where you'll find a woman who will rescue you from the deepest depths of loneliness and she will have sex with you because she WANTS to, and there is no better thing than that.

[boink36]

Hey, I didn't lose mine till 23. Made it all the way through college without getting even a kiss.

If you are average looking, you have a chance in college. I was a fat tub of lard in college (although I'm not anymore). I would say - wait a few years. Because once you experience a professional, you're not going to want to hang out with the amateurs. You should at least try a civilian first IMHO. Professionals can get pretty expensive, especially if you're paying for college.

I didn't become jaded enough to seek out a pro till I was well into my 30's and had a nice bank account.

30 is the death of dating as far as I'm concerned. At 22, you have a huge potential with dating web sites these days, but as soon as you turn 30 all of the sudden the women you're communicating with become terrifyingly just like Mom.

I haven't lost mine yet. I tell every woman I'm with that I'm a virgin.

I think you're right though, after 30 dating is a lost cause.

[Servius]

I agree with Pitbull, especially on BP! No place for rookies. My own view is that women are much more complicated than men, certainly sexually, and probably otherwise. And a typical woman your age is unlikely to know her own sexuality very well. A skilled and older professional can teach you not only about yourself, but about what a women likes. Ask her. This will make you more comfortable with women, generally, and perhaps more skilled sexually than you would otherwise be in a real relationship. And just perhaps, less self-centered in bed than the typical young man. I say do it.

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[elrack3]

Mr Z

Go to the "sign pic" thread in this forum and go down (haha) to the 4th comment. I have never seen her post here before this morning. The universe is taking care of you Mr Z. Danielle would be perfect. Be sure to communicate what's going on.

Re regular dating, just get out of the comfort zone, (we all have one) and start asking ladies out. Don't focus on getting in their pants that is soooo obvious and often a turn off to the opposite sex. Yet they want the same thing you want. Funny how that works. Sex is way more fun when there is a shared mental connection too.

Bottom line? Get out and ask girls out. Coffee is a super start and ask to see them again, IF you are interested in her. Oh heck, ask regardless, it's about practice. Not necessarily talking long term relationship either.

Anything new is awkward at first and you WILL get some "no" responses. No biggie, in the bigger picture, nothing gained nothing lost. But if at first you don't succeed........you know the rest.

The old saying "If I knew then what I know know..." for me it's asking, not worrying about answer, knowing they want same, and not taking it personally. You have no idea why she said no, don't make up stories.

Be nice, don't be an ass, open the freaking door for her, be generous with complements (in ALL parts of life), practice random acts of kindness and be confident. It's all in your head anyway. Brain above shoulders that is.

Smile and have fun kiddo.

[elrack3]

And toss the cloud. It's not really there.

[ajot]

[quote name='zonab360']I am 22 years old and still a virgin. I guess most people would rate me as average looking guy. I just have not had the chance to lose it. Was very shy in high school, and have missed all the "normal" ways such as college parties(live at home), long term gf, one night stand, ect

However, I am finishing up school and will be living on campus finally! I leave in two weeks and was thinking that it would be cool to go to college without this cloud over my head.

Do you think an escort is the way to go, or should I chance it in college? If so how do I go about it. BP sort of scares me and a lot of these professional pages seem too good to be true. I also dont know how meeting an escort works. So communication would be weird also given my situation that I would bring up?

Do you know of any woman that have done things like this?

Thanks[/QUOTE]

Here's some stellar advice if I do say so myself:
1. Read The Game by Neil Strauss. You don't have to believe it, follow any, or look further, but it will give you some hope and is a great read. (Beyond actually working/being true)

2. Look for threads like: [url]http://www.theotherboard.com/forums/showthread.php?p=398271[/url]

3. Don't start at BP. I did, and I lucked out, but mostly in Denver I've struck out and you don't want to be disappointed with your first. As someone else said, 2 hours for the first time is probably good. The providers with reviews here are the place to start. You think it's too good to be true - but we're on this board because its amazing how much they are real. It's mind blowing.

Honestly going through this "hobby" has been a plus for me. I am more relaxed around women knowing that I don't have to grovel to get laid, that I can tell a beautiful woman to fuck off if she is a bitch at a bar because I don't need her shit, that money does have some value that society pretends to frown upon.

I can also tell you that I first had sex at a much later age than the other posters. It hurt, but it didn't scar me for life. But I also know that if I had a site like this and visited a provider around the time I was 20, I would have realized how much less of a big deal it was. I also see that there were at least 5 girls I probably would have had sex with, maybe had as a long term girl, if I had realized how it really wasn't a big deal to have sex - or that it wasn't a big deal that I HADN'T at that point.

Either way, good luck and I hope that helps!

PS - Determine your own morality: what you pay for in money, time, or effort, whether you stay single to do this or enjoy the hobby while married. Just set your compass and go by that - it makes things simpler and better.