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  1. Posted

    22 hours ago, sb1212 said:

    I think this gets a little more complicated if there is a deposit involved.  The easy answer is reschedule immediately and let the deposit stand.  But.....what if the client asks for the deposit back saying he will reschedule when he feels better or has a better handle on his schedule? What if the companion senses that the client is not being truthful (even  when truthful, "I am sick" can sound a bit fishy)  and wants to charge a cancelation fee or keep all/ part of the deposit? 

    That's why a companion needs professional, written, and clearly communicated Policies and Practices...  If we are running a business, running this as we would any legitimate business is necessary to avoid misunderstandings and potential knuckleheads.  Clear deposit policies are needed too. (if not listed on her website, communicated in writing 1:1 pre-deposit taking)  

    If one does not wish to set a professional deposit policy up, that's fine, it's their biz...but then they should not be taking deposits. 

    Clear expectations for both parties and integrity avoids drama and should clear all questions up.  Business Foundations 101

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  2. Posted

    12 hours ago, mustang said:

    I am sure that you do that BUT you cannot make the electronic record go away and a determined individual can learn about where or who an electronic transaction goes to.  Cash leaves no tracks and no tracks mean no questions.  I may have different circumstances clients that pay deposits.      

    Repeat: there are ways to pay deposits "NON-electronically" too without a paper trail.  Hopefully, companions will give you options that will work for both of you.

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  3. Posted

    On 4/29/2021 at 9:11 AM, mustang said:

    Too many "bread crumbs" with deposits.  It is very easy for anyone to follow you and your actions electronically.  Cash contribution can be cash made up of bills from a 7-11, Walmart, Target etc.  Electric transfer of funds records are forever. 

    Many of us have various options for deposits...some non-electronic and a savvy companion will have their electronic options not tied in to their escort persona.  I am very strict on not having a paper trail that will look like a gent has gotten nooky somewhere...

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  4. Posted

    On 2/27/2024 at 5:34 AM, Carleeblissful said:

    Back in the day when I was working in Portland, OR, a lot of ladies used a method where they would ask for a guy's extension at his workplace and simply call him during business hours and say "Hello, this is Dr. Jackson - just calling to confirm your appointment on ____." Lots of guys were perfectly fine with using this method, but it was over half a decade ago and times have certainly changed.

    Yep, that was a common method even 20yrs ago. (granted, we did see fake companies set up) but if one is diligent in their research and thorough, it's simply one method that can be used.  NOTE: this takes into account that we are never ever calling or texting ANY number without an agreed upon time for a gentleman's discretion. 

    I've always been an advocate for "multi-layers of screening" as it can be easy for those with nefarious intentions to hack 1 or 2 methods....but unlikely that they can hack them all. When in doubt and when suspicious of someone not being truthful, always best to pass. 

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  5. Posted

    3 hours ago, MelindaMadison said:

    Perhaps meet with legitimate escorts/companions instead vs delving in to the online cam girl and sugar baby genre. Most Professional escorts have written cancellation policies and written policies.m when you venture outside other genres of sweets, who don't specialize or have much experience with in-person clients, it can be the wild Wild West and you take your chances. 

    darn typos. "SWers" not "sweets" although we are pretty sweet.. LOL

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  7. Posted

    I initially was not a fan of deposits (I love cash off the grid and only previously did them with FMTYs, longer dates, or chronic cancellation guys)  but implementing them for new clients this year has been a life-saver and all the gentlemen have been amazing!

    Super important however, to have:

     1. a clear deposit policy and be speedy on deposit returns in any case you need to cancel. 

    2. Offer multiple options including a totally non-digital option for those queezey about "anything online".

    3. Have enough of a presence where they can be comfortable that you are legit, sane, and professional.

    4. Give them distinct directions on how to make the deposit (no "for Nooky" comments on Venmo or CashApp -that's a clear way to banking bans for life)

    5. Have your accounting and tax organization squared away. 

    5. Stick by your deposit policy and be prompt in communication. it can often be nerve wracking for some gents to send $ to a new companion that they are booking. Alleviate fears by being Uber-professional, kind, prompt and clear in communication. More companions, especially touring, are taking deposits than not these days so it's the way the industry is heading as more companions have upgraded their professionalism.

    As a PT companion with a career, who only gets to play 1-2X a week, cancellations or no-shows can be devastating for me (I haven't had a NC/NS in perhaps 16yrs thank goodness).  It's been such a rewarding experience with deposits and I rarely ever get anyone pushing back (only 1 knucklehead in the last year and I promptly ignored him) I do, often work with a gent who needs to reschedule however, dependant on the individual situation. 

