FuriousWeasel

Late starting appts

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3 hours ago, Hunter VanDyke said:

 

Nice negotiating. We could have walked down a very dangerous road of relativity.

For a second there, I was beginning to think you were saying "fuck you' to ...

Never mind.

I have my boots on the ground on this side, and it sounds like you've yours on yours.

Let me be clear. I despise men who beat or abuse women. Those are not men. They're ogres. But allow me to elaborate. I am not a weak man anymore. I will not abuse anyone's kindness as long as they do not abuse mine.

As far as pfunk is concerned. I have respect for his experience. But I will never incontestably follow the will of any sage. If I were thirsty in the desert and a merchant with barrels of water plied cure for my thirst, it's still my natural predilection to ask,

"Does that camel piss come with a fizz, or did you just squeeze it out of their dung and tie a blue ribbon on the fucking bottle?"

Mostly though, we simply disagree on particulars. He does tend to piss me off from time to time. I'm willing to bet the feeling is mutual. Still, I believe he is a good man. We just disagree about 99.99999% of the time.


If you won't do me any favors, at least think about what I said by not condemning the adventurers who travel outside your world. Some of us really do walk in peace, and there are no authors of evolution, if not by humility mixed with a dash of the dangerous.

Good Night

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10 hours ago, inkspot said:

You are a better man than I am. I would have never rescheduled with someone that was habitually late then cursed me for leaving.

I used to be patient until someone who calls herself “legendary” left me standing outside her door in 5 degree weather. 

Late more than 10 minutes, I am gone..  A big thanks to those providers that are early & on time.

Ink I normally won't reschedule with a person that exhibits this type of behavior but I would see a great review pop up and she would draw me back in through conversation. So I decided to always book 2 appointments in the area that she lived, that way when she no showed, it didn't matter I was booked with another. I can tell you this much, I have no problems with her no showing or being late now. Ink I am sorry that the legendary girl left you standing, did she ever apologize or attempt to have a conversation with you afterwards?

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My experience is 2/3 of providers I have seen do not start our session on time. I have learned except this in the business.  But I don not like it. 

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11 hours ago, Vassago said:

If I’m not understanding this correctly, I apologize. I’m assuming he means she does not communicate that she’s late. Yes. Tardiness seems an habitual problem for a lot of people in general not just here. I can forgive lateness. Just please don’t leave me sitting in the fucking parking lot for 30 minutes Saturday night. I’m more than happy to postpone our meeting and grab a gin and tonic.

Yeah it's mostly communication, but early enough too is what I don't mind.  One I remember gave me about an hours notice she would need an extra half hour.  That's perfectly cool, I just kept riding for a while.  That's plenty of time for me to plan properly and I appreciate that.  

But the other scenario is, I arrive 2-3 min before, send a "I'm here" message a minute before, hear nothing back for 5 minutes, then get a "oh i need 10 min" message back while I'm sitting there going WTF.  For me, that would start things out with me in a bad mood, and that would just suck and ruin the experience.

Still I want to thank everyone for the responses here though.  It's interesting to hear what each individual considers acceptable.  I think some of the guys are a bit too forgiving, but to each their own.

My current thought is, if a provider needs to be 15 minutes late for a 10am meeting, I want to know 15 min ahead of time, so 945.  Need an hour, let me know an hour ahead at 9.  That seems reasonable.  However late you need, give me that much notice.  Sure if there's an emergency "OMG kid got hurt at school" thing I have no problems getting canceled on.   But a short wait needs a short notice, but a longer delay can cause scheduling issues on my side.

 

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2 hours ago, FuriousWeasel said:

Yeah it's mostly communication, but early enough too is what I don't mind.  One I remember gave me about an hours notice she would need an extra half hour.  That's perfectly cool, I just kept riding for a while.  That's plenty of time for me to plan properly and I appreciate that.  

But the other scenario is, I arrive 2-3 min before, send a "I'm here" message a minute before, hear nothing back for 5 minutes, then get a "oh i need 10 min" message back while I'm sitting there going WTF.  For me, that would start things out with me in a bad mood, and that would just suck and ruin the experience.

Still I want to thank everyone for the responses here though.  It's interesting to hear what each individual considers acceptable.  I think some of the guys are a bit too forgiving, but to each their own.

My current thought is, if a provider needs to be 15 minutes late for a 10am meeting, I want to know 15 min ahead of time, so 945.  Need an hour, let me know an hour ahead at 9.  That seems reasonable.  However late you need, give me that much notice.  Sure if there's an emergency "OMG kid got hurt at school" thing I have no problems getting canceled on.   But a short wait needs a short notice, but a longer delay can cause scheduling issues on my side.

 

That's what I figured you meant. Yes sir, you are NOT being unreasonable to be a little irked about being told on arrival to wait in a hotel parking lot (I'm assuming on a bike? You said ride.) for 10 minutes. In fact if you're a rider, it's like 10 times worse because you are attracting much more attention than a nerd sitting in an Audi.

My tactic is to respond with postponing the appointment by 30 minutes not 10 and grabbing a cocktail or 2 until she texts me back saying to come on over. 

... but communication is everything.

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Being late without communication is not good. If you at least say something along the lines of”sorry I am running late”( half hour or less with communication works wonders with me.) Sometimes there is horrible accidents and situations of that nature that come up in our lives. I get that totally. However, taking someone for granted is never cool as a provider or a client. It is also not acceptable behavior with other aspects in our lives. It is all about respect. I give it to my clients and to my day job. I should hope we all use tact and I am sorry if you’re experiencing trouble FW?

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15 hours ago, Vassago said:

If I’m not understanding this correctly, I apologize. I’m assuming he means she does not communicate that she’s late. Yes. Tardiness seems an habitual problem for a lot of people in general not just here. I can forgive lateness. Just please don’t leave me sitting in the fucking parking lot for 30 minutes Saturday night. I’m more than happy to postpone our meeting and grab a gin and tonic.

No, not at all what I meant.  That would be a NCNS and I would leave inside 15 minutes never to return barring some really believable story later.  I mean get there on time "give me five minutes"  Ten minutes later "almost ready, couple minutes". Ten minutes later another delay text.  The intended points were:

  • late happens more often than not (lady, not me).  It sucks.
  • for some it is a personality thing - nothing you can do about it
  • outcalls are much preferred cause I would rather wait in comfort of my living room
  • the one referred to as always late - it is like this.  would you rather she be on time and ok but nothing special, or yeah, always late but amazing sweetheart and very good time once in?  Sometimes you make exception - or I do anyway. 
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8 minutes ago, gr8owl said:

outcalls are much preferred cause I would rather wait in comfort of my living room

Not possible for me. No one is 'comfortable' in my living room. The gargoyle lamp doesn't help the situation. Regardless, good post, the personality comment in point 2 in particular. 

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Just to say though, Denver traffic is a fucking bitch now. But if I'm in a jam, I'll let you know. Clock, in that case is at appointment time, because that would be on me. 

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Fucking Dyslexia. I'm done correcting my grammar.
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18 hours ago, Vassago said:

Thank you. And honestly, hypothetically even if that was the case wtf am I going to do about it? Desperado in there like Travis Bickle?.

 

“You talking to me?”:D

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I wonder if the girls are double booking that time, and making one guy wait, or are they late for everything they do?  I am not sure how  being late works in the real world.  

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20 hours ago, Hunter VanDyke said:

Middle fingers to the pimps, and middle fingers to the guys that see providers with pimps 🖕🖕

Why don’t you share your wisdom with us how to tell if an escort is controlled by a pimp when we are perusing ads.

You sound rather shrill toward guys that see providers and may not have any idea they are controlled by a pimp.

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21 minutes ago, Raine-7379 said:

I wonder if the girls are double booking that time, and making one guy wait, or are they late for everything they do?  I am not sure how  being late works in the real world.  

It's because you're not a millennial. I don't get it either. Fashionably late ... I guess. 

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Let me rephrase that inkspot...middle fingers to the guys that knowingly see ladies who are pimped or trafficked 🖕.

My apologies for making the assumption you would understand what I meant. My bad.

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2 minutes ago, Hunter VanDyke said:

Let me rephrase that inkspot...middle fingers to the guys that knowingly see ladies who are pimped or trafficked 🖕.

My apologies for making the assumption you would understand what I meant. My bad.

