TrystinTrimble

Hey everyone. So, I had an appointment early this morning at like 5:30 in the morning, that went pretty terribly wrong and took a dangerous turn. I want to know what my next move should be because I don't feel like I should do nothing or say nothing but I know my options are limited...as follows: I took an appointment from a client this morning even though he lacked the usual information I required to screen through I took alternative information and decided to see him, despite having a feeling that something was up. I'm mad at myself a bit because I rarely ignore my intuition but I did this one time and look what the hell happened... So I show up at the house which is in one of those cookie cutter neighborhoods in Littleton, expensive enough house and so the part of town wasn't sketchy or anything. I didn't know who what the guy looked like or how old he was and when I showed up I was surprised to see that he was a pretty young guy with sort of a gangsta vibe. For the moment I'm going to intentionally leave the race/ethnicity out so don't ask. Had kind of a cocky air to him and I immediately just didn't like him very much, but I went in anyway because everything else looked okay. House was nice it was in order he had a homie asleep on the couch but whatever I don't really care about that very much so we go upstairs, do they session, and he had hit my venmo with my payment up front but mistakenly I did not check it cuz I haven't had anything happen in a long time and was honestly just not thinking that would happen. But we do the session and he finished a little sooner than I guess he wanted to, but whatever I was ready to go then as I am getting ready to go I noticed the shortage, and it's by nearly all of it. He starts walking me down and out to the door and I go back in the room and tell him like no you need to pay me right now don't tell me you're a man of your word and then don't pay me and think I'm just going to walk out of here and not say anything about it. He comes back in there and tells me to quit tripping and I told him quit trying to rip me off especially when I got my butt out there almost immediately after he called. All over the house he then tells me he's going to send me a third of my rate, citing that I didn't have to do any work as he put it, because he didn't last long. I explained to him that I am not subject to being docked because of that. I offered to do a half hour great which I don't normally do on an outcall but I figured it was better than getting nothing so he's walking me down and he still telling me he's going to send me a third of my rate and I went back into this room and said kind of loudly that he can't just do that and that he better effing pay me NOW. AT THIS POINT HE OPENED THE BEDROOM DOOR BACK UP, THEN OPENED A DRAWER ON HIS DESK REVEALING A LARGE AUTOMATIC WEAPON LIKE A MACHINE GUN OF SOME SORT. AND HE JUST LOOKED AT ME ALL SERIOUS AND SAID IN A REALLY LOW VOICE "DO YOU REALLY WANT TO GOING BACK AND FORTH OVER A LITTLE BIT OF MONEY IS IT WORTH IT TO YOU? OR DO YOU THINK MAYBE IT'S A GOOD IDEA FOR YOU TO GO NOW?" SO I SAID "OHHH, SO ITS LIKE THAT." AND HE at this point just said get your ass down the stairs and take the $100 because I'm sick of f****** hearing you talk and you weren't even worth the money anyway because you're ugly as f***. I went ahead and took that as my cue to leave, obviously. ....And obviously I was pretty pissed about it and pretty upset and felt pretty victimized and he knew that he was doing this with someone who in his mind has a little recourse basically someone who has no one that can go to for help and maybe he's right. But I don't feel like I should just leave it alone. I know we have safe reporting laws but I don't really feel comfortable taking advantage of that because I highly doubt that there would be no trouble for me whatsoever. Just because it says that we have immunity doesn't mean that they're not going to find something else to get me for or just completely not believe me or refuse to deal with it all together. I don't want to talk to the police about it, but the fact that a gun was involved and that he clearly lives at the house and doesn't really give a damn that I know where he lives and his full name and all that makes me feel like I should say something to somebody or do something about it and not just keep my mouth shut. Before you respond please understand that I know where I made mistakes I know what not to do in the future now and I know to listen to my damned intuition at all times for the millionth time. So no victim blaming. I don't want to hear it at all. What I'm looking for here specifically is advice on when how if I should proceed with following up on this, with the understanding that I'm not interested in recovering my money at this point I'm interested in preventing future violence and the guy lives in a residential area with kids and stuff. I absolutely think he will do it again even though I wrote a blacklist on him. What the hell do I do now?

