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I didn't read it that way at all. I could absolutely picture a situation in which the guy was kind of an asshole to start - not enough that she would want to kick him out, but maybe enough that she wouldn't set up another meeting if he emailed her again. But then he kept pushing further until asking to renegotiate her fee at the end. Sorry this happened to you Akilah.

I've always assumed, maybe incorrectly, that a blacklist would include a note section of something for additional description. So you could see "blacklisted for NCNS" vs "blacklisted for being a stalker" etc. and make your own decision. Oh sorry if I wasn't clear or we were talking about 2 different things, I was speaking generally, not about this specifically - this situation was definitely not handled correctly. I'd prefer the inaccurate information not be posted, but if it is the lady can refute it. So if a review is posted, and the lady is on the board, and she decides not to dispute any of it, I would tend to believe the story to be accurate and that there were any extenuating circumstances like the guy being a creep. In this case, she has not had a chance to respond, so we only have one side, and we have to take it for what it is.

Why not? I'm an outsider to the CO culture, so obviously things are different than I'm used to, but pretty much every lady I've met would and has blacklisted for NCNS. And those guys deserved it imo. If a guy was lying, why wouldn't she be eager to respond and set it straight? Again different board - but I've seen multiple times where a guy posted false information and the lady was happy to call him out on it. She didn't need proof, just a post to say "here's the real story".

The truth 100%, but at a minimum definitely lie or be vague over ignore. Especially if it's something innocuous, like 'you don't meet my age range', being told is so much nicer than thinking you said something wrong.

I'm not sure if there's a character limit, but maybe you could make your location Corona, California if you want?

I think one of the great things about this board is that the ladies can respond to reviews. If he were were to embellish out of anger she can respond and set the record straight. If he writes a review and despite being on the board she says nothing, I'd say that's pretty informative. Also I'd think it'd be harder to blackball someone, because if she doesn't have a reason to dispute the review, any attempt at blackballing would seem to be vindictive and unreliable to me. But to second what a couple others have said, emailing her to say that you'd be forced to write a NCNS review was a bad call. Give her the benefit of the doubt, maybe there actually was an emergency, see what she says and if she feels bad about it. If she respects your time and actually had an emergency or even just screwed up she could have responded without you saying that. If she still doesn't respond or flat out tells you she doesn't care then you can be mad and go from there. But it's too late to undo that now, and either way she did no show you, so what you do next is up to you.

No certainly not, I said in my last post that it doesn't diminish what happens to you and that it happens much more frequently than to us, and based on this post it happens more frequently than even I guessed. But even though I have some money to spend, it doesn't mean I'm wealthy. I have a budget, I can't see someone multiple times per month or even once every single month, and because of spending so much on the cancellation I will now have to pass on a future date with someone else. I decided to spend the money because I thought I was getting something in return, but hell I didn't even get an apology. And that's kind of what bothers me the most - you ladies deal with a ton of jerks and timewasters, there's only so much we can do about them. That's not to say it should be accepted or tolerated, or that you should just deal with it - I'd like to eliminate them too, and have given deposits promptly every time I've been asked to help accomplish that. The guys are dicks, no one disagrees and no one can completely get rid of them, but if the ladies are dealing with all this, then they more than anyone else should know that it's not appropriate to do it to someone else. Obviously some of them don't care. Edit: And if she was more communicative, I could have had the chance to see someone else while I was in Denver. So she cost another Denver lady money too.

Depends on the situation. When I visited Denver, it cost me about $300 between 1 night in a hotel (because I flew in a day early), cab to and back from her incall, and a wasted vacation day from work, when the lady I was supposed to meet left me outside her door for an hour stringing me along before canceling. That's not to diminish the nonsense you ladies deal with, and I'm sure you deal with it way more frequently than us, but I disagree with the idea that cancellations for on our side are merely annoying, they can easily cost us real money too.

Maybe it's just me, but I'd prefer the no. Once I was trying to venture and she was doing the redirection. I picked up on that so I stopped trying, but I would have preferred the honest verbal communication. Especially since now when I see her again, I don't know if she just wasn't feeling it that day, or if it's not something she cares for at all.

That was my problem. She is on this site and I believe both of the others, and has a good reputation as far as I can tell. Since she emailed saying she wanted to try to see me a different time before I left, I kept trying with her - I assumed there were extenuating circumstances and she didn't think that kind of thing was acceptable. But I soon learned how wrong I was. If I had a second chance I definitely would have done things differently.

So true - I made a similar mistake and it bit me hard. Had a hotel room in Denver for 3 days, but someone NCNS'd me outside her incall on the first day. She emailed me an hour or so later and I spent the next 2 days trying to give her another chance but she didn't follow through. In hindsight I easily could've contacted someone else, but instead I left without having met any of the fantastic ladies who live there.

That's hilarious, I wouldn't even be upset. All I've ever got was the boring not feeling well type cancellations.

I definitely did not paste 4 different fields, it was 1 ID on my main profile page.

How? And then why even give it as an option? If I use the p411 system to request an appointment, the ID has no purpose. When you use p411, she gets access to my profile without me ever giving her the ID, I don't a notification when she looked at my profile, etc. It sounds like a button in a movie that says "don not push or the ship will be destroyed" - why was it installed in the first place?

I did both, sometimes if I was already emailing her about something else I would continue that method of conversation, but I also used the p411 system. I would also send the them a pm on p411 saying yes this is me who emailed you. Yes they were all p411 members. Exactly. I don't think they were doubting me specifically, I think they were just among the group that always want more info. Which I don't have a problem with, but it means that p411 frequently isn't saving my references any time, it isn't saving the person I want to meet any time, and it isn't saving me any time. If someone thinks it does save them enough time to be worth the fee, by all means they should continue to use it.