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  1. What does being respectful mean to you?

    Simply treat people like people. Some of us are in this hobby to experience a deep connection, if only for a short amount of time. Others are in it for the physical acts alone. Both of these are fine. The important thing is that you remember that these ladies are people. Talk first. Get the lay of the land. Learn her limits. If you want a PSE session in which you dominate and demand throughout the session, be sure you picked the right provider and that you both have your limits clearly defined. The same goes for GFE. The limits and "menu" may be different, but they still exist and are just as important. Once you respect each others' humanity and boundaries, you're on track for a great experience.
  2. Bp Wanting Links to a Social Media Account

    For now, you can force it by adding /?layout=date to the end of the URL like this: http://denver.backpage.com/dating/?layout=date I don't know how it will remain available, though.
  3. How much do you share?

    The part that scares me is that people don't understand what they are a part of. People seem to think their SM platform is their little community--especially FB. The truth, though, is we are the product. The enormous amount of data you provide simply feeds into their vast database and helps them target ads very specifically to you. It's their entire business model: target ads to the people who are most likely to be interested in them and charge for that service. And it's not only the info we provide up front like birthday, gender, and location. Items we post, read and share share are an even bigger part of FB's algorithms. They claim they can target you after just a few posts. I don't blame people for using a free and easy to use platform. I use them, but I'm careful about what I share. I just wish people were better informed.
  4. How much do you share?

    There are people who feel that FB is truly their group of friends and others who use it as just another communication platform. I won't even share what I share because I go to great lengths to keep my "hobby" life separate from my real life. I have lots of strong opinions that I'd like to put out there (such as the TakeAKnee thread), but I usually don't participate in those threads because I don't want any chance of someone tying my two lives together. In person, on the other hand, you can barely shut me up.
  5. I'll admit I was an eye roller. The responses, however, have been fascinating. I'm glad I read further. It's amazing how differently people see the world and what they are attracted to--especially compared to my own tame style. Sometimes when the world feels small, you need a conversation like this to open it back up and show you how varied and unique everyone out there really is.
  6. finding new site to find provider

    Erotic Monkey seems like it scrapes TER for reviews, so it's not always accurate. It seems to do an OK job, though. TER / Backpage is your best bet. Traveling providers will use Eros or Eccie, too.
  7. Apology

    F'd up and phrased his last post badly and was interpreted as {snip} fantasy. Apologized profusely. Actually interested in discussing titilation, foreplay interests & ideas.
  8. Tattoos.......

    I might have to rethink that scrotum tattoo...

    Totally agreed. The reviews are simply a way to verify that the provider is who she says she is. That's why I'm in these forums. I get a much better idea of a provider's personality through posts on boards like this one. I have made several decisions based on board participation and it has worked out very well. It makes it easier to make that initial connection and can make a session much more comfortable.

    I prefer discreet. I mistakenly pasted in the juicy part of a TER review into a TOB review (because I was lazy and in a hurry that day) and I really don't like that it's out there. I prefer not to have those details attached to my account. I also don't see the need to publish graphic accounts of the acts performed. For many of us it's not just about what happened; there's much more to it than that.
  11. Did you know Rhode Island decriminalized P4P for six years (by mistake)? I had no idea. http://www.newsworks.org/index.php/health-science/item/105393-prostitution-decriminalized-rhode-islands-experiment It would be awesome if they came to some concrete conclusions, but these are professional researchers. They'll state the correlations and pose theories, but won't stand behind any conclusions that aren't 100% backed by the data. Still, interesting stuff... (unlike my last post, this one should have a working link)
  12. RI Decriminalized Sex Work

    It was re-criminalized it in 2009. They state some interesting correlations, though. Sex work went up (as expected), but instances of gonorrhea went down. The researchers don't know why. Also, reports of rape decreased significantly. Really interesting findings.
  13. I was expecting this to end with "ears."
  14. This is just an article I came across about a trafficking bust. It's very detailed and explains why trafficking might happen and how they went about the bust. Pretty interesting and in this case it seems like the bust was legitimately targeting people exploiting vulnerable girls. The LEO take on it is uncompromising, as expected, but it explores all aspects even though it's pretty biased. https://mtm.cebglobal.com/MTMStudent/(S(x0gdq51sbkeixhcjhfck30ts))/ClassListPage.aspx?&orig=6&VendorAlias=nhbaltimore9&LanguageChanged=-1&LanguageID=1&z=1501256737&manual=0
  15. So this happened

