"Please send a face pic." Um, no? Not in a million years?

[TheOlderGentleman]

Was recently asked by a provider to send a face pic before she would confirm our appointment or provide an ETA. When I asked why, she said it was for her security so she would know who was coming.

OK, ladies, first of all I understand how you feel about security. Meeting a new person feels incredibly risky because it is incredibly risky; law enforcement, Ted Bundy, some 18 year old who stole one of grandpa's Viagra - it could be anybody.

But anyone with the IQ of a turnip knows that requesting a face pic does not provide any security whatsoever, does not tell you who is coming in any way whatsoever, and in fact is a request with no legitimate purpose that is logically defensible.

Ted Bundy has a library of fake face pics that he's already Photoshopped to not show up on TinEye and that look juuuuust enough like him that the provider will open up the hotel or apartment room door without a second thought. Law enforcement probably has a better library than that.

The good guys who will send you a legitimate picture are the guys from whom there is nothing to worry about. The bad guys who are coming over to steal your silverware and kidnap your pets are going to head-fake this "security" measure in two seconds.

Meanwhile, sending a real face pic is a huge and obvious security risk for the hobbyist. These providers are asking us to enormously damage our security while doing nothing at all to enhance their own.

On reflection, I think I know why some providers ask for this. It is because they want to have a race policy, but they don't want to admit it. They ask for the face pic, and if what they get is too brown they just kind of quietly stop answering messages. Non-response is pretty much the industry standard method for not confirming; this lets them be racist without looking racist.

[Dweller201]

Sadly, Ted was a very handsome dude!

I wonder why the face pic? Some people find obese people gross, or certain races, but who knows!

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[worksmartnothard]

Was recently asked by a provider to send a face pic before she would confirm our appointment or provide an ETA. When I asked why, she said it was for her security so she would know who was coming.

OK, ladies, first of all I understand how you feel about security. Meeting a new person feels incredibly risky because it is incredibly risky; law enforcement, Ted Bundy, some 18 year old who stole one of grandpa's Viagra - it could be anybody.

But anyone with the IQ of a turnip knows that requesting a face pic does not provide any security whatsoever, does not tell you who is coming in any way whatsoever, and in fact is a request with no legitimate purpose that is logically defensible.

Ted Bundy has a library of fake face pics that he's already Photoshopped to not show up on TinEye and that look juuuuust enough like him that the provider will open up the hotel or apartment room door without a second thought. Law enforcement probably has a better library than that.

The good guys who will send you a legitimate picture are the guys from whom there is nothing to worry about. The bad guys who are coming over to steal your silverware and kidnap your pets are going to head-fake this "security" measure in two seconds.

Meanwhile, sending a real face pic is a huge and obvious security risk for the hobbyist. These providers are asking us to enormously damage our security while doing nothing at all to enhance their own.

On reflection, I think I know why some providers ask for this. It is because they want to have a race policy, but they don't want to admit it. They ask for the face pic, and if what they get is too brown they just kind of quietly stop answering messages. Non-response is pretty much the industry standard method for not confirming; this lets them be racist without looking racist.

On my website either so I get where you are coming from. I do not want my escorting to interfere with my other more important life. Sadly some guys harp on with they are buying so they might have aright to view what they are getting. I can see the logic in that if this was a legal business and devoid of the stigma attached. Until then, no identifying anything!