What is it with incredibly angry, rude, disrespectful clients lately?

[DaintyDarling]

Please excuse any typos. I’m trying to get ready and I let Siri dictate and she doesn’t always get it right: 

PSA I don’t know what the heck is going on lately, but it seems like over the past year. Clients are angrier and angrier. Some of them act like you went to their home, dragged them from their bed, and forced them to come to see you. I love connecting with people from all different walks of life, I love sharing, great memories and making them, and I love a great connection. What I do not love is people who text in our entitled. There is no need to send me 6 to 10 text messages within five minutes. If you read my bio, it clearly states that this is a side gig for me and that I am a working professional. I have a slew of animals, I am a parent, and I live my life. I work my appointment, I will take short notice when I’m able, but there is never a time that I will just be ready in five minutes. I know every lady is different and some do this full-time so perhaps some clients just expect that. But when it’s clearly written somewhere that that’s not the reality for me it blows me away when they get pissy. I just had the displeasure of dealing with a (phone number removed) who has messaged me in the past and been incredibly rude to the point I stopped answering. Today he starts out seeming nice enough, but I saved my contacts so that I know when it’s someone who was rude to me, didn’t show up, didn’t follow rules, or that I really liked, Connected well with, etc.… So he was already saved as probably won’t see Rude. Being Easter Sunday I decided to hope that he had a better attitude. It started instantly. He went from high. How are you doing to sending about 10 text messages within two minutes. I let him know. I was on the road, dropping off some food to family and then I was answering several clients while safe to do so and that once I was home, I would be able to more consistently respond. Keep in mind there wasn’t one gap of more than 4 to 6 minutes. He lost his mind and told me why don’t I go ahead and take my other “Clints.” I let him know that’s exactly what I would do and that I don’t care to spend my time with somebody that’s like that. If you’re being a nightmare when texting, imagine how it’s gonna go when you get here. He proceeds to send me an address that he thought was mine basically threatening me, then tell me that the cops are on their way. Not how that works. Not the right address. And absolutely pathetic. Now I’m a rather nice lady. My friend tells me all the time why do strangers talk to you in public. Because I smile, I nod, I put grocery cards away, I will park my car and help elderly people and drive them around. That’s the kind of person than I am. I’ve worked in healthcare for a long time. If I see someone injured in distress, I will stop everything and help. But if you take me there… I will drag you down to the depths of hell. I would rather not do that especially on Easter Sunday. So why? Why provoke, why continue to engage, why blatantly disrespect me, and then why think that I’m gonna sit in silence? To me that is incredibly creepy. Why are you attempting to find an address for me when clearly you’re not booking. Why are you threatening me when I check your attitude and tell you that if it’s a problem for you to wait for my response, you don’t have to see me. Why when I then give it to you do you act shocked and make additional threats. What the fuck is really wrong with people? I’m about to stop answering out of state numbers altogether. This past two weeks it’s either been a game, a no-show, or somebody that showed up with a terrible attitude. People don’t want to give deposits that I’m getting really tired of rearranging my schedule, leaving work early, jumping through hoops to accommodate people for them to either not show up or treat me poorly. So why would I not take a deposit? That way it’s not off or not. And then that pushes clients away, who have reasons that they can’t make deposits. But I’m at the point where I’m very clear in my bio. It’s rare that I show my face. People go crazy on me over that. I run my own business. I can refuse service to anyone I want, and I can run it anyway I like. If that means not showing my face for safety reasons then that’s what it means. If I say that I need something from you before I see you how difficult is that? Somebody went crazy on me the other day. They literally started with. I don’t do deposits. I hadn’t even mentioned it. I said that’s fine. I have several other options for screening. I provided him five additional options and he absolutely lost it. CALLING ME every name in the book. Like read the ad. It says I’m gonna want something as I should. You should feel more safe, knowing that I don’t just give out my information and see Any and everybody. I had to put somebody in their place the other day who refused to accept that I don’t offer certain services. It’s unacceptable. So if you are a gentleman, if you respect that, I have things going on outside of this, you want to come and have a nice time and try to connect, and you have no issue with not being mind boggled at the fact that I require certain things in order to walk into my home… Then please reach out and I would love, love, love to see you. If you are going to be rude, if you expect me to be ready right now, if you’re going to get out of character with me if you don’t like the times that I have available, if you want to negotiate my rate, short me, not show up, show up late and expect to be seen, have poor hygiene, or a poor attitude…   LEAVE ME AND EVERY OTHER LADY ALONE. THERE IS ENOUGH GOING ON! THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN, SAFE, AND SMOOTH FOR EVERYONE. I WOULDN’T SAY THAT THE BAD IS OUT WEIGHING THE GOOD OTHER THAN INITIAL POINTS OF CONTACT AND BOOKING. MOST OF THE PEOPLE WHO COME TO SEE ME ARE GENTLEMEN, CHARMING, WHILE PUT TOGETHER, AND HAVE SOME RESPECT. BUT IT MAKES IT REALLY DIFFICULT WHEN IT’S WEEKS ON END OF JUST NO RESPONSES, BAD ATTITUDES, BAD ENERGY, DISRESPECT. IT MAKES YOU WANT TO WALK AWAY. SO I’M REALLY NEEDING MY SWEETHEARTS, SUPPORTERS, AND GENTLEMEN, TO AT LEAST SAY HELLO TODAY. I HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A HAPPY EASTER. IF YOU ARE NOT, STAY OFF THE PHONE AND LEAVE PEOPLE ALONE. IF YOUR CAT DIED, STAY HOME. CALL OUT OF WORK. IF YOU GOT BROKEN UP WITH WITH HER, YOU DON’T HANDLE REJECTION. WELL, STAY INSIDE. THE REST OF US DON’T WANT TO DEAL WITH THE BAD ATTITUDE. IT’S DRAINING. .

