Ladies we have to do better

[qwekfm-8766]

There's one girl that seems to have posted 2-3 ads calling herself the "Facepaint queen" and her pictures show her with a facial in one of them. Seems like some providers are just going to be very blatant no matter what the current legal environment is like unless they are directly told off by an admin or a mod. 

[Cecilia]

15 hours ago, Bit Banger said:

One of the social groups (M&G) used the cover story at bars that we were an Internet dating group.

Works for me. We just have higher expectations for the first date. 🤗

It's it's true, this community has always reminded me so much of the swinger lifestyle. Everybody dates each other, and everybody enjoys talking about and sharing their experiences.

[Danielle Rae]

On 6/24/2018 at 7:33 AM, ilovewomen said:

TOB has never had pornographic play by play reviews.  Look at TER and ECCIE for porn movie quality reviews. ECCIE encouraged such reviews and TER required such reviews.

All reviews are approved by a mod before posting.

 

I beg to differ. Maybe they are moderated from present day forward but there are several graphic and detailed ones showing up from the past.  I don't want to get "booted" again by providing specifics but they are there.  I agree TER was certainly worse (not to mention a good percentage of reviews on that site were BS all the way around).

[ilovewomen]

On 6/26/2018 at 11:42 AM, qwekfm-8766 said:

There's one girl that seems to have posted 2-3 ads calling herself the "Facepaint queen" and her pictures show her with a facial in one of them. Seems like some providers are just going to be very blatant no matter what the current legal environment is like unless they are directly told off by an admin or a mod. 

Every time she posts that listing, flag it and report it to the mods

[Guest]

On 6/26/2018 at 2:37 PM, Cecilia said:

It's it's true, this community has always reminded me so much of the swinger lifestyle. Everybody dates each other, and everybody enjoys talking about and sharing their experiences.

Almost seems like less drama though lol. Guess it all depends on whos shoes you're in. 

[Laci French]

On 6/30/2018 at 7:17 AM, ilovewomen said:

Every time she posts that listing, flag it and report it to the mods

I always send a pm before reporting listings.  That just takes a moment and I’ve found most are happy to have you reach out.  

Saves their bacon, it shows we really are a kind community and probably helps the mods.  

 

[hornyoldtoad]

1 hour ago, Laci French said:

I always send a pm before reporting listings.  That just takes a moment and I’ve found most are happy to have you reach out.  

Saves their bacon, it shows we really are a kind community and probably helps the mods.  

 

+1!!!  A lot of times the 'completely unaware' practice is in effect.  Admittedly, i jumped on these boards and dove in without reading the rules and guidelines, and incurred a few infractions along the way that could have been avoided if someone had simply PM'd me, or i had taken the time to read the rules.

One can only hope that the PM sent that "saves their bacon" (well said Lacey) will encourage the receiver to read the guidelines and rules.

Then the questionable content stops and the community can keep on keepin' on...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Jez UaBriain]

On 6/23/2018 at 10:22 PM, Laci French said:

I understand that concern as well...Whisperer has made a decision to allow reviews to show and we need to do our part in protecting the board. 

Common sense should prevail in our listings. 

What? You mean we all use our big heads, and not our little guys and girls? What a concept.  As much as I hate to say it often brain power thinking and what attracts our guys to us are not in the same category.  So guys do have to start using there brains instead of just what their peckers think.  Because we are very limited in our advertising. This is a one sided venue. Not much can be done to change the legalities involved.🍀

Edited September 19, 2018 by Jez UaBriain

[K2dnvrfun]

Great topic, especially for a newer guy like me. I totally get the need for discretion in both ads and reviews and even upfront communication. Need to keep the community and both sides safe.

This also explains why a lot of recent reviews are pretty generic and tame and even missing description all together, though there are some out there that get pretty detailed at least in acronyms.

Having said that, as a newer person I'm curious how do you get more info on what is offered in meeting? You can't advert it, can't glean it from reviews, and can't ask in messaging so what do you do? Do you ask at meeting after things get moving, and if so what if it isn't what you are looking for, do you or can you leave, do you still make the donation or do you just bite the bullet and have the best time possible?

Newer minds want to know.

[JRWolfe]

On 6/25/2018 at 9:08 PM, Bit Banger said:

One of the social groups (M&G) used the cover story at bars that we were an Internet dating group.

