No shows.

[DaintyDarling]

Has this become a common thing? Men are more often enjoying playing with women’s time and livelihoods?! Beachbum21 played games with my time not once today, but twice. Asks for 4pm I accommodate short notice only for him to message at 3:57 saying can we do 5:30. Only for me to cancel planes and get completely glam for him to no show, nor say a word. I think it’s fair that we share that info so we can decide if we wanna see them or not after treating someone like that. They should get a demerit for these things, or lose Refrences. 

[Lalo]

I’ve seen it said in another thread, 99% of inquiries aren’t serious 

[tide32]

13 minutes ago, DaintyDarling said:

Has this become a common thing? Men are more often enjoying playing with women’s time and livelihoods?! Beachbum21 played games with my time not once today, but twice. Asks for 4pm I accommodate short notice only for him to message at 3:57 saying can we do 5:30. Only for me to cancel planes and get completely glam for him to no show, nor say a word. I think it’s fair that we share that info so we can decide if we wanna see them or not after treating someone like that. They should get a demerit for these things, or lose Rerences. 

Can't understand why this happens. I've never been a fan of requiring a deposit, but, this is one of the best reasons for one. 

[The Divorce Coach ~]

thanks DD, appreciate it!

[Mustang87]

So, the only two threads in the last day+ are about a guy wasting a lady's day, and a lady ripping off a guy. Not a banner day for our little community. 😟

[sb1212]

22 minutes ago, Mustang87 said:

So, the only two threads in the last day+ are about a guy wasting a lady's day, and a lady ripping off a guy. Not a banner day for our little community. 😟

22 minutes ago, Mustang87 said:

So, the only two threads in the last day+ are about a guy wasting a lady's day, and a lady ripping off a guy. Not a banner day for our little community. 😟

In a different thread The Developer hinted about changes coming to prompt mor e robust forum.participation. I'm not smart enough  to.figure out what that.might be, short of paying Laci and others to return. 

Meanwhile, back at the topic for this thread.....

.OP describes some really poor behavior by a hobbyist. Solution? Hard to say.  Trying  to impose sanctions (temporary suspension from TOB) puts mods on the position of having to listen to both sides and make a decision. Probably not how they want to spend their time. Perhaps OP has then ight idea- public exposure to warn other companions. 

Edited July 8, 2025 by sb1212
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[Mustang87]

14 hours ago, DaintyDarling said:

Has this become a common thing? Men are more often enjoying playing with women’s time and livelihoods?! Beachbum21 played games with my time not once today, but twice. Asks for 4pm I accommodate short notice only for him to message at 3:57 saying can we do 5:30. Only for me to cancel planes and get completely glam for him to no show, nor say a word. I think it’s fair that we share that info so we can decide if we wanna see them or not after treating someone like that. They should get a demerit for these things, or lose Refrences. 

I'm sorry you ladies have to put up with that. 

[Hodor]

Hi DD,

  Sorry this happened to you.  I can't speak for all of us but will only say that I've never come close to no showing on a lady.  I feel like I would be the one losing out.

 

[Phil-anderer]

Yup - never no showed. I have canceled last minute once due to illness. However, I made up for it down the way.  But not calling???  That's incredibly lame.

[Mustang87]

I got no-showed this morning. I know it is worse for the ladies because it it their livelihood, and only a hobby for the guys. But I don't care who you are, getting stood up sucks. And like the guys said above, I too have never done that to a lady. 

[Mouthy-Meg]

10 minutes ago, Mustang87 said:

I got no-showed this morning. I know it is worse for the ladies because it it their livelihood, and only a hobby for the guys. But I don't care who you are, getting stood up sucks. And like the guys said above, I too have never done that to a lady. 

You better write that review.... Doesn't matter which side of the coin that type of behavior is unacceptable here. 

[Mustang87]

1 minute ago, Mouthy-Meg said:

You better write that review.... Doesn't matter which side of the coin that type of behavior is unacceptable here. 

I know. We've had this discussion before. Gonna take 24 hours and then I'll probably write it. I just hate doing that. 

