DaintyDarling

I guess it’s like a sour patch kid lol first I can be a little sour, but then I’m sweet. 🍭🍋‍🟩 Except for it’s the other way around. I’m rather sweet until you poke the bear, then it gets sour. I don’t like to waste a lot of energy on being angry or irritated or any of those negative feelings. But by God, I don’t share this with a lot of people in my personal life so when you come to share here you would think that other ladies would also say yeah I don’t appreciate that either. No I haven’t been experiencing that more often lately. Yes there has been an influx of strange things happening. They don’t come on here, the majority to actually get anywhere or back each other up, or make a difference. And that’s even more disappointing than when guys no-show. I will always stay sweet to those who are sweet to me! I much prefer that way and everybody wins. It’s not a PSA, it’s an observation that I was hoping to figure out if this is something that’s going on with me particularly or if it’s the time of the season or something lol. I’m better off, pondering it by myself probably. Disappointing but also a little comical so I’ll take a laugh where I can get one.

Hey yo. You’re always so kind. One of the people that gets it. Seems there are less and less walking amongst us. It’s OK, I understand and expect it. If I got on here every time that I had a game, I’d be on here a lot. But there seems to be periods of time that it just becomes excessive and I think it’s time to say something about it. Then you get punished for it. And then you have your fellow providers acting like they appreciate a no-show and just stirring the pot with you. There’s just not a lot of girls girls out there. And yes, they do ruin it for everybody. That is why I say something because the more they do it the more I implement additional rules and the more upset people come with me that I have expectations before committing my time to them. But that’s just the way it’s gonna have to be at least I know that the guys that are willing to take those steps are the kind of guys that I know have respect for women and other people’s time. So I will keep it to them. XOXO.

@KaliSensualR Hey you. You know me. I’m quiet until I’m not. I’m a Sagittarius. It’s just not in me. I think a lot more people should be piping up but people are so used to being oppressed and so scared to say something that it will never happen. It wasn’t a bad day. It was a very nice day, it was just not appreciated and I figured that some more often it’s happening that perhaps people will read that and realize I don’t think that’s the girl that I should sit there mess around with because she won’t take kindly to it, but apparently a lot of people are weak, meek, mild, and the allow people to treat them however they want while sitting in SILENCE. I just get to the point where I find it to be sit in silence or say something. Kind of like the airhead that wanted to comment “Why am I being silent”. If I initiated the topic then that’s not silent. And maybe I didn’t circle back because I don’t sit on forums all day. I have a career. A family. A side gig. And several other things going on in my life. Uh-oh let me be careful. “The coach” ???? Who probably has a lot of idle time today yet again might have something to say about that and think it’s another PSA. No it’s facts. I didn’t come on here to ask another woman what her opinion was who I don’t communicate with nor would I ever see. I came on here to put it out there. The real men that have respect and have spent time with me, sent lots of encouraging messages and agreed that it is disrespectful, immature, and unbecoming. And those are the guys who I like to spend my time with Butt get it. Sometimes I hesitate to open my mouth, but then I realize that the guys that are reading it and have a problem with it are probably the exact guys that pull the kind of crap I’m talking about so better to deflect them away from me. I like to spend my time with gentleman. And a gentleman keeps his word, which means he shows up for an appointment. And if they can’t, they cancel within a reasonable time and then they are made aware that I do require certain things in order to try again. It’s written as clear as day on my bio. So the real gentleman show up. Show up respectfully, Clean, courteous, and generous. I don’t see how that’s a “PSA of how good of a person I am, “but obviously the person that said that just isn’t a very good person if those basic requests don’t register to them and obviously are not a requirement for them. Not sure if you’re sure which one I’m talking about. We’ll just call it TDC. But with a name like that, it doesn’t have very much class so I guess I’m not surprised. I find it absurd that year after a year we pay our dues monthly and are the reason that the platform thrives. But we can’t get guys screened, they don’t pay for any membership, they’re able to make account after account after account or view us as a guest. That’s how women end up with stalkers and all kinds of problems. But as long as they’re getting what they want right. That’s a shame. I haven’t spoken with the whisperer in a long while, but I feel like them and Kaduk would at least step in when things were excessive. It’s disappointing and I have the right to say I’m disappointed. For God sakes even the government that can’t be trusted gives us freedom of speech. That’s why I don’t come into the forums often. It’s sadly a bunch of women who don’t support other women and are out for themselves that find the time to scroll through and taunt their fellow providers. That’s why women never riot. Because they can’t just put their differences aside and stick together. And I bet you that person really says they are a feminist LMAO! Sickening and pathetic. We shouldn’t have to be the ones that are going on and making certain complaints, we should be able to go directly to a moderator, and I would think that that’s their job is to moderate. But unfortunately, I learned that lesson years ago. It’s just like if you want something done right do it yourself. So I felt that needed to be addressed and I addressed it myself and then I get punished for it. I don’t think that it’s a big Ask. If you book a nail appointment and you’re not gonna show up, you should have the decency with your tech m know so they can fill the spot. If you make a dinner reservation and you’re a decent person you’ll do the same if you need to cancel so that somebody else can get a seat at the restaurant. I have a career, family, life, and several side hustles outside of this. Apparently a lot of other people don’t so they’re not able to handle my perspective. I don’t think that any lady appreciates no-shows, I have clients to tell me that Girls stood them up all the time. Newsflash… They don’t appreciate it either. So it’s not a male versus female problem. It’s a respect problem. And when someone does something repeatedly, it’s probably good to warn people so that they don’t waste their time…especially when they do it in an incredibly disrespectful manner. But then again, I’m starting to realize there’s not a lot of smarties out there.

