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Fair point! And, sorry to hear about your misadventure! You deserved a better fate! Don't mean to put you on the spot (and pry) but: In retrospect were there salient red flags that (if your street-smarts were sufficiently honed and your situational awareness on point) ... you should have picked up on, from the jump? I'm just sayin'. Not being privy to the relevant particulars of this encounter: Did you let your guard down?; was he sufficiently screened?; did he supply credible references?; was he a regular? (where this act of violence was an-out-of-the-blue, black swan event)? Don't mean to belabor the point and put you on the spot but: I wouldn't be surprised if the answer to the aforementioned questions ... is no! Now, this is easy for me to say (I wasn't there): but, I like to think if I had been in your shoes (situational awareness and street-smarts would have kicked-in) ... and I would have spotted a salient "tell" and would never had allowed such a client to step into my room! (If the truth be told: did you check all the boxes that a savvy, street-smart provider @ the top of her game, would have, during the screening process?; did you posses situational awareness and do everything possible to insure your safety?; ... but, just got an unlucky roll of the hobby dice!) Or, with the benefit of 20/20 hindsight, are you now brutally honest and say to yourself: I got nobody to blame but myself ... I let my guard down ... my screening protocols are lacking ... I should have never allowed him to step into my room? I'm just sayin'. ps Like I said I don't mean to put you on the spot, and pry, and take you out of your comfort zone. psii Best of luck in your future providing endeavors!

Au contraire! (There's a biiig difference between de minimis "sketchy shit" and being victim of a violent crime perpetrated by a stalking predator!) My postulation is not as "crazy" as you might think! Cuz, if you do a Google deep dive on how many providers have been preyed upon by stalking, Ted Bundy-like, predatory miscreants at Hiltons or Sheratons over, let's say, the last 10 years .... you're gunna find very little to report! (You might even come up empty!) There is, indeed, an additional level of safety and deterrence just by operating out of high-end hotels with 24-hour, in-house, security staffed by professionals who put a premium on surveillance and security! I don't know how any street-smart, safety-conscious provider can deny this! ps I'm gunna put this out there straight up: THERE IS a DIRECT and POSITIVE CORRELATION btw OPERATING OUT of HIGH-END HOTELS and PROVIDER SAFETY! I'm perfectly willing to be proven wrong ... if anybody can provide evidence to the contrary!

Au contraire mon frere! My posts and advice are meant for "telling" newbies "what to do and how to do it"! Newbies need help and mentorship! No? Newbies are rudderless; they are clueless; they are diffident and ineffectual; they are indecisive; they are afraid to pull the trigger; they are lost in the mongering wilderness; they are easy prey; they need someone to point them in the right direction! They need someone to show them the way so that they are not perpetual victims in the hobby jungle! I'm a selfless monger! I can help them! Cuz, I'm lookin' out for them; I'm doin' my part to spread the word for the betterment of the newbies amongst us! I'm lookin' to flatten their learning curve! What's wrong with that? (Seasoned mongers can be left to their own devices!) My posts are not directed at them! In regard to my street cred and being able to point newbies in the right direction: Let me ask you the 64K street-cred question: What advice would you proffer to a newbie so that he might make himself a student of the game; connect the dots; tip the scales of mongering success in his favor; and encounter smooth sailing on his maiden voyage? i.e., (No pimps; no scammers; no hustlers; no Backpage refugees; no hood rats; no crack addicts; no photoshopped phonies; no dumpy motels; no precarious situations; no pissin' away his time and $$$ on suspect providers with no reviews, no website and no street cred!) You question my street cred! Fair enough! But let me say this: If a neophyte newbie heeds my advice ... it will quickly flatten his learning curve! No? (He's gunna be thankin' me later!) Are you denying this? And, he will be way ahead of the game in a short period of time! Whereas if he's left to his own devices ... he's gunna be pissin' away a lot of his time and $$$ and he's gunna learn the hard way before he gets up to speed on how to play the game! (My mongering advice can fast track newbies on to savvy, street-smart monger status ... right quick!) Are you denying that what I post has absolutely no validity; has absolutely no basis in fact; is not the least bit instructive (to newbies); and has no bearing on successful mongering? Really? In terms of, your, street cred and being able to point newbies in the right direction: What advice would you give to an inquiring newbie for a successful maiden voyage? Do you have any? That's a fair question! ps What have I ever posted that was not valid ... and upon examination proved not to be substantially true? Can you cite an example? (It's all valid and 100% true ... cuz, it's all based on real-world, boots-on-the-ground, in-the-trenches mongering experiences!) I'm not much for self-aggrandizement but FWIW/ FYI: I've traveled around the world; I'm a globe trekker; I am not devoid of worldly experience; I've seen and experienced a lot; I've lived on the edge and pushed the envelope; I've had 100s of women from all around the world of every race, religion, creed and culture (providers included); I know of what I speak! So be it.

