I’m a 21 year old male who loves older women.

[NaGeed]

I am currently 21, I haven’t dated since high school. That is due to the fact it’s uncommon for older women to want a serious relationship with a younger man. I guess you could say I’m at a point where I ran out of hope that I will find someone. I’m not here to play victim or anything, just seeking advice for I can be loved. Being this depressed just because I’m not able to have connections with women my age is hard. 

[wglide2003]

I would advise you to start searching the postings and reviews for someone who strikes your fancy. You did not state the approximate age of the older women you are interested in in seeing. You may want to start out you search in the age group 25 to 30.  

One last thought is do you research.

[hornyoldtoad]

if you look smartly in these communities you may find what you are looking for - most do...

everyone out there has their thing and if you research well and reach out enough you will discover like minded people...

hobby smart and you will at the very least enjoy a lot of fantastic dates...

 

[gr8owl]

This is NOT the place to find true love (possible yes, likely, no) and it is certainly not the place to seek advice on obtaining a committed relationship!!  For romance try Tinder lol.  For satisfying the hankering for older ladies ...... there are several smokin' 30 and 40 somethings here (to some of us, the young ladies!!).  Search, find, ask politely.  Good luck.  Interesting choice of handle hehe.

[pointymoustache]

1 hour ago, gr8owl said:

This is NOT the place to find true love (possible yes, likely, no) and it is certainly not the place to seek advice on obtaining a committed relationship!!  For romance try Tinder lol.  For satisfying the hankering for older ladies ...... there are several smokin' 30 and 40 somethings here (to some of us, the young ladies!!).  Search, find, ask politely.  Good luck.  Interesting choice of handle hehe.

I must agree with gr8owl. However you can find compassionate, sympathetic escorts who will gladly sooth your longing and perhaps give you clues to finding a committed relationship. 

[Vassago]

That’s strange. When I was your age, older women hit on me constantly. Unfortunately, they were also married and highly inebriated. Girls my age wanted nothing to do with me. I’d go to an all nude strip club and flirt with the oldest stripper if I were you. If you’re lucky she’ll be broken and sad like you. She’ll ask you to bail her out of jail and buy her an attorney. You’ll do it. She’ll cheat on you constantly then get pissed when she realizes you knew exactly what she was up to and decided to retaliate. You’ll say ‘I love you’ to one another everyday and everyday you’ll wish each other dead. You’ll get divorced after 2 or 3 years of having only hallway sex with each other. 

“Fuck you!”

”No Fuuucccckk Youuuu!”

 

Love is fantastic

[fishndude57]

OP far too much drama. At your age I simply picked on all the gals I worked with, never ever went without, ever. Drama's not gonna serve you well. Good luck, you're gonna need it. 

[Alex Majors]

Use this site like a minor league. There are plenty of ladies  here who will scratch your itch or anything else you want scratched. I would say almost everyone of them here is looking only to provide a little no strings attached companionship. I am sure they can give you pointers on how to go about your search for a relationship. Check online dating sites for your best results. Best of luck to you.

[BadBoy]

Well, if you like older women, and accurately described yourself, you are in luck!  You will have no problem if you follow the correct approach.  Frankly, if you like older women, with your luck and attributes, you might as well get a rich older woman - there might be additional benefits.

I have never done this before, but I think it would work based upon experience from similar situations.  The term used by the politically incorrect for your prey is "Cougars."  Accordingly, you should ask around at work, or ask a bartender (always a good bet), heck, maybe GOOGLE, and try to find out what bars the Cougars hang out at in your local or intended hunting grounds.  After numerous inquiries, several locations should begin to crop up, those are likely prospects.  Dress sexy, walk sexy and go into the bar like you own the place, grab a seat at the bar and wait.  The thing about the bars that the Cougars hang out in, is that it is also the bar where young guys who like older women go to meet older women.  Both groups know why they are there.  OK, from this point on, I do have personal experience, but it has been a very long time:  from your seat at the bar survey the room.  There will be a mirror behind the bar, which is very helpful.  Absorb the vibe, have a drink, relax, be yourself (but the sexiest version of yourself you can muster) and be open to people who approach and converse......

