DaintyDarling

I am absolutely with you. You don’t go to a restaurant and question the price of the steak you pick a different restaurant. I think that a lot of different things have to do with it. People’s expenses. When you walk into a Provider’s space they have to pay for that. If you go book a decent hotel it’s gonna run you 180 to 220. That doesn’t include any fun. Then I feel like even just being “exposed “as far as your body that’s worth at least another hundred, and then there’s the activities in itself. If you want to go to massage envy, you’re not gonna leave as happy and they’re gonna charge you accordingly. If you want hot stones added… That’s an add-on. If you want to add extra time… That’s an add-on. People aren’t happy when you don’t offer services but when there’s something that for you is not something you offer and you say I’m willing, but it will cost extra that makes sense to me. If you want extra of anything it’s gonna be… EXTRA. If somebody asked me to write down my specific pricing, I would move on as well. Not everybody has a breakdown of what they rate maybe some people just feel that like you said that’s their worth. It’s mind-boggling to me where things are going.

Has this become a common thing? Men are more often enjoying playing with women’s time and livelihoods?! Beachbum21 played games with my time not once today, but twice. Asks for 4pm I accommodate short notice only for him to message at 3:57 saying can we do 5:30. Only for me to cancel planes and get completely glam for him to no show, nor say a word. I think it’s fair that we share that info so we can decide if we wanna see them or not after treating someone like that. They should get a demerit for these things, or lose Refrences.

I’m sorry to hear that. I still after all of these years. Do not understand how to respond in these dang forums nor properly start a thread. I do my best to stay off of them and I don’t ever like to feel like “outting” someone but the best solution for bad behavior is changed behavior and clearly he did not decide to self induce so perhaps this will encourage him to be more considerate of peoples time. It frustrates me when people point out that it is to be expected. I will never understand why someone books an appointment to stand up the client, unless an emergency of course occurs, or they are on drugs or quite frankly just don’t manage their scheduling proper but apparently it happens. I’m aware. I like to think I’m fairly intelligent and have a generous amount of common sense. That doesn’t mean that it’s not disrespectful especially when it is repeated behavior. So needless to say I won’t be booking him again, but considering he contacted me from five different phone numbers and went from his name is Paul, to Dave, to Ken, who knows. But I would recognize him and I would shut my door right in his face if he were to try to pull a quick one. It sucks because this is why I started to take deposits and I understand not everyone can do that, but it’s not fair to pay a sitter, leave a work function early, cancel Plans, or the one that really makes me mad, possibly turning down someone else because the timing would conflict only for the original appointment to play games and by the time you reach out to the second or third that Inquired they typically have either lost their window of time or found another provider… all because someone chose to be blatantly stand us up. And honestly, it’s starting to seem malicious. Same with screening. No one seems to want to do it and want to be “private and discreet, “but have no qualms about asking for us to show our face, send them personal photos, and use FaceTime to screen. FaceTime does zero other than show me what you look like. That doesn’t tell me about your reputation, doesn’t guarantee that you have good intent, nor Tells me that I’m safe. Guys like this ruin it for everyone because I’m really going to stop booking anyone who doesn’t provide me a deposit that way if they don’t show up, it’s not all for Not. And I tell them this when they do this. And of course they don’t care. They think it’s cute and funny. I have a great deal of respect for my clients that have a great deal of respect for me, but I’m really at the point where if you go low, I’m ready to go to hell. It gets very old and invokes not such a pleasant mood.

Inquiring and not responding or not booking is fine. Confirming a time, only to 3 minutes prior to your scheduled time saying can we do an hour and a half later, then confirming to not show AGAIN. Totally different and not cool ya know! And I’m sad to hear this is becoming a more common occurrence. I mean, it’s just common courtesy. I wouldn’t book with my nail tech, hair stylist, mechanic, groomer etc… so that she/ he/ they fills an hour and a half time slot for me to leave her earning zero. Come on! I hate to call someone out but a lady informed of a website where he does this very often and treats us badly only to be rewarded by being able to use the fact he’s an account holder here to be considered to be reliable! It’s a madness.

Hey ladies, I wanted you to be aware there is a number that has been contacting me with some very scary information and doing some very sketchy things. Always feel free to reach out to me to check if you feel uncomfortable. This particular person tends to circle around and I have heard about several issues with them. If you were interested in having the contact, let me know so that you don’t have to deal with that.

We have to look out for each other. Sure wish there is a different process so that we could all be aware when one of us has to deal with something like that. For the most part, my clientele, kind, considerate, and all things good but occasionally, when something spooky like this happens, it makes my hair stand up.!