I gotta agree with your assessment of predators. True enough! One size does not fit all; miscreants come in all shapes and sizes! But, how many calculated, predatory attacks actually take place in high-end hotel rooms? I maintain the very fact of operating out of a high-end hotel offers a level of deterrence and protection for a provider! (I maintain Hilton, Sheraton, Radisson, Double Tree have an impressive, guest safety record!) Am I wrong about this? I just can't see the likes of a Ted Bundy perpetrating his nefarious deeds in high-end hotels! Just can't see it! I can't see: getting screened by safety-conscious, street-smart providers, providing references and subsequently hooking up with them at high-end hotels being an effective modus operandi of a predator! (Such a scenario presents too many obstacles; I can't see a predator workin' that way!) I maintain 99.999% of predatory acts perpetrated by serial predators ...do not take place in high-end hotel rooms!

Timeout! I'm not badmouthing nobody! I DO NOT WISH to OFFEND! I DO NOT WISH to MALIGN! (I'm just merely stating the (successful) mongering facts of life!) For those who are interested in benefiting from boots-on-the-ground mongers who have done the heavy-lifting for you... I'm just positing how to flatten the learning curve and find a top-tier, true professional @ the top of her game (why would any self-respecting monger wanna waste his time and $$$ on anybody else) ...whereby it's gunna be misadventure-free, drama-free and smooth sailing 99.999% of the time! (1 monger 2 another) let me ask you this question: if you were to proffer a neophyte, deer-in-the-headlights newbie advice on how to flatten his learning curve; what to look for (positive "tells"); how to point himself in the right direction; how to become a savvy, street-smart monger (from the jump ); how not to piss away his time and $$$; how to hookup with true professionals @ the top of their game; how to avoid scams; how to avoid pimps; how to avoid hood rats; how to avoid LE; how not to roll the dice; how to tip the scales in your favor; how to avoid misadventure; how to connect the dots ... what advice would you offer him? I maintain if the neophyte newbie exercises street-smarts from the jump and only spends his time and $$$ on providers who check the 4 boxes: 1) Professional website. 2) Stellar reviews on TER. 3) Teaser video. 4) High-end hotel. HE'S GUNNA BE WAY AHEAD of the CURVE! That's the best he's gunna do in being able to separate the wheat from the chaff! (There, really is, no more effective way!) Granted, employing such street-smart metrics imparts selectivity ... and greatly diminishes the pool of qualified applicants! So be it! But, it's gunna be misadventure-free and smooth sailing 99.999% of the time! 4real4real! So, the 64K question is: What (based on real-world, mongering experience) advice would you offer a country-dog-in-the-city newbie? (Surely, you wouldn't proffer that: Stellar reviews on TER are not important; a website clearly spelling everything out doesn't matter; a high-end hotel is not a big "tell"; operating out of a sh&#hole dump is no big deal; there is no such thing as learning how to connect the dots and effectively separate the wheat from the chaff; and, making your decision based solely on photoshopped pics and a pixelated advert of a Backpage refugee ... is the way to go!) Get Real! Any monger who would offer such advice to a newbie lookin' to be pointed in the right direction ....WOULD BE GUILTY of MONGER MALPRACTICE! I'm ..... just sayin'. Brother mongers: Feel free to proffer the advice you would give to an unseasoned newbie lookin' to flatten his learning curve and not constantly be bangin' his head against the wall and frivolously be pissin' away his time and $$$ through fruitless trial and error!

