Posted August 31, 2018 (edited) At this point the Vent...blow off steam thread has 71 responses, and the Happy thoughts thread has 34 responses. Why would people rather bitch and moan about all of the bad in the world than focus on what's good and healthy in their lives? Edited August 31, 2018 by Juskiddng 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 31, 2018 Stop bitching and moaning :-P Just kidding, of course! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 31, 2018 You're right turtle, I had not thought about it like that but my post was not focusing on the positive either...i think I may have just learned something...😳 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 31, 2018 42 minutes ago, Juskiddng said: At this point the Vent...blow off steam thread has 71 responses, and the Happy thoughts thread has 34 responses. Why would people rather bitch and moan about all of the bad in the world than focus on what's good and healthy in their lives? Was about to say, "you must be new here", but noticed you've been a member since 2015. Yes, the negativity is a downer. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 31, 2018 People do seem to Hope for the good things yet thrive on the not as good The Daily News being a perfect example. Working to keep all things positive with yourself is a full-time job but totally worth the effort have a fantastic day 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 31, 2018 1 hour ago, JRWolfe said: Was about to say, "you must be new here", but noticed you've been a member since 2015. Yes, the negativity is a downer. No I'm not new to the board but I have just recently started to be more participative in the forum...as my status states I'm "learning my way" But all in all this is a great board to be involved. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 31, 2018 2 hours ago, Juskiddng said: At this point the Vent...blow off steam thread has 71 responses, and the Happy thoughts thread has 34 responses. Why would people rather bitch and moan about all of the bad in the world than focus on what's good and healthy in their lives? I noticed the same thing 😕 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 31, 2018 There are some really sad people in this world. I survived an SO who was not happy unless something was wrong. Now I try to only hunt and gather where the happy women roam. 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 31, 2018 There is just a lot of chit-chat in the negative one as well.... Not every post is a negative one. Sad that life focuses on negativity more than positivey. I am guilty, I had one positive thing and four negative things in my post. My happiness is my family, and I try not to post those things on the board very often. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 31, 2018 While the negative helps me to appreciate the positive, I strive to stay where the light is. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 31, 2018 11 minutes ago, ironman318 said: While the negative helps me to appreciate the positive, I strive to stay where the light is. But the dark and naughty side can be so much fun 😉 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 31, 2018 One possibility is that "bitching" actually brings to light things that people might not be familiar with or be knowledgeable about. Sure, we can certainly sit around and be wide-eyed and smiley-faced and love and appreciate everything around us but where's the learning and change in behavior going to come from? You have to be willing to delve into the dirt in order to begin to fix things or change behaviors in a positive way. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 1, 2018 After i vented i felt compelled to put my phone down. Read my vent and you will understand. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 1, 2018 3 hours ago, Bravo1 said: One possibility is that "bitching" actually brings to light things that people might not be familiar with or be knowledgeable about. Sure, we can certainly sit around and be wide-eyed and smiley-faced and love and appreciate everything around us but where's the learning and change in behavior going to come from? You have to be willing to delve into the dirt in order to begin to fix things or change behaviors in a positive way. I respectfully disagree. I used to believe that too, but experience has taught me, I don't need to delve into the dirt to change. I simply need to make a decision to change and go from there. When I take myself out of the negativity, and focus on the positive things and people in my life, more positive things and people come into my life. People can change/make changes at any point in their life. It's really up us to decide if that's what we want. My experience is people don't change because they flat out don't want to change, for whatever reasons. When they do, they will. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 1, 2018 31 minutes ago, Hunter VanDyke said: I respectfully disagree. I used to believe that too, but experience has taught me, I don't need to delve into the dirt to change. I simply need to make a decision to change and go from there. When I take myself out of the negativity, and focus on the positive things and people in my life, more positive things and people come into my life. People can change/make changes at any point in their life. It's really up us to decide if that's what we want. My experience is people don't change because they flat out don't want to change, for whatever reasons. When they do, they will. Totally agree 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 1, 2018 27 minutes ago, Shutterbug said: Totally agree Shutterbug, you are definitely one of the positive people in my life. There are quite a few ladies here that appreciate you for the positive, compassionate, fun, gentleman that you are. 💙💙💙 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 1, 2018 Part of being human. While we should share good things with others more, sometimes it's a good thing just to keep the happy stuff inside for when we need it. On the other hand, the mere act of sharing frustrations with someone else can help both practically and emotionally. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 1, 2018 Totally agree Hunter. If it's too be it's up to me. Strange but true. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 1, 2018 20 hours ago, Laci French said: But the dark and naughty side can be so much fun 😉 I agree and have to remember that dark and naughty does not have to mean "negative". Dark and naughty can be exciting, mysterious and pleasing in so many wonderful ways. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 1, 2018 (edited) Positive is one thing, denial is quite another. My "cup" is simultaneously half full AND half empty. I need to accept both conditions in order to reach one reality. I ignore either at my peril. Edited September 1, 2018 by Happymon 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 2, 2018 On 8/31/2018 at 7:15 AM, Juskiddng said: At this point the Vent...blow off steam thread has 71 responses, and the Happy thoughts thread has 34 responses. Why would people rather bitch and moan about all of the bad in the world than focus on what's good and healthy in their lives? I noticed this also and felt a little sad about it. Then I closed the tab. I went outside to check on my tomato plants and pull some weeds. Then I felt happy again. 😊 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 2, 2018 On 8/31/2018 at 7:12 PM, Hunter VanDyke said: I respectfully disagree. I used to believe that too, but experience has taught me, I don't need to delve into the dirt to change. I simply need to make a decision to change and go from there. When I take myself out of the negativity, and focus on the positive things and people in my life, more positive things and people come into my life. People can change/make changes at any point in their life. It's really up us to decide if that's what we want. My experience is people don't change because they flat out don't want to change, for whatever reasons. When they do, they will. True, people who are not willing to look at themselves objectively or who never seek any sort of self-improvement will never change. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites