Jade Gait

Indeed!

What is sexual energy? Sexual energy has nothing to do with intercourse, sex, or getting off. Sexual energy is used in absolutely every action that one makes. Brushing teeth, combing hair, talking, getting dressed, driving...all actions are because of sexual energy. When one makes any actions they are in the space of creating, creating movement, creating sound and creating actions. The concentration of this magical energy is found in the lower part of the belly and hips. One can connect with this energy by breathing deep into the lower belly and began to make a mind to body connection with it. Soon sensations can be felt, such as tingling, heat or coolness and will start to move up through the body to the limbs, chest, heart and head. The more the body relaxes and surrenders into the sensations that is being felt throughout the entire body, the more intense this connection to this energy becomes. Sexual energy is not only used as the bodies' fuel but it is also used in the healing of the body, repairing of the cells, releasing of toxins from the body, de-stressing but my favorite is the anti-aging properties of it. When one learns how to move this energy with focus and intention it becomes the source of intense full body sensations and pleasure. Jade

Don't over think the title. Let your mind come from a place of openness and expansion. When we attach physically, emotionally and mentally to a person, or a idea, we are given the opportunity to connect on a deeper level. Not just for ourselves but for others around us. Coming from a place of acceptance of OURSELVES first, feeling that love, then inserting it into our actions and ideas is what makes all experiences more than the action or thought alone. When we attach, insert, connect with, merge with, and fully become apart of whatever we are experiencing or want to experience, it will take on a totally different vibe, and energy. This is connection with the Divine, whether you are female of male this practice is magical!

What is your normal? Over the decades society has created what we should believe is normal, what we believe is acceptable, how we should color in the lines to be considered the Norm when it comes to sexual preferences, desires and behaviors. When one colors out of the lines then the behavior is labeled not normal, not moral and not right. These labels can add to the sexual disfunction that may already be plaguing ones mind and effecting performance. Do you like to be spanked and be in pain ( masochist)? Do you like to introduce food into the bedroom (sitophilla) ? Do you like to worship feet (podophilla)? The list and the questions are endless. When one is not able to freely express their sexual desires freely it causes discord in the body, the mind and spirit. What is normal sexually is pushed onto society along with pills to "correct" the perceived physical limitations to fall into line on what has been decided normal. So how does this make sense? To get "help" to get ones mojo back just to participate in a type of sex that is not what one is looking for, to put ones desires and wants in the back of the mind and force the body to preform in a acceptable way? Freedom from this mindset, from this way of being can be found in giving yourself permission to: 1) accept your wants and desires as perfect and valid 2) share those desires with a loved one and someone you trust 3) find a safe place to fulfill your fantasies Ever desire that feeds your soul, that lights up your skin and sets off the butterflies in the lower part of the belly is magic and worthy to be experienced. * desires must be consensual, must be with someone who can understand what is being requested, must be "safe", and supported. Be you, thrive and live fully in your sexual desires! It is amazing the science behind why some desires are so strong and the commonality of those who are wanting them. Women who desire to be with multiple men at the same time (Goddess worship) (gang bang)(group sex) can be linked to the need to get impregnated. The more men the higher the chances are that the female will conceive. The power that can be associated with being desired, wanted, taken by many while in the space of fertility can expand one to the expansion of the perceived sense of self, cultivated energy, clear mind and focus, increased red blood cells, strengthened immune system and more. More women than one may think, in all walks of life desire to be in a situation involving several men at once. Like wise, Men who desire to see their partner with another man, or to know about their partners other partners can be linked to competition. When a man watches or knows about another man with his partner, it increases testosterone levels, adrenaline, creates higher sperm count and the sperm are more aggressive! It is all about competition! Low on testosterone? Try this! For those who have and still do practice these rituals have reported body rushes and a deeper connection to their partner like non other. It is fun to learn why desires are so strong and to accept them in their natural state with no judgement!

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Where is the love? It is closer than you think. It is so easy to look to others to make us feel a certain way. To need others to accept us, to support us, to see us, to validate us and yes, to love us. When that desire is met from something or someone on the outside we experience a sense of joy and maybe a certain attachment to the external source. We connect our happiness, joy, and self-worth to that external source. Then sadly things begin to change. Our needs change, desires and wants begin to change. However, In our perfect world, the external source would change with us! It would step up its game, it would know what we wanted before we even opened our mouth to utter a request, in our perfect world. When that does not happen we find a reason why the external source disappointed us, let us down, failed us and then we set out to search for a new external source to fill the void, A bigger, better one and we vow that this time it will be the right one, the right person, the right experience. Then the cycle begins again. What most fail to see is that life does not happen TO you, it happens THROUGH you. When you love and accept yourself unconditionally then, and only then will the external source match how you see yourself. Then you will see everything as just an experience, with no expectations, no attachments, no stories. Just a fun time, a new experience, something to add to your memories of being a human, after all, you are all those things (happiness, contentment, supported, validated, love) regardless of what is happening outside of you, around you. Where does your source of acceptance, validation, support, and love originate from? If your answer is pointing to an external source then this is your opportunity to build up those qualities inside of you and then watch how everything changes around you! Where is the love? It is you, always has been, always will be. Much Love, Tali

Do not focus on the "what if's" just yet. The bill passed the house and has yet to pass Senate, so I'm thinking over a year. I see that so many sites are folding already because of the "what if, and I'm happy to see that TOB is standing strong. As with all things, there will be people you create new platforms to respond to the demand for them. It is finding a way that provides what providers and hobbyist are looking for and to comply. Intimacy is the oldest and most powerful way to connect, heal and to feel human so it is not going away. We may all have to go to old fashion referrals, word of mouth and getting out and about and networking. Don't give in or resort to fear even as you see other sites closing down. They are not what brings clients to you, you are. They are not what makes you desirable, you are. They are not responsible for your income, you are. We give so much power to the internet but when it comes down to it if the internet didn't exist this industry would! It Always has and it always will! Support, love, and thrive!

When I am a certain weight, make a certain amount of money, am with a certain person, then I will be happy." Have you ever had the thought of not being good enough in the present moment or attaching your happiness to an experience in the future? Who, what and where you are in life is exactly who, what and where you are supposed to be. The fastest way to experience another version of yourself is to accept the one that is in this present moment.

We have replaced the need for touch and intimacy with sex and most of the time porn sex. The belief that sex with someone random, just to have sex, can replace the healing of touch, of connection is a false and empty belief, but a strong belief for most Americans. We are energy beings and exchanging energy through touch, understanding, eye contact and compassion literally raises and strengthens one's energy. Making it a point to touch someone lovingly and to be touched lovingly daily, can strengthen your immune system, lessen depression, raise dopamine in your body while lowering the stress hormones, cortisol, and adrenaline. Touch is truly healing, important and just what the Dr. Ordered.