    Do what you need to for your business to make it pleasant for you. We give so much of our time and efforts for other's pleasure as it is. 

    Play nicely all, xoxo Mel 

     

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    Setting up a website with your screening requirements is helpful. If you do not have a website, an email auto reply or even a text or voicemail reply to let them know expectations can help save your sanity.  I've adopted a "send your screening info and introduction or no communication at all" protocol a Long time ago and it's worked out wonderful to weed out the knuckleheads.  Makes life and encounters most pleasurable.   

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  15. Posted

    It's been years since I've played in New Mexico.   Never had great experiences in Alburquerque but loved Santa Fe..and considering Taos. 

    Is Taos typically best to rent an apartment? resort? or discreet Airbnb?

    How are fun activities (fly fishing, dining, spas?) already keyed into and a regular at hot springs...

     

     

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  16. Posted

    To approach a companion that you don't know with a trade offer is considered by most to be tacky. (I've so many approach with "I'll massage you" and even one offering $300 in frozen yogurt coupons (like, really dude?) 

    That being said, I've had some success at periods of escorting where I've put out a "need list" (typically furniture purchase, pickup/delivery, and assembly) that has worked out...but I advertised those in advance.  Cash is king and that is what pays the rent/mortgage and bills....

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  17. Posted

    On 4/3/2023 at 0:51 AM, Kaduk said:

    I like it when she puts on make-up AnD its like she hadn't put make-up on at all....

    That's the way I was brought up... makeup to accentuate natural features and beauty but not quite "in your face"...

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  18. Posted

    12 hours ago, lintlizard said:

    Melinda - you were my first ASP a few years back, and I must say there was no one better suited (and un-suited) to ease me into a wonderful, sensual experience. Thank you for breaking the 4 year dry spell I had endured during the waning years of my marriage.  L

    Ah shucks!! :)  I always aim to please...so that's so wonderful to hear!  💋

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  19. Posted

    @Mustang87 I see!   Social media (Twitter mainly) has definitely taken over and yet, it meshes all forms of SW together which can be confusing as heck for the gents looking for in-person companions. Plus it's not so regionalized as TOB offers.

     I've been puttering there since the age of dinosaurs... LOL

     Still involved in the sexy world but I have to say, that the "in your face" over-commercialization of social media "marketing" etc... esp as a part-timer as myself, has been a bit off-putting. I've been quite low-key upon my return much more than the Gen Z crowd.

    Here's to getting out in the fresh air, tight fishing lines, and strong orgasms this year! 

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  20. Posted

    It's been perhaps years since I've been active here and wanted to shout out to some old friends. I see many familiar usernames still!

    Took a break during the pandemic and shuttered my business (both the sexy one and my vanilla one and joined in and worked in a health worker capacity. (hard, hectic time but so glad to be beyond that now and poking into former ventures) 

    My fitness competition training and endurance sports days have meshed to fly fishing, camping, and an occasional trail running race. 

    I'll occasionally pop in here and there in the hopes someone starts a fly fishing thread! and hoping those that I might have lost touch with know that I am still alive and thriving!

    Fond memories, xoxo Mel

     

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  22. Posted

    Deposits (and several discreet methods to alleviate discretion concerns for some gents) has been a saving grace. My nail tech has been requiring a deposit for years (as other professions are also have last minute cancels and no-show issues) so I adopted one a while back. Having a solid policy and being credible and professional to stick to that policy (esp if you cancel) is key. Much higher quality and dependable clientele than ever before.. (and I've been blessed with some amazing sweet souls in the past too!)

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  23. Posted

    RolePlay can be incredibly fun....but the subjects are quite varied and not everyone's cup of tea. Get verified/screened by a companion you desire before putting it on the table. It's a delicate ask for some, but there are some role-plays that are quite fun and some that are "nah" for many of us. 

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  24. Posted

    Pre-paid dates now mean the world to many of us...as we don't want to risk community spread. Also, even jobs that we may have had outside of companionship may be gone now.. (roof over heads, food on the table) but even small tokens like gift cards (grocery, Amazon, Groupon (self care) to an email (gents...even $20-$50 means a lot right now) can be a bright spot in a day)  Buy p411 points  sent to a lady you admire. ...because with the increased rates and no clients coming out due to COVID concerns.....and no $...even livelihood of TOB owners will be affected with lack of advertising ladies. It's a trickle down effect.  

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