Beverly Fisher

I was one of the providers who assisted in putting together those meet and greets, back in the day. I don't know where you got this idea, dear... but we NEVER, EVER, EVER asked for personal information from providers or clients. EVER. This business is about discretion, first and foremost. I have always prided myself on my tact and responsibility, as have the other providers who organized these parties. Our reputation has always been professional and discreet. I have not posted here in some time, since I retired, but I had to respond to this statement. I know you don't intend to deliberately insult me. After the Ashley Madison hack, I was reminded how people in the hobby prefer a level of discretion that keeps them safe. Our meet and greet group was always focused on not only fun, but safety, and discretion. I appreciate the hobbyists and providers who were a part of our group, and I want all of them to know that the only information we ever had was screen names and hobby emails -- all of which were destroyed years ago. Please be careful out there, and never, ever share or post any information you don't want spread all over the internet. I wish all of you love! Beverly Fisher ;-*

Big, small, I just enjoy dick. A lot. Variation is part of the enjoyment. They're like flowers or shoes or pussies. Each one is unique, charming in its own way. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

Can't speak for others... but my email is gone because I retired. No more Beverly, no more Beverly email. As for my phone, well, that was just dumb. Rather tipsy. Dropped it face-down onto a tile floor in a bar. It was an old phone, so I couldn't transfer my contacts. As for other providers, maybe their "problems" stem from not wanting to respond to certain hobbyists. Not naming names, mind you. xxxooo Beverly ;-* (not really) LOL

My phone was destroyed, my email is gone... but I'm needing to get in touch with the Dirty Old Web Guy. If you know who he is, or how to reach him, I'd be much obliged. PMs work great. If you don't know who I'm talking about, then you don't know. xxooo Beverly ;- P.S. I'm retired, so please don't take this as advertising/looking to get PMs and hook up with people. I just want to talk to an old friend. Thanks.

Thanks honey, that was useful. I feel dumb -- I was searching the membership list for him under "D" for "Dirty." LOL Thanks again for the help. Yer my fave dirty girl. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

Put me down for $20. xxxooo B. ;-*

Happy Birthday, gorgeous girl! xxxxooo Beverly ;-*

Actually, I am the same sort of provider... I prefer to see gents who appreciate the unique, delightful pleasures that come from giving enjoyment, as well as receiving it. I love giving pleasure, and giving arouses me as much as recieving. I love seeing like-minded men. So the advice I gave was in light of that perspective. No matter how much I love giving, no matter how carefully I screen, once in a blue moon I get someone I don't click with - and for me, that means someone who isn't interested in hearing about what would make things work better for me. So i just do my best and go on. There are many girls who are happy to see gents like Stevie, et al - as long as they aren't LE or psychotic, and have the full donation. And that's cool, it's their business. But I want to love what I do and feel good about myself and the way I do it. So money becomes a secondary, or even tertiary, consideration. Stay true to yourself, lovely girl. Xxxxoooo Beverly ;-*

Sometimes, sessions are just awkward and weird. Careful screening on both sides can greatly mimimize the frequency of such occurrences, but the reality is that sometimes, bad sessions just happen. People don't always click, even when your job is to click with everyone. All you can do is smile and soldier on, just do your best no matter what, and if you feel they're unhappy at the end of the session, you can offer them a discount on a future session, or some such. I would not suggest offering them helpful advice on how to be a better client. They can't all be great, or perfect. Just do your damndest, be the best you can be, and know you've given it your all. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

thanks CH. But I'm not saying there's NO risk to a guy giving out his name. What I'm saying is do the math -- how often do men's names get released, versus how often escorts are busted? Radical difference. And let's not forget psycho providers, too -- though I think those risks can be mitigated with careful research, reviews, etc. Still, it happens. Yes, there are risks for the guys. Absolutely. But I'm talking odds, here. Again, if it's too risky, don't play. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

And that's a damn fine point: this hobby is risky, on both sides. There are things you can do to mitigate the risks, but in the end, you're both rolling the dice a bit. How much risk you can reasonably cope with is up to you. Want no risk? Don't play. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