[Mouthy-Meg]

Just now, Mustang87 said:

I know. We've had this discussion before. Gonna take 24 hours and then I'll probably write it. I just hate doing that. 

Thats why Im here. 🤣 take your 24 hours. Im setting an alarm.. 🤪 jk

[Savoir Faire]

On 7/7/2025 at 5:54 PM, DaintyDarling said:

Has this become a common thing? Men are more often enjoying playing with women’s time and livelihoods?! Beachbum21 played games with my time not once today, but twice. Asks for 4pm I accommodate short notice only for him to message at 3:57 saying can we do 5:30. Only for me to cancel planes and get completely glam for him to no show, nor say a word. I think it’s fair that we share that info so we can decide if we wanna see them or not after treating someone like that. They should get a demerit for these things, or lose Refrences. 

Ms Dainty I am sorry that you got No Showed but us Gents get it on our end as well. Anyways, hold ya head up, he missed out on watching you shake/bounce that lil tight ass of yours around......................... 

[Lisa logan-4633]

On 7/7/2025 at 5:54 PM, DaintyDarling said:

Has this become a common thing? Men are more often enjoying playing with women’s time and livelihoods?! Beachbum21 played games with my time not once today, but twice. Asks for 4pm I accommodate short notice only for him to message at 3:57 saying can we do 5:30. Only for me to cancel planes and get completely glam for him to no show, nor say a word. I think it’s fair that we share that info so we can decide if we wanna see them or not after treating someone like that. They should get a demerit for these things, or lose Refrences. 

Girlllllll…….. I feel you ONE THOUSAND PERCENT!!!! ‘Colnat’ just did the same thing to me last week… spent a whole day discussing and rearranging and literally disappeared AFTER GETTING HOTEL INFO….. that’s becoming so common it’s literally sickening….. I know most of us girls take our own precautions and what not… but when I’m ghosted after giving hotel info, I leave the place… I’d rather be safe than sorry…. But then that means money lost the rest of the day. And on top of that, the belittling paranoia that comes with it lol. A lot of these men don’t seem to care about our feelings and safety and time anymore. And that’s really unfortunate. I’ve been out of the hobby for several years and coming back to how common this has become is really upsetting. There are still plenty of good guys out there though, so just keep your head up beautiful. All we can do 💋

 

[DaintyDarling]

Inquiring and not responding or not booking is fine. Confirming a time, only to 3 minutes prior to your scheduled time saying can we do an hour and a half later, then confirming to not show AGAIN. Totally different and not cool ya know! And I’m sad to hear this is becoming a more common occurrence. I mean, it’s just common courtesy. I wouldn’t book with my nail tech, hair stylist, mechanic, groomer etc… so that she/ he/ they fills an hour and a half time slot for me to leave her earning zero. Come on! I hate to call someone out but a lady informed of a website where he does this very often and treats us badly only to be rewarded by being able to use the fact he’s an account holder here to be considered to be reliable! It’s a madness. 

[Lisa logan-4633]

I agree, I never get upset over the inquiring and then not responding. But setting a time and confirming… and even getting hotel info just to ghost is absolutely wild. 

[Lalo]

44 minutes ago, DaintyDarling said:

Inquiring and not responding or not booking is fine. 

36 minutes ago, Lisa logan-4633 said:

I agree, I never get upset over the inquiring and then not responding. 

Not related to this post but somewhat related — If you make an account on real-estate offering websites and view their listings, it shows the viewers information, sometimes the realtor will reach out or send additional information via email. Or you’ll go see a property, and just never tell them anything about the property again. Just funny to see the correlation between two niche services 

Wonder if it’s a ‘learned habit’ of people to be able to cancel/no show last minute. Not everybody screens jobs so there’s no real way to find a correlation. Alongside the “an account holder” comment, superiority complex of sorts where they’re the only importance on life

[average1]

12 hours ago, Lisa logan-4633 said:

