Many times reviews don't give a lot of info so often I will email a couple of the reviewers and ask them but this needs to be done in advance and doesnt work if I am doing a spur of the moment thing. So I just go ahead and ask and I often try to word it in a way that feels safe to answer. For example, if I were a guy that preferred this "activity" would we be a good fit? More often than not the lady will answer back with a yes or no. Or she might just reply with what time were you wanting, which is a yes without saying so.