Posted January 19 So I have a question for the gentlemen “hobbyists” that contact a provider like myself and inquire about an appointment, session, any synonym you wish to utilize. Describing what will potentially take place whatever synonym you wish to utilize it is a “SERVICE”. Gentlemen, when you make a reservation, whether for the same day or in advance at any reputable restaurant what do they require you to do? I’ll answer that question for you. They require you to put a form of payment (card) to reserve your future existing reservation. Because if you fail to cancel within a certain amount of time whether it being 24 hours or less, they will charge you the deposit $50 whatever that establish has set as the deposit if you no-show, or if you just I don’t know failed to take in consideration that they could’ve actually booked another person to sit in your seat enjoy the ambience and find dining around them. when you go to a barber or any service for that matter, anything that requires a person to either come to you or for you to go to them most reputable businesses if not, all require a credit card or form a payment to put down along with the knowledge that if you do not show up and or if you flake, whatever life may throw you that day that that business will charge you XYZ as the terms discussed. When someone wants to go ahead and say, what are you doing next Tuesday? Deposit required. I really can’t do an outcall, I would prefer an incall. Great fantastic not every single provider lives out of other accommodations most or the vast majority live in their homes which they may not want to entertain in because I don’t know their children, a significant other maybe because their neighbors are nosy. Do you really expect someone to pay for something decent at least $150 and that’s without the incidental. Out of their pocket for you or any other individual to have life happen to them whether a valid excuse or not and just be like OK it’s all right. I can deal with it. Maybe most can do that but not in this hobby, if if you have not already made this distinction, most persons that provide within this hobby it’s not a hobby it is actually employment. It is a business. I just wanna know. Do you really think it’s a stretch for a provider to ask for a deposit because it’s not. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 19 I dont have an issue with deposits. Whatever works best for you..... I have paid 3 over the past few years. All worked out fine. If I am looking for new ( to me) companion ( doesn't happen often), the requirement of a deposit may or may not have me bypass a companion. Other factors come into play, including how much do I desire her compared to similarly hot, well reviewed companions who DONT ask for a deposit. I will.never ask a companion to waive or reduce her deposit. Lots of options here at TOB. That said, I can't recall a restaurant requiring a credit card for a reservation. Perhaps you dine at more upscale eateries than I do...... 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 19 3 hours ago, Calisurfgirl said: So I have a question for the gentlemen “hobbyists” that contact a provider like myself and inquire about an appointment, session, any synonym you wish to utilize. Describing what will potentially take place whatever synonym you wish to utilize it is a “SERVICE”. Gentlemen, when you make a reservation, whether for the same day or in advance at any reputable restaurant what do they require you to do? I’ll answer that question for you. They require you to put a form of payment (card) to reserve your future existing reservation. Because if you fail to cancel within a certain amount of time whether it being 24 hours or less, they will charge you the deposit $50 whatever that establish has set as the deposit if you no-show, or if you just I don’t know failed to take in consideration that they could’ve actually booked another person to sit in your seat enjoy the ambience and find dining around them. when you go to a barber or any service for that matter, anything that requires a person to either come to you or for you to go to them most reputable businesses if not, all require a credit card or form a payment to put down along with the knowledge that if you do not show up and or if you flake, whatever life may throw you that day that that business will charge you XYZ as the terms discussed. When someone wants to go ahead and say, what are you doing next Tuesday? Deposit required. I really can’t do an outcall, I would prefer an incall. Great fantastic not every single provider lives out of other accommodations most or the vast majority live in their homes which they may not want to entertain in because I don’t know their children, a significant other maybe because their neighbors are nosy. Do you really expect someone to pay for something decent at least $150 and that’s without the incidental. Out of their pocket for you or any other individual to have life happen to them whether a valid excuse or not and just be like OK it’s all right. I can deal with it. Maybe most can do that but not in this hobby, if if you have not already