Posted April 30, 2014 As a provider I spend alot of time speaking with men, and getting acquainted with them to see if there is a match, and alot of the time it seems as a game to see how far they can push it. I just want men to be mindful that it takes alot out of us and that our time is precious, this isn't a game, tho it can be fun; and I wouldn't waste your time playing games, so please don't waste mine. I hope I don't sound like a whiny crybaby girl, its just truly frustrating. Any pointers?? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2014 I'm confused by your post. Why are you looking for a "match" ? If the envelope is full and the guy is clean and respectful, that's the only match that counts. I'm not saying that a genuine connection is not possible, but that's probably a bonus. Yes, it does "take a lot out of you," and that's an argument for low volume. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2014 I'm confused by your post. Why are you looking for a "match" ? If the envelope is full and the guy is clean and respectful, that's the only match that counts. I'm not saying that a genuine connection is not possible, but that's probably a bonus. Yes, it does "take a lot out of you," and that's an argument for low volume. I think she's saying: Some guys are playing a game of "20 questions" (or more), on the phone, trying to see if they want to book. Then they don't book. That makes her tired and frustrated. But I'm just guessing. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2014 Booking an Appointment shouldn't take more than 3-5 emails exchanged. Anyone who wants to spend any more time than that "getting to know you" is just jerking you around while he jerks himself off. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2014 As a provider I spend alot of time speaking with men, and getting acquainted with them to see if there is a match, and alot of the time it seems as a game to see how far they can push it. I just want men to be mindful that it takes alot out of us and that our time is precious, this isn't a game, tho it can be fun; and I wouldn't waste your time playing games, so please don't waste mine. I hope I don't sound like a whiny crybaby girl, its just truly frustrating. Any pointers?? Yes. In all seriousness, develop your own ability to close and develop a sense of when, in any given transaction, the ROI ceases to be attractive. Both are skills that will serve you well beyond this activity. You also may wish to put more energy into a tougher electronic screen before you talk to the individual. Let the machine do some of the work for you. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2014 As a provider I spend alot of time speaking with men, and getting acquainted with them to see if there is a match, and alot of the time it seems as a game to see how far they can push it. I just want men to be mindful that it takes alot out of us and that our time is precious, this isn't a game, tho it can be fun; and I wouldn't waste your time playing games, so please don't waste mine. I hope I don't sound like a whiny crybaby girl, its just truly frustrating. Any pointers?? This may not sound like much of a "pointer", but.... First, you need to find a way to convey in your ads (& on your website, if you have one) that you won't abide time-wasters -- and do so in such a way that you don't come off sounding bitchy. Not an easy task. Read some other hooker websites to gather some ideas. Second, you need to have a "toolbox" of things to say to guys who start playing games. Again, some ready phrases or sentences you can use to shut down that kind of shit without being bitchy about it. Try the escorts-only board for some suggestions. Third, you just need to accept that there are some time-wasters and assholes in this hobby. If you let them frustrate you to the point where you're posting "when is enough enough", you have let them win. Grow a thick skin, and remember that there will always be the occasional client you really enjoy. Fourth, if you're trying to "match" with people, you may have the wrong approach to this. If this is a business, treat it as such. If it's not, you're on the wrong website. Good luck. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2014 This may not sound like much of a "pointer", but.... First, you need to find a way to convey in your ads (& on your website, if you have one) that you won't abide time-wasters -- and do so in such a way that you don't come off sounding bitchy. Not an easy task. Read some other hooker websites to gather some ideas. Second, you need to have a "toolbox" of things to say to guys who start playing games. Again, some ready phrases or sentences you can use to shut down that kind of shit without being bitchy about it. Try the escorts-only board for some suggestions. Third, you just need to accept that there are some time-wasters and assholes in this hobby. If you let them frustrate you to the point where you're posting "when is enough enough", you have let them win. Grow a thick skin, and remember that there will always be the occasional client you really enjoy. Fourth, if you're trying to "match" with people, you may have the wrong approach to this. If this is a business, treat it as such. If it's not, you're on the wrong website. Good luck. This 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2014 Thanks for your reply's, I believe I took something from everyone, thanks again 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2014 Enough is enough when YOU decide that it's enough. Ultimately, you have total control over this situation. If your method of contact is providing a time waster a way to waste your time, maybe you could consider a different method of contact. Don't be afraid to be blunt and straight to the point. Time wasters are usually testing your boundaries. Set them (your boundaries) clear and bold so there will be no misunderstanding. Don't be afraid to say no when you need to say no. Don't worry about hurting somebody's feelings, like I said they are testing your boundaries. The guys that are for real, will make that apparent very fast. If they don't, sweep them away and move on quickly so that you don't miss a good opportunity. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2014 Enough is enough when YOU decide that it's enough. Ultimately, you have total control over this situation. If your method of contact is providing a time waster a way to waste your time, maybe you could consider a different method of contact. Don't be afraid to be blunt and straight to the point. Time wasters are usually testing your boundaries. Set them (your boundaries) clear and bold so there will be no misunderstanding. Don't be afraid to say no when you need to say no. Don't worry about hurting somebody's feelings, like I said they are testing your boundaries. The guys that are for real, will make that apparent very fast. If they don't, sweep them away and move on quickly so that you don't miss a good opportunity. Yikes. I've always thought that I would agree with destiny when pigs flew. Oink oink. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2014 Another thing you may consider doing, is building yourself a website and putting all of the relevant information on it. When the questions start flying at you direct them to your website. "Where's your location?" "on my website." "what are your rates?" "That information can be found on my website." "How tall are you?" "Please refer to my website." Keeps it pretty simple. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2014 Yikes. I've always thought that I would agree with destiny when pigs flew. Oink oink. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 2, 2014 On call If girls would not play games 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 2, 2014 Thank you, I'm going to do just that. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 2, 2014 Your guess was pretty much head on, my wording was a little off. I do need to set down my boundaries and not allow conversation to get off track or cross those lines. Thank you 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 2, 2014 I'm confused by your post. Why are you looking for a "match" ? If the envelope is full and the guy is clean and respectful, that's the only match that counts. I'm not saying that a genuine connection is not possible, but that's probably a bonus. Yes, it does "take a lot out of you," and that's an argument for low volume. those are good starts but no, those arent everything. i also look for compatibility. if its not there, i walk. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 3, 2014 I'm confused by your post. Why are you looking for a "match" ? If the envelope is full and the guy is clean and respectful, that's the only match that counts. ... Just as some of us guys prefer GFE instead of 3G, some of the gals would rather not provide 3G and prefer a touch of BFE. Like the guys they need a little "connection" to achieve that *FE level. Looking for *FE, instead of 3G, is probably part of that "connection". I think the low volume happens naturally because there are fewer candidates ( both M & F ). It's not always 'all about the $s'! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 7, 2014 Booking an Appointment shouldn't take more than 3-5 emails exchanged. Anyone who wants to spend any more time than that "getting to know you" is just jerking you around while he jerks himself off. So, what's your take when a provider jerks her clients around with multiple emails, multiple cancellations and delays? It tells me this: move on, as she's unstable, :cool:or has a drug habit. But, maybe she's jerking herself off while she's "getting to know you"? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