Please excuse any typos. I’m trying to get ready and I let Siri dictate and she doesn’t always get it right: PSA I don’t know what the heck is going on lately, but it seems like over the past year. Clients are angrier and angrier. Some of them act like you went to their home, dragged them from their bed, and forced them to come to see you. I love connecting with people from all different walks of life, I love sharing, great memories and making them, and I love a great connection. What I do not love is people who text in our entitled. There is no need to send me 6 to 10 text messages within five minutes. If you read my bio, it clearly states that this is a side gig for me and that I am a working professional. I have a slew of animals, I am a parent, and I live my life. I work my appointment, I will take short notice when I’m able, but there is never a time that I will just be ready in five minutes. I know every lady is different and some do this full-time so perhaps some clients just expect that. But when it’s clearly written somewhere that that’s not the reality for me it blows me away when they get pissy. I just had the displeasure of dealing with a (phone number removed) who has messaged me in the past and been incredibly rude to the point I stopped answering. Today he starts out seeming nice enough, but I saved my contacts so that I know when it’s someone who was rude to me, didn’t show up, didn’t follow rules, or that I really liked, Connected well with, etc.… So he was already saved as probably won’t see Rude. Being Easter Sunday I decided to hope that he had a better attitude. It started instantly. He went from high. How are you doing to sending about 10 text messages within two minutes. I let him know. I was on the road, dropping off some food to family and then I was answering several clients while safe to do so and that once I was home, I would be able to more consistently respond. Keep in mind there wasn’t one gap of more than 4 to 6 minutes. He lost his mind and told me why don’t I go ahead and take my other “Clints.” I let him know that’s exactly what I would do and that I don’t care to spend my time with somebody that’s like that. If you’re being a nightmare when texting, imagine how it’s gonna go when you get here. He proceeds to send me an address that he thought was mine basically threatening me, then tell me that the cops are on their way. Not how that works. Not the right address. And absolutely pathetic. Now I’m a rather nice lady. My friend tells me all the time why do strangers talk to you in public. Because I smile, I nod, I put grocery cards away, I will park my car and help elderly people and drive them around. That’s the kind of person than I am. I’ve worked in healthcare for a long time. If I see someone injured in distress, I will stop everything and help. But if you take me there… I will drag you down to the depths of hell. I would rather not do that especially on Easter Sunday. So why? Why provoke, why continue to engage, why blatantly disrespect me, and then why think that I’m gonna sit in silence? To me that is incredibly creepy. Why are you attempting to find an address for me when clearly you’re not booking. Why are you threatening me when I check your attitude and tell you that if it’s a problem for you to wait for my response, you don’t have to see me. Why when I then give it to you do you act shocked and make additional threats. What the fuck is really wrong with people? I’m about to stop answering out of state numbers altogether. This past two weeks it’s either been a game, a no-show, or somebody that showed up with a terrible attitude. People don’t want to give deposits that I’m getting really tired of rearranging my schedule, leaving work early, jumping through hoops to accommodate people for them to either not show up or treat me poorly. So why would I not take a deposit? That way it’s not off or not. And then that pushes clients away, who have reasons that they can’t make deposits. But I’m at the point where I’m very clear in my bio. It’s rare that I show my face. People go crazy on me over that. I run my own business. I can refuse service to anyone I want, and I can run it anyway I like. If that means not showing my face for safety reasons then that’s what it means. If I say that I need something from you before I see you how difficult is that? Somebody went crazy on me the other day. They literally started with. I don’t do deposits. I hadn’t even mentioned it. I said that’s fine. I have several other options for screening. I provided him five additional options and he absolutely lost it. CALLING ME every name in the book. Like read the ad. It says I’m gonna want something as I should. You should feel more safe, knowing that I don’t just give out my information and see Any and everybody. I had to put somebody in their place the other day who refused to accept that I don’t offer certain services. It’s unacceptable. So if you are a gentleman, if you respect that, I have things going on outside of this, you want to come and have a nice time and try to connect, and you have no issue with not being mind boggled at the fact that I require certain things in order to walk into my home… Then please reach out and I would love, love, love to see you. If you are going to be rude, if you expect me to be ready right now, if you’re going to get out of character with me if you don’t like the times that I have available, if you want to negotiate my rate, short me, not show up, show up late and expect to be seen, have poor hygiene, or a poor attitude… LEAVE ME AND EVERY OTHER LADY ALONE. THERE IS ENOUGH GOING ON! THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN, SAFE, AND SMOOTH FOR EVERYONE. I WOULDN’T SAY THAT THE BAD IS OUT WEIGHING THE GOOD OTHER THAN INITIAL POINTS OF CONTACT AND BOOKING. MOST OF THE PEOPLE WHO COME TO SEE ME ARE GENTLEMEN, CHARMING, WHILE PUT TOGETHER, AND HAVE SOME RESPECT. BUT IT MAKES IT REALLY DIFFICULT WHEN IT’S WEEKS ON END OF JUST NO RESPONSES, BAD ATTITUDES, BAD ENERGY, DISRESPECT. IT MAKES YOU WANT TO WALK AWAY. SO I’M REALLY NEEDING MY SWEETHEARTS, SUPPORTERS, AND GENTLEMEN, TO AT LEAST SAY HELLO TODAY. I HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A HAPPY EASTER. IF YOU ARE NOT, STAY OFF THE PHONE AND LEAVE PEOPLE ALONE. IF YOUR CAT DIED, STAY HOME. CALL OUT OF WORK. IF YOU GOT BROKEN UP WITH WITH HER, YOU DON’T HANDLE REJECTION. WELL, STAY INSIDE. THE REST OF US DON’T WANT TO DEAL WITH THE BAD ATTITUDE. IT’S DRAINING. .