Yeah it's always a bummer when I spent 30 minutes going back and forth with somebody planning out a meeting on an out, only for them to tell me right as I'm about to leave "car date?" And of course I'm like, you got to be freaking kidding me. It's a good thing I give a damn about my safety my freedom and all that stuff because clearly he doesn't give a damn about mine or his. Any place where the cops can just walk up on me is a no punting zone that's all there is to it. Remind you I am not saying this next thing as to denigrate people who do car dates, on the provider side of it. But, what I will say is that there are levels to this s***, as some famous trap rapper once put it whose name I don't remember now. To me the levels change when the risk of trouble goes up significantly and person inquiring about my ad who knows what's what knows that that's not the level I'm on and not to even ask. There's literally like two people in this entire State who I will do a car date with on an ongoing basis. One of those is someone who literally brings his house to where I may be, parks it, and doesn't give me an ounce of grief or cause any problems with drawing attention or shenanigans. Never haggles. And the other, is someone I've met previously, and without fail we'll will be done in the time it takes us to go through an automatic car wash which I think is not too much to ask on my end to keep us from being spotted and basically sitting ducks. So. You have to have met me previously with zero problems or stress from you, and then on top of that you have to either be in complete and total Minuteman who does whatever I say, or or literally an RV owner driving your whole ass house to my neighborhood to mitigate the risk and inconvenience on my part. I. f you ain't easy as all hell to blow the gasket, and I don't know you why on Earth would I risk it, especially when those very same people who were sending me messages that says nothing but car date? Are also the ones who are using the fact that it's a car date to justify paying me as little as humanly possible. Like not only do you want a risky ass public car session at 2:00 a.m. in front of the Target on Sheridan or something crap like that, but you want to pay me less than half my full rate and you want me present the exact minute you want me there, and you think there's going to be foreplay? Please. When I lay it out like that, it actually being a police sting almost sounds no worse or possibly better. It's just a big ol bag of "fuck that."

. So I'm going to the movies tonight, for the first time in something like 18 years. Gonna see this highly recommended film, and really that's about all I've got. It's been a LONG time since I saw a catchy trailer and thought to myself "I must go see this!" Also, definitely happy about this being David Dastmalchian's FIRST TIME as the lead character... I hope this is his time to shine and he is very underrated in my opinion (and also very attractive in a way I cannot quite put my finger on! 😊)... It is quite difficult for me to usually sit still through an entire movie in a theater, so I'm really just glad that there's still something out there that will make me do it. Has anyone in this forum gone to see it yet? If so, feel free to tell me if you liked it or not without any spoilers! Happy Easter!

I gotta say, that this actor in the lead role is intriguing to me and I'd love to see him become the next big thing after this role. He's not magazine hot, but the front facing personality seems great and he is heavy on charisma. This is my first celeb crush I've had in years 😆😍

It's about this late night talk show and it's host and they are doing a Halloween special and have a variety of interesting guests...set in 1977.

It was kinda fucked up. Id say I liked it though. Definitely some unexpectedness and the ending was interesting to say the least!

I would see that as being in poor taste. BUT...on the other hand I've had like 3-4 clients over the years who REQUESTED I do this or something similar mid sesh. They basically got off on being backburnered or an afterthought. I guess it's maybe a milder version of wanting to be cuckolded. As far as kinks go, it's one I didn't mind doing. Once I spent a whole hour getting daty while blowing $ shopping online, with his CC. It took some getting used to, and felt weird at first...but hey I can't say I didn't like it. It really does take all kinds of people to keep everything in motion I guess.

So, I rented a room that was approx 50 per night for a couple days. Ya know, cause money was tight this week. I get there. And they want to hold 200 "for incidentals!" I'm talking a fairly run down place with weird smells and a couple of dubious people trying to befriend all their neighbors. They didn't sell ANYTHING or have a sundry. Carpet was threadbare. There was literally nothing left to ruin in this place. Pool was all but boarded up! I checked out today (they were up my butt at 11 am SHARP), and they tell me that it'll be returned to me in 5 to 7 business days. As if! Rented a new one for like 120 a day, and it's way nicer...has a pool and hottub which are clean. Very pretty and clean carpet. Smells wonderful. Has a happy hour that nice business travelers will attend and mingle. No cameras pointed at every single room door. Has a little store to buy stuff you forgot or grab a White Claw (no thanks). Their hold was like...15% of the amount the shitty place yanked from my account. Seriously like 30 or 40, that's it. And I can check out at NOON. Id much rather spend the money on the better room than have the shitty place holding that much to insure against the possibility I will somehow make the place shittier than it already is. Duh! 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁 Here, y'all...have a free toothy grin!

In two days. FIVE NCNS back to back...is this weekend going this way for any other ladies? I've been sitting in this room with my thumb up my (expletive deleted) for a bit now. What's the damn deal? I mean...it's not even No-Show November yet! 😁

For encounters involving multi hours or traveling beyond the metro area I do require deposit usually. But there's no way I can take them when I work in town, do mostly outs on short notice, to guys who can barely manage a greeting or to read any of my ad... let alone the minimal amount of leg work it would take to pay a deposit. These m************ think I'm some hot local single sitting by my phone wearing a tight fuzzy sweater waiting to connect with em. I am hot. I am local. I am single. But at no time Am i all three of the above at once. I'm being overestimated...

You guys are the best! Used to be if I made a post like this there was a culture of victim blaming. We've come a long way haven't we?

My guess is that they do it to discourage riff raff (people who cant afford more than a day and people who are down to their last match) from staying there. Id imagine they assume that those types don't have the kind of cash that can be tied up for several days.

Ladies! I had a person reach out to me last night, and upon doing some digging, I'm very glad to have done so. PM me for a memo and pass on to other ladies privately. Always trust your gut! It's there for a reason!

Oh I know it can't be easy to read about that shit. But we talked, I think it's all good now

I remember the time when I very much depended upon receiving reviews to bring about a steady flow of biz. I wish I could still get them without being petrified of them being read by my SO and ruminated upon to the point of detriment. It's best at this point to just not provide any new gossip to mull over.

Bad Client: ignores boundaries, rushes me to move my ass immediately, is drunk or too high at go time, orders me to squirt and gets pissy when I (shocker) can't, is too rough and thinks that I'm defective for not caring for it, texts me constantly without rebooking, asks me if they can be the first of the day every time, doesn't believe me if I compliment them, gets caught by the wife and throws me under the bus, stares into my soul the whole time, tries to trade substances for service, really I could go on all day. Bad Providers: cold call their regulars without any kind of concern for discretion, untrustworthy when in other peoples environments/cash and dash type games, show up intoxicated, don't screen and don't protect client information, bad hygeine, pull clients into their serious drama, talk about their money problems in their ads, take too many calls or texts in session, use illegal substances in front of a client especially one who doesn't partake, make a client feel unsafe with her behavior or implying a threat of violence unprovoked, double booking clients, is a grouchy bitch most of the time...

I have a serious SO...but man it took years and years to find this one and dating is never problem free for me. I had to be loud and adamant about a couple things: first, that we both have a voice and a safe space to feel how we do; and second, that there was no tolerance for treating one another with disrespect. Respect is required at all times and I've had to fight for it a couple times. It can be done but you have to really want it. I cannot imagine starting over yet again.

Oh No! I had not seen him in a long time, but he used to see me regularly and I am really saddened to hear this news:( All in All, not at all a bad guy. He helped me out once when I was in a serious jam and treated me kindly. Rip Dear...

Not gonna lie, I LOVE when I'm with a "business partner" and this happens. It can actually be kinda depressing when I go a long time without that wow factor so I find it welcome. However, the very few times I tried to keep it going I found myself hurt in the end--so I try to just be thankful for it when it does happen and leave it where it is. I can never truly know what someone's intentions are and that means I am not really safe to try to pursue anything further.

It looks like they did make an arrest? Three teens, all named in article, looking at a charge of first degree murder. I'm glad they got these people so quickly!

Unbelievably Senseless random act of violence, one young woman killed for no reason. Completely innocent and crossed paths with some sack of shit The knowledge that someone out there has done this shit to someone ever; is so sad and scary. I really, REALLY--hope that the person responsible for this is caught and held accountable for this antisocial crap. I don't know HOW but they just have to catch him. There are some callous and cruel people out there and afaik, this one is on the loose still.