made this distinction, most persons that provide within this hobby it’s not a hobby it is actually employment. It is a business. I just wanna know. Do you really think it’s a stretch for a provider to ask for a deposit because it’s not. I have never paid a deposit to a restaurant, barber, M.D. Dentist, plumber, electrician. I have, on occasion, paid up front for the cost on material when having house repairs done. The BIG difference is that if they fail to provide the service, I have lots of options. There are precious few options if a lady in your profession flakes out and goes dark (happens at times). I can't go to the BBB, I can't in all probability, challenge the credit card charge (if I were careless enough to use one) and I sure as heck can't go to L.E. with a complaint. IF there were to be an unwelcome encounter with the law, everything about the deposit is an electronic trail the will lead right to the one that made the deposit. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 19 To answer the question, (I finally found it, it's the last sentence of the post) I don't think it's a stretch for a provider to ask for a deposit. But I also dont think it's a stretch for a client to feel uncomfortable leaving a deposit. 6 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 19 At one point, I used to go to a beauty provider locally in Lakewood. The only way I was allowed to make an appointment was to pay a $50.00 deposit. I also went to a dentist, and if you missed an appointment and wished to reschedule, you needed to pay a $100 deposit penalty. That dental office was also in Lakewood; none of that money went towards paying for your teeth. I only ask for a minimal deposit if I feel iffy about you showing up for your time with me or if you are unwilling to provide me with the requested information. We all operate differently, yes! Please know there is a critical need to feel comfortable knowing you will show up and be a gentleman. What bothers me is when people start asking all these questions and don’t bother reading my ad and website. Even worse, men get upset when I ask them if they read my information. I feel very frustrated when potential clients are unwilling to meet my simple needs. And yes, it happens every day! Sometimes, these guys are so bad that I have to block them because they are stubborn and not willing to cooperate. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 19 Sounds like someone booked with you and cancelled, unfortunately that is part of your business, 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 19 3 hours ago, stevie-2249 said: Sounds like someone booked with you and cancelled, unfortunately that is part of your business, Not sure who you are talking to? No call no shows are common and that is where a small deposit comes in handy. Ladies in this Busness put a great deal into what they do. Unlike my former dental office, I will apply that small deposit toward what is owed. I am sure most of the ladies conduct themselves fairly also with their own business in a similar fashion. Being practical and realistic is a must and it has been a long time now since I had a no call no shows. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 20 23 minutes ago, Kali Sensual Reiki said: Not sure who you are talking to? No call no shows are common and that is where a small deposit comes in handy. Ladies in this Busness put a great deal into what they do. Unlike my former dental office, I will apply that small deposit toward what is owed. I am sure most of the ladies conduct themselves fairly also with their own business in a similar fashion. Being practical and realistic is a must and it has been a long time now since I had a no call no shows. If a lady had many excellent reviews I would be more likely to give a deposit, with out those not a chance 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 20 18 hours ago, TML93 said: To answer the question, (I finally found it, it's the last sentence of the post) I don't think it's a stretch for a provider to ask for a deposit. But I also dont think it's a stretch for a client to feel uncomfortable leaving a deposit. Im glad you found it. I felt like it was click bait....😂 I saw how long it was and immediately logged out. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 20 23 hours ago, Calisurfgirl said: So I have a question for the gentlemen “hobbyists” that contact a provider like myself and inquire about an appointment, session, any synonym you wish to utilize. Describing what will potentially take place whatever synonym you wish to utilize it is a “SERVICE”. Gentlemen, when you make a reservation, whether for the same day or in advance at any reputable restaurant what do they require you to do? I’ll answer that question for you. They require you to put a form of payment (card) to reserve your future existing reservation. Because if you fail to cancel within a certain amount of time whether it being 24 hours or less, they will charge you the deposit $50 whatever that establish has set as the deposit if you no-show, or if you just I don’t know failed to take in consideration