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What is your normal? Over the decades society has created what we should believe is normal, what we believe is acceptable, how we should color in the lines to be considered the Norm when it comes to sexual preferences, desires and behaviors. When one colors out of the lines then the behavior is labeled not normal, not moral and not right. These labels can add to the sexual disfunction that may already be plaguing ones mind and effecting performance. Do you like to be spanked and be in pain ( masochist)? Do you like to introduce food into the bedroom (sitophilla) ? Do you like to worship feet (podophilla)? The list and the questions are endless. When one is not able to freely express their sexual desires freely it causes discord in the body, the mind and spirit. What is normal sexually is pushed onto society along with pills to "correct" the perceived physical limitations to fall into line on what has been decided normal. So how does this make sense? To get "help" to get ones mojo back just to participate in a type of sex that is not what one is looking for, to put ones desires and wants in the back of the mind and force the body to preform in a acceptable way? Freedom from this mindset, from this way of being can be found in giving yourself permission to: 1) accept your wants and desires as perfect and valid 2) share those desires with a loved one and someone you trust 3) find a safe place to fulfill your fantasies Ever desire that feeds your soul, that lights up your skin and sets off the butterflies in the lower part of the belly is magic and worthy to be experienced. * desires must be consensual, must be with someone who can understand what is being requested, must be "safe", and supported. Be you, thrive and live fully in your sexual desires! It is amazing the science behind why some desires are so strong and the commonality of those who are wanting them. Women who desire to be with multiple men at the same time (Goddess worship) (gang bang)(group sex) can be linked to the need to get impregnated. The more men the higher the chances are that the female will conceive. The power that can be associated with being desired, wanted, taken by many while in the space of fertility can expand one to the expansion of the perceived sense of self, cultivated energy, clear mind and focus, increased red blood cells, strengthened immune system and more. More women than one may think, in all walks of life desire to be in a situation involving several men at once. Like wise, Men who desire to see their partner with another man, or to know about their partners other partners can be linked to competition. When a man watches or knows about another man with his partner, it increases testosterone levels, adrenaline, creates higher sperm count and the sperm are more aggressive! It is all about competition! Low on testosterone? Try this! For those who have and still do practice these rituals have reported body rushes and a deeper connection to their partner like non other. It is fun to learn why desires are so strong and to accept them in their natural state with no judgement!

Where is the love? It is closer than you think. It is so easy to look to others to make us feel a certain way. To need others to accept us, to support us, to see us, to validate us and yes, to love us. When that desire is met from something or someone on the outside we experience a sense of joy and maybe a certain attachment to the external source. We connect our happiness, joy, and self-worth to that external source. Then sadly things begin to change. Our needs change, desires and wants begin to change. However, In our perfect world, the external source would change with us! It would step up its game, it would know what we wanted before we even opened our mouth to utter a request, in our perfect world. When that does not happen we find a reason why the external source disappointed us, let us down, failed us and then we set out to search for a new external source to fill the void, A bigger, better one and we vow that this time it will be the right one, the right person, the right experience. Then the cycle begins again. What most fail to see is that life does not happen TO you, it happens THROUGH you. When you love and accept yourself unconditionally then, and only then will the external source match how you see yourself. Then you will see everything as just an experience, with no expectations, no attachments, no stories. Just a fun time, a new experience, something to add to your memories of being a human, after all, you are all those things (happiness, contentment, supported, validated, love) regardless of what is happening outside of you, around you. Where does your source of acceptance, validation, support, and love originate from? If your answer is pointing to an external source then this is your opportunity to build up those qualities inside of you and then watch how everything changes around you! Where is the love? It is you, always has been, always will be. Much Love, Tali