I’m sorry to hear that. I still after all of these years. Do not understand how to respond in these dang forums nor properly start a thread. I do my best to stay off of them and I don’t ever like to feel like “outting” someone but the best solution for bad behavior is changed behavior and clearly he did not decide to self induce so perhaps this will encourage him to be more considerate of peoples time. It frustrates me when people point out that it is to be expected. I will never understand why someone books an appointment to stand up the client, unless an emergency of course occurs, or they are on drugs or quite frankly just don’t manage their scheduling proper but apparently it happens. I’m aware. I like to think I’m fairly intelligent and have a generous amount of common sense. That doesn’t mean that it’s not disrespectful especially when it is repeated behavior. So needless to say I won’t be booking him again, but considering he contacted me from five different phone numbers and went from his name is Paul, to Dave, to Ken, who knows. But I would recognize him and I would shut my door right in his face if he were to try to pull a quick one. It sucks because this is why I started to take deposits and I understand not everyone can do that, but it’s not fair to pay a sitter, leave a work function early, cancel Plans, or the one that really makes me mad, possibly turning down someone else because the timing would conflict only for the original appointment to play games and by the time you reach out to the second or third that Inquired they typically have either lost their window of time or found another provider… all because someone chose to be blatantly stand us up. And honestly, it’s starting to seem malicious. Same with screening. No one seems to want to do it and want to be “private and discreet, “but have no qualms about asking for us to show our face, send them personal photos, and use FaceTime to screen. FaceTime does zero other than show me what you look like. That doesn’t tell me about your reputation, doesn’t guarantee that you have good intent, nor Tells me that I’m safe. Guys like this ruin it for everyone because I’m really going to stop booking anyone who doesn’t provide me a deposit that way if they don’t show up, it’s not all for Not. And I tell them this when they do this. And of course they don’t care. They think it’s cute and funny. I have a great deal of respect for my clients that have a great deal of respect for me, but I’m really at the point where if you go low, I’m ready to go to hell. It gets very old and invokes not such a pleasant mood.

