Posted September 6, 2014 Ok, the other night i got a very annoying call that really weirded me out after thinking about it some more. A man called and said he found my ad on a website called Big City. I have never even heard of this site and told him as much, but i continued on with the call. Then, as though taken aback by my not having heard of this Big City, he started asking lots of questions like, "Well, is this a scam? Is this site using fake information?" to which i really had no answer. I asked him what kind of site it is and he basically said it's a dating site, more or less. So i told him i do have an ad, but have never listed myself or ever filled out any dating profile on any dating site anywhere. He then asked me lots of very oddly specific questions about where my ad IS listed, and what section, what i do, then said, "well, what do i do here?" Needless to say, i answered none of his very nosey questions except for telling him on what website my ad can be found. After his persistent questions as to what section he should look in, i got creeped out and said i had to go. Is it just me, or is it extremely peculiar for someone to call an advertised phone number and have absolutely no idea "what to do" or "how to proceed" with the very same phone call placed by the caller himself! Pretty sure if he were to have called a sushi restaurant and said "gee, i really don't understand what I'm supposed to do here. How should i proceed with this phone call?" sometime would have said, "look here, i can't hold your hand through your phone call experience. I suggest you figure out what you want to do and proceed accordingly...and only once you know HOW to contact people by phone should you be doing so." . I will say that had he just been confused I'd have thought nothing of it. But it was his relentless badgering about my specific ad, and if I'm not dating then what is the ad for, and where should he go to find the ad, and what do i do, and what am i doing, and what is the ad for...i got a funky LE vibe from the whole thing, almost. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 6, 2014 I think you did the right thing. Sounds pretty creepy. Even if he is not LE, do you really want to spend time with someone who has an attitude like that? (I know you asked for feedback from ASPs, not clients. But here I am piping in anyway.) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 6, 2014 He was probably jacking off to some weird fantasy about calling a random woman and being solicited by her. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 7, 2014 that's a no go. you did the right thing just not soon enough. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 7, 2014 Probably got your # from a site you [did] post and called you just to fuck with you. People do shit like that for comedy. Think crank Yankers. Just hang up right away. He just got his way with you for free. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 7, 2014 He just got his way with you for free. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 10, 2014 Originally Posted by pejo - (I know you asked for feedback from ASPs, not clients. But here I am piping in anyway.) Pejo - i HOPE i get responses from you men! I try to take all perspectives into account when making a judgement call in dealing with interpersonal situations such as these, but I am aware of the possibility of there being points of view I had not yet considered. Better to be fair and just in my actions then too quick to act; or worse, dogmatic in adherence to an ill-informed ideology. That's just my opinion, anyway... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 18, 2014 Just some weirdo, I had the 3rd guy call me asking me to marry him 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 19, 2014 I wouldn't be too hard on the guy without out knowing more. Getting the courage up to make that 1st call to a provided can be very difficult sometimes. When you said you weren't aware of the ad he was calling about you probably threw him for a loop. If he has read a bunch of the comments about doing your homework before making the call, I can see how getting that response might make his suspicious. He obviously didn't handle it right, but you can't blame him for not booking at that point, and if he wasn't mean or insulting, I'd cut him a break. JMO. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 19, 2014 I try to take all perspectives into account when making a judgement call in dealing with interpersonal situations such as these, but I am aware of the possibility of there being points of view I had not yet considered. Better to be fair and just in my actions then too quick to act; or worse, dogmatic in adherence to an ill-informed ideology. That's just my opinion, anyway... It is a judgment call, when all is said and done. But if your gut instinct says "get out of this situation" (by hanging up or walking away, or whatever) then you should do just that. To be honest, I don't know how ASPs get comfortable with the personal safety issues they face everyday. A lot of providers I have talked to seem to have no real escape/protection plan if a visit suddenly goes south on them. Many do this work out of their own homes, and they have their kids' pictures hanging on the walls. (I know not every ASP is that way.) It just seems like a very dangerous business to me, from the provider's point of view. If I were a young petite female seeing men for a living, some of whom could lift me over their head with one hand, I would have a pretty solid security plan in place. Unless, of course, I was just flat out desperate for cash and couldn't think of a better option. I know, I am really spreading the sunshine today! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 19, 2014 Just some weirdo, I had the 3rd guy call me asking me to marry him As you may have already concluded, some men cannot see the hobby as anything other than a type of dating service, where the ASPs love them for who they are, see into their souls, make a "real connection" with them, etc. And the money thing is just a formality. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2014 Pejo you are correct. I sent one screened guy packing when he showed up (I thought a little caffinated) on some stuff. Then asked me if I wanted to do some....worst experience ever. He named other providers as being willing. Crazy stuff. Nutjobs are out there, and some of them have references, as other providers can be nutty too....not most of you ladies, but there are some... Keep yourself safe and go with your gut. That was the most unsafe I have ever felt. I personally only used email as first contact. I feel like I got a lot of weird phone calls and it was not worth the headache. Safety first EVERY time. No amount of money is worth being hurt over. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