Girlllllll…….. I feel you ONE THOUSAND PERCENT!!!! ‘Colnat’ just did the same thing to me last week… spent a whole day discussing and rearranging and literally disappeared AFTER GETTING HOTEL INFO….. that’s becoming so common it’s literally sickening….. I know most of us girls take our own precautions and what not… but when I’m ghosted after giving hotel info, I leave the place… I’d rather be safe than sorry…. But then that means money lost the rest of the day. And on top of that, the belittling paranoia that comes with it lol. A lot of these men don’t seem to care about our feelings and safety and time anymore. And that’s really unfortunate. I’ve been out of the hobby for several years and coming back to how common this has become is really upsetting. There are still plenty of good guys out there though, so just keep your head up beautiful. All we can do 💋

 

Lisa, when someone "no-shows" you, it is their loss.  Sorry this happened to you because you (and all the ladies...and gents) deserve better.

[Mr. Lovah-Banned]

On one hand it seems the guy has dick move down to a science and that sucks. On the other, IDK how many providers are in serious relationships. Guessing not many, you're dealing with someone who is the majority of the time. So much can happen on the way to strange. Guilt happens a lot. She's coming home early. Leaving late. Canceled an appointment. Little Johnny's game rained out. Moving parts are in the cost of doing business.

[Mr. Lovah-Banned]

13 hours ago, Lisa logan-4633 said:

Girlllllll…….. I feel you ONE THOUSAND PERCENT!!!! ‘Colnat’ just did the same thing to me last week… spent a whole day discussing and rearranging and literally disappeared AFTER GETTING HOTEL INFO….. that’s becoming so common it’s literally sickening….. I know most of us girls take our own precautions and what not… but when I’m ghosted after giving hotel info, I leave the place… I’d rather be safe than sorry…. But then that means money lost the rest of the day. And on top of that, the belittling paranoia that comes with it lol. A lot of these men don’t seem to care about our feelings and safety and time anymore. And that’s really unfortunate. I’ve been out of the hobby for several years and coming back to how common this has become is really upsetting. There are still plenty of good guys out there though, so just keep your head up beautiful. All we can do 💋

 

May I know why being ghosted after disclosing your location is disconcerting? Please excuse my ignorance.

[Mouthy-Meg]

13 hours ago, Lisa logan-4633 said:

Girlllllll…….. I feel you ONE THOUSAND PERCENT!!!! ‘Colnat’ just did the same thing to me last week… spent a whole day discussing and rearranging and literally disappeared AFTER GETTING HOTEL INFO….. that’s becoming so common it’s literally sickening….. I know most of us girls take our own precautions and what not… but when I’m ghosted after giving hotel info, I leave the place… I’d rather be safe than sorry…. But then that means money lost the rest of the day. And on top of that, the belittling paranoia that comes with it lol. A lot of these men don’t seem to care about our feelings and safety and time anymore. And that’s really unfortunate. I’ve been out of the hobby for several years and coming back to how common this has become is really upsetting. There are still plenty of good guys out there though, so just keep your head up beautiful. All we can do 💋

 

He did the same thing to me. Twice in 2 days. These mf should be banned for that behavior.  Especially ones who book thru tob and there's a paper trail. 

[Mouthy-Meg]

8 minutes ago, Mister Lovah said:

May I know why being ghosted after disclosing your location is disconcerting? Please excuse my ignorance.

You're ignorant for sure. Having our location means.... the hotel you're staying at is at risk of being tipped off by someone who didn't show up.  Having the location and not trusting the client who didn't show up is dangerous. Because you didn't meet them or know what their capable of. I know your hobbitch brain has trouble understanding the dangers of being a woman in this industry.  Because you only care about your discretion and safety.  Not ours. 🤡 

Is it a coincidence that you and TRS aren't ever logged in at the same time but always close together?  Doubtful. You're just as dangerous as clients that don't show up after getting the address.....

[Lisa logan-4633]

15 minutes ago, Mister Lovah said:

On one hand it seems the guy has dick move down to a science and that sucks. On the other, IDK how many providers are in serious relationships. Guessing not many, you're dealing with someone who is the majority of the time. So much can happen on the way to strange. Guilt happens a lot. She's coming home early. Leaving late. Canceled an appointment. Little Johnny's game rained out. Moving parts are in the cost of doing business.I agree, I never get upset over the inquiring and then not responding. But setting a time and confirming… and even getting hotel info just to ghost is absolutely wild. 
 