What you said about the lack of punishments for anything definitely has strength. I would elaborate on that statement by saying that in addition to some people who need to be punished severely facing little or no punishment, that too many personal issues we face have been turned into crimes and are over severely punished. There's lots of disproportional crime punishment ratios as far as severity goes. Lots and lots of discretionary judgment given to people on the bench when they hand out a sentence. I could think of a few right off the top of my head: 1) addictions, petty offenses That are basically a symptom of untreated mental illness such as trespassing or vagrancy in and of itself. I myself, a long ago, had a drug use issue, and the way it played out was not in causative or linear fashion. I used one drug, regularly, didn't drive on it, didn't sell it, didn't steal to be able to pay for it. Didn't get lit and start hitting my family. None of that shit whatsoever. It wasn't OK for me to be addicted necessarily, but my personal relationship with it was as close to a victimless crimes it could've gotten. Until I was found in possession of it in the traffic stop. Ultimately I spent YEARS on probation. Paid very heavy fines. Court ordered rehab which I flunked out of multiple times for nothing but TARDINESS. Three tardies and they discharge. Group meetings were a joke. Inpatient accommodations With the places that Arapahoe county contracts with are damn near impossible to Get a bed with. court ordered treatment is not treatment. It's monitoring and control and set up to fail. Do that a couple of times and even if you don't have a dirty UA on file next stop is several months in the county jail. A county jail that not only booked its own former sheriff into it for drugs and prostitution while his name was at the top of the building, County jail that people have literally been medically neglected in until they were dead as a door nail for preventable shit. The place is filthy, food is NASTY, people have died from not receiving insulin in there, For alcohol withdrawals which could've been prevented with a couple of Gatorade's and sleeping pill. From a heart attack because someone needed an EKG and the guard basically said boo-hoo If you don't like the accommodation don't make the reservation while they laughed. So what that meant for me was for the offense of being a personal use only drug user, and being caught in possession with it on the first offense, it snowballed into me being locked up in a place where my life literally did not matter to the people Who call the shots. It took me years to get off of that probation and at the very end my new probation officer who knew nothing about me tried to get me revoked at the very end and thrown in for another 18 months over some paperwork. It took an expensive attorney to save me. I needed to stop, but the 18th judicial district most definitely didn't care if I ever dropped my addiction. Everything that they did in response to catching me with that stuff only shoved me closer to the edge of a cliff. If it weren't for a little bit of luck in a couple of really good friends along with a reasonable man sitting on the bench at my revocation hearing, I would've done a total of two years in jail for that one thing. I've been off probation for years now and I am considered a convicted felon even though it was a deferred judgment I completed the terms and they drop the charge. I still pay for that shit anytime I apply for a job or an apartment or a gun. And in the same world that we live in here's another one: 2)another recent guest of that same facility; was a evil and unimaginably violent sack of shit named Alex Ewing. Most know him as the Aurora Hammer Killer. He bludgeon several people to death with a hammer, but not before tying up families and raping all the females in front of the rest of the family first. Awful awful stuff. Guys like him are the reason why I can't completely want the death penalty outlawed. He most certainly deserved it if anybody ever did. His guilt was locked in because DNA technology. 100% did it. Instead it took like two years for him to be extradited here from Nevada, and he managed to land just a couple of days after Colorado repealed the death penalty again. That wasn't luck. That was strategy and bullshit. They brought him back here and he spent a few months sitting in that county jail probably in his very own cell, as Colorado taxpayers paid for him to stay alive. He was convicted and sentenced to life without parole of course but who can state a strong case for keeping that rotten fuck alive after conviction? Just his smirk alone should be enough for them to have wanted to get rid of him forever. Meanwhile, people who have untreated mental illness and keep getting picked up and thrown in jail for trespassing and minor shoplifting offenses or possession of a drug here and there will be released right back onto the street where they will sleep outside because we don't have the money to build more shelter space or get them a bed in the hospital so that they can address their chronic mental illnesses? For the money that we spend it to keep somebody like Alec Ewing alive forever And stress-free, we could probably put a few people in a full-blown apartment that are sleeping outside and just a little off balance. 3) plenty of kids have done unspeakable things and Get locked up for no more than the rest of their childhood and then released with no life skills and little or no community supervision or parole. Kids who killed their parents because they didn't buy them something that they wanted. Not tried as adult and off the paper walking the street by 21. Convicted child molesters who were given probation no jail time because the kid they assaulted was too young to testify against them and maybe he was abused himself as a child or something. That guy goes on to snatch somebody else's kid and have his way with them and then kill them because they are old enough to talk. It's happened way more than once. 4)poor black men who are shot unarmed. Or beaten savagely for speaking up when they weren't given any due process and pulled over for no reason. Jail sucks, but the ultimate price is a death caused by a racist cop who had qualified immunity. He shouldn't have been qualified. 5) and of course, all these damn Asshole youngsters stealing cars and the cops will not do shit about it. Whatever your walk of life is, whatever your age is; You steal someone's car they bust their ass to maintain and pay for and it's their only form of transportation and can't get another one; that offender should always always go to jail. Fairly high bond amount Or even no bond if they've done it a bunch. Mandatory jail time for anything other than maybe unauthorized use. If you steal someone's car you should be locked the hell up for a while. Every time. There have been instances in this area where the owner a vehicle confronted someone trying to steal it or cut the cat converter off instead of running off the thieves pulled out a gun and shot the owner of the vehicle. Or that one guy who ended up shooting the youth that was stealing his car killing the kid, and now his family is rallying for the victim of the theft Catch a first-degree murder charge. The kid wasn't a divine cherub Is much more likely are the 12-year-olds stealing cars is just a bad seed. Way more often than not a punishment for a crime is either life-threateningly sever or nowhere close to jjstuce. Rather criminals walk in the street right now And not enough stuff gets punished...tgeyre too busy making an example of someone who used a drug Behind closed doors and has never stolen nothing. The imbalance is pretty staggering

