MelindaMadison

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    In using any third party parent transaction... one really needs to have their act together... both screening the client...knowing the client...Privatizing the account fully for everyone's discretion..and most of all...DO NOT have it connected to a hobby persona, escort persona, escort phone number Nor email- in any part of the transaction.  This is not like re-imbursing someone for coffee..so a lot more professionalism needs to be there and many more considerations. That being said, they are wonderful tools for us ladies who do extended dates or travel or for any reason...if done correctly. 

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    I believe it was a massage parlor incident- seems to be leaking out.

    But How could you fault a widower? (his wife died in 2001).

     

    "Anonymity" of walk-in parlors, street work gone internet /anonymous meetings tend to be costly mistakes vs being a high profile gent who finds a super discreet independent escort who will take his secret to the grave. ugh   Most of the "big" high profile guys tend to be smarter than that...and develop a relationship with an indy who will take their secrets to the grave.

    but it may also be a generational thing. He grew up when there was a heavy "house" or street scene, perception of SWers were that they were risky or out to scam or steal or pimped..and he perhaps never took the new progressive mentality of hiring independently.  

    The worst part, that if it WAS a parlor....he might have actually patronized an organization that has a greater chance of women Actually working under co-erced/trafficked conditions (as I know from my New England days and our parlors in RI. :( ) 

     

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    There is no "typical" in this world...every companion business will be run a different way. So always best to never assume, read a provider's website and inquire directly of THEM individually vs asking random strangers on a board with , like, 100-200 different business models. Assumptions in this industry is what causes unnecessary confusion, misunderstandings, frustration a mass of "opinions" vs facts in many cases.

    Plus to note: some cash apps out there are very SWer unfriendly and providers may simply use them "undercover"  The more discussion about a specific app or company there is in public hobby forums, the more likelihood these companies will lock sh&^ down. 

    Access to banking and financial services is a big subject right now to providers with legislation currently on the table...

    Cash is king but not always 100% doable in relation to traveling or touring ladies who need deposits in the new environment nor ATM cash amount limits for some clients.

    That being said, if a companion uses alternative or creative methods.. they better have their act together super well with discretion, accountability and screening as not to be taken by chargebacks, outing anyone in a Venmo "friends" section that is public and offering a solid written policy on deposit / pre-pay situations that is agreed to by both parties.. 

    There's much more at stake in this industry than a $2 V%nmo to your friend for paying for their coffee....

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    Back on subject... there is a difference between decriminalization and legalization. they are not the same. SWOP (Sex Workers Outreach Project) and allies voice support for Decrim vs Legalization. Decriminalization reduces harm to sexworkers in many ways...and allows some help in the legal system against those that may harm physically and we've also seen it protect the provider in another decrim country in a case where the guy took the fee back and ran... Legalization creates revenue for govt via licensing fees with no reduction in harm...and actually supports in many different ways, legal "pimps" (those who make big $ off the SWers without doing the labor themselves (always a touchy subject in this industry..as it also sort of make the gov't the "pimp"  and requires individual registration of SWers)  Many of us support Decrim...NOT Legalization due to many reasons. There are many articles and editorial commentary that one can read up on this if you are interested in the specific dynamics and how to be an ally.

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    20 hours ago, skinnydud said:

    She is a reputable girl. I have no doubts about that.  the fact that she realized tob providers access went down kind of made it difficult for her which i understand ... but it happened when i was by her hotel. Fear of ending up in a situation got into my brain so i could not give additional screening info. I have too much at stake if something happens ... you guys know what i am saying. There are other options but the little head is in charge of the choice and the big head is supporting that idea now. Especially because she mixed me up with a bad person ... i need to correct that and enjoy some time with her. 

    There is so much wrong with this statement and frame of thought......that I am seriously holding my tongue. :(

    "Young Skywalker" it may be time to re-assess your "little head/big head" excuses...realize that you are not seeming to grasp the critical importance of why a companion needs to have their act together in regards to screening (and it sounds like she didn't) and move on and leave the girl alone.

    Edu-ma-cation is a good thing :(

     

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    Travel out 30mins to Antelope Island.... see the bison herds and go hiking. If you are there on a Thurs eve- hit up the Tabernacle Choir free rehearsal. If more time- hit Provo area for 5th Water Hot Springs Trail Heads...only a 2.5 mile hike up the canyon (bring yak tracks)  SLC is a my home away from home.  Hit the Olympic center up by Park City..  pretty much need a car for the good stuff. Dining is somewhat iffy...a couple of good wine bars by the Temple (and museums also) .. Yelp is your friend there.

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    9 hours ago, Robert Johnson said:

    The Hard Rock Cafe in Aspen, perhaps not the finest food in town, but unique and entertaining decor.  You have relics such as Hunter S. Thompson's old typewriter and Martina Navratilova's tennis racket hanging on the walls.  Notably atypical of the HRC if you've been to a few. 

    -RJ 

    Hard Rock in Aspen closed way back in year 2000.  i believe....  no clue where the memorabilia went.

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    Haven't you ever been to a hotel that you weren't staying in? ...like for a conference? to meet a buddy for a drink? to pick up relatives to head out to dinner? 