Works for me. We just have higher expectations for the first date. 🤗

   Those were the good times when we knew who we were and kept to the cover story. Too bad many of the listings,reviews and PHOTOS are not as discreet.

 

[Mr.Pink]

On 6/26/2018 at 11:42 AM, qwekfm-8766 said:

There's one girl that seems to have posted 2-3 ads calling herself the "Facepaint queen" and her pictures show her with a facial in one of them. Seems like some providers are just going to be very blatant no matter what the current legal environment is like unless they are directly told off by an admin or a mod. 

Report her for what, having clam chowder on her face?  Last i checked it wasn't a violation.

Edited September 19, 2018 by Mr.Pink

[Jez UaBriain]

22 hours ago, mountainrider33 said:

If guys only thought logically with their big concur.your right. head then there'd be no lobbying, because that little head causes us to spend money on a hobby that could be spent on more important things.

I concur, however this is a post that is stating how spoiled we were when we could say more in our adds. Now to stay within the advertising guidelines- we are limited.  So maybe your peckers will have to educate yourselves about reading between the lines when it pertains to your current lady lust(s). 😼

[pfunk]

21 hours ago, K2dnvrfun said:

Having said that, as a newer person I'm curious how do you get more info on what is offered in meeting? You can't advert it, can't glean it from reviews, and can't ask in messaging so what do you do? Do you ask at meeting after things get moving, and if so what if it isn't what you are looking for, do you or can you leave, do you still make the donation or do you just bite the bullet and have the best time possible?

Newer minds want to know.

If you can't find the info you want, in her ad, reviews, on her website, or P411 listing, you're not gonna find it before booking.

Me, personally, I won't book.

If you go ahead and book someone, and they haven't lied to you, there is no excuse to leave. I think you owe the donation, and should have as much fun as possible.

[K2dnvrfun]

34 minutes ago, pfunk said:

If you can't find the info you want, in her ad, reviews, on her website, or P411 listing, you're not gonna find it before booking.

Me, personally, I won't book.

If you go ahead and book someone, and they haven't lied to you, there is no excuse to leave. I think you owe the donation, and should have as much fun as possible.

Great advice

[Laci French]

The listings are getting crazy again and it infuriates me that some ladies are placing TOB at risk. 

Ladies and gentlemen please report listings that are over the top. We really are so lucky to have this community and we must protect our safe space. 

 

[Mr.Pink]

1 hour ago, Laci French said:

The listings are getting crazy again and it infuriates me that some ladies are placing TOB at risk. 

Begs the question of why are these ads allowed to be posted to begin with?

[Laci French]

59 minutes ago, Mr.Pink said:

Begs the question of why are these ads allowed to be posted to begin with?

Anything can be posted and I’m sure the mods have lives and can’t monitor everything.  

 

[Calisurfgirl]

I love that this topic has been discussed openly, what I am about to contribute maybe genius or a mistake. But as providers we should help each other out, especially those that are new to the board. Maybe while we are listing and like most of us do when posting we see who else is listing. We can take 5 mins and read the header/title and then the description. If we see something that is or could be constituted as PM material and not publicly viewed material, we then can PM that provider and nicely help direct them to either modify or remove it so they can keep there listing up and also ensure that the site will not become a distant memory like much the other sites that were effected by the federal law. Each provider can also type in the search bar on any engine. "2018 Federal Law that shut down Backpage". I, did that and it literally outlines in laymans terms what, why, and how many adult sites we not just removed but cited.

[MeganMarie4u]

36 minutes ago, Calisurfgirl said:

I love that this topic has been discussed openly, what I am about to contribute maybe genius or a mistake. But as providers we should help each other out, especially those that are new to the board. Maybe while we are listing and like most of us do when posting we see who else is listing. We can take 5 mins and read the header/title and then the description. If we see something that is or could be constituted as PM material and not publicly viewed material, we then can PM that provider and nicely help direct them to either modify or remove it so they can keep there listing up and also ensure that the site will not become a distant memory like much the other sites that were effected by the federal law. Each provider can also type in the search bar on any engine. "2018 Federal Law that shut down Backpage". I, did that and it literally outlines in laymans terms what, why, and how many adult sites we not just removed but cited.

Mods told me once that messaging another provider starts drama.... so I just report them.... I dont have time to deal with the responses of "you dont make the rules" or "f you B, your not my boss"