Mental Drama

[jimbojambo]

Hey there folks. I've been wanting to engage with a few providers for some time. I'm a generic older guy, that is interested in companionship - all the typical reasons.

 

For some reason, I can't get past trust issues. Mostly I am worried about some kind of ambush once I arrive - thugs or law enforcement. I know reviews on this site calm do my nerves. Are there any tips to get me over the edge and into enjoying someone's time? Thoughts? 

I appreciate you and your advice.

 

[sb1212]

First, do a TOB search in the listings to find several companions who intetest you. Narrow it down to local companions with a long history of positive reviews.  Those are probably the lowest risk. Send DMs to other hobbyists who have reviewed the 2-3 companions who interest you. Carefully review companion ads and websites (if they have one). Aim for an incall vs outcall (their hotel or home, not yours).  Look for someone who states "Newbie friendly."   Make a decision!  Reach out using their preferred communication method. Be polite, respectful and friendly.  Make a date! Show up and enjoy!  

This is the short version. Feel free to ask more questions. Lots of helpful people here.....

Edited April 25 by sb1212
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[jimbojambo]

I appreciate you sb! You basically confirmed a few hunches. The person I was considering is on Skip, and I can't find reviews of her anywhere. It made me a bit worried. I like that this site seems to keep an eye on each other.

[Kali Sensual Reiki]

Hello and welcome in. They’re pretty tough on TOB with verification of us ladies. I would say the majority of us are legitimate. If you know how to use the search glass. I am thinking you should be fine. Enjoy your adventure in the hobby! 

 

[sb1212]

On 4/24/2025 at 11:04 PM, jimbojambo said:

I appreciate you sb! You basically confirmed a few hunches. The person I was considering is on Skip, and I can't find reviews of her anywhere. It made me a bit worried. I like that this site seems to keep an eye on each other.

No reviews = no Bueno. Plenty of well reviewed topics notch companions on TOB. 

[whatagame]

I would second most of what sb1212 says above, though I see no reason to confine yourself to tob: plenty of providers on other sites you can find reviews on. The first time, I'd definitely go for someone with a number of reviews and whose reviews fit what you hope for (you have me curious what  "all the typical reasons are."  I see a wide range from posters here.)

If you do decide to go with someone on tob, you might want to be skeptical of some of the pervasive myths.  Funny story--met with a young lady a little while back who had a new profile here (I'd found her on another site and already scheduled before I saw that she was on tob).  I asked her who had vouched for her on tob.  She didn't understand the question.  I said, "You need another provider on the site to vouch for you, right?"  She laughed, "Nobody vouched for me. They wanted me to send my ID, and I didn't feel comfortable doing that, so I didn't."  She thought a few seconds and laughed again, "It took about an hour to get 'verified.'"  So, tob verifying providers.

Another reason you're supposed to be able to trust women here is that they can't have multiple profiles (I guess to get out from under the cloud of negative reviews, though that seemingly needn't be the case) .  True, except when they can have multiple profiles (myth 2). 
And, of course, one profile (and the good reputation that comes with it) can't be passed from one provider to another . . . you guessed it, except when it can (myth 3).

Be wary; have fun.  With a bit of experience, you can dive in and just have fun.

[Kali Sensual Reiki]

If you have a highly reviewed reputation from other sources and social media, TOB might consider allowing you to join. I am not 100% certain about that. However, in the back of my mind, I can remember something of that nature posted in the rules.

[MeganMarie4u]

17 hours ago, whatagame said:

I would second most of what sb1212 says above, though I see no reason to confine yourself to tob: plenty of providers on other sites you can find reviews on. The first time, I'd definitely go for someone with a number of reviews and whose reviews fit what you hope for (you have me curious what  "all the typical reasons are."  I see a wide range from posters here.)

If you do decide to go with someone on tob, you might want to be skeptical of some of the pervasive myths.  Funny story--met with a young lady a little while back who had a new profile here (I'd found her on another site and already scheduled before I saw that she was on tob).  I asked her who had vouched for her on tob.  She didn't understand the question.  I said, "You need another provider on the site to vouch for you, right?"  She laughed, "Nobody vouched for me. They wanted me to send my ID, and I didn't feel comfortable doing that, so I didn't."  She thought a few seconds and laughed again, "It took about an hour to get 'verified.'"  So, tob verifying providers.

Another reason you're supposed to be able to trust women here is that they can't have multiple profiles (I guess to get out from under the cloud of negative reviews, though that seemingly needn't be the case) .  True, except when they can have multiple profiles (myth 2). 
And, of course, one profile (and the good reputation that comes with it) can't be passed from one provider to another . . . you guessed it, except when it can (myth 3).

