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Perception

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6 minutes ago, Melissa Sterling said:

Sluts are under appreciated! I like to think of it as scientific studies. You love science...biology is a science...how each woman feels is different, come up with a good hypothesis and boom! No longer a slut, but a researcher! 

To the OP...you never know what can happen. Out of all the guys I’ve seen in 18 years, only one made me rethink life. Turns out, he’s the love of my life. Wasn’t looking for him, in fact I was married. We spent 10 mos talking long distance, building the most beautiful friendship...then I blew up my whole life and moved to NC to start my life over with my love. It’s going perfectly and we had a looooong talk about me and my line of work. He only cared if I’m safe. He doesn’t want details. As a former hobbyist, he realizes that I provide a service, it’s business and at the end of the day I come home to him. 

Heres the thing we discovered...people aren’t meant to be monogamous. It’s a lie and we end up getting hurt. We tell each other if we have a date. Of course I have the ability to make him forget his name so he isn’t looking for a date yet. But, when he does, I’ll be fine with it. It’s just sex!!!! 

Yes, biology research, all women are different, I must continue my research, so many differnces. Wonderful research though.😂😂

All joking aside, I am glad you found the love of your life and everthing is working out woderfully for you, but if I am being honest, kinda glad you are coming back, at least on a part-time basis.(more research to do)😊

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Me dating a hooker? Could never happen. 

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On 11.11.2018 at 6:48 PM, Audrey Astor said:

is single and does not want complications.

The only complication I want is the one inside my Rolex Oyster Perpetual, which I can afford because I'm not sitting in an overleveraged house, while a luxury car I stupidly "signed" a lease on is idling in my drive way, waiting to be repod. 

I never got into this whole "college debt" thing - because I paid for my education the old-fashioned way: I worked for it.And, no I didn't go to a community college; I went to an expensive school in California. 

If you're a black man with a college degree and a steady job - you'll have plenty of "sistas" trying to get with you - unfortunately, I'm not really into this whole "Housewives of Atlanta" ratchet thing. In college, you ladies were sucking the nut ouf of half the basketball team, coz they were "ballers", while leaving us guys with good grades and a career ahead of us high and dry. 

30 years later you're living in Section 8 housing with 4 kids who sucked your tits dry. 

Plenty of white girls, too, with their profiles on OkCupid that say: I'm open to dating men of all races - translation: I'm so desperate for someone to take care of me and my 3 kids, I don't really care what you look like.

Swiping left....

I'd rather pay a couple of Bennies for that college senior I got off of my craigslist ad.

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On 11/11/2018 at 6:20 PM, Audrey Astor said:

 I'm an everydayer. :D

My kind of woman😁😁

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Let’s face it fellas, at our age habits die HARD.  Finding that special someone who’ll put up with our sorry asses for 365 is a real chore. 😕

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It definitely happens, you never know when and where fate will strike you with Cupid’s arrow. 

 

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On 13.11.2018 at 7:42 PM, Laci French said:

6 kids 

 

Jesus Christ on a stick, how on earth does one end up with six kids?:confused:

Now, I'm not judging your lifestyle, but ever heard of contraception?

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16 minutes ago, 2Big said:

Jesus Christ on a stick, how on earth does one end up with six kids?:confused:

Now, I'm not judging your lifestyle, but ever heard of contraception?

Contraception is a beautiful thing...adoptions have blessed my life. 

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19 minutes ago, 2Big said:

Jesus Christ on a stick, how on earth does one end up with six kids?:confused:

Now, I'm not judging your lifestyle, but ever heard of contraception?

If you had even the slightest clue about this subject, you’d be down on your knees begging for forgiveness for your comments here.

 

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40 minutes ago, 2Big said:

Jesus Christ on a stick, how on earth does one end up with six kids?:confused:

Now, I'm not judging your lifestyle, but ever heard of contraception?

No bueno, amigo.

You stepped in it now.  How did Roy Rogers & Dale Evans end up with 12?

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49 minutes ago, Laci French said:

adoptions have blessed my life. 

Adoption is one of the most unselfish acts of kindness that I know of. And they are always a blessing. My hat is off to you.

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WOW!! 2Big. Just :(:(:(WOW!

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Hey, you never know! Some millionaires like to dress in worn out blue jeans!

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On 11/14/2018 at 3:08 PM, Laci French said:

Leave 2Big alone. I adore him!

I'm always amazed that anyone does...

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On 11/11/2018 at 8:52 PM, pfunk said:

It does happen. I loved, and lived with, an escort for about 8 years. The last two years we were together, she changed careers, and started a regular job, which she is extremely good at. We drifted apart (large age difference / career changes for us both), and she fell in love with another. (I'm very happy for her!)

Why she ever fell for me, I'll never know (not an adonis, nor wealthy)! Wonderful memories, though! :)

P, you ask why did she ever fall for you? Well now that I am reading your post, I wish you would just ask her, I would be interested in knowing what her reason was for falling for you. Maybe she fell for you because at the time you was EXACTLY what she was looking for and she saw you for who you was on the inside, not whats on the outside. Now I am about to go turn on The P Funk because every time I see your name LOL you remind me of George/Parliament/Funkadelics......

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On 11/11/2018 at 4:39 PM, BillyTheKid said:

Sometimes you just can’t win!

Gg the old saying is “A stiff dick has no conscience”

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1 hour ago, Savoir Faire said:

Now I am about to go turn on The P Funk because every time I see your name LOL you remind me of George/Parliament/Funkadelics......

Bow-wow-wow-yippie-yo-yippie-yeah!

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On 11/13/2018 at 11:29 AM, 2Big said:

The only complication I want is the one inside my Rolex Oyster Perpetual, which I can afford because I'm not sitting in an overleveraged house, while a luxury car I stupidly "signed" a lease on is idling in my drive way, waiting to be repod. 

I never got into this whole "college debt" thing - because I paid for my education the old-fashioned way: I worked for it.And, no I didn't go to a community college; I went to an expensive school in California. 

If you're a black man with a college degree and a steady job - you'll have plenty of "sistas" trying to get with you - unfortunately, I'm not really into this whole "Housewives of Atlanta" ratchet thing. In college, you ladies were sucking the nut ouf of half the basketball team, coz they were "ballers", while leaving us guys with good grades and a career ahead of us high and dry. 

30 years later you're living in Section 8 housing with 4 kids who sucked your tits dry. 

Plenty of white girls, too, with their profiles on OkCupid that say: I'm open to dating men of all races - translation: I'm so desperate for someone to take care of me and my 3 kids, I don't really care what you look like.

Swiping left....

I'd rather pay a couple of Bennies for that college senior I got off of my craigslist ad.

Good Lord, I am so blessed to have never viewed the World and it’s women as you have. 

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On 11/14/2018 at 3:59 PM, Laci French said:

Contraception is a beautiful thing...adoptions have blessed my life. 

CLASS!!!!! 🎤

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WARNING! TLDR bait!   Since clients and providers are people first, naturally they can meet dating prospects. The job CAN create a problem, but realistically, so can ANY job. Too many hours, not enough hours, wrong time hours, pay too low, too stressful..etc. Even if the job is NOT a problem, the "hobby couple" does not get a free pass on all the other endless possible reason people break up. The job aside, the hobby couple's chances are no better or worse than any other couple's chances.

Perception is exactly correct. Perception is exactly the issue. From cradle to grave, humans are conditioned ( brainwashed) to believe certain lies. " Humans are supposed to be monogamous." " A love relationship is the most important thing".  " There is someone ( soulmate) for everyone, you just have to find them".  " Love is forever."  Everything we hear, see, read, and are told repeats these. Our hormones hit and suddenly we "feel" CERTAIN these are all true. Well they are not...they are all FALSE.  Humans are not designed to be monogamous, and that's why most are not.  A love relationship is not important at all really...it's just people THINK it is. There is NOT someone for everyone, which is why they can't find them...they are not there. As for love, it is just another emotion...another feeling. Emotions certain chemicals effecting certain parts of the brain...just like drugs or alcohol. You get super pissed off...but you get over it...otherwise you would commit murder or have a stroke. You laugh hysterically at the Comedy, but get over it and avoid the asylum. You get smashed on Saturday night, but you don't stay drunk forever...it wears off. Love is no different..IT FADES!!! Why should'nt it? We PRETEND it is injected with some magical power that makes it more enduring than every single other human feeling...but that is a lie. That's why it dies. Even those tiny numbers of people who claim to have found the soulmate and claim to have been in love forever...many find it's not as great as they expected.

So why are we conditioned to lies? At this point it is a universally accepted human tradition...but who started it?  Male rulers of ancient times. They knew there was always another swinging dick out there, maybe bigger than theirs and with more money to boot. Not only did they need a moral self policing program to keep others away from their women, but there was also the issue of "order". People openly chasing each others mates leads to trouble and is counter productive. So...a set of lies had to be created to defy human nature. People had to be convinced to always chase largely impossible, unnatural ideas, BUT blame themselves for failing, NOT the ideas.

Part of this set of lies wraps love, sex and relationship all together. In fact, they are 3 completely different things altogether. Thereby hangs the tale as it pertains to we folks here. We here have learned that sex is indeed separate from the other two, and most of us also have learned that all 3 are separate. Those are necessary steps in removing the blinders about the WHOLE set of lies. In that regard, we here have a better chance of engaging with someone with our eyes open. We are more likely able to choose to take off the pretty colored visor and accept the reality that people are not monogamous, love fades, soulmates are rare or false, and relationships are not the be all and end all......Why?  Because those things are NOT human nature, and the idea that they are is LIES. Knowing that, however, is empowerment. You can CHOOSE to get involved, or not, without false expectations. You can truly enjoy each moment, knowing it is temporal. Perhaps THAT is the magic. Perhaps knowing it does not last and to thereby enjoy each moment fully while it does last might be the only way it can.

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5 hours ago, Admiral C said:

WARNING! TLDR bait!  

Gee, guess what?!? TLDR :D

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Admiral, too much to quote or edit down, but ...

Love may fade, but can be refreshed. I’ve seen too many couples married for 50+ years who still love each other.

Love can also morph from that impetuous frenzy into a deep caring which lasts until one or the other individual passes on.

But I agree with your 3 (love, sex, relationship) being separate features. Any of the 3 can stand alone.  This hobby is based on sex standing alone.  I’ve known folks who loved each other, but didn’t have the other 2.  They’re often called “star crossed lovers.”  Relationships are the most common. Most arranged marriages begin with contractual obligations, yet lead to sex for procreation as a part of those obligations.  I’ve also seen such arrangements lead to love.  I think most of us need all 3 in our lives, but not necessarily with the same person.

I also agree that couples who start w/in the hobby have the same odds, just different obstacles, as any other couple.

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On 11/10/2018 at 10:52 PM, Calisurfgirl said:

Very true, have continuously done so. Many sacrifices have been made through the rigorous matriculation attending medical school. 

I want to hear about you graduating from medical school! I know of 1 other provider who also has a PHD! I have a BA, and someone I am close to has Masters who is also a provider. Don’t let busy take you away from your goals in life! More power to you brains and beauty! 😘

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