    Act....well.....LIKE THAT.

    But hopefully, you've chosen a professional companion...who will walk you through the dynamics of the layout of the lobby and directions Beforehand..and not just leave it up to you with a basic "this is my room number" exchange. 

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    My top 2...The bar seating at Ellina...Love that place! and Element 47 at the Little Nell.... also notable is Clark's Aspen for Seafood,  happy hour at Hotel Jerome.  The Wild Fig for French bistro ...not as impressed with Rustique :( .    Dining scene changes dramatically year by year there and even accessibility by season..but listed some good solid standby's .... btw..the yoga studio (if you are into that) Aspen Shakti...is exceptional.   One of my fave places...

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    I'm with ColoradoBadBoy there also. It seems like we have taken our search for connection and even finding a mate in life to shopping "Amazon Prime style" in our jammies from the comfort of our home (or for some guys...their Mom's basements ;) ) 

    ....and then...when it doesn't yield the results or connection that we wish ...it becomes about the people and disappointment vs the medium (ie: Internet) used to try to find the human connection... 

    IF i was looking (and I'm not - my sexy gent clients and career and pastimes take up so much time) ... I would Never ever go internet dating again.  You'll find me in a hiking/mountain climbing/flyfishing/running or enjoying nature type club...and let what happens happens as i look into someone's eyes and probably tease the crap out of them.  

    Call me Old-School but we struggle with that also in escort/companion world. It use to be more of a gent introducing himself and requesting a paid date...turned into "sending appt request form" , acronym hunters , one-liners, "hey", "u up?" .. and ordering a woman like a pizza....  Everything has become too big of a "business" 

    Personal Connection should not become extinct.  Some of us are truly working on preserving the viewpoint.  

    As for women in their 40's...yes...we've seen a world of BS...but many still are incredibly optimistic and happy by being uber selective with our company (and not wasting time with those incompatible)...whether in escort world or "RL" world.

    I intend to be a woman well into my 90's with a sly smirk on my face, sexy stories in my heart and a fond memory of the men I've enjoyed....albeit by the hour, 90min or overnight... :)

    Play Nicely all!  xoxo

     

     

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    I always thought of it as a "style" and "attitude" ...as Chrissy said- the "VIBE" of a hot soccer mom.  The hot woman getting in the mini-van with the groceries that gives you the urge to..... well...carry her groceries.. Even though of age- those of us without kids....never quite thought of even advertising as one...and "cougar" seems a bit too predatory.... but...perhaps the hot career focused district attorney, newscaster or boss that you'd like to ruffle up maybe... ;) 

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    On 12/31/2018 at 1:16 PM, Dani Panti said:

    Unfortunately many wish to protect their privacy. Not all that are gone/leaving are scammers. 

    Ditto. I Love being able to comment and participate on the board...but also can't risk what i have built with my discretion or even my friend's discretion w/ the new ID requirements for advertising. I Do understand what the board needs to do however to protect themselves and not be liable in today's targeted legal environment ... (and although being one of the 1st 10-20 indy women in the country with a website back at the start of internet escorting.. I know i am of age..(but a stranger operating a hobby board would not know...and needs to be able to prove that if ever the question comes up .) Not everyone who has disappeared from the listings are scammers...   Peace all and play nicely and be Kind to many of the ladies... It's a changing environment in many ways for all of us. 

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    Through the mess of all that is happening lately- the cream will rise to the top as it has in the past...     The gents who are sweet and well meaning and dependable will continue to be so and separate themselves from the chronic cancellation crowd and "are you available?" crowd.  ***We ladies will take care of them nicely and be glad to reference and refer out to make life easier for them.*** 

     

    and the ladies that run this business with systems that are solid in screening, discretion, (and deposits and cancellation fees when needed depending on their business model) and especially  being dependable (and drama free) with their bookings also will also rise.      

    Now..being smart enough to choose the right company will be the key for both parties.   That has seemed to be a struggle for some . Some sail through this with ease...others struggle by choosing shortcuts, making bad decisions and get the short straw.  C'est la vie. 

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  21. Posted

    22 minutes ago, Kaduk said:

    Stumbled across this Destination while browsing the google-net...

    Bonaire - This southern Caribbean island is one of the most highly regarded scuba diving destinations in the world, surrounded by azure water clearer than glass and reefs that stretch out like submerged cities near the shoreline.

    https://www.houstonchronicle.com/life/travel/destinations/article/Beyond-scuba-diving-in-Bonaire-5522537.php

    https://travel.padi.com/d/bonaire/

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    I second Bonaire. I'm an accomplished diver of over 1300dives and rebreather work in my wreck diving days... been to Bonaire 6-7 times in the last couple of decades...  and it's a snorkelers Paradise.!!   it's developed a lot in recent years...but slide shows at night at Captain Don's Habitat, and get up into the national park for some exceptional sea fan corals...snorkel at night for the large tarpon right off the beach feeding down the view of your light.., (bring lights)...and keep on the sheltered side of the island. We use to say that most of the nightlife on Bonaire after 9pm at night happened underwater... 

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