Nina Faulkner

You're kidding right?

Again with the money thing. Let me make something clear. And perhaps I am wrong on this so feel free to weigh in. We are not a dating pool unless WE, the commodity, choose to be. If you want extra time, pay for it unless the provider has agreed up front. Most that I've talked to go to dinner. But not with clients that they judge to be cheap. I like a good deal of my clients and many have turned to friends. Those are the ones I have chosen to spend social time with. They have never insulted me by asking for a discount, going over their time without consent, and if dinner is included it is asked for politely and respectfully. If I wanted a social date for free I would be on match.com. Where I could choose the ending and not worry about a review if it went badly. If you want more social time from a provider ask. We dont do this so we can spend time away from home for nothing. As with most, I enjoy the hell out of this. I chose this to supplement my income and because I like it. Alot. Every hour I do this is an hour I am away. One that I can't get back. So spending social time is well chosen. And yep. $$$$ add up. The exact reason why we are here to begin with.

Not to upset you Turtle but as we are the actual commodity lowering our rates signifies that we believe we are not worth our rate. Putting that out there for all of us to see is inflammatory at best. We charge what we believe is what we are worth. Providers should NEVER offer less then what they feel they are worth. Because there is always a line waiting behind the no show. And yep, no shows are a hassle. But as time goes by, pretty soon those no shows won't have anyone that will give them the time to no show. At some point we will all know one way or another if someone is a time waster/no show, and act accordingly. Lowering my rates is distasteful and bad for self esteem. Why would anyone want to see someone who was bargain basement? And those no shows are SOL when that time comes.

While all of the above can be done and still be a sting, the work email is a great way (and one I didn't think about) to screen. Although these can also be forged, it at least gives a starting point I think.

I have a question regarding this general thread (please be kind, I am a somewhat newbie): As most of my gentlemen friends are more mature, the majority are married, recently divorced/widowed, etc. and new to being a hobbyist. For them to give out any information whatsoever, other than their name, makes them shy away. If they have never reached out to a provider before they are anxious about it. As older gentlemen that are secure and many are very successful, it is a tough time getting just a little info from them. I had a conversation about this a few weeks back, but am still struggling with how to obtain information if they are older and new. There are not a lot of mature providers, and they normally don't want to see someone 30 years younger then they are. Just curious on how this is handled on any level. Any help would be appreciated.

Danielle, Can't a cop send you a picture of their license just as well as someone not a cop? I am struggling with verification/law enforcement as most of my gentlemen friends are older, recently divorced/widowed, 99% are married and first time being a hobbyist. It is damn hard to get a married professional to give out any type of information. Let alone create an account. Just curious as to how you handle.