Posted July 1 I'm indecisive. I spend an inordinate amount of time figuring out who I want to see, so when it comes time to finally commit to contacting a provider often they're busy, or done for the day, and don't respond back, how long should I wait before contacting another provider? I don't want to waste anyone's time but I also feel like I often end up wasting my window of opportunity to visit someone. I mean, it's definitely my fault. But I was wondering how other people handle this situation. For the past few years I've had very few sessions. My favorite provider left the scene when COVID started. She was fantastic, gave a great massage, spoke fluent French, we had some other common interests, and I was encouraged to not hesitate to ask if she had a short notice appointment available when I found a little time for one. I miss my friend. While I genuinely enjoy the time I have spent with other providers, it's hard to not compare, and it's definitely unfair to compare someone who you are meeting for the first time against a person who you visited pretty much exclusively for a significant amount of time. These are probably topics that have been discussed in the past, but I'd still appreciate any thoughts or guidance. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 1 I’m not sure how to say this eloquently… Why are you waiting for your window of opportunity to book? You should not have a problem pre-booking to see who you’d like. Select the provider, date, time, duration of visit, right? I’ve seen several threads on various venues where hobbyists are saying us ladies are “flaky”. 😂 The reason is that the person they want is not answering etc. PLAN AHEAD and have fun. So, who is the real flake? The guy that can’t get his shit together is the lake. You don’t just walk in for a dentist appt, hair appt, massage appt etc. Hell, we have to make an appointment to get your freaking oil changed these days. Are you guys avoiding booking ahead in hopes of not paying a deposit by doing same day? What gives? I rarely have immediate or in the hour availability. I don’t sit by my phone 24/7. Most of us have other jobs, caretakers, family commitments, travel etc. Someone told me they couldn’t plan ahead, because life is a “moving target” . Same buddy same! What that equates to is, “I’m an inconsiderate jerk who thinks I’m more important than you paltry escort.” The bottom line is this doesn’t need to be so difficult. I hope things improve for you love. Xoxo 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 1 12 hours ago, Thwartedprogress2 said: I'm indecisive. I spend an inordinate amount of time figuring out who I want to see, so when it comes time to finally commit to contacting a provider often they're busy, or done for the day, and don't respond back, how long should I wait before contacting another provider? I don't want to waste anyone's time but I also feel like I often end up wasting my window of opportunity to visit someone. I mean, it's definitely my fault. But I was wondering how other people handle this situation. For the past few years I've had very few sessions. My favorite provider left the scene when COVID started. She was fantastic, gave a great massage, spoke fluent French, we had some other common interests, and I was encouraged to not hesitate to ask if she had a short notice appointment available when I found a little time for one. I miss my friend. While I genuinely enjoy the time I have spent with other providers, it's hard to not compare, and it's definitely unfair to compare someone who you are meeting for the first time against a person who you visited pretty much exclusively for a significant amount of time. These are probably topics that have been discussed in the past, but I'd still appreciate any thoughts or guidance. You've seen your share of ladies over the last 4 years. You should have recent references. You know how to do this. Pick a lady, learn her procedures, reach out and book. Just don't waste any ladies time while you are deciding to get off the pot, or not. Good times await. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 1 I text a lot of ladies and never get a response from them, sure I understand they have lives, jobs etc… but why not give some kind of response ? I’ve heard ladies saying it’s slow, well answer your phone then, there is many ladies to choose from these days and it sucks trying to find one that will answer back when your horny or only time you have to play, not every guy can see a lady when they want, so there has to be a time window 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 1 1 hour ago, Audrey Astor said: I’m not sure how to say this eloquently… Why are you waiting for your window of opportunity to book? You should not have a problem pre-booking to see who you’d like. Select the provider, date, time, duration of visit, right? I’ve seen several threads on various venues where hobbyists are saying us ladies are “flaky”. 😂 The reason is that the person they want is not answering etc. PLAN AHEAD and have fun. So, who is the real flake? The guy that can’t get his shit together is the lake. You don’t just walk in for a dentist appt, hair appt, massage appt etc. Hell, we have to make an appointment to get your freaking oil changed these days. Are you guys avoiding booking ahead in hopes of not paying a deposit by doing same day? What gives? I rarely have immediate or in the hour availability. I don’t sit by my phone 24/7. Most of us have other jobs, caretakers, family commitments, travel etc. Someone told me they couldn’t plan ahead, because life is a “moving target” . Same buddy same! What that equates to is, “I’m an inconsiderate jerk who thinks I’m more important than you paltry escort.” The bottom line is this doesn’t need to be so difficult. I hope things improve for you love. Xoxo I absolutely agree with you, and I don't harbor any delusions of grandeur about my time being more important than anyone else. I should try to be better at scheduling ahead of time. I've been working my more than full time job and trying to get a bunch of other major projects done off the clock. I've been working 20 hours a day for the past couple of weeks, though last Sunday I did sleep for 12 hours straight and just couldn't get anything done when I woke up. I suppose the real answer is that I need to take some time off work so I can get my personal projects done without resorting to insanely long days without enough downtime. Or hire someone to get things done for me... Thanks Audrey 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 1 After deciding who I want to see I reach out- using her preferred communication method (if known) 3-5 days in advance. Same day booking is a crapshoot with most companions and doesn't work for me. I confirm the day before and day of. Assuming she responds (most do) to the initial inquiry, I rarely have an issue getting a committed appointment. For the rare occurrences where I dont hear from her 24 hours after my initial inquiry I move on..... Hope this helps. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 1 8 minutes ago, sb1212 said: After deciding who I want to see I reach out- using her preferred communication method (if known) 3-5 days in advance. Same day booking is a crapshoot with most companions and doesn't work for me. I confirm the day before and day of. Assuming she responds (most do) to the initial inquiry, I rarely have an issue getting a committed appointment. For the rare occurrences where I dont hear from her 24 hours after my initial inquiry I move on..... Hope this helps. Well that’s what ya need to do is move on but it’s just disappointing that after spending time and effort to find the lady you want to see you can’t even get a response out of her, it suck’s but unfortunately they control how much they want to work, you get lucky or not 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 1 The schedule of the average provider is unpredictable and sporadic. Many of us have other obligations (school, work, etc.) that make it difficult to be available “now.” I’ll admit, it does irk me when clients reach out with requests for “now,” as I require a bit of time to primp and prep to provide the best experience. Personally, I prefer clients who book a day ahead of time, however I do know that many clients like to fly by the seat of their pants and reach out when the inspiration strikes. I do try to accommodate these requests when possible, but I teach yoga and often sub in for other teachers, so it can be a challenge. In terms of when to move on, it is you (the client) who is making the booking request. I personally do not find it rude at all when I am unable to respond in time and a client simply says “sorry, I have booked with another provider!” If you have a specific timeframe in mind and you don’t hear back, it is perfectly okay to move on whenever you like. In terms of flat out not getting a response from providers at all, I always suggest that you pay a bit of attention to the way you initiate contact. I prioritize gentlemen who introduce themselves and indicate their desired meeting time. I am offering a very personal service and “are you available?” with no other context simply feels too transactional for me. Gentlemen who introduce themselves get a response, even when I’m busy. As for those who do not, I get back to them when I am finally freed up. Be polite and cordial, and you’ll likely get more responses from providers. Keep in mind we are always busy with something or other, and our time is valuable (both to us, and to you ). If you don’t hear back, just move on. Most of us are (unfortunately) rather used to responding to inquiries and not hearing anything further. A simple “maybe next time!” may go a long way with someone you really want to see in the future. Happy hobbying! 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 5 Third time where I have scheduled with a provider in advance, and then day of I get ghosted. Not sure what is going on. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 5 1 hour ago, BoulderB said: Third time where I have scheduled with a provider in advance, and then day of I get ghosted. Not sure what is going on. So.... you had a confirmed appointment at a specific day and time and a specific location and all three companions disappeared? Or - was it the same companion three times in a row? If it was the same companion then definitely time to move on. If it was three different companions then, respectfully, it might have to do with where you are searching (TOB?) and how you are engaging with the companions. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 5 2 hours ago, sb1212 said: So.... you had a confirmed appointment at a specific day and time and a specific location and all three companions disappeared? Or - was it the same companion three times in a row? If it was the same companion then definitely time to move on. If it was three different companions then, respectfully, it might have to do with where you are searching (TOB?) and how you are engaging with the companions. Different companion each time. All from TOB. One time complete ghost. I reached back out the next time they came through town and they thought I ghosted them. So somehow messages were getting lost in the ether. Second time, new provider, had an appointment booked and confirmed and day of never heard back to multiple attempts to contact. Third time this morning, appointment booked and confirmed, reached out this morning, nothing. Just heard back they overslept after having too much fun on the 4th of July. Can't really blame them and will reschedule. Only one that bothers me is the second, because they never had an explanation. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 5 Pre booking is always recommended to assure a good time. If you’re booking set times and they’re flaking; then that’s another story. I hope you find the lady of the hour that will satisfy your needs. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 5 2 hours ago, BoulderB said: Different companion each time. All from TOB. One time complete ghost. I reached back out the next time they came through town and they thought I ghosted them. So somehow messages were getting lost in the ether. Second time, new provider, had an appointment booked and confirmed and day of never heard back to multiple attempts to contact. Third time this morning, appointment booked and confirmed, reached out this morning, nothing. Just heard back they overslept after having too much fun on the 4th of July. Can't really blame them and will reschedule. Only one that bothers me is the second, because they never had an explanation. was any of your communications voice to voice over the phone between you and her? or text only communications? only asking bc most of the time the gents are not communicating with a provider when it's a text only communication. many times you are communicating with management, boyfriend, husband etc etc when its text only communication. believe or not, MANY providers aren't in control of her cell device, someone else is. but if you communicated via voice to voice and you were stood up, then imo its a terrible act of violence to waste someones time and she should know better. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 5 21 minutes ago, Western ~P said: was any of your communications voice to voice over the phone between you and her? or text only communications? only asking bc most of the time the gents are not communicating with a provider when it's a text only communication. many times you are communicating with management, boyfriend, husband etc etc when its text only communication. believe or not, MANY providers aren't in control of her cell device, someone else is. but if you communicated via voice to voice and you were stood up, then imo its a terrible act of violence to waste someones time and she should know better. That is interesting to know. All communication was text only, or via TOB messages. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 5 1 hour ago, Western ~P said: was any of your communications voice to voice over the phone between you and her? or text only communications? only asking bc most of the time the gents are not communicating with a provider when it's a text only communication. many times you are communicating with management, boyfriend, husband etc etc when its text only communication. believe or not, MANY providers aren't in control of her cell device, someone else is. but if you communicated via voice to voice and you were stood up, then imo its a terrible act of violence to waste someones time and she should know better. Well THAT should make everyone want to contact a provider via text. I usually go to great length to deal with independent ladies, based on what you wrote, that is more difficult than I would have expected. ALL the more reason to use a hobby phone. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 6 ALWAYS, ALWAYS for confirmation and for better clear communications, HEAR HER VOICE! you’d be surprised how many of you gents have been texting with management or just another guy. explains why the actual provider is dumbfounded a lot of times about wth you’re talking about regarding a booking. im only speaking on it bc those providers and their management fuck it up for the honest providers, like myself who run an honest business. now, i text in the beginning process but for any confirmed bookings, i need to hear your voice and you need to hear mine. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 6 At least one time prior, I’d like to speak with the old-fashioned phone calls by voice before meeting up physically. For me, it’s all about feeling comfortable with each other. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 6 On 7/1/2024 at 10:05 AM, Thwartedprogress2 said: I absolutely agree with you, and I don't harbor any delusions of grandeur about my time being more important than anyone else. I should try to be better at scheduling ahead of time. I've been working my more than full time job and trying to get a bunch of other major projects done off the clock. I've been working 20 hours a day for the past couple of weeks, though last Sunday I did sleep for 12 hours straight and just couldn't get anything done when I woke up. I suppose the real answer is that I need to take some time off work so I can get my personal projects done without resorting to insanely long days without enough downtime. Or hire someone to get things done for me... Thanks Audrey I I have found myself in similar situation, multiple times. I work a lot, and sometimes rely on someone else's performance for me to move on to my next task, so trying to plot an exact time commonly is impossible for me. Most providers that I have set appointments with, are very accommodating with my screwy schedule, and have gone above and beyond what they should have to, just to accommodate me to see them. My reviews kind of show who those are, and I appreciate them very much. they also have schedules to meet, and sometimes I cannot hook up with that provider, until a later date. Let's face it sometimes our schedules are almost impossible to ever make it work. No foul on anybody's part. I try to always contact them at least 24 hours ahead, but I just looked at my 411 requests, and found just in that platform, four providers in less than 6 months, that have never responded. And a couple of these were seasoned, highly reviewed women . I was told the 411 was not very good about getting emails out, so I have gone to an appointment or pre-screen request, and personal email, and a text message, try to make sure the provider gets my message. And still sometimes total ghost. So I have wondered the same thing, what is proper etiquette? If I only contact them 24 hours or less, then a lot of times I purposely miss my window of opportunity so as to be as courteous as possible to that provider. But when I've made request several days ahead, and get ghosted, it's always hard to know how long to wait before ending up, a last minute still try to make your window happen. Seems like 24-hour, no response, would be reasonable to move on. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 6 On 7/1/2024 at 8:30 AM, Audrey Astor said: Making Dreams Come True... audreyastor.com just to let you know, that link is dead 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