👍

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13 hours ago, Savoir Faire said:

Ink I normally won't reschedule with a person that exhibits this type of behavior but I would see a great review pop up and she would draw me back in through conversation. So I decided to always book 2 appointments in the area that she lived, that way when she no showed, it didn't matter I was booked with another. I can tell you this much, I have no problems with her no showing or being late now. Ink I am sorry that the legendary girl left you standing, did she ever apologize or attempt to have a conversation with you afterwards?

No conversation or apology. No doubt she is a legend in her own mind.

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21 minutes ago, inkspot said:

No conversation or apology. No doubt she is a legend in her own mind.

Ink I understand your frustration, it seems like professionalism and prompt qualities are vanishing more and more these days. Hang in there Maverick and lets get you back up in the air........................

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Let's be honest, if hookers were on-time, etc. they wouldn't be hookers, they'd be workin' a corporate job! Lol:lol:

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Ink I normally won't reschedule with a person that exhibits this type of behavior but I would see a great review pop up and she would draw me back in through conversation. So I decided to always book 2 appointments in the area that she lived, that way when she no showed, it didn't matter I was booked with another. I can tell you this much, I have no problems with her no showing or being late now. Ink I am sorry that the legendary girl left you standing, did she ever apologize or attempt to have a conversation with you afterwards?

I am a little confused about booking two appointments in the same area. Does that mean if girl A came through you canceled with girl B last minute? or did you make a day of it and see both girls.  Hopefully, you did not cancel last minute, EVER!!

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1 hour ago, Raine-7379 said:

Ink I normally won't reschedule with a person that exhibits this type of behavior but I would see a great review pop up and she would draw me back in through conversation. So I decided to always book 2 appointments in the area that she lived, that way when she no showed, it didn't matter I was booked with another. I can tell you this much, I have no problems with her no showing or being late now. Ink I am sorry that the legendary girl left you standing, did she ever apologize or attempt to have a conversation with you afterwards?

I am a little confused about booking two appointments in the same area. Does that mean if girl A came through you canceled with girl B last minute? or did you make a day of it and see both girls.  Hopefully, you did not cancel last minute, EVER!!

Let me try to clear things up for you. Girl A the one that had me wait in the parking lot 7 to 8 times, after the second time is when I started to schedule a second girl that lived in her area, this way if she didn't respond in 5 minutes, I would text we can reschedule and I would leave. Girl A would contact me through text on different days and draw me back in with her sexy charming ways. And yes I fell for it because there was something about her. Girl A never came through until about the 8th time, so all of the other times I would sit and wait for about 2 or 5 minutes and go see Girl B. I never no showed or canceled on Girl A or B, not my style if I can help it. After I met Girl A the first time, she explained exactly why it took her so long to meet me. I haven't had any problems with Girl A since we met. And like I said earlier, she was well worth the wait and I am glad I stuck with my good feeling that I had about her. Hopefully, you are not still confused.....

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49 minutes ago, Savoir Faire said:

Let me try to clear things up for you. Girl A the one that had me wait in the parking lot 7 to 8 times, after the second time is when I started to schedule a second girl that lived in her area, this way if she didn't respond in 5 minutes, I would text we can reschedule and I would leave. Girl A would contact me through text on different days and draw me back in with her sexy charming ways. And yes I fell for it because there was something about her. Girl A never came through until about the 8th time, so all of the other times I would sit and wait for about 2 or 5 minutes and go see Girl B. I never no showed or canceled on Girl A or B, not my style if I can help it. After I met Girl A the first time, she explained exactly why it took her so long to meet me. I haven't had any problems with Girl A since we met. And like I said earlier, she was well worth the wait and I am glad I stuck with my good feeling that I had about her. Hopefully, you are not still confused.....

I don’t know about Raine, but I don’t even know whose girl A anymore. Holy shit!

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My ex-wife was late for EVERYTHING - I think it was partly due to A.D.H.D., and partly passive-aggressiveness.   The always late/wait a minute thing is, (in a lot of ways), a control issue.  Loved her dearly, but I just couldn't hang with it.

Ask yourself who's in control when it's happening....It's always the person making you wait.

I think the same might hold true for a lot of providers. 

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5 hours ago, Vassago said:

I don’t know about Raine, but I don’t even know whose girl A anymore. Holy shit!

Isn't who's on First is A. What's on Second is "B" and I don't know is on Third.

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Gentleman, know if you hedge your appointment and book two at the same time to make sure you get to see someone you will be blackballed.  You will have to choose and cancel last minute or no show.  Blackballed=blueballs. 

Maybe, you should see ladies that do not make you drive around for 30 minutes.  If you stop rewarding bad behavior, just maybe they would have to up their game and be on time.  

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15 hours ago, Vassago said:

It's because you're not a millennial. I don't get it either. Fashionably late ... I guess. 

Oh man there we (millennials) go again ruining yet another established societal norm. This time it’s punctuality! 

The interesting thing is how many keep rewarding such bad behavior and never letting others know. So I’d say little column A and little column B on this one. 

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21 minutes ago, Raine-7379 said:

Gentleman, know if you hedge your appointment and book two at the same time to make sure you get to see someone you will be blackballed.  You will have to choose and cancel last minute or no show.  Blackballed=blueballs. 

Maybe, you should see ladies that do not make you drive around for 30 minutes.  If you stop rewarding bad behavior, just maybe they would have to up their game and be on time.  

I completely agree with you and the more I think about it the more it makes me realize that maybe that is why we have no shows!!

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I'm not really a clock watcher. Sometimes I'm late. (5-10) Sometimes my guys are late. Sometimes I'm late because my guys are late. I don't get upset with my clients on time issues, as long as we're communicating, I'm good. No worries. I try give myself plenty of time between appointments. I'm on retirement time. Almost all of my appointments go over the hour, again I'm not a clockwatcher. I love spending time with my guys. I tend to attract the same type of go with the flow clients. Now, if a client is on a tight schedule, and they need a guaranteed start time, they let me know ahead of time, and I tighten up my ship for them. I know this pisses off the right on timers, and I'm an inconsiderate, unprofessional, control freak, blah, blah, blah, but this hobby is full of all types, and what I love about it is the right people seem to be drawn to each other (I have no idea how that works), and the wrong people never have to cross paths, and the earth keeps spinning. 

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One thing I almost never see in the reviews is someone saying "Great time, blah blah, but she delayed my arrival by 20 minutes."  I mean, reviews aren't really meant for you to go back and reminisce as much as let others know what the experience is like.  While you might not mind being delayed because of your own personal situation, many others aren't going to have a good time because they can only get away for 90 minutes including travel time, and even a 15 minute delay really screws things up.  You can still give a good review but set the expectation for others that have time constraints that it might not be a good match. 

I think I will try to remember to say in reviews I'll do in the future to say things like "Right at the scheduled time..." or "The start time was somewhat 'flexible' but had a great time..."

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3 hours ago, lintlizard said:

My ex-wife was late for EVERYTHING - I think it was partly due to A.D.H.D., and partly passive-aggressiveness.   The always late/wait a minute thing is, (in a lot of ways), a control issue.  Loved her dearly, but I just couldn't hang with it.

Ask yourself who's in control when it's happening....It's always the person making you wait.

I think the same might hold true for a lot of providers. 

Leave on time w/o them a few times to re-establish control. Will they be pissed? Sure!  Then you pull the “just a minute”, making them miss an appointment/concert etc.  (Or reverse the order.).  During the heated discussion to follow, point out the disrespect tardiness displays, both to you and to others (those you’re going to see).

Likely to change their ways?  Not a prayer😞

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17 minutes ago, Hunter VanDyke said:

I'm not really a clock watcher. Sometimes I'm late. (5-10) Sometimes my guys are late. Sometimes I'm late because my guys are late. I don't get upset with my clients on time issues, as long as we're communicating, I'm good. No worries. I try give myself plenty of time between appointments. I'm on retirement time. Almost all of my appointments go over the hour, again I'm not a clockwatcher. I love spending time with my guys. I tend to attract the same type of go with the flow clients. Now, if a client is on a tight schedule, and they need a guaranteed start time, they let me know ahead of time, and I tighten up my ship for them. I know this pisses off the right on timers, and I'm an inconsiderate, unprofessional, control freak, blah, blah, blah, but this hobby is full of all types, and what I love about it is the right people seem to be drawn to each other (I have no idea how that works), and the wrong people never have to cross paths, and the earth keeps spinning. 

Yeah though I see you as the kind that wouldn't just leave someone sitting outside with no communication.  You'd be up front giving enough notice of any delay.  I think that's what is required, always comes back to good communications!

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