I have been following one providers topic she posted about gun violence and school shootings...This one to be exact. It is a tough subject, and the main reason why I've recently turned back to slam poetry. The neutrality I held towards a lot of the issues in the world is now impossible, and it needs to be channeled into something that isn't...all the nastiness we see in most comment sections. To y'all and only y'all, Just want to say... Thank you for your post. The reason we are all reading it sucks. The replies are all rich in content, All personal to the person who wrote the reply. All from the left and the right and in between. None of the discussion has geared towards the hobby we all came here to enjoy, and it is still not a shitpost. And everyone is being respectful while baring their soul on this hot button issue. So thanks for this post! This site, this community that made TOB come to exist, it's all kinds of a good thing to me individually. Whether we all like each other or not, and whether we agree on things all the time or not, the people who contribute and keep it all alive and well, you all matter and man, y'all have some serious brains! Before I came here, I belonged to a city and hobby board that was all drama, all punters talking about providers like we are nothing but commodities and like we are here solely to please and appease a bunch of predatory, shallow, and boorish men. Reviews were written to entertain the men and were quick to tear the women down and make us feel insignificant and ugly. One thumbs down from the wrong man was the end for so many ladies then...and the most respected of those hobbyists were whoever had the longest list Of women seen, and who was able to trick or cheat us the most; and that was it. And being a provider in that city was pretty disenfranchising. Plenty of you ladies know what I'm talking about, and while I've certainly met a few assholes here in Denver, they are so few and far between once we get together and talk on TOB. Fact is, a-holes are in all cities but they seem to be scarce where we all write each other. I cannot say enough how much I value this little world we have. I would love to see it more like this out in the physical world And on way more forums. Here, ladies have a voice, and the gentlemen (at least in these discussions) are a cut above the rest as far as hobbying goes. The mods are great and sometimes "hard on us" but they are FAIR. For the most part, folks I've worked with in CO are amazing! A couple of y'all are truly some of the best people I ever met. Some are not my type of snack, and some aren't into me either. But... ALL OF YALL MAKE THIS DIFFICULT OCCUPATION I CHOSE INTO A CAREER. Where I once felt isolation and shame, I now have a support system. Colleagues. Friends. Peers. Connections. Safety. Cameraderie. Stability. All of the things the judgey people in the world try to say we don't deserve, we have it and they can't take it all away at this point. Many years ago, it was fairly common for icky "johns" to justify their flat out garbage by laughing and telling a provider that she should "get a real job" if she wants to be treated like a human being at all. Called us things like "hooktards" and worse. Swapped notes on how to stealth us, secretly record us or get out of paying up. I saw ladies get doxxed while mods did nothing. And those people had the balls to call US the lowlifes. Most of you ladies have seen that grossness at some point especially if you aren't from here originally. It was normal. We didn't matter. We had no recourse. None. Screening was not a thing. Not every lady has survived that cycle of oppression. Some left. Some died. Some did time at some point like me, just cause someone wanted to get a lil revenge. Some were shrouded in shame and secrecy until they went nuts. The soul tax used to be sky high, and some of us ran out of soul. I was going to, and instead I moved to Denver... An industry that those guys don't want to accept and used to prey on as they wish, is self regulating in Colorado. Those beastly kerb krawling guys, are conspicuously absent on this board. The providers here do their best and get to have self esteem and we network. We pay taxes and have credit scores. We take less abuse and know we deserve love and respect. Those nasty ones who said "get a real job, haha" probably did not forsee us dying on this hill and kicking them down off it. Now we have real jobs. We set our salary and haggling is not so common. To them a real job was one where We worked many hours a week, worked for a crappy wage that Would never be enough, And kept us apart from our families and friends most of the time. Thanks to this board and all y'all, I do work hard, And it's not always easy but I have my own shelter, time to be a mom, and I'm not on food stamps. I will almost definitely age out of this before a guy throws me in a ditch. With any luck, I will look good doing it the whole way. This move I made, that thousand miles I ran to come here, probably saved my life in the end. A lot of old thought patterns and unhelpful personality traits are way better now. I've watched myself ditch a lot of negativity and I bitch much less. Not perfect, but just a lot of improvement. There is still a seedy underbelly in our world, human trafficking is real and pimps still pop up in their silly hats for sure. We still have less recourse as victims than non sex workers do; and those bad guys still exist. The worst of it is so far in my past that I almost forget about it sometimes. here I sit in my 20th year of providing, there's so much to do to make things better as a whole but it really has come along way since I started. My hope for 20 years from now is that every city has a net work as good as our city does, That every abusive trafficker has run out of people to exploit and has been run out of town. That survival work and street walking and dead hooker jokes are unheard of. Where every woman who does this has a real job and not just some lucky handfuls here and there. Where discussions like the one I referred to in the beginning of this post are every day and brimming with insight. We disagree but we don't spread hate and isms and silence others just to swing our egos the hardest. With any luck, The girls that do grow up to do this won't have to fight and claw their way up to be treated like...people. It's never gonna "be abolished" and it's not a scourge. Some people will end up filling our spots down the road and they should not be automatically written off as people who threw their life away. I know I didn't. I already see it on this board, and along with strong and intelligent women I see some really terrific and neat men who make it possible. We are, as much as we can be; with it in terms of forward thinking. The hate is the poison and respectful "safe" spaces like TOB are one of hopefully many antidotes. If we can talk straight up about all of this tough stuff, Then the people spreading hate can do it too, ya know; the ones that don't come round here much anymore. I don't know about y'all, I'm so ready to see them get with the times. Its high time they stop using ugly slurs and calling it a joke when it fails to land. I know a joke when I see one and that stuff ain't funny. We can have "god given rights" without disregarding human rights of anyone who isn't just like us, and without extinguishing the children who deserve to grow up. They can quit their shit and guns can be interesting tools instead of a constant threat to humanity. Politics could one day be less inflammatory and more of a jumping off point for healthy debates. Women named Karen can maybe just be Karen and not slang for a female who stands up for herself in any manner. Karen should not have to stfu or be made to feel too demanding Because she asked for fully cooked chicken at lunch. Our kids should enjoy the basic amenity of going to school without being shot at and should get to go home every single day. Sex work IS work. Lives Matter. Children ARE THE FUTURE! A world that is not a war zone is not too much to fight for. They fucking deserve that if nothing else. We all do. A hater once told ME to get a real job. So I made one, and I couldn't have done it without all you fine people. I love the great minds, the stuff we talk about, and the community we have built despite all the resistance. Y'all are something I am thankful for, and I would like to think that intelligence will multiply and prevail in the end, and that all of the vitriol and attacks on the beautiful things in the world will be replaced with the respect and acceptance all of you have shown me the past ten years. Every nice thing that you as individuals say do and gift out in the world adds up. Things have been real crazy lately but I hope none of you give up, much like you inspire me not to. All my life, I have heard in the midst of a hostile environment; that one annoying ass person who would pipe in among exchanging of mean words and "jokes" with "CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG?!" You know what I'm saying. There's one in every office or classroom. On here, among US...we do just that. And we do it without ignoring conflict or gate keeping. It's not super simple, but we manage and I think this calls for a pat on all your backs. Thanks for being the place where I belong, and for everything y'all bring to the table. It's all valuable and all part of the solution.

That's fair enough. FWIW, the best birth control method is the realization that casual dating is anything but casual. Swipe left. Do swipe left. No way I would ever want this hand twice! Science and biology don't care about our feelings and egos 😂 and no, our bodies do NOT have a "way of shutting things down" just cause our match was an ass. I still can't believe that politician SAID that shit, ROFL. Like, tell us you are a dingbat without saying so...then sign a bill into law... Knowing then what I know now--eh i guess I'd still do it. I still can't say it's happy trails to the clinic, I can say that the type of people who didn't care until that point, once again--might be the exact ones that are unfit parents...after all they are clearly anti common sense. Too many dingbats, and not enough crayons.

I've only ever seen you once face-to-face sir; You were reasonable then and you are now. Well done finding a concise way to say so much. This is quality writing here...