Ladies beware... He will screen and act as if he has all intentions of showing up, until he wants your exact address and if he doesn’t receive it will then attempt to book from another number as if he will get it that way. Then he no-shows and asks yet again for an address claiming he is only late but needs your precise location. I don’t operate like that so then he has no choice but to “have an incident,” and continue the cycle a few weeks later thinking you won’t have the number saved. Bald head, mid 40s, will send a bunch of pics and hope you forgot a few weeks later. Something isn’t right when someone wants to know where you are and what time your up until but doesn’t show. Be safe. Ladies PM me.

Hey lady's, Not sure if everyone else is having nothing but issues a with bitcoin! What methods have you found that can cancel out edge and cash app. It’s been 90 days of HELL! I really need some assistance to keep my sanity at this point!

Hey ladies I guess at this one is for you. About a month a month and a half back I decided to write a section into my ad that basically explained the BS that I’m sick of dealing with and what I was going to do to attempt to eliminate some of the crap. I have found that it has assisted somewhat, but I have also found that some gentleman seem to have found thrill in my irritation... So while it’s slow down in a sense it’s still double tap. What are some methods that you used to eliminate wasting time with folks that are not serious? Screening methods, verification? I don’t understand. If you go out of your way to seek someone and you send them a message then be prepared to work. But I think that’s the end game for some guys clearly it really is exciting that is the end game to have a ball messing with someone’s time and livelihood. I would like to eliminate as much wasted time as possible as it leaves more time to play, which I have limited time for as it is. Thanks loves

Your so so right! Lame as ever! Your awesome 😎

Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate the support of the wonderful members of TOB! I know we are still out there! I will keep swimming sugar! Thank you. Made my morning 🤍😌

Good morning! And thank you for the advice. put in as a full disclaimer. Unfortunately I get to not responding or I get to blocking they get to wondering why. so hopefully now if the bio is read it’s clear. Who can empathize. My thinking was after reading it those who contacted would be the ones that had no games to play. It’s seemed to go 50-50. not sure if it’s a good thing that it helps to draw out the ill intending. do not like that they can browse without being a member it just open access to anyone. And will be found on Tob... great. BUT ARE YOU AFFILIATED or simply browsing? I was newbie friendly for a long time and it seemed as soon as I said I was going to stop that, was left with many gentleman shoulder shrugging not knowing where to start. So also OK if there’s some other form of verification. don’t want to turn anyone away who has good intentions and a good attitude. So in short it seems that at least they operate under less of a cover now. And can get a good feel as soon as possible, some more questions and my request ignored all around, asked details and specifics. At that point I’m out. Hoping it’s helpful in a way. I know to expect it that this is the world. Some people are just going to be a problem. But as long as there’s something to help myself have a quicker indicator, ( I never want to be rude or Rushy,) guess that's all one can ask! I’m still happy to be around. Won’t let them bring me down but want them to be aware I’m not for it and will terminate all contact with no issue. More time for respectful gentleman! That’s what I like 💋

I know it’s the takeover! I guess on the upside it makes it exciting when someone books smoothly, is polite, and does things right? 🤷‍♀️ Right? And you got that right on the woman side. 😉 Thanks for the advice!

Thanks sugar! Still worth it and the good still outweighs the bad. Won’t let them force me out haha! It’s gotten to be so often! But just seems SO MANY more people in general! This and everything / everywhere else. What can ya do! 💋

Hey there. Ya know... I find I have the least trouble with p4 clientele. It used to be this was the platform, and this is still my favorite. But anyone can be a problem. It starts to be shocking when you DO have the handle and they still go from A-Z the range of issues. And You wouldn’t believe how many places I never had anything to do with that I guess grab our info from generators and made profiles. So those come too. Then there are people who you don’t know at all, from where they came! They just won’t self identify. So it varies Unfirtunately. I don’t like to say anything I don’t want to become a pest, and I don’t want anyone who’s behavior is not an issue to feel any kind of a way. I don’t even do forum usually. But when do you do something about it, (or try to,) other than complain?

Hello ladies, and gentleman too. So I am hoping someone has some answers for me! For the past 10-12 years I have been dreaming of having my breast’s done. Coming from a family of large breasted women, it has been a wish and a dream for so long! I am finally ready to make it happen, but are surgeons willing to work with IN HOUSE financing, Advice? Where did you go? Thanks ladies! Gents feel free to chime in with any info YOU may have! Thanks ! Xoxo

Hey everyone! I’m Meurelle ! I’ve been around for a while, but am new to the forums! I look forward to meeting new friends, I am located in Colorado Springs and just saying hello.

Thank you so much 😊

Hi Hunter! I’ve admired your photos so stunning! I never thought to see where anyone really was too specifically! That’s exciting to know we’re so close! Thank you for the warm reception! ☺️❣️

Thank you Dita! 💗

Sounds like it’s my kind of party! 🙄😬

Well hello there, it is my pleasure!

Will do! You as well. ☺️

Thank you so much!

Hi everyone I'm Meurelle! I am somewhat new to The Other Board and very excited to be a part of the community! I am very bubbly and outgoing! - Meurelle