[The Divorce Coach ~]

stop wasting bandwidth on clients whose goal is only to have pointless conversation with you. 
wasting your time is all they wanted
to do from the beginning.
not sure why you're explaining what type of person you are in real life with a loser. they don't care.
stop telling losers how you are in real life!! 
and dragging a loser is exactly what he likes. attention. he's just getting off. don't give them free communication
in any form. don't engage. especially when you know it's bullshit. "I will drag you down to the depths of hell."
the loser can only threaten you with bs, if you continue feeding the troll(s)
by responding. don't respond to any text, email or cell calls 
where his sentences are fighting each another. just block. 
to prevent any brain damage, DON'T RESPOND, IGNORE AND BLOCK!

sadly, i hate to say it, but you are allowing them to play games with you. they don't give a f*ck about you. 
stop responding. you're wasting too much brain real estate on losers. when a suspect idiot who has no intentions
on scheduling with you says "i dont do deposits" and it's a requirement of yours, just block, no need in replying back to them.
you won't convince him to do things your way because he has no intentions on scheduling a smooth, no hassle booking with you anyway.

i know this may sound weird to say, but the idiots don't give a damn about easter when it comes to us. 
stop wishing them a happy easter. separate this hobby world from your real world and treat this hobby world accordingly.

respect good clients who have shown you respect in initial contact, and there are some good ones out there. 
block the rest and don't entertain them at all. the block function is your best friend!

[secojim]

People suck and when the world's "leaders" spew hatred every day including Easter, it can't help but manifest in the masses. Maybe by taking the bitter with the sweet, the sun with the rain, you stay sweet? I sure hope so.

[sb1212]

Im with Divorce Coach on this one.  Maybe Im missing something (happens often), but from the description provided it seems like OP is investing a lot of time and energy in a scenario without a likely good outcome. Block.the guy and move on.  Although I have not (yet) seen the OP, her profile and reviews seem to paint a picture of an attravtrve, talented, personable companion who does not need to chase.the kind of losers she described.

 

Edited April 6 by sb1212

[average1]

Sorry this is happening and you are probably not the only lady experiencing this.  It sucks (and not in the good way).  I think some folks forget this is supposed to be about consenting adults sharing pleasure, enjoying each other while being respectful.  For me this is always about having respectful adult fun for all involved.  The jerks seem to ruin things, not just for themselves but for other folks in our community.

[The Divorce Coach ~]

op,
was this meant to be an attention threAD, or more of a psa to clients about how good of a person you are?
i’m asking because it seems like your main complaint was about guys wasting your time 
but you still chose to engage and go back and forth with those same “timewasters.”
then you came here to vent to the board members, and after those of us who commented and took the time to read your vent and respond 
and give you thoughtful feedback, you didnt bother to acknowledge any of the feedback we gave.
it just makes me wonder what the purpose of the threAD really was, especially since you’ve been online multiple times. last time being just less than an hour ago,
yet chose to stay silent here with us while saying you don’t want your time wasted.

