Discreettroubleco

Thx Laci, Is it rude to ask for a reference from a provider? Any specific protocol you recommend? I can be charming, but don't want to be weird or break an unwritten rules or code along the way.

Any suggestions for a respectful, discreet & experienced gentleman, who has zero "references"? Have kept this activity TOP SECRET from all others in my real world. So how do I overcome this reference issue? No references, so TOB providers won't see you...but can't get references without a provider meeting you & giving you an okay.