Be wary; have fun.  With a bit of experience, you can dive in and just have fun.

Idk if things have changed. But when I joined i had to send my ID. Idk the avenues for claiming a profile by a review. But I would guess the requirement for a vouch might have changed.... the amount of new talent on the board is kinda crazy.... and no way there's that many reputable providers helping other girls join

Edited April 28 by MeganMarie4u

[Caressa Duval]

2 hours ago, MeganMarie4u said:

Idk if things have changed. But when I joined i had to send my ID. Idk the avenues for claiming a profile by a review. But I would guess the requirement for a vouch might have changed.... the amount of new talent on the board is kinda crazy.... and no way there's that many reputable providers helping other girls join

I think some look almost AI generated, or maybe I need glasses All review boards have fake reviews mixed in with real ones.  A provider can just ask all their friends to set up fake male profiles, and have them write fake reviews for them. It is just as important to look at the history of the reviewer.

I don't think STG is as bad as it used to be. I have actually gotten back timely reference requests from a couple of ladies lately that turned out to be good clients.

Seems the hierarchy of advertising boards and review boards seems to be leveling out lately. There are pluses and minuses to them all. All that doesn't help the OP much or any of us really.

[Tyoung]

SB is on track.  Boards like TOB, Tryst, Slixa, and PrivateConnections,  seem to have legitimate providers(for the most part).  Avoid the boards that seem like they are just grabbing random adds from all sorts of sites and compiling them.     Asking for the 411 on a lady can also help.

I have found that when you venture outside of “legitimate boards”. You increase your chance of getting the dreaded text from “the cartel” demanding payment for wasting their time.   I would also add that having a burner phone helps to be able to ignore the scams.

[Tyoung]

27 minutes ago, Tyoung said:

 “PrivateConnections,”-  Wrong

i meant PrivateDelights.ch

 

[The Divorce Coach ~]

definitely some good knowledge has been shared here, solid info on reputable sites for iso trusted providers.
unfortunately, it doesn't seem like you are receiving the info well.
it's a bit ironic you seem to have major trust issues, yet you're searching for companionship on a platform (stg) you have no idea how to do your own research on.
i could be mistaken but doesn't seem you have shown
any interest in the more reputable sites that were suggested, afaict.

your last public comment on your thread was thursday, but you've been logged in consistently. are you ignoring the helpful advice?
you were last online here just a couple hours ago.
idk, maybe you are messaging privately and thanking the others for the advice given, but from the outside it looks like the feedback is going unacknowledged.

i remember when i was new to the scene i appreciated all helpful advice from others and made sure to express that. no one was ignored.
just a bit of advice, bc coaching/helping others is what i do (lol): dont waste anyones time! in this hobby wasting peoples time imo is an act of disrespect.

at the end of the day, no one can protect you but you no matter the site. but dont mind me as i overthink things sometimes gl with your search on stg. i genuinely hope you find what you're looking for and can get over the edge.

 

[jimbojambo]

Agreed, all of the feedback is great and I do appreciate the feedback.

I gravitated to this site because of the reviews feature, but am still finding my way around. I guess this is part of how I operate ... slowly. Maybe to a fault. I am confused by your logged in consistently comment. Because I don't log in much.

I haven't really reached out to any providers here, because I don't want to waste people's time. Hopefully I haven't offended anyone.

[sb1212]

8 hours ago, The Divorce Coach ~ said:

 from the outside it looks like the feedback is going unacknowledged.

Actually, he did acknowledge my input last Thursday in the post you mentioned.  Agree, though, that he has otherwise been silent.  How about it, JimboJambo - ready to walk on the wild side? 😜 

[jimbojambo]

Agreed, all of the feedback is great and I do appreciate the feedback.

I gravitated to this site because of the reviews feature, but am still finding my way around. I guess this is part of how I operate ... slowly. Maybe to a fault. I am confused by your logged in consistently comment. Because I don't log in much.

I haven't really reached out to any providers here, because I don't want to waste people's time. Hopefully I haven't offended anyone

[Juanmotai]

I wish I had this place and all this good advice when I first started this journey,  but nope. I had backpage and ummmmmm.. well, anyway, there's some really great advice being passed on here buddy. But sometimes ya just gotta jump in and see if you can actually swim or not man. Once ya get your feet wet, you'll realize it's not quite as bad or as scary as it seems .. So make that leap and enjoy brotha 😁😁