"Blacklist"

[RyleighCOS]

Do guys seriously not realize that us, Providers, keep in contact with each other and have blacklists to keep us safe? Between the disrespect,  the vulgar communication,  games, and no shows.... Us girls arent stupid and want to keep each other safe. What's the point of scheduling and never following through??? Is it attention? Is it desperation?  Is it the thrill of the game? 

[Guest]

1 hour ago, RyleighCOS said:

Do guys seriously not realize that us, Providers, keep in contact with each other and have blacklists to keep us safe? Between the disrespect,  the vulgar communication,  games, and no shows.... Us girls arent stupid and want to keep each other safe. What's the point of scheduling and never following through??? Is it attention? Is it desperation?  Is it the thrill of the game? 

This is a good topic. It's unfortunate when people are disrespectful in this area of life because it is already frowned upon by people I'm society in general. 

With that said follow through is one of those things where for a majority of the good guys, life just happens.

Although this is called a hobby, the truth is it's an addiction. Like any addiction people change their mind. Like to an alcoholic that needs a drink, whatever the follow through is that person has to deal with the outcome of their actions. 

This is my opinion. It goes both ways as far as how we treat each other. Don't let a few bad apples spoil the bunch, and realize a majority of people have good intentions, but make a choice to satisfy their addiction or not.

Be well.

[pfunk]

2 hours ago, RyleighCOS said:

Do guys seriously not realize that us, Providers, keep in contact with each other and have blacklists to keep us safe? Between the disrespect,  the vulgar communication,  games, and no shows.... Us girls arent stupid and want to keep each other safe. What's the point of scheduling and never following through??? Is it attention? Is it desperation?  Is it the thrill of the game? 

It's childish stupidity, or serial killer mindset.

They are either so juvenile that they think prank calls are funny, OR

They hate all women and think they deserve to be treated badly.

"Good guys" do not pull no call/no shows, nor do they insult escorts, and waste their time.

The people who do the things Ryleigh mentioned deserve to be blacklisted, and I'm thrilled that the ladies have that option.

[jus12pla]

3 hours ago, RyleighCOS said:

Us girls arent stupid and want to keep each other safe. What's the point of scheduling and never following through??? Is it attention? Is it desperation?  Is it the thrill of the game? 

Teeny tiny balls.

[average1]

4 hours ago, RyleighCOS said:

Do guys seriously not realize that us, Providers, keep in contact with each other and have blacklists to keep us safe? Between the disrespect,  the vulgar communication,  games, and no shows.... Us girls arent stupid and want to keep each other safe. What's the point of scheduling and never following through??? Is it attention? Is it desperation?  Is it the thrill of the game? 

So sorry you and others have experienced behavior like this.  Disrespect, game playing and no shows really suck (and not in the good way) for both sides of this hobby.  I really don't understand it at all.  If this is supposed to be about having fun between consenting adults, acting like a jerk doesn't bode well while looking for a "good time" in a search for an intimate encounter.  Kindness and respect go a long way to making life more pleasant....in many areas of life.  And in our little world they should be essential ways of increasing the odds of having a mutually good time.

[hornyoldtoad]

8 hours ago, average1 said:

So sorry you and others have experienced behavior like this.  Disrespect, game playing and no shows really suck (and not in the good way) for both sides of this hobby.  I really don't understand it at all.  If this is supposed to be about having fun between consenting adults, acting like a jerk doesn't bode well while looking for a "good time" in a search for an intimate encounter.  Kindness and respect go a long way to making life more pleasant....in many areas of life.  And in our little world they should be essential ways of increasing the odds of having a mutually good time.

well said average1 - well said!

[JRWolfe]

On 8/24/2019 at 4:05 AM, RyleighCOS said:

Do guys seriously not realize that us, Providers, keep in contact with each other and have blacklists to keep us safe? Between the disrespect,  the vulgar communication,  games, and no shows.... Us girls arent stupid and want to keep each other safe. What's the point of scheduling and never following through??? Is it attention? Is it desperation?  Is it the thrill of the game? 

       The ONLY appointment that I made and did a NC/NS on was supposed to have taken place the day after my stroke.  Did call her and told her what hospital I was in , a few days later, when I was moved into a room with a phone.

Several ladies have done  a NC/NS on me.Its a two way street. Pre-stroke,I traveled on business a lot and it was some times difficult to match my schedule with the ladies. 

