Ediquette in Contacting

[Guest]

26 minutes ago, Kashmir said:

 

Me: Like sorry. Like I can't help you. Like good luck.

**2 weeks go by..........

Them: You available? We have talked before.

Me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Re72di5phM0

 

 

OMFG!  You poor, poor wonderful ladies!

The crap you put up with!

[Guest]

I think that's where I've been spoiled. I have my regulars and we speak on an almost daily basis, I know more about them than I should and they vise versa.  We talk often and even have a few on my personal facebook.  There is a type of relationship you form after you have seen someone a couple times and you know it will be a regular thing.  Now yes, someone I meet once, I am not going on take my time to pop in. I always like everyone know that I like to have a friendship outside of the hobby, if they don't pursue that than so be it lol.  But I love to keep up with people.  I am one of the weird ones that seeks intimacy in the hobby, so it becomes a more personal thing to me. 

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10 hours ago, SpiceInCo said:

I think that's where I've been spoiled. I have my regulars and we speak on an almost daily basis, I know more about them than I should and they vise versa.  We talk often and even have a few on my personal facebook.  There is a type of relationship you form after you have seen someone a couple times and you know it will be a regular thing.  Now yes, someone I meet once, I am not going on take my time to pop in. I always like everyone know that I like to have a friendship outside of the hobby, if they don't pursue that than so be it lol.  But I love to keep up with people.  I am one of the weird ones that seeks intimacy in the hobby, so it becomes a more personal thing to me. 

If you are weird, then I guess I am a big fan of weirdos. :-)

[pejo]

On 2/21/2016 at 9:48 AM, Kashmir said:

This problem is not exclusive to responses. It is all I can do to get the information from men on emails, forget about texting. The biggest time wasting for me is having to "hand hold" a request.

I will steal Wise Old Owl's format.

Them: You available?

Me: When did you want to meet? What area are in? Do you need and incall or an outcall?

Them: incall

Me: {sigh} I still don't know when or where? Could you please read my website (insert here, because they didn't take the time to hit the link button in my ad) and I will be happy to try and schedule an appointment.  If you have met with an escort before, please provide a reference. If you are a newbie, let me know. Thank you.

Them: Denver and yes I have.

Me: Yes, you have what? You still have not told me when. Please read my website.

Them: Met an escort.

Me: {breathe} {trying to be nice, I don't know if he is a scared newbie or just a dumbass yet}

Me: If you have a reference, please send me her information. If you are a newbie, can we chat on the phone briefly?

Them: Like I want to meet now.

Me: Like sorry. Like I can't help you. Like good luck.

**2 weeks go by..........

Them: You available? We have talked before.

Me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Re72di5phM0

 

 

Yep. Just spit Diet Coke all over the keyboard. So fucking funny . . .

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On 2/13/2016 at 1:59 PM, Nilpferdchen said:

On 2/13/2016 at 1:59 PM, Nilpferdchen said:

Forgive my ignorance, I'm new the way things work in the US.  I just have a quick question.  I've contacted some nice ladies, and have been very polite and used proper grammar and sentence structure.  But on one occasion all the replies I got were 2-5 words, text speak (in emails) and it was a major turn off.  

Is that normal?  Is it just "response fatigue"?  Am I right to decide to see someone after they said it was OK? 

 

On 2/21/2016 at 9:48 AM, Kashmir said:

This problem is not exclusive to responses. It is all I can do to get the information from men on emails, forget about texting. The biggest time wasting for me is having to "hand hold" a request.

I will steal Wise Old Owl's format.

Them: You available?

 

 

 

 

To the OP, I will steal from Wise Old Owl's and Kashmir's format, but it will be much shorter...

Using this format, I have never gotten a heck no response.  In your original post, you never said what your message to the lovely ladies was.  If it was "Hey, you wanna hump like rabbits for $50", I wouldn't be surprised if all you got back was a 2 to 5 word text.  The opening communication is key to opening up the communication gateway.  Try something like this:

Them (me):

Hi "provider x"

I was wondering if you could find time in your busy schedule "day of the week" to see me at "time of day".

I will provide a brief description of myself and what I like in a session:

My name is Fred Flinstone and I am xx years old.  I am a "fill in personality type here" (fun loving, serious, sex addict, porn star).

I am 3'2" and 758 lbs (reasonable body type explanation here)

I love to "xxx" (have sex swinging from chandeliers, have anal sex with large purple aliens, cuddle like a puppy)

I love great conversations and enjoying my time with a lovely lady.

If I sound like someone you would like to spend a little bit of time with let me know. If not, I completely understand.

