MelindaMadison

Voice of reason. Think of the women who had to disappear or retire due to an overzealous client....does one think it's right to give out info to A board member just because he's been an active poster... We don't know the back story, we don't know the person inquiring aside from what we read on the internet. Multiple posts inquiring about her..do a search...just comes off creepy. Give retired women their privacy..

You keep asking this every few months..sorta creepy. I'm sure if you were a fave of hers..she'd touch base or make herself known after all of your posts looking for her.. If you haven't heard for her ..esp with your past posts, I'd just let it go and stop fishing for info on her.

Someone clearly has too much time on their hands...and completely out of touch with how Denver Really Is and viewed in comparison to the rest of the country in relation to paid companionship... wow.. *roll eyes*

" or any woman dumb enough to wear too short of a skirt and drink too much at a bar......" Slippery slope and horrible way of thinking. Consent is the key word here...

Wow. Just wow. From an outsider reading through this thread..what I am seeing is... 1. Victim blaming. 2. A perceived " right" to their bodies ( aka..viewing the private pics they took on their phones) ... Sort of makes me think that if someone stole something...the majority here have no trouble sharing in the spoils... 3. Back to victim blaming... Respect for a woman..nil. This is deeply disturbing. Keep commenting away . The underlying misogynistic views of some here is glaring.

Late 40s but yet maturity wise stuck as an early 20s guy. Women...20s or 40s aren't just fuck machines....so yes, it sounds like civilian dating may be not the thing for you. You don't want to " hang out" more than 2 hours..a " good date" is just having sex...don't want to do activities like hiking or dining out or anything where you get to know the person aside from sticking your penis in them... Wow. Just wow. ( shaking head here) Why would you even attempt to think getting to know a person in the non hobby world would even be good for you? It's a good thing for the ladies on the board here...a nightmare for a woman wanting a connection in real life...of any sort.

No no no no no. Totally creepy. And completely indiscreet, intrusive...whether you disclose that you know her as a provider to not. This business is suppose to be about complete discretion, non commitment...I would never ever think about approaching a gent in public when he was around friends..even if he was single and his friends would not suspect I am an escort. ( have had friends who got confronted by guys in public..borderline outing them as they called them by escort names..and one didn't mention her escort name..but his approach and shit eating grin on his face caused some uncomfortable questions by her mother) NEVER EVER.. Unless you have permission by the lady should you approach.. Let her be..even if she does not know who you are.

Absolutely perfect! That's the kind of intro that gets responses. Amazingly not many do it this way.

This is adult service providing...not the Love Boat....if you felt emotionally not fulfilled....what were you truly expecting from her? If she was polite, nice and provided but yet your socks were knocked off? She didn't fawn over you? Make you feel special ? We do our best..but fulfilling that " wow" emotional need for every personality , every guy out there...well...that's asking a bit too much...we aren't in your heads..so not every gent is gonna feel like he's walking on clouds afterwards. Chalk it up to ymmv and perhaps rethink your expectations when you hire a sex worker.

Wow.."cultured " with a small angry streak..when someone is trying to help, spent time to answer and even color code their reply for easy reading. We providers, take note of that kind of stuff...p411 membership or not.

Yep...distinguishing the gentlemen clients vs the monger mentality is the best part of these threads!

Most hh guys tend to work you over hard the entire time and almost never leave on time...it's almost like they can't afford the hour..and try to " get more an their money's worth on the half" . No one wants to feel like a cum bucket.and reeks of a 3G street level appt....seems to attract a lesser quality of client..and eats into time in which one could attract a more committed gentlemanly client. Been there. Done that. Sucks.

" it doesn't help that I don't have much money". That could be your problem right there, not handicap..nor lack of good references... This was not meant to be a poor man's hobby.

Me too! can't get that precious time back....

