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[Audrey Lewis]

Here everyone's first experience with a provider and what made you start the hobby in the first place??

What compelled you to meet with the 1st special lady that paved the way to continue forward with the hobby??? Do you still see her??

and what about the interaction with you and a provider do like like best?

 

so interested to here everyone's story!!! GO!!

Ps there are a ton a questions in this forum BUT answer the ones that resonate to you 

💙AL

[Guest]

Here everyone's first experience with a provider and what made you start the hobby in the first place??  First experience Tantric FBSM.  Lots of eye to eye contact, it was very nice.  Pulmonary embolism.  Was told by a Doc in the emergency room a couple of years ago that I had more blood clots in my lungs than they had ever seen in a LIVING person.  Life's too short!

What compelled you to meet with the 1st special lady that paved the way to continue forward with the hobby??? Do you still see her?? Her beautiful green eyes in the ad on backpage and no. Moved on from FBSM, but if that was still my focus, I would go back to her in heartbeat.  She is a doll.

and what about the interaction with you and a provider do like like best? Can I cheat and say all of it?

Edited November 16, 2015 by Riggo

[Audrey Lewis]

goodness thank you for the time to respond!! I love this!!! Her eyes... So beautiful, truly. And I hope you are in better health and thank you for participating in the forum. This was great ❤️❤️❤️

[pitbull]

I'm distracted by your avatar photo, but back on topic...  

The first experience was probably still the best, because she was ideal. It's not that she was gorgeous (she was heavier and older than her photos), but she knew how to deal with nervous newbies. She was a sweetheart, kind, understanding, sexy. She did this cooing sound when we kissed and it drove me crazy. I remember being completely shocked that she was naked in front of me and I had only just met her five minutes before. How could this be? I was early 40s and I had never before "paid for it." 

After a lot of making out, I remember she meticulously put her hair up in a bun, and said, "You are about to get the best blow job of your life." Between all the making out and oral sex, we never got to FS. She swallowed every last drop and I was spent. 

The WHY is much the same old story that no doubt can be found among many on this board. I have been married for more than 20 years, love and adore my wife, but she has simply lost her urge for sex -- going on at least eight years now with quarterly sex. In every other way, we are perfect together, and that is what makes it so maddening.  We are trying, but you ladies have made it possible for me to stay in my marriage, which is my vast preference since the relationship is so strong (non sexually) and I want to be there for my family. 

I do not see her anymore. I only saw her once. She is semi-retired. She has told me a couple of times when she was available, but I could not make it happen. What I liked best was very elemental. I liked her attention. I liked that she touched me back, paid attention to my needs, and pretended to be my girlfriend for one blissful hour.  

I was quite surprised by her willingness to kiss me. I had heard about that, but was skeptical. She devoured me in the kissing department and I was floored, absolutely floored. Yes, I brushed my teeth twice, flossed, and munched four altoids before I showed up, so maybe that helped. My wife can tie a cherry stem with her tongue and was an astounding kisser/blow job giver back in "the day." I thought the kissing was something I would never get again, but I'm glad that's not the case. The enormous difference is that my wife WANTS to kiss me for free, and when she would cum, she would frequently say, "Oh oh oooohhhhh I love you so much." A provider will never say that, and that is something I have to live without. 

I feel like the ladies are helpers.  They help fill in the affection gaps, and no one gets hurt. It is, of course, not ideal. It would be ideal if my wife would come back to me, and I could stop this, but that's not in the foreseeable future.  Meanwhile, you providers are angels of mercy, and sometimes the mere idea that you are there gets me through a tough day.  But hey, I'm rambling...

[Audrey Lewis]

I'm distracted by your avatar photo, but back on topic...  

The first experience was probably still the best, because she was ideal. It's not that she was gorgeous (she was heavier and older than her photos), but she knew how to deal with nervous newbies. She was a sweetheart, kind, understanding, sexy. She did this cooing sound when we kissed and it drove me crazy. I remember being completely shocked that she was naked in front of me and I had only just met her five minutes before. How could this be? I was early 40s and I had never before "paid for it." 