 

 

 

I was sitting here just staring trying to write a nice reply lol… thank you Meg….

[Lisa logan-4633]

2 minutes ago, Mouthy-Meg said:

You're ignorant for sure. Having our location means.... the hotel you're staying at is at risk of being tipped off by someone who didn't show up.  Having the location and not trusting the client who didn't show up is dangerous. Because you didn't meet them or know what their capable of. I know your hobbitch brain has trouble understanding the dangers of being a woman in this industry.  Because you only care about your discretion and safety.  Not ours. 🤡 

Is it a coincidence that you and TRS aren't ever logged in at the same time but always close together?  Doubtful. You're just as dangerous as clients that don't show up after getting the address.....

 

 

this part! Seriously! Men don’t think lol 

the thing is, I understand life happens and people gotta cancel. That’s not ever the problem. The problem is not being treated like a human and given the respect of communication…. 

[Mouthy-Meg]

4 minutes ago, Lisa logan-4633 said:

22 minutes ago, Mister Lovah said:

On one hand it seems the guy has dick move down to a science and that sucks. On the other, IDK how many providers are in serious relationships. Guessing not many, you're dealing with someone who is the majority of the time. So much can happen on the way to strange. Guilt happens a lot. She's coming home early. Leaving late. Canceled an appointment. Little Johnny's game rained out. Moving parts are in the cost of doing business.I agree, I never get upset over the inquiring and then not responding. But setting a time and confirming… and even getting hotel info just to ghost is absolutely wild. 
 

 

 

 

I was sitting here just staring trying to write a nice reply lol… thank you Meg….

He uses his ignorance as a poor excuse for shitty behavior around here. What he doesn't know is that i know personally companions from his past and could point his hobbitch ass out in a lineup.  He tries to fit in on certain posts and only comments on certain ones with certain profiles and thinks it makes him less obvious. But it's clear who he is and he knows it. 

 

He only advocates for client discretion and safety and doesn't give a fuck about our safety even tho grown men are more likely to take advantage of women than the other way around. 

Edited July 10, 2025 by Mouthy-Meg

[Mouthy-Meg]

27 minutes ago, Mister Lovah said:

On one hand it seems the guy has dick move down to a science and that sucks. On the other, IDK how many providers are in serious relationships. Guessing not many, you're dealing with someone who is the majority of the time. So much can happen on the way to strange. Guilt happens a lot. She's coming home early. Leaving late. Canceled an appointment. Little Johnny's game rained out. Moving parts are in the cost of doing business.

You act like we don't realize shit happens.... but it's the LACK OF COMMUNICATION you fucking dumbass.  Moving parts are the cost of doing business.  Taking 3 seconds to send a text is just disrespectful. 

[Lisa logan-4633]

1 hour ago, average1 said:

Lisa, when someone "no-shows" you, it is their loss.  Sorry this happened to you because you (and all the ladies...and gents) deserve better.

Thank you my dear friend!!!! You my sir, are one of the best examples of the perfect gentleman!! 

[Mustang87]

24 minutes ago, Lisa logan-4633 said:

 

 

this part! Seriously! Men don’t think lol 

the thing is, I understand life happens and people gotta cancel. That’s not ever the problem. The problem is not being treated like a human and given the respect of communication…. 

 

14 minutes ago, Mouthy-Meg said:

You act like we don't realize shit happens.... but it's the LACK OF COMMUNICATION you fucking dumbass.  Moving parts are the cost of doing business.  Taking 3 seconds to send a text is just disrespectful. 

Things happen, but there is no excuse for not taking two seconds to send a text or DM. Failing to do the bare minimum suggests that someone might be up to no good. 

[Mouthy-Meg]

Just now, Lisa logan-4633 said:

Thank you my dear friend!!!! You my sir, are one of the best examples of the perfect gentleman!! 

Wish we could put all the perfect ones in a bubble.... and keep them to ourselves!