Inquiring and not responding or not booking is fine. Confirming a time, only to 3 minutes prior to your scheduled time saying can we do an hour and a half later, then confirming to not show AGAIN. Totally different and not cool ya know! And I’m sad to hear this is becoming a more common occurrence. I mean, it’s just common courtesy. I wouldn’t book with my nail tech, hair stylist, mechanic, groomer etc… so that she/ he/ they fills an hour and a half time slot for me to leave her earning zero. Come on! I hate to call someone out but a lady informed of a website where he does this very often and treats us badly only to be rewarded by being able to use the fact he’s an account holder here to be considered to be reliable! It’s a madness.

Has this become a common thing? Men are more often enjoying playing with women’s time and livelihoods?! Beachbum21 played games with my time not once today, but twice. Asks for 4pm I accommodate short notice only for him to message at 3:57 saying can we do 5:30. Only for me to cancel planes and get completely glam for him to no show, nor say a word. I think it’s fair that we share that info so we can decide if we wanna see them or not after treating someone like that. They should get a demerit for these things, or lose Refrences.

We have to look out for each other. Sure wish there is a different process so that we could all be aware when one of us has to deal with something like that. For the most part, my clientele, kind, considerate, and all things good but occasionally, when something spooky like this happens, it makes my hair stand up.!

Hey ladies, I wanted you to be aware there is a number that has been contacting me with some very scary information and doing some very sketchy things. Always feel free to reach out to me to check if you feel uncomfortable. This particular person tends to circle around and I have heard about several issues with them. If you were interested in having the contact, let me know so that you don’t have to deal with that.

Ladies beware... He will screen and act as if he has all intentions of showing up, until he wants your exact address and if he doesn’t receive it will then attempt to book from another number as if he will get it that way. Then he no-shows and asks yet again for an address claiming he is only late but needs your precise location. I don’t operate like that so then he has no choice but to “have an incident,” and continue the cycle a few weeks later thinking you won’t have the number saved. Bald head, mid 40s, will send a bunch of pics and hope you forgot a few weeks later. Something isn’t right when someone wants to know where you are and what time your up until but doesn’t show. Be safe. Ladies PM me.

Hey lady's, Not sure if everyone else is having nothing but issues a with bitcoin! What methods have you found that can cancel out edge and cash app. It’s been 90 days of HELL! I really need some assistance to keep my sanity at this point!

Your so so right! Lame as ever! Your awesome 😎

Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate the support of the wonderful members of TOB! I know we are still out there! I will keep swimming sugar! Thank you. Made my morning 🤍😌

Good morning! And thank you for the advice. put in as a full disclaimer. Unfortunately I get to not responding or I get to blocking they get to wondering why. so hopefully now if the bio is read it’s clear. Who can empathize. My thinking was after reading it those who contacted would be the ones that had no games to play. It’s seemed to go 50-50. not sure if it’s a good thing that it helps to draw out the ill intending. do not like that they can browse without being a member it just open access to anyone. And will be found on Tob... great. BUT ARE YOU AFFILIATED or simply browsing? I was newbie friendly for a long time and it seemed as soon as I said I was going to stop that, was left with many gentleman shoulder shrugging not knowing where to start. So also OK if there’s some other form of verification. don’t want to turn anyone away who has good intentions and a good attitude. So in short it seems that at least they operate under less of a cover now. And can get a good feel as soon as possible, some more questions and my request ignored all around, asked details and specifics. At that point I’m out. Hoping it’s helpful in a way. I know to expect it that this is the world. Some people are just going to be a problem. But as long as there’s something to help myself have a quicker indicator, ( I never want to be rude or Rushy,) guess that's all one can ask! I’m still happy to be around. Won’t let them bring me down but want them to be aware I’m not for it and will terminate all contact with no issue. More time for respectful gentleman! That’s what I like 💋

I know it’s the takeover! I guess on the upside it makes it exciting when someone books smoothly, is polite, and does things right? 🤷‍♀️ Right? And you got that right on the woman side. 😉 Thanks for the advice!