Kinda trollin' here, aren't we? I mean, we all know why ladies say "you're paying for my time, not services." You know why. I know why. EVERYONE knows why. Well, 'cept maybe noobs. The difference, then, is ladies who don't get it. If you add an extra fee for an activity, you're blowing your defense. (some smart ass, please insert a blow joke here, thanks) On the other hand, girls get to do whatever they want and let whoever they approve of f*ck them in the ass. Having an enormous schlong must make this particular yearning hard to fulfill. But what do I know; I've never allowed it. There are those of us who really do, and have always, charged for time. Not a phony disclaimer, but the honest truth. What happens during that time honestly is up for discussion -- including just discussion, modeling semi-transparent white panties while straddled over the back of a loveseat, bargain-basement psychotherapy, a romantic dinner, or smearing plain yogurt all over my chest and having someone lick it off. To name but a few. Anyhow quit yer whinin'. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

What everyone says is true -- girls run their business as they see fit; you either like it or you don't. But in answer to your curiosity, I can't speak for others, but I can speak for myself. Why I want your real name and I don't have to tell you mine: 1. I'm nervous about legal issues, and verifying that you're a real person is important. 2. I get that you're nervous about legal issues, which is your perogative, but the odds of LE spending umpteen dollars and man hours to try to track you down are slim to none. They'd much rather try to track ME down. 3. I'm nervous about psychos beating/raping me. Verifying a real name can help prevent such issues. 4. If you're safety conscious, consider that providers who screen harder are generally busted less. 5. Eliot Spitzer got caught with a hooker. He now has his own TV show. If a political figure got caught working as an escort, he/she would shock the nation and never be seen again. In other words, there's differences between you and me. Lots of them. The same standards cannot apply to both. For you, this is a hobby. For me, this is my livelihood, and it's dangerous. 6. Arguing with me on any of the above points is a waste of time; I've made up my mind. I understand that you may well have made up yours, and that's great -- by all means, see providers who are willing to accept your rules. I would not... but it doesn't mean we can't be friends. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

One can't make ANY assumptions about provider behaviors based on a handful of responses on a discussion board. Seriously, put your percentages back in your pants (no matter how large your percentage is. *mwah!*) This business is different for each and every woman who does it. The key to any exit strategy has nothing to do with schooling, or money management. It's about changing your mindset, the way you relate to the world. The rest of it follows naturally. To put it another way: they call it The Life for a reason. It can easily become a woman's whole life, for a variety of reasons. You live in a shadow world, approaching everything differently than those in the civvie world. For you gents, it's a hobby. But for many, many women, it's their life. I'm retiring soon myself. I won't detail my exit strategy, nor my financial plans or habits, for the amusement of the crowd. I've worked in the past, and retired for several years before re-entering the industry. And it's changing that mindset that was the most important part of being successful (and, frankly, it then made it very difficult to choose to start working again, because I'd made that mental shift). Best example of what I'm talking about: When you see a policecar in your rearview mirror, you feel tense, check your speed, make sure you're doing all the right things as you drive. When *I* see a policecar in my rearview mirror, I do all the same things -- but I also feel a depth of fear and tension that goes beyond the norm. Successful retirement means feeling things like regular people do. Anyhow, just my usual 2000 cents... xxxooo Beverly ;-*

Pardon me for trying to frame things in an easily understood fashion. Futue te ipsum.

At the risk of a VIAK infraction, I will refrain from telling you I love you.

Umm, I HAVE talked to quite a few wives, thanks. And we've made good connections. And for those (like yourself) who have this outdated notion of monogamy, I can't help the fact that y'all continue to fight reality. I suppose you believe in trickle down economics, too. And Santa. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

I do not understand this sh*t at all. Guys wanting to know why there aren't good women in COS, or DTC, or Thornton for gossakes. Here's how you do it: Dear Provider, I am in COS and would love it if you would come down to visit me on Friday. I will be available at 2pm. I'd like to see you for one hour. [insert screening info] love, Bob Whackoff Bottom line: Most of us are more than happy to travel pretty much anywhere with some advance notice. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