that they could’ve actually booked another person to sit in your seat enjoy the ambience and find dining around them. when you go to a barber or any service for that matter, anything that requires a person to either come to you or for you to go to them most reputable businesses if not, all require a credit card or form a payment to put down along with the knowledge that if you do not show up and or if you flake, whatever life may throw you that day that that business will charge you XYZ as the terms discussed. When someone wants to go ahead and say, what are you doing next Tuesday? Deposit required. I really can’t do an outcall, I would prefer an incall. Great fantastic not every single provider lives out of other accommodations most or the vast majority live in their homes which they may not want to entertain in because I don’t know their children, a significant other maybe because their neighbors are nosy. Do you really expect someone to pay for something decent at least $150 and that’s without the incidental. Out of their pocket for you or any other individual to have life happen to them whether a valid excuse or not and just be like OK it’s all right. I can deal with it. Maybe most can do that but not in this hobby, if if you have not already made this distinction, most persons that provide within this hobby it’s not a hobby it is actually employment. It is a business. I just wanna know. Do you really think it’s a stretch for a provider to ask for a deposit because it’s not. I thought you came here last year with a giant post about you retiring? 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 20 3 hours ago, MeganMarie4u said: I thought you came here last year with a giant post about you retiring? Until you mentioned that I had forgotten that but I believe you are right.. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 20 This is a cash business. Deposits require some kind of electronic money transfer. Hopefully you don’t use your real name and telephone number. This goes for both sides. I have seen hundreds of people over the years and never stiffed anyone. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 20 She changed her mind I guess? You two are right and I also remember her post. 1 hour ago, mustang said: Until you mentioned that I had forgotten that but I believe you are right.. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 26 No. Even with barbers or a restaurant. I pay after the service is completed. The point of this thread is based on a falsehood. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 27 Nope. Nope. And, NOPE. First of all, nope. All paid when services are rendered, I won't pay to reserve a table at a restaurant, visit my hair stylist, or consult with my lawyer. Second of all, nope. I won't be leaving a crumb trail to my financial/RW data. Third, NOPE. With PLENTY of no deposit options, by and large, deposits are for SIMPS and suckers but, be it to lower volume, cull the herd, upgrade the base, whatever the case may be, it's simple, your body your rules. And as long as you are transparent about what TCB and BCD looks like, and you know that NEXT! happens to providers with deposits A LOT, you're good! I'm good. We all good! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 27 (edited) Everyone has their own opinions about deposits and that's great! But let's not try to say one way or the other is bad. Everybody can approach this business how they prefer! If it works for you....that's what matters! Edited January 27 by MeganMarie4u Decided to be nice 😂 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 27 (edited) 1 hour ago, MeganMarie4u said: Everyone has their own opinions about deposits and that's great! But let's not try to say one way or the other is bad. Everybody can approach this business how they prefer! If it works for you....that's what matters! Is that how you said what I said better than I could say it, being nice? Or is it I'm that irresistible. 14 hours ago, I Dream of Pussy said: Nope. Nope. And, NOPE. First of all, nope. All paid when services are rendered, I won't pay to reserve a table at a restaurant, visit my hair stylist, or consult with my lawyer. Second of all, nope. I won't be leaving a crumb trail to my financial/RW data. Third, NOPE. With PLENTY of no deposit options, by and large, deposits are for SIMPS and suckers but, be it to lower volume, cull the herd, upgrade the base, whatever the case may be, it's simple, your body your rules. And as long as you are transparent about what TCB and BCD looks like, and you know that NEXT! happens to providers with deposits A LOT, you're good! I'm good. We all good! Edited January 27 by I Dream of Pussy 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 27 Threads about deposits are like threads about rates. There will be positive posts and there will be negative posts. As Megan stated above, everybody do their own thing and whatever they feel works for them, do it. No right or wrong. I understand both sides. I do what I feel is best for me and I’ll leave it at that. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 27 3 hours ago, I Dream of Pussy said: Is that how you said what I said better than I could say it, being nice? Or is it I'm that irresistible. Actually my response was talking shit to you for not writing any reviews for these no deposit ladies.... lol but I edited it hence why it showed I commented on your response and you come here and it's not. So yes it's nicer than what I was originally gonna post shortstuff 😊 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 29 Deposits come with myriad problems: 1) They are electronic and trackable. Yes, they are. 2) Very easy to scam someone. Review history helps abate this, but still a concern. 3) If I cancel or have a problem, I lose the deposit. I've had providers with numerous cancels and other issues and they have never offered a discount or free time in return, just reschedule at their convenience. I have had to cancel appointments in the past, but have always gave us much notice as possible and made it right. But at the core to your question: I don't do deposits. There are plenty of providers who do not require them. The technical and financial risks aren't worth it for me. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 29 No deposits for me. As many have mentioned, its easily traced electronically and are often scams. I am not implying that about you. But given the nature of our the biz, its an automatic non starter for me personally. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 29 On 1/26/2025 at 9:06 PM, Fweissly said: Kali, Thank you for the welcome. While I understand the idea doesn’t interest you, I very much appreciate your reply and perspective! You are very welcome! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted Tuesday at 9:11 PM (edited) On 1/27/2025 at 4:00 PM, MeganMarie4u said: Everyone has their own opinions about deposits and that's great! But let's not try to say one way or the other is bad. Everybody can approach this business how they prefer! If it works for you....that's what matters! Pay attention, ladies. Except for ALL SIMPS, suckers, and SOME providers, nine out of ten hobbyists' consensus is...fuck that. Just had one today on STG. First question "she" asks is, "Where are you". WTF? How about where you advertised? Spidey senses tingling, I asked what any streetwise monger would, "Where are you?" Never answering, "she" gets to donations and quotes a deposit because "she's" "been burned". Yeah. So have I so, fix your "panties", chick. It never happens without C.R.E.A.M. Edited Tuesday at 9:14 PM by I Dream of Pussy 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted Tuesday at 9:16 PM (edited) On 1/27/2025 at 9:18 PM, MeganMarie4u said: Actually my response was talking shit to you for not writing any reviews for these no deposit ladies.... lol but I edited it hence why it showed I commented on your response and you come here and it's not. So yes it's nicer than what I was originally gonna post shortstuff 😊 If you worried more about your reviews than mine, you might be able to quit your real money maker. I know you need it though so take it slow. Edited Tuesday at 9:17 PM by I Dream of Pussy 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted Tuesday at 11:16 PM 2 hours ago, I Dream of Pussy said: Pay attention, ladies. Except for ALL SIMPS, suckers, and SOME providers, nine out of ten hobbyists' consensus is...fuck that. Just had one today on STG. First question "she" asks is, "Where are you". WTF? How about where you advertised? Spidey senses tingling, I asked what any streetwise monger would, "Where are you?" Never answering, "she" gets to donations and quotes a deposit because "she's" "been burned". Yeah. So have I so, fix your "panties", chick. It never happens without C.R.E.A.M. You may not be aware. But us ladies get scammers every single day. Wanting you to click a link and tell them if you're close. I ask people where they are often.... also because I travel and sometimes people are in cities I have already left from. You'd be surprised how many people can't read dates on ads and realize I left 8 days ago. I'm sure it was no ill will if she was a legit provider. It could also have been a scammer phishing for your info. Sounds like you dodged a bullet! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 22 hours ago I always offer to pay a deposit and have never had an issue. If I get scammed, so what. I have lost money in many ways in my life that could have been avoided and somehow I survived. I always want to start my relationship with a service provider with my best foot forward, but to each his own! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 19 hours ago 3 hours ago, Tom Swift said: I always offer to pay a deposit and have never had an issue. If I get scammed, so what. I have lost money in many ways in my life that could have been avoided and somehow I survived. I always want to start my relationship with a service provider with my best foot forward, but to each his own 3 hours ago, Tom Swift said: Interesting approach. How many who didn't ask for a deposit accepted your offer? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites