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I had one instance where the pictures told a different height story than real life, like a half-foot difference. She looked mid 5'-something in her pics (things in the background as reference) but was at or under 5' when we met. !! Checking the listed stats afterwards, posted 5' 1" plain as day. I was not the only one to notice, it was in a couple of reviews too (I had ignored it). So believe it or not, pictures can "lie". But I had a fantastic time anyway, the body type was Right On.

OP... I've found that pictures more often than not do no justice in real life, i.e., been more lovely in person. There have been inaccurate pics a couple times to the point of questioning, but "body type" was not significantly off to be a turn off and make a quick exit. Perhaps I've only gotten lucky, or perhaps it's over-analyzing reviews, checking TinEye, Google, avoiding BP-only, etc. The under 20-something's with TGTBT pictures and mixed reviews I've just never partaken, but the few of those very YL's I have tried *with great reviews* turned out to essentially be 3G experiences. I prefer just as much mental stimulation (conversation) as visual and just not willing to spend on a YOLO potentially iffy session with a YL (unless my situation is dire) who fits my profile of likely not being able to articulate reasons for a stance on any beliefs. Call me cynical, but maturity trumps looks every time at my tender young age. ;-)

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This is so reminiscent of the Edward / Clara relationship in the movie The American... not that I'm plugging it, but it's a great film if you haven't seen it.

I noticed this too... a work-around is to go into any forum topic and login at the bottom of the thread (to reply), just don't actually reply. That fully logs you in so you can get to messages and notifications.

Research research research my friend. There are a number of kind, gentle, newbie-friendly ladies around here. You'll do best if you poke around here, read Forum posts, there's plenty of good information to steer you in the right direction(s).

They've always had ads, at least as long as I've been a member... Right on the front page... under "P411 Escort Ads".

It's not really a worry for me. I bring with me the "right soap" and the "right shampoo" so I smell right after I leave. On top of that (heehee!) I prefer ladies be unscented and not wearing lipstick (gloss ok) so clothes don't obtain an undesirable scent. I travel a lot so I have a box full of hotel soap / shampoo / conditioner bottles, almost all of which have little to no scent. Happy to bring you a bunch if/when we meet. ;-)

"You can have whatever you like..."

Alley Cats was ahead of it's time. ;-)

I'd ask if she would take Bitcoin. That's untraceable*. It also works just like regular cash, no charge-back once the transaction is confirmed, which is good for providers vs CC. (Clients might view that as a con, though I view it as a feature.) It's next to trivial to get setup with a digital Bitcoin wallet and fund it. "There's an app for that." I've got a small investment in Bitcoin if any providers want some. ;-) --- *: It is actually possible to trace at least back to an exchange, but no worse than regular cash (because of serial numbers).

Perhaps you will change your mind once you reach that age of needing regular prostate exams? ;-) Edit: didn't read the whole thread, nevermind !

I agree here. My sense of time is pretty accurate, but a nearby clock easily viewed is great for confirmation. And I just hate the phrase "(s)he's not a clock watcher'. That just means to me you didn't catch him/her peeking the clock !

Okay, reading another thread and this question popped back into my head. A wouldn't-you-like-to-know in general type of question that's been on my brain for a while -- and I'm not quite sure why I feel like sharing this here -- but I'm curious if anybody out there is a "bird of a feather" on the topic of session length. I'm interested in client and provider thoughts on this! I'm a bit older and I find that 30min is too short for a session for a number of reasons that I think are unnecessary to go into, but that 1hr is just a bit too long for a nice lovely stress relief session. FBSM aside, the sweet spot for me is around 45mins. Before this goes off track let me throw out my assumptions here to focus this. From the client perspective... 1) You've met the provider before, initially starting off with a 1hr or longer session, the get-to-know-you phase if you will. Perhaps more than one session, a few. 2) The provider really "checks all the boxes" w.r.t. what you like and expect. Rapport is built. Now, I have no problem with 1hr or longer session for those first time meet ups, I spend that "extra" time (first 15+ mins) chatting in a get-to-know-you fashion (not talking about the weather) which for me is necessary to know what kind of kinship it will be, or could be. I love that sort of stuff. For 1hr+ sessions after that, I do the same or just let the body rub go longer. I have not left early, though contemplated it, as I didn't want to send the wrong message to ladies I really like. But a lot of the time, in my busy life, I get to the point of just thinking "damn I wonder if she can see me today or tomorrow" and just want to rekindle and refresh that kinship. And that sort of session is 40-45 mins for me and I'm on my way, refreshed and back to the daily grind. All in a good way! Is that so far fetched? I just don't see 45mins offered very much. I do have anecdotal data to back up this opinion as well. I spend a lot of time on biz in the midwest and there is a place there that Shall Not Be Named that operates like a brothel. I don't know how they stay in business, but they have two offerings, 40min and 1hr. In talking with the ladies there, most of the regulars that come in take the 40min option. I thought that was interesting. I was thinking to myself, that's my sweet spot. And this place has been in business for a long time, so there's a fair amount of institutional knowledge there (same person operating the place for years and years). The only other thing I will add is one lady I wanted to do a one hour session with, she asked me what I wanted to do with the extra time. I said just spend more time talking and she gave me the craziest look I've ever seen! *shrug*

When is it okay to punch a midget? If he's standing next to your wife for a bit then looks up at her and says "your hair smells nice!"

I had another similar experience... again, at the 45 min mark (done) with a younger (20-something) provider. Same thing, the spark went away and she said to me "well, you can't sit around here and watch TV!". LOL I sure don't get 30 mins, talk about rushed.

I guess that explains some of it, but if you're happy to do 45 min on request, then I'll just start asking. So far that's what I have been doing, booking an hour and using the full hour. Again, I don't want to jump early and leave a wrong impression if an hour is expected. I thought that initially too, but it just didn't happen in reality. At least that's been my experience. Thanks for all the replies. Enlightening.

I vote for Downtown though it is the clear loser here. I have no problem finding parking downtown during the day, there are much better "after party" venues (in particular, Fillmore, Ogden and Bluebird for music), and there's less traffic to deal with at the end of the day when I am in the vicinity. I live further up north.

Have you seen a lot of interest in bitcoin use?

That's what I've started doing for visitors to our lovely state. Welcome I say, and come again ! ;-)

I guess you'd have to ask a client if they are on there and write a review. It does not strike me as easy to get established there. TER is heavily review-focused and not so much a two-way street like here or TNA. The full reviews are only visible to VIP (paying/active) members and I'm not sure if providers can see the full VIP section (juicy detail) of the reviews. But they have a detailed whats-offered and rating system that is appealing from a client perspective and is searchable, i.e., to quickly find what your looking for. (FWIW, I disagree with some aspects of their rating system). And I've never seen rebuttals to bad reviews (or kudos for good reviews), so it's a client-focused biz model with no visible provider input. And I'm sure none of this helps you weed out trolls.

It's a big game of whack-a-mole for the "authorities". Bang one down, it pops up somewhere else. Market forces of supply and demand in action. I saw this a while back, went and found it again, it made a lot of sense to me... https://www.ted.com/talks/toni_mac_the_laws_that_sex_workers_really_want

To add to ironman318's list, I've found P411 and TER are quite active in Colorado as well as around the country (I travel a lot). But there are regional boards that are more active, like TNA for the Pacific Northwest. Another example is nightshift.co for the SF bay area.