EllaB

Many self-employed people expect deposits without a contract. Their reputation is the assurance needed to justify the deposit- tattoos artists, massage therapists, photographers, estheticians, and escorts are just a quick list off the top of my head. Within each industry, there are obviously those who do not require deposits, and that's their perogative, but nobody talks shit about a tattoo artist or photographer requiring a deposit. You get to sex work and suddenly people are all up in arms about how someone wants to run their business. As you said, to each their own. If someone doesn't want to pay a deposit, there are plenty of providers they can find who will still see them. No need to throw shade on providers who do require deposits. 🤷‍♀️

hi beautiful!! So glad you made it on here :):)

First off, I recognize that I'm sharing this from a place of privilege and not everyone is able or wants to require deposits, but you asked why I require them, so here ya go I personally require deposits for a number of reasons: 1) I do not live at my incall, so I spend time driving over there to meet clients. I also spend time getting dolled up. If a client ghosts without a deposit, this is time wasted. 2) My time is valuable and I am not available 24/7- in fact, I choose to have very limited hours that I pre-book. I set my hours in order to fit my lifestyle and meet my financial goals. So if a client ghosts, that day becomes a loss for me and throws a big wrench in my plans. 3) because it eliminates a huge portion of time wasters and game players. 4) Because when a guy ghosts after paying a deposit, I don't feel bitter. I got paid to put on makeup and drive to my apartment. Easiest $ ever. 5) It is one more hoop after screening for clients to jump through which I feel like increases the quality of my clients (they REALLY want to see me) 6) Similar to #5, it's one more hoop to jump through which can deter predators and people who wish harm upon providers by not allowing myself to be an easy target or the "low hanging fruit". 7) Ultimately, I require deposits because it's my body, my time, and my business and that is what makes ME feel comfortable and content in this work. ❤️

I would LOVE to have all my work conversations moved to signal, but the reality is a lot of guys simply won't do it. Not to mention ad sites don't have a section to list "signal", just phone number. So I'd have to maintain a phone number anyways and then shuttle guys over to signal. Seems like too much of a headache right now for me personally.

I think certain clients have a type, but there will be guys who prefer brunettes too. I would say do what feels good to you because nothing is sexier than confidence and someone who feels good in their skin.

well we just went for it lol. Obviously neither of us want our business out there, so it was our little secret

I've had it happen once where I opened the door and knew the guy pretty well from a social circle totally unrelated to work. I've also had other ones that were pretty close-- a guy sent his ID and I realized he lives a few blocks away and another client's wife was my mom's ex-girlfriend. It's a small lil world.

I ask for (and receive) deposits for every session, as do many of my friends. The only times I ever make exceptions are in the rare situations where I have a last minute/same day opening and have already gone to the trouble of getting ready. Even with deposits, guys will still ghost all the time, but at least with a deposit, I'm not pissed about it. You can clearly determine if a provider is legit or not based off reviews, social media presence, etc. Like yes, scams happen, so be diligent and do your research, but there are LOADS of legit providers who also require them.

totally nuts. Some guys at least ask about providing recent talent testing results, but still don't seem to understand the huge risk even with talent testing. There is a window before and after the test where exposure could happen and they could transmit even with a negative test. I've found it helpful to have female condoms as an option for men who can't stay hard with male condoms. It seems like they're often the ones asking for bb.

LOVE halloween. Going pretty PG this year. I'm going to be the mom from Mean Girls. Pink sweat suit, martini glass, and stuffed dog - I"m not a regular mom, I'm a cool mom

She's a good friend of mine and new to the biz, so not highly reviewed (yet). Her pics are real and I sent a couple of my clients her way when I wasn't available and they had a blast.

hola mami!! so glad you made it on here 💋

Hi babe! So glad you're here. Let's make a plan to hang out again soon- it's been too long! 😘

I'll DM you a few 💗 If any other providers need this info, feel free to message me.

I personally get the majority of my clients from Tryst- or at least the traffic to my website indicates that most visitors come from Tryst. I do love the auto post feature on TOB and having reviews in the same space as the listings is really nice. I also love the message board- just wish it had more participants. It's VERY hard for women to join TOB, so I think for many there only options are Tryst, PD, Slixa, etc.