There is honestly nothing less appealing to me than when im spending time with a guy who continually reiterates that he "really wants to connect with me, why am I not opening up to him?" This is usually accomanpanied by barely listening to me, with him getting cranky/sulky when I have to get up to pee or when we...drumroll....don't connect. Eesh, that makes for a long hour.
What those guys seek, can't be forced, faked, bought, or conjured up at will. One client of mine comes to mind, who, just FUCK ME, I cannot resist this guy. If you can do to me what he does for me, then I wanna do it with YOU. SRSLY.