Those that do know me have been treated with respect. So please do not lump all of us guys together.

[Chanel Lovely-8985]

Ladies have you been experiencing this more than usually lately. I have. I thought raising my rates would get rid of the rift raft but that isn't the case. I also had someone use his friends verification account, so I have been a bit freaked out lately and really careful who I will see.

[MyraGold]

4 hours ago, Chanel Lovely-8985 said:

Ladies have you been experiencing this more than usually lately. I have. I thought raising my rates would get rid of the rift raft but that isn't the case. I also had someone use his friends verification account, so I have been a bit freaked out lately and really careful who I will see.

That is exactly how I’ve been feeling lately. Screening is hard to pass these days. Also a big F U to whoever let their buddy use their account. They should be banned. 

[gr8owl]

On 8/25/2019 at 7:37 AM, JRWolfe said:

       So please do not lump all of us guys together.

There is nothing in OP that suggests she is lumping all guys together.  I am sure she can tell and appreciate the difference. 

[gr8owl]

47 minutes ago, MyraGold said:

 Also a big F U to whoever let their buddy use their account. They should be banned. 

Not something new.  Not remotely acceptable either!  I strongly suspect that both the mods here and the folks at p411 both would take appropriate action if they are made aware of the activity and there is supporting info to the claim.  But if not reported, it will never stop.

[Mike940370]

On 8/24/2019 at 4:05 AM, RyleighCOS said:

Do guys seriously not realize that us, Providers, keep in contact with each other and have blacklists to keep us safe? Between the disrespect,  the vulgar communication,  games, and no shows.... Us girls arent stupid and want to keep each other safe. What's the point of scheduling and never following through??? Is it attention? Is it desperation?  Is it the thrill of the game? 

Some peeps think they know all the answers, maybe they are practicing psychologists,  but I do not know why people do what they do. But they do just make it harder difficult,  for the rest of us to book  (You ladies make it harder for us  after booking)

Sometims I don't know why some ladies post an ad but dont answer a text  or call

Edited August 27, 2019 by Mike940370

[Hunter VanDyke]

4 hours ago, MyraGold said:

That is exactly how I’ve been feeling lately. Screening is hard to pass these days. Also a big F U to whoever let their buddy use their account. They should be banned. 

Myra definitely report this to the mods. That sounds like a very scary situation. Ive heard other ladies say this before, but I don't have experience with it, nor would I want to. 

[boink36]

5 hours ago, gr8owl said:

There is nothing in OP that suggests she is lumping all guys together.  I am sure she can tell and appreciate the difference. 

Seriously? ...........................

"Do guys seriously not realize"

[IRsparky]

11 hours ago, Chanel Lovely-8985 said:

Ladies have you been experiencing this more than usually lately. I have. I thought raising my rates would get rid of the rift raft but that isn't the case. I also had someone use his friends verification account, so I have been a bit freaked out lately and really careful who I will see.

just a couple of thoughts here, the amount of money a guy makes and can afford to spend in no way determines if he is rif-raf or not. second, if someone decides they are going to nc/ns a lady for kicks, her rates are irrelevant.

[pfunk]

34 minutes ago, boink36 said:

Seriously? ...........................

"Do guys seriously not realize"

Doesn't say "all guys" does it? I'm smart enough to know it doesn't apply to me. I suppose there are a few good hobbyists who don't realize that. 

[Cherry aka Miya]

Ladies just lock down your screening even harder. When it's applicable blacklist them. 

[gr8owl]

1 hour ago, boink36 said:

Seriously? ...........................

"Do guys seriously not realize"

Taken in the full context it is obvious OP refers to those guys that engage in the litany of shitty behavior as listed.  If one believes that is typical or even acceptable behavior then one might see that as referring to all guys.  If on the other hand one considers the listed behaviors unacceptable and knows for a fact that many guys do not behave that way ............. then yes, seriously, I read it quite clearly as only referring to some. 

ps: it is frequently said more ladies should post here more often.  Perhaps they would be more likely to if on the rare occasion they do they are not taken to task over clear and harmless posts being spun into something they did not mean.  

[Ryann]

On 8/24/2019 at 4:05 AM, RyleighCOS said:

Do guys seriously not realize that us, Providers, keep in contact with each other and have blacklists to keep us safe? Between the disrespect,  the vulgar communication,  games, and no shows.... Us girls arent stupid and want to keep each other safe. What's the point of scheduling and never following through??? Is it attention? Is it desperation?  Is it the thrill of the game? 