It's common in the national level provider world ..and more for extended dates 4 hours and more and travel dates and especially for touring. It's not as common here in Denver as the scene grew mainly from the streets, quickie 15 or half hour appts or hourly call girls. Never quite made sense to take a deposit on an hour appt..but for extended travel or long dates..it does..as if you are depending on a whole day or weekend with one gent on a travel date, and if he is not committed and cancels for a stupid reason..or he was scamming you or double booked with another...you could end up in another city with no $ and a tour completely blown.

I could be how you are approaching..or the wording in your email. Although you may feel that your email approach is polite, it could possibly be coming off as a " pizza ordering one or two liner"... Or too similar to the creepy ones ladies get all too often. Change your approach.. Introduce yourself or mention that you have recent references perhaps? .....OR you could be simply emailing the wrong providers ( unreviewed back pagers? ..that could simply be scams or webcam linked ads..vs someone who may email back.) there are gentlemen who seem to have no problems navigating getting appointments...and with solid providers. When you shop in certain discount venues, responses can be dicey...but again, rethink your approach and introduction. Being a gentleman, goes a long way and totally makes it easier to get to the fun.

If you used the p411 system to request an appt from another lady...she may simply have been approached for a reference..and was refreshing her memory. That's all. I wouldn't be bothered by it. Remember...an " ok" simply means that most likely the provider has seen you and she is still living and breathing... Some have learned the hard lesson that taking an "'ok" as is..without further screening is not always safe or prudent. P411 is a wonderful tool ...for reference expediting...an " ok" by one provider can simply mean a guy paid and she was not arrested..not necessarily a nice or sweet client..or someone she would see again.

Wise Man.........

Mainly a herpes risk. Simplex 1 and Simplex 2 . As simple as a cold sore in a mouth..then transferred to one's private parts . Providers have the same risk with DATY and a gent with a cold sore. The old days of everything covered minimized the risk dramatically..but the envelope gets pushed more and more and now bbbj is common...( simple threads as " how much would you pay for a covered bj" just show the pressure to give more and more..( or else the consensus is you won't get paid as much as you use to). Some circles call that " rape culture". Here it is pushed off as " supply and demand" and "what the hobbyist will pay for". Ok back to subject. Yes. It has risks. Mainly herpes.

Not all escorts see multiple clients in a day nor desire to..So getting a hotel room simply means a really reduced fee..not worth it unless you plan on seeing multiple clients, have a solid regular booking a multi hour ( whom will show up) and sometimes it just really sucks to sit suspiciously in a hotel room in the middle of the day ( screams " hooker") hence somewhat of a risk.

Nothing like the mentality that one should take lesser pay for consistently doing a good job..( ..gee Or managing to mock ladies AND fellow hobbyists in your one post....charming.

New England runs on Dunkin Donut's...and TER. the other boards are really not used there by reputable providers. Ct has many legit ladies...pending where in CT. Cape Cod..tends to be more "small town" based and incall is virtually impossible whereas the local ladies do not "set up" there close to home but travel into Boston and Burbs to provide..not close to home.....best to import a provider if looking on the Cape. Again... TER and maybe a second of P411 is the sources for New England.

how many times are you going to post this? at Least 3 times in the last year and half... Perhaps she left the biz due to a stalker, overjealous hobbyist.. Most ladies...if they wish to still see a guy..they would let them know. Continually posting every few months asking for backchannel info on her..just comes across as a creepy stalker dude and highly suspect. ..even if you might have OK intentions.

this "green dot scam" you are referring to is completely Irrelevant to this situation (guy giving her a card) there's NO downside for a guy to go buy a card..and give to girl. It's more of when you give YOUR prepaid green dot card for a payment..(the one you bought for yourself and registered in your name).(whereas they have access to your card funds...just like when you give ANY credit card information out)... I'd explain more..but i'm completely out of crayons and puppets...

maybe she simply wanted to pay a bill (or purchase something on line) with it..and it's easier (and $3.95 cheaper) for someone to give her donation in that form than her going out and getting it herself (perhaps she doesn't have car) who knows? but there really wasn't any downside on your end for purchasing that for donation pay (aside from the $3.95 it'd cost you to do so.. and running the errand) There IS no "green dot scam" for purchasers.