After a lot of making out, I remember she meticulously put her hair up in a bun, and said, "You are about to get the best blow job of your life." Between all the making out and oral sex, we never got to FS. She swallowed every last drop and I was spent. 

The WHY is much the same old story that no doubt can be found among many on this board. I have been married for more than 20 years, love and adore my wife, but she has simply lost her urge for sex -- going on at least eight years now with quarterly sex. In every other way, we are perfect together, and that is what makes it so maddening.  We are trying, but you ladies have made it possible for me to stay in my marriage, which is my vast preference since the relationship is so strong (non sexually) and I want to be there for my family. 

I do not see her anymore. I only saw her once. She is semi-retired. She has told me a couple of times when she was available, but I could not make it happen. What I liked best was very elemental. I liked her attention. I liked that she touched me back, paid attention to my needs, and pretended to be my girlfriend for one blissful hour.  

I was quite surprised by her willingness to kiss me. I had heard about that, but was skeptical. She devoured me in the kissing department and I was floored, absolutely floored. Yes, I brushed my teeth twice, flossed, and munched four altoids before I showed up, so maybe that helped. My wife can tie a cherry stem with her tongue and was an astounding kisser/blow job giver back in "the day." I thought the kissing was something I would never get again, but I'm glad that's not the case. The enormous difference is that my wife WANTS to kiss me for free, and when she would cum, she would frequently say, "Oh oh oooohhhhh I love you so much." A provider will never say that, and that is something I have to live without. 

I feel like the ladies are helpers.  They help fill in the affection gaps, and no one gets hurt. It is, of course, not ideal. It would be ideal if my wife would come back to me, and I could stop this, but that's not in the foreseeable future.  Meanwhile, you providers are angels of mercy, and sometimes the mere idea that you are there gets me through a tough day.  But hey, I'm rambling...

I am so touched by this post and am honored that the board is a safe place for you to express truth in what we all do and continue to do... Me and my good friend Jos view the hobby as just what you expressed. the understanding that we are sexual beings and never lose the craving to be desired, is what makes all of us, providers and go hobbyists alike, unique in this erotic exchange. Because we all get some kind of true passionate fulfillment out of what we all do and to see the raw trust and honesty in our post makes each day brighter. Thanks for the ramble. LOVED IT!!

[Guest]

goodness thank you for the time to respond!! I love this!!! Her eyes... So beautiful, truly. And I hope you are in better health and thank you for participating in the forum. This was great ❤️❤️❤️

Health is much better and thank you.  The clots in my lungs were mostly caused by the male's typical avoidence of doctors in general.  I ignored the blood clot in my legs for two months after a horrible long flight.  The leg clots eventually found the lungs.  I get up and walk around on flights these days.  Something everyone should do.

[pitbull]

I am so touched by this post and am honored that the board is a safe place for you to express truth in what we all do and continue to do... Me and my good friend Jos view the hobby as just what you expressed. the understanding that we are sexual beings and never lose the craving to be desired, is what makes all of us, providers and go hobbyists alike, unique in this erotic exchange. Because we all get some kind of true passionate fulfillment out of what we all do and to see the raw trust and honesty in our post makes each day brighter. Thanks for the ramble. LOVED IT!!

"Erotic Exchange" -- I love that. It's also an honest exchange. I pay dentists to put me through misery, and I'm baffled that men aren't allowed to pay a woman for pleasure (to mutual benefit).  The best providers understand that while they have a job, there is no reason they can't (at least sometimes) enjoy that job, and enjoy the fact that they are helping another human being feel wanted in an often lonely world. The fact that people vilify and put down you ladies (and we men) makes me think they don't really know the nature of the transaction. Fascinating subculture this "hobby" 

[Guest]

Oh I wanna play!!!
Yes, I've seen other Providers and I have to say I was nervous as all hell the 1st time.
1st time was a Birthday Present for him. She was fantastic in taking control of everything and actually taught me a few things about myself. I haven't seen her since but I can say that because of her, I feel a lot more confident when I see other Providers.

I love the couples dynamic when you know there is a lead person and you don't have to think. (personally, that's a big deal for me)
That's why sometimes I think the guys see providers: because they know they have very little thinking required.

 

Here everyone's first experience with a provider and what made you start the hobby in the first place??

