Bodyman0x

Chemistry is important to me and I would like to speak to a first time provider before I seal the deal. Texting and email is ok for the details but I would like the opportunity to visit with a new provider on the phone before we actually meet. I just think you can gauge chemistry a bit better when speaking with someone. I was in the process of lining up a meeting with a new provider in Pueblo and she got really "scared" when I asked her to call me with the address. Let me know your thoughts. Thanks!

Sorry guys but my hobby phone is one of those cheap flip phones so texting is pretty slow for me. What was I thinking!?

Thanks Heidi. Sorry I wasn't very clear in my post. Via text we did have a set time and length for the appointment. She had even given me her real name and general location. My agenda for wanting to speak to the provider was to briefly introduce myself and to get a brief measure of chemistry; maybe a 30 sec conversation. For me at least there is a certain level of anxiety when meeting a provider for the first time and actually speaking with a provider first can ease that anxiety.

Thanks for the feedback. I guess I should have put more detail into my post (I hope your head and your desk are ok). I am familiar with the "standard two call system" (note, it's not called the two text system). We had already set the appointment time and the length of appointment via texting. She had already given me the general location. It was when I arrived at the general location that I asked her to call me with the address. Even after she indicated she was scared she texted me her address. Once I arrived at the location she backed out and I respected her decision and wished her a good night. This was going to be my first meeting in Pueblo (which me and my wife have lived our whole lives here) so I suspect I came off as overly cautious which may have put her on guard. I agree that these meetings are to be on the lady's terms and if the terms are not good for me then move on. Thanks again for everyone's replies. I think I got my question answered and then some!

Thanks for the great responses (you too Nikki, I get where you are coming from)! What I take away from this is that it is generally acceptable to ask to visit on the phone before a first-time meeting. I haven't participated a lot in the hobby so I might be extra cautious the first time, particularly in Pueblo. I think this particular time was a case of both parties being extra cautious. I live in Pueblo so I decided I should keep these activities in the Springs anyway.

Thanks. First post; nube mistake. Thanks for the reply. Hopefully she turns up soon.

Does anyone have an update on Serenity 719 (719-285-7528)? I was hoping to see her again but she hasn't been on BP for several weeks and hasn't returned any texts. I tried her email and the account has been deleted. I suspect that she has left the building.

Ok, that's pretty funny!