I maintain operating out of a high-end hotel provides an additional layer of safety and protection. Miscreants will think twice before committing a felonious act! (I can't recall reading a post where a provider was victimized by a sexual predator at a Hilton, a Sheraton or a Doubletree!) I maintain if a provider has a street-smart screening protocol and caters to respectable, HNW gents and operates out of high-end hotels ... she will encounter very few dangerous clients! (Your success and safety is predicted on whom you allow to step into your room!) I maintain the overwhelmingly vast majority of problematic encounters occur during outcalls or when operating out of low-end motels and catering to low-end clients ... whom have not been effectively screened through a street-smart screening process!

A well-thought-out, professional website with an intro page, a Q&A page, an etiquette page, a screening-info page, a photo spread, a teaser video, a rates page where everything is clearly spelled out ... speaks volumes about the level of professionalism of a provider! How could it not? (A provider who does not possess the wherewithal to have such a website to present herself to her prospective clients ... can not, possibly, be @ the top of her game!) And, if she has no reviews on TER ... that should be another red flag! A savvy, street-smart monger knows if a provider has a bona-fide GFE skillset and playbook ... the word's gunna get out and she's gunna garner stellar reviews. (Very few GFE Superstars remain UTR for long!) If a provider has no website and no TER reviews ... that is, most certainly, not a positive development .... and she is, more than likely, a lower-tier provider! With a very high probability of being a bottom-feeding Backpage refugee! Having no website and no reviews ... does not exactly instill confidence in prospective clients when they are trying to connect the dots and separate the wheat from the chaff! No website and no reviews ... are not exactly net positives! I savvy, street-smart monger intuitively knows this! A well-thought-out website and TER reviews are but two positive "tells" a SSM picks up on when doing his due diligence on a provider before he pulls the trigger on her and spends his time and $$$. (Two other positive "tells" are a video and high-end hotel!) If a provider lacks the wherewithal to have a website, and if a provider has no reviews testifying to her GFE bona fides, her GFE skillset and playbook ... then, it's not a very street-smart move to book her; cuz you're gunna be flying blind; and it's just an ill-advised roll of the hobby dice! (99.999% of all mongering misadventures is the direct result of a monger lacking street-smarts and the inability to connect the dots and separate the wheat from the chaff!)

1) Having a well-thought-out website implies a next-level of professionalism. No? 2) Having dozens of stellar reviews on TER is a very good indication of a provider's GFE skillset and playbook! (Where there's that much smoke ... there's gotta be fire!) No? By making yourself a "student of the game" and assiduously reading and parsing TER reviews a savvy, street-smart monger can effectively separate the wheat from the chaff ... and connect the dots. And, not piss away his time and $$$ on ineffectual providers! No? ( Case in point: my go-to had 37 stellar reviews on TER before I pulled the trigger on her!) (I hit the GFE JACKPOT and struck GFE GOLD!) 3) A provider who is genuinely @ the top of her game is gunna be ahead of the curve and have a suggestive, cum-f&#k-me, teaser video. Think about it! (I'm gobsmacked that in the age of TikTok ... so few providers would posses the street-smart wherewithal to use a 1-minute, teaser video as a marketing tool to pique the prurient interest of prospective clients!) With the ubiquity of TikTok ... I don't get it! It's amazing how a lightbulb never went off in their heads! (They seriously lack real-world, marketing and advertising skills!) No? In the age of social media a TikTok teaser video is a good (great) marketing tool! No? 4) If your successful mongering modus operandi is outcalls ... that's great for you, whatever works for you! (But, can you in good conscience advise a neophyte newbie ... that the way to go are outcalls by a total stranger, with no reviews, to your home?) ? 5) Of the 1000's of posts I've perused on various sites ... I have yet to read one post whereby a monger did his due diligence; exercised street-smarts; "checked all 4 boxes"; ... and was scammed, hustled, robbed, pimped-rolled or busted by LE! (NOT ONE!)