I am really, really sad to say goodbye to my awesome quote that I've been using in my sig for so many years. But without question, it would be considered advertising. Even though it's just a damn good quote by Robert Heinlein. I think the new rule is a little weird, but whatever. This isn't my sandbox, so I just follow the rules. BUT I have to ask -- should clients be allowed to have quotes from specific providers in their sigs? Wouldn't that be shilling? And just to be clear, some people have quotes from me in their sigs. I still think it's wrong, in light of the new rule. If Bob Heinlein can't be in my sig, then it doesn't seem right for a hobbyist to shill for me with one of my own quotes. Just sayin' xxxooo Beverly ;-*

I rarely (if ever) look at blacklists. Because the information is not really properly vetted, I have no idea whether it's genuine or some provider retaliating for something, or whatever. Blacklists are only one tool in a vast screening arsenal. There are many ways to verify an individual without checking blacklists. I choose to screen in my own way, which seems more solid than the questionable info on blacklists. Bottom line: a lot of providers don't use blacklists, and even if they do, they are VERY wary of the quality of information there. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

It's also a commonly held belief that escorts are mostly streetwalkers, that they spread disease, that most of them were forced into it as children, etc. etc. etc. Commonly held beliefs are bullshit. The reality is that many women with low self esteem get into the business to boost their self esteem, not the other way around. For some, it works. For others, it doesn't. But weak causal relationships don't make for facts. For myself, I agree with Destiny -- and by the way, this applies to men as well as women: If you don't feel good about yourself, you attract messed up people. The more you work on yourself, the more you care about yourself, the better class of folks you attract. Like Destiny, I'm proof of it. There was a time when I felt pretty bad about myself. I allowed myself to be treated badly, attracted men who were real jerks. So I worked on myself. I put a few therapists' kids through college. I took care of myself. And now I attract a totally different kind of person. One more point: the better I feel about myself, the pickier I am about the kind of client I'm willing to see. It's not just about money anymore -- it's about making personal connections with people I genuinely like. And that's a good thing. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

Of course many of my clients are married. Most of them have wives who have made a serious decision (not to have sex, or to have it rarely) without consulting their partner, or truly understanding how important sex is to men in our culture. I had a therapist once suggest that I should imagine people as sky-rise office buildings. Each floor is a different interest, such as fixing cars, or parenting, or shopping, or golf, or whatever. Sex is one of those floors. So our friends tend to fulfill interests on one or more of those floors. People we marry tend to fulfill a lot of those floors. But no one -- NO ONE -- can fulfill them all. So we have to have relationships, friendships, outside of our primary relationships, which fulfill the needs we lack, the floors we're missing. I love barbeque. My best friend hates it. So when he's not around, I go get myself some barbeque. Does that mean I don't care for my best friend? Does it alter our relationship in any way? We place so much emotional value and importance on sex, and yet it is simply a need like any other, that needs to be fulfilled. When one of my married clients comes to see me, he is fulfilling a need he isn't getting otherwise. Does that mean he loves his wife less? (and yes, this is the same wife who decided for BOTH of them that there wouldn't be sex anymore?) If a man's wife suddenly decided they were both going vegetarian, she would have to accept that her husband was going to go out and get himself a steak once in a while. Try googling the history of marriage. The concept of the "love match", monogamous marriage for love, is a relatively new concept -- like, just over 100 years old. "The Myth of Monogamy" by Barash and Lipton is also most interesting reading. I personally believe that it is far more loving for a man to see a provider to get his sexual needs met, and maintain an otherwise loving marriage, than to have an affair and get emotionally involved with another. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

I'm remembering the bad old days, pre-Internet, when a provider NEVER kissed. EVER. Period. Personally, I love kissing. I think it's an art form. But I have to agree with Destiny, it's definitly a YMMV thing. But that said -- I love it, and do it most of the time. I keep some damned good mints on the nightstand. I take one, and offer one to my friend. Never, ever turn down the offer of a mint, gentlemen. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

Oh, and this one is irresistible. Kermit the Frog sold separately. xxxooo Beverly ;-*

I kind of like this one... can be sexual or not, and not necessarily nice, but funny anyhow.... It's hard being the one who blows the bell curve... xxxooo Beverly ;-*