Posted December 12, 2013 I get a kick out of TV analyst and psychologist who are always trying to figure out why men see escorts. Its always they want to show how powerful they are or they feel the rules don't apply to them or some other psycho babble nonsense. To me it is the wow factor. Yesterday I saw a provider for the first time in almost two years and I have not been able to get her out of my mind since. They way she dressed, how her focus was on me, her scent, her taste and more than anything the pure erotic nature of the encounter. Other wow factors are acts she will do that some significant others won't do and the sounds that are made during the session. It all culminates in me leaving the lady with a grin that won't go away and the word "WOW" echoing in my head:) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 12, 2013 And isn't that a wonderful feeling. One could speculate why people become TV analysts or psychologists too. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 12, 2013 I get a kick out of TV analyst and psychologist who are always trying to figure out why men see escorts. Its always they want to show how powerful they are or they feel the rules don't apply to them or some other psycho babble nonsense. To me it is the wow factor. Yesterday I saw a provider for the first time in almost two years and I have not been able to get her out of my mind since. They way she dressed, how her focus was on me, her scent, her taste and more than anything the pure erotic nature of the encounter. Other wow factors are acts she will do that some significant others won't do and the sounds that are made during the session. It all culminates in me leaving the lady with a grin that won't go away and the word "WOW" echoing in my head:) I work in psych and there is no single reason why men see escorts. I have a couple of good ones though. 1. I've dated a lot of east coast career bitches and they won't do XYZ. Like you can't EVER get a well done blow job. That is a horrible waste of my life and thank god for professionals who actually know what they're doing. 2. When I was younger I thought different types of women, redheads, etc would be a unique sexual experience. It was easier to get an escort that fit the bill rather than seek the variety of women out. This allowed me to discover that looks mean very little and that certain types aren't better than others. Thus, I like a broader range of women now and am more focused on personality. 3. This is my number one reason: seeing escorts is honest. I will not hook up with women I meet in a bar because they may end up thinking I really like them when it's more about sex. Worse than THAT is I might end up falling for them when it was just about sex. That's going to hurt my feelings and fuck me up. With an escort you've got an honest deal and an emotional understanding about what's going on, so no one gets hurt or used. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 12, 2013 This allowed me to discover that looks mean very little and that certain types aren't better than others. Thus, I like a broader range of women now and am more focused on personality. I have never read anything on this board as profound........and as utterly true.....as this statement. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 12, 2013 I have never read anything on this board as profound........and as utterly true.....as this statement. Thanks! When I was younger I used to think nonsense like, "If only I had a redhead, I'd be happy," and then after I had one, she was much the same as any other woman. The same goes for boobs and whatever else I could think of adding to the list. I believe all of that was generated in me by the media. The people who run it objectify women and put them on a pedestal. So, the "hot blonde" is what you MUST have and are a loser if you don't. That stuff got in my head and escorts cured it! Now I'm like, looks are important, but there's no specific type, and a nice personality is king. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 12, 2013 For me it is actually really simple: I love my wife and my family but my dear wife is no longer interested in sex (ever since menopause -- she was a tiger before that). I was walking along one day a couple years ago getting all sad and thinking about my life, and the thought entered my head: "... and I will never be able to have sex with a good looking woman again..." which was really depressing since I have always really enjoyed having sex, especially with a good looking woman. This almost seemed like a kind of death, since a big part of my life just vanished. Then one day, it occured to me that this was not necessarily true. A bit of hunting on the good old internet showed me that there was a wide open world of good looking women, of all shapes, sizes, and personalities who were more than happy to have sex with homely old me, and even pretend that they were enjoying it! Some may not have even been pretending, who knows? It was sort of like being back in college. It just doesn't get any better than that. Well actually, it could, if my wife recovered her sexuality, I would stay home, but I don't think there is much chance of that. Therefore - no psychobabble, this is just a safe way to keep the family intact and still live a complete life -- it is a blast. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 13, 2013 Totally agree with bad boy. My story too. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 13, 2013 Sex is important (and feels good) to men for much longer than it's important (and feels good) to women. That's just the way it is. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 13, 2013 BadBoy hit it on the head. Menopause? I wish my wife waited that long to lose her desire. For me, my wife is only 40 and lost her mojo probably five years ago. Yes, we have multiple progeny, but they are getting older now and should not/do not interfere with the sex life. Prior to the five year massive drop-off, we were extremely active and really enjoyed each other. But for five long years, I had quarterly sex -- occasionally once every two months. I started exploring this option in 2009, and I too was shocked that it was so out there essentially in the open. But I did not go through with it until 2013, and finally a wonderful lady in Denver rocked my world with her exquisite kissing. My heart was pounding and I was so nervous, but it went just fine. It was the affection, the touch, the eroticism I missed. I would rather have "real" affection, not fantasy affection, but you take what you can get. Bottom line is that it has nothing to do, at least for me, with "power" or "breaking the rules." If my wife got her mojo back, I would never see another escort or FBSM lady. The worst session with my wife is better than the best session with any hooker or masseuse -- fortunately or unfortunately -- I'm not sure which. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 14, 2013 Glad to see the review I wrote on the lady who recently gave me that WOW feeling has been posted 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 14, 2013 i can't imagine ALL of my stuff was TLDR for you 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 14, 2013 That is the same situation that I am in. I really get off when the woman I'm with has a better time that me. I'm just not ready to give up sex! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