They are idiots and need bitch slapped!!

never will you get a logical answer , nor will it ever NOT happen. . 

Just have to cut the loss and move on. 

Oh and  ...  Block Block Block that C*?!

[synoches]

I’ve never stood anyone up but I once wrote a review about a provider ghosting me and she sent me a message after it posted that I would be on this blacklist.

[Cherry aka Miya]

7 hours ago, synoches said:

I’ve never stood anyone up but I once wrote a review about a provider ghosting me and she sent me a message after it posted that I would be on this blacklist.

While it's true it's up to the provider basically the same way it is here except the other way around 

[Raven Layne]

On 8/24/2019 at 6:48 AM, pfunk said:

It's childish stupidity, or serial killer mindset.

They are either so juvenile that they think prank calls are funny, OR

They hate all women and think they deserve to be treated badly.

"Good guys" do not pull no call/no shows, nor do they insult escorts, and waste their time.

The people who do the things Ryleigh mentioned deserve to be blacklisted, and I'm thrilled that the ladies have that option.

Right on.

[Chanel Lovely-8985]

On 8/27/2019 at 0:57 PM, gr8owl said:

Not something new.  Not remotely acceptable either!  I strongly suspect that both the mods here and the folks at p411 both would take appropriate action if they are made aware of the activity and there is supporting info to the claim.  But if not reported, it will never stop.

Yes, it was reported and they the user has been banned. 

[Admiral C]

This frequent topic and all too frequent occurrence almost certainly stems from a mixture of reasons for you ( OP) and other ladies. Some of the historically uncovered reasons follow. Fake bookings by angry Ex. Fake bookings by angry client. Fake bookings by angry provider. Fake bookings by provider to kill "competition". Fake bookings to hurt provider from L.E.  Juvenile phone prankers. Adult phone prankers. "Book and spank it" guys. Guys who have been no-show or ghosted so they book multiples as back ups. Guys who call 1st choice...can't reach her...book second choice, then blow her off when choice number 1 calls back. Guys who chicken out. Actual, legitimate emergency reasons. There are no doubt more. With the disappearance of many boards and sites, many more guys pass this way, increasing all of the above. Add in the necessary decrease in review detail coupled with the necessary increase in screening procedures, all of the above increase again. Unfortunately, that's just the way it is in this gig now and I can't think of anything that might cause it to change.

[petey-9950]

Nice wrap up Admiral !!!!!   You hit it on the head perfectly.

[Thecoach]

I work with a lot of business across the US. Many that book appointments for their services, and they face a lot of the same problems. Bad clients, NS/NC, ride people. This is not unique to this industry. Screening and communication is key. Ladies I know it is hard but don’t let this get you down it is not a reflection on you it is a fact of business... be safe have fun. Know that there are those of us who appreciate and respect you. 

[Audrey Astor]

On 8/28/2019 at 0:37 PM, synoches said:

I’ve never stood anyone up but I once wrote a review about a provider ghosting me and she sent me a message after it posted that I would be on this blacklist.

That is ridiculous. I’m sorry 😐. This is part of the reason we do have to analyze some of these reports to determine their validity. There have been scenarios  where blacklists were used deviously.

There are only a few things I’ll list on the blacklists (rape, shorting funds, playing games making appointments). However the OP is correct in that there is back channeling for stupid shit that is not blacklist worthy.  😳

[synoches]

14 hours ago, Audrey Astor said:

That is ridiculous. I’m sorry 😐. This is part of the reason we do have to analyze some of these reports to determine their validity. There have been scenarios  where blacklists were used deviously.

There are only a few things I’ll list on the blacklists (rape, shorting funds, playing games making appointments). However the OP is correct in that there is back channeling for stupid shit that is not blacklist worthy.  😳

Thanks for the comment.  I was never really too worried about it.  I just hadn’t heard of this black listing at the time but the provider turned out to be a “here today, gone tomorrow” sort.  I wasn’t the only one who had the same experience with her, according to her reviews.  When I look at reviews here, a negative review from a reviewer who’s been around for 3 months and has written 4 reviews won’t really mean much to me, if anything.  I assume it works the same way in reverse.