What compelled you to meet with the 1st special lady that paved the way to continue forward with the hobby??? Do you still see her??

and what about the interaction with you and a provider do like like best?

 

so interested to here everyone's story!!! GO!!

Ps there are a ton a questions in this forum BUT answer the ones that resonate to you 

💙AL

[Boardmember]

Pitbull's home experiences and mine are nearly identical. Although, I'm envious of his quarterly encounters! Before I discovered this adventure, for various reasons, it had been nine years of basically abstinence in my marriage. It has been a couple of years since I entering this realm and we've been intimate once. So the streak was broken, but nothing since. You may commence rolling your eyes, but she's very attractive and has kept quite fit. So, it is hugely frustrating. I was likely to blame for her turning away many years ago, but over the past five or six years, I've worked very hard to repair the relationship. While we talk about this issue regularly, things don't change. It can be very, very combustible to bring up, so i let it go most of the time. (I don't think she's seeing someone else, but if so -- not sure I have any ground to stand on to condemn that.)

Anyway, I started thinking about finding a FWB, but really did not like the possible downside of that. And I didn't need any emotional connection, just wanted to get laid now and then! Fortunately, most of my single female friends to whom I am attracted are too smart to tangle with a married guy -- even if they were attracted to me. Spent about ten minutes on Ashley Madison before realizing it was a scam (didn't get caught in the data breach, I checked.) Then, I read about this in a blog of a former provider and was shocked -- in a good way. I always thought there were only either $5,000 a night ladies or those who were, unfortunately, on East Colfax and such.

Fast-foward a couple of months, discovered TOB, Escort Boards (aka) and I decide to take the plunge with a provider close to my age in Boulder. After far, far too much James Bond and paranoia -- on my part, she was very patient -- we met. It was kind of a blur, consider how long it had been and how nervous I was, but it went okay. Never went back to her. (AB, send a PM if you want the reason for your research.)  I kept going, because I really like making a physical connection again with a woman (what a shock! ;-) and thought I might find someone who I could connect better with than my first.

Fortunately, I did. The next two providers I saw were amazing and exactly who I had hoped to see in this. Sadly, they moved on but, I fell into a bit of a financial windfall & went a little crazy and visited around a lot for a few months. After many misses and a few hits, I mostly connect with one ATF and occasionally seek others when her schedule and mine don't match. (Fortunately, we can usually meet because she's amazing.)

What interaction do I like best? I'm just a lame as can be imagined that I hope the provider enjoys my company and has a pleasant experience. Honestly, and I know I'm delusional, it is best when it kind of resembles a super hot, FWB situation. She's had a nice hour, I've had a nice hour, we respect each other and leave happy. Actually, for a few of the folks I've visited with, I think that's been the case. For the majority of providers I've seen (remember the crazy windfall time), I'm sure it was pretty transactional. Pleasant, sure, but I'm quite sure our time did not register as any great shake.

 

 

Here everyone's first experience with a provider and what made you start the hobby in the first place??

What compelled you to meet with the 1st special lady that paved the way to continue forward with the hobby??? Do you still see her??

and what about the interaction with you and a provider do like like best?

 

so interested to here everyone's story!!! GO!!

Ps there are a ton a questions in this forum BUT answer the ones that resonate to you 

💙AL

[Guest]

Here everyone's first experience with a provider and what made you start the hobby in the first place??

What compelled you to meet with the 1st special lady that paved the way to continue forward with the hobby??? Do you still see her??

and what about the interaction with you and a provider do like like best?

 

so interested to here everyone's story!!! GO!!

Ps there are a ton a questions in this forum BUT answer the ones that resonate to you 

💙AL

It was while I was at my first duty station while serving in the U.S. Army.  My buddies took me out drinking after my first promotion and one of those knuckleheads had the phone number of a professional provider in the area. He called the number and set it up as a promotion gift. I was very young and lasted about two minutes with that professional and finished UTFCIM. Never saw her again after that but think of her often for popping my cherry in this hobby/activity.

[pitbull]

Pitbull's home experiences and mine are nearly identical. Although, I'm envious of his quarterly encounters! Before I discovered this adventure, for various reasons, it had been nine years of basically abstinence in my marriage. It has been a couple of years since I entering this realm and we've been intimate once. So the streak was broken, but nothing since. You may commence rolling your eyes, but she's very attractive and has kept quite fit. So, it is hugely frustrating. I was likely to blame for her turning away many years ago, but over the past five or six years, I've worked very hard to repair the relationship. While we talk about this issue regularly, things don't change. It can be very, very combustible to bring up, so i let it go most of the time. (I don't think she's seeing someone else, but if so -- not sure I have any ground to stand on to condemn that.)

Anyway, I started thinking about finding a FWB, but really did not like the possible downside of that. And I didn't need any emotional connection, just wanted to get laid now and then! Fortunately, most of my single female friends to whom I am attracted are too smart to tangle with a married guy -- even if they were attracted to me. Spent about ten minutes on Ashley Madison before realizing it was a scam (didn't get caught in the data breach, I checked.) Then, I read about this in a blog of a former provider and was shocked -- in a good way. I always thought there were only either $5,000 a night ladies or those who were, unfortunately, on East Colfax and such.

Fast-foward a couple of months, discovered TOB, Escort Boards (aka) and I decide to take the plunge with a provider close to my age in Boulder. After far, far too much James Bond and paranoia -- on my part, she was very patient -- we met. It was kind of a blur, consider how long it had been and how nervous I was, but it went okay. Never went back to her. (AB, send a PM if you want the reason for your research.)  I kept going, because I really like making a physical connection again with a woman (what a shock! ;-) and thought I might find someone who I could connect better with than my first.

Fortunately, I did. The next two providers I saw were amazing and exactly who I had hoped to see in this. Sadly, they moved on but, I fell into a bit of a financial windfall & went a little crazy and visited around a lot for a few months. After many misses and a few hits, I mostly connect with one ATF and occasionally seek others when her schedule and mine don't match. (Fortunately, we can usually meet because she's amazing.)

What interaction do I like best? I'm just a lame as can be imagined that I hope the provider enjoys my company and has a pleasant experience. Honestly, and I know I'm delusional, it is best when it kind of resembles a super hot, FWB situation. She's had a nice hour, I've had a nice hour, we respect each other and leave happy. Actually, for a few of the folks I've visited with, I think that's been the case. For the majority of providers I've seen (remember the crazy windfall time), I'm sure it was pretty transactional. Pleasant, sure, but I'm quite sure our time did not register as any great shake.

 

 

 

Wow. Your rationale was much the same as mine. I too thought of looking for a "free" situation, but quickly decided that "free" was a myth, and I did not want even the possibility of emotional entanglement, which is incredibly unlikely with a working girl. I was also petrified of various diseases.  What I found was that the ladies are much more conscientious about protected sex than FWBs would be, or one-night stands at bars, etc. So many guys (veterans of many many hookers) would write back to me and say, "I haven't even caught a cold from these ladies." Could they be lying? Of course, but I took them at their word. 

At the point when I finally took the plunge, I was early 40s, seeing my mortality, and willing to take the risk. I was also petrified of law enforcement ruining my life and was sure that a cop was going to bust into the suburban bedroom during my first ever tryst. Funny thing was that I came to four-way stop in the suburban neighborhood I was visiting, in the middle of the day, and casually waved through a COP who had arrived simultaneously at the other stop sign! Holy shit. I thought that's the guy who's going to bust me, but he sure seemed to be in a hurry to get somewhere else. 

My wife is also quite fit, sweet, lovely, and the person I want to be with. I just can't get her to be in the mood. I too have tried so desperately to do whatever I can to get her there -- housework, trips, date nights, cooking for her, getting her gifts, and basically letting her pursue her "hobbies." None of has worked. She is very happy and uninterested in sex. We have talked about the situation a lot. Tears have been shed. Vows have been made to change things, but alas, nothing has changed. At this point, my wife has let the proverbial genie out of the bottle and I like the excitement of sex with different women. My wife is a wonderful wonderful "bonus" during those once-in-a-quarter occurrences. She only does it when she really wants it, so it's usually quite hot. She NEVER does it when I really want it. See the problem?