YMMV

[Vassago]

You should work out every day. Transform yourself like Ralph Fiennes in Red Dragon (remake). Wear good skin cream (lmfao) . Don't break anything internally (drink a lot of fucking milk), or if you do break something, do it now, while your're young. Stare at yourself in the mirror. Take some time to masterbate, while you're staring at yourself. You Narcissistic mother fucker. Hey, welcome to the boardroom.

AT NIGHT ALONE:

Say "There is no one else like me." You do that for 4 months and you fucking mean it, you'll nail all the drunken married pussy you could ever desire. Cougar Pussy really is the best. Most of 'em 'ave kids to feed. It's the best sex ever.  You wear the skin of a Lion. You will walk like a Lion.

 

Your medical degree:

 

Shall soon be realized; except it wont

 

My grammar is terrible on it's best day,

but I don't use this vernacular;

" just seeking advice for I can be loved "

unless I'm ig'nant

 

Have a good drown. 

[Chrissy]

You are New and Wet behind the ears.. We get it, We support it most of the time...

BUUUUUTTTTT You Are 21!!!! Get Your Career,Goals together before you worry about love... Older woman LOVE a younger man that has his shyt together and knows what and where he wants to be in life....BUT YOU MUST BE A DOMINANT TYPE... Be sure your ATTRACTION to Older woman is Not Your Goal.. OR you WILL get taken for everything your inexperienced vulnerable ass has got..Us older woman eat like that. 😃.. Seriously take THAT away from a hooker board. Your feelings and bank account will get offended....This giant place of fuckery isn't for you... 

 

Edited May 13, 2019 by Chrissy

[Vassago]

This is a fantastic conversation.. 

that we're having alone in the dark right now ...

believe me, I love these 'talks'

but at at this point, 

wtf are we talking about?

[fishndude57]

[Juskiddng]

The op was seeking advise and has received some feedback on his query, however we haven't heard back from him...I'm calling bs.

[sparkey600]

On 5/11/2019 at 11:01 AM, NaGeed said:

I am currently 21, I haven’t dated since high school. That is due to the fact it’s uncommon for older women to want a serious relationship with a younger man. I guess you could say I’m at a point where I ran out of hope that I will find someone. I’m not here to play victim or anything, just seeking advice for I can be loved. Being this depressed just because I’m not able to have connections with women my age is hard. 

My advice, be polite, don't ask dumb questions. And if you are really looking for a serious relationship, I'd advise Match.com. There is many women of your age there. Good luck bud!

[sparkey600]

On 5/11/2019 at 5:14 PM, Vassago said:

That’s strange. When I was your age, older women hit on me constantly. Unfortunately, they were also married and highly inebriated. Girls my age wanted nothing to do with me. I’d go to an all nude strip club and flirt with the oldest stripper if I were you. If you’re lucky she’ll be broken and sad like you. She’ll ask you to bail her out of jail and buy her an attorney. You’ll do it. She’ll cheat on you constantly then get pissed when she realizes you knew exactly what she was up to and decided to retaliate. You’ll say ‘I love you’ to one another everyday and everyday you’ll wish each other dead. You’ll get divorced after 2 or 3 years of having only hallway sex with each other. 

“Fuck you!”

”No Fuuucccckk Youuuu!”

 

Love is fantastic

Vassago, that's some funny shit, you told him exactly NOT what to do! Ship the BS and go to the NO FU! hahaha

Nice advice, non the less!

[sparkey600]

2 hours ago, fishndude57 said:

Yikes! Living dead?

[Shad]

On 5/11/2019 at 5:14 PM, Vassago said:

That’s strange. When I was your age, older women hit on me constantly. Unfortunately, they were also married and highly inebriated. Girls my age wanted nothing to do with me. I’d go to an all nude strip club and flirt with the oldest stripper if I were you. If you’re lucky she’ll be broken and sad like you. She’ll ask you to bail her out of jail and buy her an attorney. You’ll do it. She’ll cheat on you constantly then get pissed when she realizes you knew exactly what she was up to and decided to retaliate. You’ll say ‘I love you’ to one another everyday and everyday you’ll wish each other dead. You’ll get divorced after 2 or 3 years of having only hallway sex with each other. 

