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This is better than my magic 8 ball.

This is why I asked that question to see how it would potentially be received. And received was autocorrected to relieved so great call on the spelling error. I think you are probably right that a connection has to be built before much openness can occur. Obviously, the hope is too "screen" out the issues if possible. Let me give an example to make it easier to understand. I have asked a few ladies of their opinions. One who I know well and one who I don't know well and got two different answers. Here goes the example. Let's say I am a marriage counselor. A couple makes an appointment to come in, they arrive on time, are greeted by the receptionist, made comfortable in the counseling room and then I were to walk in to do a counseling session and see them there. I can only imagine a situation like this being uncomfortable for both the client and the provider, not to mention one hell of a surprise. So I thought it would be a great idea to find a way to ask, not to pry or for ulterior motives, but just to help avoid such a situation. Hence why I am trying to figure out what the general consensus is on whether asking is a good idea or not. I'm starting to gather that it is not or at least it might not be a question that some would like being asked. Maybe I am just being a worry wort too. I don't know if the above example would bring about different opinions, but I would like to hear opinions, grouchy or otherwise.

Simply, asking a provider if they are married, in a long term committed relationship. Is that a good or bad idea? What is liklihood of getting an honest answer. How would that question be relieved in general? Ways to ask that may be better than others.

So I have been thinking about this for awhile. But thought that I should just post this question and thought here to see what comes back. Guys, give me your thoughts, ideas, or concerns. Ladies do the same, but Lao let me know how you would respond, if it would raise eyebrows and any other thoughts. In my personal and professional life I have decorum to uphold. One of my biggest fears is for someone I meet here for me to run into them in my professional life. Obviously the easy answer is to just do the professional life, but then what is the fun in that. The only real way for the two worlds go collide would be if a provider is married, in a long term committed relationship. In an attempt to avoid this is to simply ask. Now there is always the chance that someone would not give a truthful answer, but that is part of my question is to ask if providers would likely give a genuine response. None of this question is due to any ulterior motives as in I am not the next person in the line of people thinking they are going to find love here. Nor am I asking because I don't want to see someone in those circumstances, it would just be a wise thing for me to avoid. So that's the question and I truly do want general feelings, follow up questions, concerns, thoughts and ideas. Thanks again in advance I am looking forward to the responses.

Thanks everyone for the thoughts, ideas and tips. This is all useful and frankly well worth the investment I think. I plan on picking mine up very soon.

Thanks for the information. Is that common that minutes expire after a certain time? And do you just buy minutes like a prepaid phone card and then activate them through the phone?

Hello all. I was a member here two years ago using the same name and took a hiatus from the Hobby due to a busy work schedule and really saw only one provider who I had seen a few times. Had the itch to get back to it, tried to log in and apparently if you are not posting or logging in for some time your account gets deleted. Well that sob story aside, this will show as my first post, but in reality I've sent a few. One thing I never really took to heart was using a hobby phone. I just figured I'd stick with P411 for most of the contact and use my everyday phone the day of the appointment. However, the need and desire to keep my personal stuff my personal stuff has really become a huge factor, maybe I am just maturing some. I know that there are plenty of them out there, but does anyone have any advice on a good hobby phone. I also read in the "things I have learned" thread about getting minutes for the hobby phone without using any personal information. That knowledge would be very helpful too. Thanks in advance and I look forward to becoming active again, even if it is just an active reader.