Thanks for your consideration,

Fred Flintstone

Me (provider): Hi Fred Flintstone.  You sound like someone I would absolutely love to spend time with!

The opening communication is huge and if you do it properly, you and the lovely lady will more than likely not be disappointed.

 

 

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6 minutes ago, Riggo said:

To the OP, I will steal from Wise Old Owl's and Kashmir's format, but it will be much shorter...

Using this format, I have never gotten a heck no response.  In your original post, you never said what your message to the lovely ladies was.  If it was "Hey, you wanna hump like rabbits for $50", I wouldn't be surprised if all you got back was a 2 to 5 word text.  The opening communication is key to opening up the communication gateway.  Try something like this:

Them (me):

Hi "provider x"

I was wondering if you could find time in your busy schedule "day of the week" to see me at "time of day".

I will provide a brief description of myself and what I like in a session:

My name is Fred Flinstone and I am xx years old.  I am a "fill in personality type here" (fun loving, serious, sex addict, porn star).

I am 3'2" and 758 lbs (reasonable body type explanation here)

I love to "xxx" (have sex swinging from chandeliers, have anal sex with large purple aliens, cuddle like a puppy)

I love great conversations and enjoying my time with a lovely lady.

If I sound like someone you would like to spend a little bit of time with let me know. If not, I completely understand.

Thanks for your consideration,

Fred Flintstone

Me (provider): Hi Fred Flintstone.  You sound like someone I would absolutely love to spend time with!

The opening communication is huge and if you do it properly, you and the lovely lady will more than likely not be disappointed.

 

 

This sounds familiar :-)

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3 minutes ago, SpiceInCo said:

This sounds familiar :-)

Not sure why! ;-)  Maybe I should write a book!  "How to Score with Beautiful Women That You are Paying to Spend Time with You!"   

Edited February 24, 2016 by Riggo

[Guest]

Here is an actual introductory email I sent to a provider.  I had tried to set up a date with her once before, but our schedules did not mesh.

This email very quickly resulted in a very satisfying appointment, and many more thereafter.  The names have been changed to protect the not-so-innocent:

Never Give Up!!! Never Surrender!

Hi Suzy Creamschmear!

Remember me???

LOL  Probably not. The thread of our previous discussion is attached, I hope, to jog your memory.

OK, let’s try this again. I’ve got a fishing trip coming up this week. I will be spending the night in a hotel this Thursday, recuperating before I go home on Friday. I notice your ad says that you will be in Denver until the 22nd.

If we could meet for an hour this coming Thursday night, that would be great! I don’t know how far you plan ahead, but since we missed connecting last time, I’m giving as much notice as I can. I would be available for incall or outcall. Give me a "yes" and I’ll file a formal appointment request through P411.

Of course, having just come down from the mountains, I’ll probably smell of cheap cigars, beer, and fishbait.   And may be completely unshaven.  Think Willie Nelson.

Kidding! I kid. If you detect the slightest whiff of fishiness, you will have my permission to toss me back in the shower.

I would be thinking 8 pm. 7 pm might be do-able.  Just less time for me to spend with the hazmat decontamination team, but I would like to meet and am willing to work around your schedule. In fact, if you are already booked that night, I would be willing to struggle with my mountain-induced cabin fever all night long and wait until Friday morning to see you.

Best to respond via email. [email@emailaddress]   It goes right to my phone.

Well, that’s it. The ball (actually, both of them) is in your court.

Matt

Some key points:    I'm not saying I am the worlds greatest communicator, but, guys, THIS IS NOT ROCKET SCIENCE.   I've seen some lame attempts at contacts that were just, well, embarrassing!

All in one message, I managed to convey the day and time that I wanted my appointment, and how long I wanted it for.  I had some flexibility, and I made sure the provider was aware of that.   I also indicated that I had screening info ready to provide (via P411) if she was interested.   I made sure to promptly follow through on my promise to provide it. 

Finally, I tried to meet the "Jez-test" and not provide a message that was "dry as popcorn farts."  And I managed to flirt a little bit without mentioning any sexual acts.   (I already knew I would "get lucky" because I had researched her website and reviews.)   I was not insulting, condescending, or cloyingly sweet.  I was myself.

Again:  Not saying this is the best in the world, but try a little bit harder!
 

[Guest]

This made me laugh.  It was literally mid conversation on this thread. 

 

This is a very typical text that I get. That I will stop replying to. I don't even have an ad on BP, yet I get BP texts from 2 very well known sites.  You get a few of these a day, you get irritated. 

 

[Nilpferdchen]

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