[Kali Sensual Reiki]

@Dainty Darling i’m sorry you’re were having a rough day! You’re such a beautiful young woman. I’m sorry somebody was being really rude to you. You don’t deserve it.

. Hey community of TOB obviously the guy was really getting her down. I get it! We all need an opportunity to vent!  It’s human! 

 

Edited April 10 by Kali Sensual Reiki

[DaintyDarling]

@KaliSensualR

On 4/9/2026 at 10:21 PM, Kali Sensual Reiki said:

@Dainty Darling i’m sorry you’re were having a rough day! You’re such a beautiful young woman. I’m sorry somebody was being really rude to you. You don’t deserve it.

. Hey community of TOB obviously the guy was really getting her down. I get it! We all need an opportunity to vent!  It’s human! 

 

Hey you. You know me. I’m quiet until I’m not. I’m a Sagittarius. It’s just not in me. I think a lot more people should be piping up but people are so used to being oppressed and so scared to say something that it will never happen. It wasn’t a bad day. It was a very nice day, it was just not appreciated and I figured that some more often it’s happening that perhaps people will read that and realize I don’t think that’s the girl that I should sit there mess around with because she won’t take kindly to it, but apparently a lot of people are weak, meek, mild, and the allow people to treat them however they want while sitting in SILENCE. I just get to the point where I find it to be sit in silence or say something. Kind of like the airhead that wanted to comment “Why am I being silent”. If I initiated the topic then that’s not silent. And maybe I didn’t circle back because I don’t sit on forums all day. I have a career. A family. A side gig. And several other things going on in my life. Uh-oh let me be careful. “The coach” ???? Who probably has a lot of idle time today yet again might have something to say about that and think it’s another PSA. No it’s facts. I didn’t come on here to ask another woman what her opinion was who I don’t communicate with nor would I ever see. I came on here to put it out there. The real men that have respect and have spent time with me, sent lots of encouraging messages and agreed that it is disrespectful, immature, and unbecoming. And those are the guys who I like to spend my time with Butt get it. Sometimes I hesitate to open my mouth, but then I realize that the guys that are reading it and have a problem with it are probably the exact guys that pull the kind of crap I’m talking about so better to deflect them away from me. I like to spend my time with gentleman. And a gentleman keeps his word, which means he shows up for an appointment. And if they can’t, they cancel within a reasonable time and then they are made aware that I do require certain things in order to try again. It’s written as clear as day on my bio. So the real gentleman show up. Show up respectfully, Clean, courteous, and generous. I don’t see how that’s a “PSA of how good of a person I am, “but obviously the person that said that just isn’t a very good person if those basic requests don’t register to them and obviously are not a requirement for them. Not sure if you’re sure which one I’m talking about. We’ll just call it TDC. But with a name like that, it doesn’t have very much class so I guess I’m not surprised. I find it absurd that year after a year we pay our dues monthly and are the reason that the platform thrives. But we can’t get guys screened, they don’t pay for any membership, they’re able to make account after account after account or view us as a guest. That’s how women end up with stalkers and all kinds of problems. But as long as they’re getting what they want right. That’s a shame. I haven’t spoken with the whisperer in a long while, but I feel like them and Kaduk would at least step in when things were excessive. It’s disappointing and I have the right to say I’m disappointed. For God sakes even the government that can’t be trusted gives us freedom of speech. That’s why I don’t come into the forums often. It’s sadly a bunch of women who don’t support other women and are out for themselves that find the time to scroll through and taunt their fellow providers. That’s why women never riot. Because they can’t just put their differences aside and stick together. And I bet you that person really says they are a feminist LMAO! Sickening and pathetic. We shouldn’t have to be the ones that are going on and making certain complaints, we should be able to go directly to a moderator, and I would think that that’s their job is to moderate. But unfortunately, I learned that lesson years ago. It’s just like if you want something done right do it yourself. So I felt that needed to be addressed and I addressed it myself and then I get punished for it. I don’t think that it’s a big Ask. If you book a nail appointment and you’re not gonna show up, you should have the decency with your tech m know so they can fill the spot. If you make a dinner reservation and you’re a decent person you’ll do the same if you need to cancel so that somebody else can get a seat at the restaurant. I have a career, family, life, and several side hustles outside of this. Apparently a lot of other people don’t so they’re not able to handle my perspective. I don’t think that any lady appreciates no-shows, I have clients to tell me that Girls stood them up all the time. Newsflash… They don’t appreciate it either. So it’s not a male versus female problem. It’s a respect problem. And when someone does something repeatedly, it’s probably good to warn people so that they don’t waste their time…especially when they do it in an incredibly disrespectful manner. But then again, I’m starting to realize there’s not a lot of smarties out there.