I maintain the mere fact of operating out of a high-end hotel will sufficiently discourage any nefarious miscreants. A high-end hotel setting is just not conducive to violent, criminal activity. (Miscreants are deathly afraid of security measures and cameras!) They're lookin' to prey upon vulnerable, easy targets with minimum security and backup ... where they are in control of the situation (like an outcall)! That's why outcalls are risky and problematic! (When was the last time you heard of something nefarious happening to a provider at a Hilton, a Sheraton or a Double Tree?) It is exceedingly rare!

If you want to scam-proof and LE-proof yourself and avoid misadventure the secret is to only spend your time and $$$ on true professionals @ the top of their game! And TP@TTOTG: 1) Will have a website. 2) Will have reviews on TER. 3) Will have a teaser video. 4) Will do incalls at high-end hotels. (A savvy, street-smart monger intuitively knows that providers who do incalls at high-end hotels ... are @ the top of their game!) If you are a serious, no-nonsense monger; if you do your homework; if you do your due diligence; if you are adept at separating the wheat from the chaff; if are adept at connecting the dots; if you are a savvy, street-smart monger and check these 4 boxes before spending your time and $$$ ... it's gunna be smooth sailing 99.999% of the time! Cuz, you will have tipped the scales of mongering success heavily in your favor! .

No reviews is a red flag! Car dates is another red flag! Spending your time and $$$ on a provider who has no street cred .... requires a leap of faith (and, lack of street-smarts).

Screening is evidence of street-smarts on behalf of the provider! It's all about tipping the scales of safety in your favor! It's all about making sure "a Ted Bundy" doesn't step into your room!

NCNSers are, by definition, not professional mongers! They are diffident, can't-make-up-their-mind, afraid-to-pull-the-trigger timewasters! There is a way to avoid them and pique the interest of serious mongers who don't play providers out! A well-thought-out website that spells everything out with an intro page, an etiquette age, a Q&A page, sample reviews, stated rates, a photo spread and a teaser video ... will go a long way in attracting serious clients who are not NCNS timewasters! Cuz, serious, street-smart mongers who know how to connect the dots and separate the wheat from the chaff and who respect a provider's time ... intuitively know that a provider who has such a website is a true professional! And, will only spend their time and $$$ on such. When they make an appointment ... they show up! (I would venture to say the vast majority of providers who have an inordinate amount of NCNSers do not have such a website!)

If the truth be told: I'm a Reddit refugee! Reddit went public and had an IPO in March! The BOD deemed that the "EscortsClientsOnly" sub was inappropriate content and 86ed the forum! It was a sad day for many! The "EscortsClientsOnly" forum was freewheeling no-holds-barred and international in scope! It was definitely out there! (Prurient and graphic ... would be the operative words!) But, it was highly entertaining! (There was nothing the mongers didn't talk about!) The back and forth was good stuff! So, when the powers that be at Reddit closed my bailiwick ... I did some research to fill the void and stumbled upon TOB!

From Ur Lips 2 God's Ears! 100%! A devout, unabashed DATOer has exceedingly high standards and demands impeccable hygiene from his "DATOee"! (Otherwise he will abort his mission forthwith!) My go-to was always meticulously groomed, surgically- scrubbed and sweet-tasting! Ambrosia! (She's batting .1000!) After 78 rendezvous (not, a small sample size)... never encountered a dingleberry! ps It would be great if the boots-on-the-ground SME (i.e. the providers) weighed in on this ... and provided a definitive answer on just what % of mongers are intrepid DATOers! (Cuz, not being subject matter experts on this subject .... all we can really do is speculate!)