    It's different for everyone. I know several people who have had their GB removed and don't see any difference and I know one guy who gets the runs when he looks directly at a french fry. Do what's right for you. You might not have another attack for years or you might have one tomorrow. It all depends on what's going on in your body. Personally, I wouldn't go under the knife (even for this minor surgery) over one episode. I would wait until it becomes a persistent problem, then get it taken care of. It really depends on the frequency of the attacks and your threshold for the pain. At least now you know what it is. Next time it happens and you can probably pop into urgent care, get some good pain meds, and work through it. Moderating your fat intake will probably help. You shouldn't have to quit all the good stuff. Just monitor what you eat and whether it triggers a GB attack. Good luck.
  16. Google Voice

    I use it. It's flaky, but it's free. I'm an infrequent hobbyist, so it meets my needs. If I did it more, I would get a burner. If you use GV and you want to keep it private, don't use the app on your phone. It integrates directly with your Google account. I use a private browser (Frost) on my Android and use the GV web interface through there. It uses my data to access the GV web site (i.e. texts & call history) and uses my minutes on phone calls (they always show up as coming from Washington DC). Like I said, it's flaky as hell, but doing it this way leaves no trace which, to me, is the most important part.
  17. Wow. That was a lot of views for a dead link. Sorry about that. I can't find the original. It was very detailed and mostly unbiased. Google "Seattle trafficking The Review Board" for some articles if you're still interested.
  18. Too dang sensitive? You help me judge, please.

    When I signed up for P411 I read all the disclaimers and text in the agreement. When I joined, they stated that providers WILL ask for ID and that I should cover up the important parts (address, license #) and only expose the info that P411 has. Didn't you get the same? I have never been asked for ID, but I'm always prepared to show it.
  19. I agree with the statement in bold 100%. As for the rest, I leave it up to the provider. I'd rather not get the same experience everywhere I go. The variety is what makes it fun.
  20. Do you ever go over your budget

    I have a budget that I can't exceed. In one of my early experiences I was upsold for more services. It was worth it, but I had to save up longer before my next encounter. Now I bring exactly the amount I plan to spend to an appointment because I know there is less blood is flowing to my brain. As for quality of experience, I've found that you generally get what you pay for, but there are exceptions to every rule. I tend to do a lot of research and avoid taking chances so I'm rarely surprised either way.
  21. Public Apology

    It's good to have you back.
  22. Orally speaking

    I have horrible teeth & have had several root canals. It's not fun, but a good dentist will make sure you feel as little pain as possible during the procedure. You can ask for more Novocaine if you have pain and they can usually take care of it. Don't hesitate to ask about how it all works or even to see the tools as they are doing the work if you're into that. For me, the more I know and the more I see, the more comfortable I am. If you take a couple Ibuprofen an hour or two before the procedure, you will feel less pain. Just don't take a blood thinner like Aspirin because that could cause excess bleeding. As for afterward, I'm usually sore for a couple days, then I'm back to my old self. If you have a temporary crown, then you won't probably won't be able to return to your usual activities if you want to keep it in place. I've knocked a couple off just by biting a hamburger the wrong way. Technically, the temp is only there to hold the space open while the permanent crown is built (it doesn't protect against infection, etc.), but it feels really weird without it. The adhesive they use on the permanent crowns is amazingly strong and is pretty much instantly set. I'd still give it a day or two because your use case is not exactly typical.
  23. Cant wait to meet everyone!

    Welcome to the board. You are super cute and I love your website.
  24. New to TOB. Saying Hello.

    Welcome to TOB. The best steak is made at home over your own charcoal grill. I'd offer to treat you, but I live elsewhere and only visit CO a few times a year.
  25. Hello everyone new to the board

    Welcome to TOB. Ignore the few trolls and have a good time.