[DaintyDarling]

On 4/7/2026 at 9:48 AM, average1 said:

Sorry this is happening and you are probably not the only lady experiencing this.  It sucks (and not in the good way).  I think some folks forget this is supposed to be about consenting adults sharing pleasure, enjoying each other while being respectful.  For me this is always about having respectful adult fun for all involved.  The jerks seem to ruin things, not just for themselves but for other folks in our community.

Hey yo. You’re always so kind. One of the people that gets it. Seems there are less and less walking amongst us. It’s OK, I understand and expect it. If I got on here every time that I had a game, I’d be on here a lot. But there seems to be periods of time that it just becomes excessive and I think it’s time to say something about it. Then you get punished for it. And then you have your fellow providers acting like they appreciate a no-show and just stirring the pot with you. There’s just not a lot of girls girls out there. And yes, they do ruin it for everybody. That is why I say something because the more they do it the more I implement additional rules and the more upset people come with me that I have expectations before committing my time to them. But that’s just the way it’s gonna have to be at least I know that the guys that are willing to take those steps are the kind of guys that I know have respect for women and other people’s time. So I will keep it to them. XOXO.

[DaintyDarling]

On 4/6/2026 at 8:58 AM, secojim said:

People suck and when the world's "leaders" spew hatred every day including Easter, it can't help but manifest in the masses. Maybe by taking the bitter with the sweet, the sun with the rain, you stay sweet? I sure hope so.

I guess it’s like a sour patch kid lol first I can be a little sour, but then I’m sweet. 🍭🍋‍🟩 Except for it’s the other way around. I’m rather sweet until you poke the bear, then it gets sour. I don’t like to waste a lot of energy on being angry or irritated or any of those negative feelings. But by God, I don’t share this with a lot of people in my personal life so when you come to share here you would think that other ladies would also say yeah I don’t appreciate that either. No I haven’t been experiencing that more often lately. Yes there has been an influx of strange things happening. They don’t come on here, the majority to actually get anywhere or back each other up, or make a difference. And that’s even more disappointing than when guys no-show. I will always stay sweet to those who are sweet to me! I much prefer that way and everybody wins. It’s not a PSA, it’s an observation that I was hoping to figure out if this is something that’s going on with me particularly or if it’s the time of the season or something lol. I’m better off, pondering it by myself probably. Disappointing but also a little comical so I’ll take a laugh where I can get one.

[The Divorce Coach ~]

tl;dr, however, you picked safe members to quote. 
at any rate you can execute your right to disengage here entirely if my comment wasn't to your liking. 
trust me i'm on your side when it comes to timewasters. 
no provider has time for it but calling me an "airhead" lol, a hit dog will always holler holds firm as always!! 
i never attacked you like you attacked me with your name calling? i never came at you that way, 'airhead' as per the site rules, in guideline #6 in which you have personally attacked me when all i did was engage in a thread that you primed members how to respond. 
my second observation reply was only because you camped out in my visitors section which i found a bit odd. 
not sure what you were looking for in my visitors area. 
site rules #6 "airhead" which was a "personal attack. 
the author has attacked another member’s intelligence." 
trust me i'm far from an "airhead" i always observe first and speak/type second. observation is data, nothing more nothing less.
please note: life is good for me! i don't have to be here!!

[Kali Sensual Reiki]

7 hours ago, DaintyDarling said:

Hey yo. You’re always so kind. One of the people that gets it. Seems there are less and less walking amongst us. It’s OK, I understand and expect it. If I got on here every time that I had a game, I’d be on here a lot. But there seems to be periods of time that it just becomes excessive and I think it’s time to say something about it. Then you get punished for it. And then you have your fellow providers acting like they appreciate a no-show and just stirring the pot with you. There’s just not a lot of girls girls out there. And yes, they do ruin it for everybody. That is why I say something because the more they do it the more I implement additional rules and the more upset people come with me that I have expectations before committing my time to them. But that’s just the way it’s gonna have to be at least I know that the guys that are willing to take those steps are the kind of guys that I know have respect for women and other people’s time. So I will keep it to them. XOXO.

Kind of sad when it is all about appearances. I sent you a private message through this website.. I got you lady!❤️❤️❤️