“Fuck you!”

”No Fuuucccckk Youuuu!”

 

Love is fantastic

Hahaha--you just capsulized many guys realities - never ends any different!

[Admiral C]

Forget all that "love" brainwashing BS. You like older women, then you came to the right place. Do your research, then rent your Cougars by the hour (or two). I'm sure I will catch some flak for giving you this excellent advice, BUT the whole "love" thing is over-sold poppy-cock. It is a hold over from a world run by religions. Everybody changes in life and becomes someone else in time. The odds are overwhelmingly AGAINST you both changing together compatibly, assuming you ever meet in the first place. Book Cougars, build your bangin' skills and confidence, and occasionally try and scoop one up for fun in the real world. DON'T HOOK UP WITH HER "FOREVER"...(which it won't be) Now, down the road, if you decide you want kids, that's another whole deal. Give yourself a time ( for example a couple years) to meet a like minded baby-momma who is as much of what you want for your kids and yourself as you can find, and dive in. Put your Cougar renting on hold and be a married daddy...give it your best shot. Odds are you WILL end up back renting sporting ladies in time...but hell...mission accomplished. In short, rinse that love-chasing, brainwash shampoo out of your noodle...it's a false ideal invented to keep you in line as a drone. By all means, fly to those older blossoms, but to hell with the hive and hive mind. Be a solitary bee..you'll "bee" happier!  Now fly on over to the reviews and listings then give some sporting Cougar a buzz!

[Vassago]

39 minutes ago, Admiral C said:

Forget all that "love" brainwashing BS. You like older women, then you came to the right place. Do your research, then rent your Cougars by the hour (or two). I'm sure I will catch some flak for giving you this excellent advice, BUT the whole "love" thing is over-sold poppy-cock. It is a hold over from a world run by religions. Everybody changes in life and becomes someone else in time. The odds are overwhelmingly AGAINST you both changing together compatibly, assuming you ever meet in the first place. Book Cougars, build your bangin' skills and confidence, and occasionally try and scoop one up for fun in the real world. DON'T HOOK UP WITH HER "FOREVER"...(which it won't be) Now, down the road, if you decide you want kids, that's another whole deal. Give yourself a time ( for example a couple years) to meet a like minded baby-momma who is as much of what you want for your kids and yourself as you can find, and dive in. Put your Cougar renting on hold and be a married daddy...give it your best shot. Odds are you WILL end up back renting sporting ladies in time...but hell...mission accomplished. In short, rinse that love-chasing, brainwash shampoo out of your noodle...it's a false ideal invented to keep you in line as a drone. By all means, fly to those older blossoms, but to hell with the hive and hive mind. Be a solitary bee..you'll "bee" happier!  Now fly on over to the reviews and listings then give some sporting Cougar a buzz!

I'm almost inclined to agree. Except my grandparents were married for over fifty years. Those days are long gone, so in a sense, to be a modern man means to subscribe to what you're saying. With TV, Satellites, Internet, there is no more old country for folks except the extremes of Siberia or Alaska. Foxes have proven better than humans. They mate for life. Elephants are the same way. Primates, such a disappointment.  

[Vassago]

And btw, this is all conjecture at this point. OP hasn't returned. I don't even remember his handle. Guess he's either Leo or he hanged himself. Cant save them all. Still fucked.

[Vassago]

[Admiral C]

7 hours ago, Vassago said:

I don't think a level of sad and alone exists that cannot be totally fixed by a pizza, bottle of adult beverage, chocolate and a hot sporting lady.

[Vassago]

Well. You disappeared pretty quick. Thought I'd revisit this though. Here's a podcast by Bill Burr. I'm sure it will piss some people off but take it with a grain of salt. I had a very similar situation as what he's describing here. All joking aside, for anyone else out there in this type of predicament, good luck to you. Pick yourselves up.

 

[pointymoustache]

On 5/20/2019 at 2:12 PM, Admiral C said:

Forget all that "love" brainwashing BS. You like older women, then you came to the right place. Do your research, then rent your Cougars by the hour (or two). I'm sure I will catch some flak for giving you this excellent advice, BUT the whole "love" thing is over-sold poppy-cock. It is a hold over from a world run by religions. Everybody changes in life and becomes someone else in time. The odds are overwhelmingly AGAINST you both changing together compatibly, assuming you ever meet in the first place. Book Cougars, build your bangin' skills and confidence, and occasionally try and scoop one up for fun in the real world. DON'T HOOK UP WITH HER "FOREVER"...(which it won't be) Now, down the road, if you decide you want kids, that's another whole deal. Give yourself a time ( for example a couple years) to meet a like minded baby-momma who is as much of what you want for your kids and yourself as you can find, and dive in. Put your Cougar renting on hold and be a married daddy...give it your best shot. Odds are you WILL end up back renting sporting ladies in time...but hell...mission accomplished. In short, rinse that love-chasing, brainwash shampoo out of your noodle...it's a false ideal invented to keep you in line as a drone. By all means, fly to those older blossoms, but to hell with the hive and hive mind. Be a solitary bee..you'll "bee" happier!  Now fly on over to the reviews and listings then give some sporting Cougar a buzz!

Can't agree. I've been married for 53 years! Yes i hobby, but my wife quit sex awhile age. Sex is only ONE of the things in a marriage. Others are affection, companionship, friendship and just enjoying each others company. We travel together and  enjoy the world. I'm this Poster hasn't had the joy of such a relationship. Maybe it isn't too late if he changes his attitude.

[Admiral C]

9 hours ago, pointymoustache said:

Can't agree. I've been married for 53 years! Yes i hobby, but my wife quit sex awhile age. Sex is only ONE of the things in a marriage. Others are affection, companionship, friendship and just enjoying each others company. We travel together and  enjoy the world. I'm this Poster hasn't had the joy of such a relationship. Maybe it isn't too late if he changes his attitude.

You know Pointy...I'm probably going to regret this posting, that I thought long and hard about. I like you....would bet many of the ladies here also like you. I don't want any FUD warnings , suspensions, or to be seen as a judgemental bastard. However, after that lengthy disclaimer, I just can't not reply to your post. I understand that there is more to any relationship than just sex, but consider the 10 word dismissal that you employed, in red. I'm NOT going to question your love for your wife...BUT. Does she know you hobby? Is she, would she, be ok with it? Would it break her heart as a betrayal? I mean...you swept it all under the rug and justified\dismissed it in 10 words. Would she? It's real hard for me to accept that I may be wrong in my view based on lying and deceiving the one you love. You seem a fine gent Pointy, and this is really NOT intended as an attack,flame, or judgement...BUT...in many ways I see your disagreement under the circumstances, as validation.

[Picturerisque]

I'm going to respond to the OP's post...

I am not touching the post above mine with a 10, 20, or 100 foot pole...

Have you tried, getting what you want by not actively seeking what you want? Just let it come to you.

I travel, a lot. On nights where I feel like getting rowdy, I go home alone. However, it's those nights that I just go out to have a beer, and reflect on how the day went, that I go home with a little fun.

In my experience, the older a woman is, the more in tune she is with whether the hot guy at the bar is looking for trouble, or genuinely there to just chill out. 

I can't say I have ever successfully sought out a woman 10-20 years my senior. I have however been taken home by more than a handful that just slid up next to me to spark a conversation.

I'm not just talking about the bar either. I got lucky at the farmer's market once. I also managed the grocery store pick up. (If you want an in with the cute Trader Joe's cashier... Bag the damn groceries yourself and talk)... Different story though

Anyways... At 25 and even 35, I only have trouble, when I'm looking for trouble. But when I'm just doing my thing, and aware of what's going on around me... Buckle up cowboy...