Laci French

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The whole purpose of this thread is not for Gr8owl and I to argue back and forth about what has been in reviews and hasn't been in reviews.

It is about the listings need to be less descriptive, not include rates, services, verboten words and terms, etc. Otherwise risks getting shut down by the feds or LE.

And that also includes writing of reviews.  Since every review is reviewed by the mods, I am confident that they will not let anything pornographic slip through there.

As said above, we all need to report any listing that violates the terms of service of using TOB that includes rates, services (including massage), verboten words, etc.

Each lady knows what is allowed and what is not allowed in a listing.  However, maybe it can be spelled clearer to them that they cannot use specific words, phrases, etc.  Unfortunately there will always be ladies who will violate this.

I for one would be very sorry to see TOB have to shut down because of a few bad apples who can't follow the rules in place.

 

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1 hour ago, ilovewomen said:

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I for one would be very sorry to see TOB have to shut down because of a few bad apples who can't follow the rules in place.

 

Just think of the anguish our peers from TX have been going through. 

Thank you, staff!

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Seems like they have all the issues we initially had after the shutdown of bp. 

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2 hours ago, ilovewomen said:

 

 

 

Each lady knows what is allowed and what is not allowed in a listing.  However, maybe it can be spelled clearer to them that they cannot use specific words, phrases, etc.  Unfortunately there will always be ladies who will violate this.

 

 

Apparently I violated it, even as cautious as I've been. My listings have been removed and my account was suspended, but nobody can/will tell me what I wrote that was in violation. No warning, no nothing.

I don't even list services on my webpage, not even the "gfe" acronym. And I absolutely didn't post rates, duh.

So be super cautious ladies, and screenshot anything you post, for no other reason than to cya.

I'm feeling pretty damn butt hurt, and betrayed. 😢

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I would send a message asking for clarification and maybe it was by mistake?  

I’m sorry I didn’t catch it or I would have sent you a message like the 8 others I did today.😕

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1 minute ago, Laci French said:

I would send a message asking for clarification and maybe it was by mistake?  

I did but they won't tell me.

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I’m guessing services also include acronyms and those shouldn’t be used either?  Probably also extends to massage fbsm and nuru as well as listing services that one does not provide. 

Vanilla with a hint of classy and fun sprinkles😂

Be patient with mods/admin as they probably once again have their hands full trying to help us. 

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I think the new rules to reviews will keep a lot of people out of the hands of the law. In the past we did have pornographic reviews just by listing what the ladies did during the session. I for one have been guilty of that and will just be glad that the review says experienced and not a 3G. The one thing everyone can put down is YMMV and leave it at that. I am also glad that some ladies have shadowed some parts to make identifying tattoos and faces obscure so any lurkers who are LE will not know the individual. However if you just want to take butt pictures then you deprive the gent of a better view and will lose interest. All a gent has to do is look at reviews to see if there is a pattern so if one lady has a bunk of not so good reviews and one stellar review then you have to bring that one more into the light. As always this is what I am thinking and my thoughts may not be suitable for anyone but me.

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Prostitution is illegal in the United States therefore prohibited on this site. Any reference or inference of solicitation of sex in exchange for payment in any form is not allowed.

For the guys this is what we see for the reviews.  I did not find any revised posting guidelines at to what our reviews can have in them.  For the protection of everyone I have hoping things don't disappear again I have taken a new approach to reviews with a general narrative of the session with out getting into the details of adult activities. Those I put in the notes which I had to learn to do when reviews disappeared. We were definitely spoiled with full reviews so now it is more upfront work to see a lady but that is ok also. 

Ladies it is nice to have the description but yes it could make you an easier target for LE   I guess we will all have to be better with our writing skills.

 

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Maybe if we looked at this as more of a dating site than a hobby site we would all be safer. Tying the services with donations is the NO NO. 

New times people we need to just go with the flow instead of trying to swim upstream while complaining.  

Now get out there and kick ass today!  Pack an extra smile in your pocket and be happy. 

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On 6/23/2018 at 10:22 PM, Laci French said:

I’m guessing that the reviews are still needing to be approved before posting. I agree that the gentlemen need to use a discretion with what they post. 

My view - I don't think a 'play by play' is a good idea.  I DO think something like "definitely the girl in the pictures!  Was enthusiastic/fun (or was distant/not that interesting), and I will definitely repeat."

I think that's more of the type of intel that most guys want (or rather, what I want).  A simple 'yes' can still leave a wide range.  So can a 'no'.  A no could still be "she was super hot, definitely the girl in the pics, but we just didn't seem to connect".  A 'yes' could also be 'super hot but we didn't connect'.  Just my 3 rubles.

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Perhaps we can agree to say what we want to say by NOT saying it.

If you get an FBSM, then spell out wonderful things about the massage (w/o describing the happy ending). Go ahead and include setup, looks, atmosphere, etc.

If it was an FS session, describe the setup, the atmosphere, her looks, etc. w/o describing ANY services.

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3 minutes ago, Bit Banger said:

Perhaps we can agree to say what we want to say by NOT saying it.

If you get an FBSM, then spell out wonderful things about the massage (w/o describing the happy ending). Go ahead and include setup, looks, atmosphere, etc.

If it was an FS session, describe the setup, the atmosphere, her looks, etc. w/o describing ANY services.

That all sounds well and good, but then won't we have to listen to endless whining from guys who joined last week that there aren't any juicy details?

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37 minutes ago, Laci French said:

Maybe if we looked at this as more of a dating site than a hobby site we would all be safer. Tying the services with donations is the NO NO. 

New times people we need to just go with the flow instead of trying to swim upstream while complaining.  

Now get out there and kick ass today!  Pack an extra smile in your pocket and be happy. 

Nix on dating site. Last one I went to meet, the picture wasn't even close. Arrived to meet woman with Walker, oxygen bottle, and seeing eye dog. I will admit though the pup was a good looking pup. 😂😂😂😂

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12 minutes ago, comfortseeker said:

Nix on dating site. Last one I went to meet, the picture wasn't even close. Arrived to meet woman with Walker, oxygen bottle, and seeing eye dog. I will admit though the pup was a good looking pup. 😂😂😂😂

Must have been a shep😂

24 minutes ago, Bit Banger said:

Perhaps we can agree to say what we want to say by NOT saying it.

If you get an FBSM, then spell out wonderful things about the massage (w/o describing the happy ending). Go ahead and include setup, looks, atmosphere, etc.

If it was an FS session, describe the setup, the atmosphere, her looks, etc. w/o describing ANY services.

I think you men can be extremely creative in getting your points across with activities.  If others complain they can find a new site that includes everything.....oh, yeah that doesn’t exist😂

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26 minutes ago, BadBoy said:

That all sounds well and good, but then won't we have to listen to endless whining from guys who joined last week that there aren't any juicy details?

Yes, we will have to endure their whining because they don’t understand ‘the secret handshake’.  But as Laci said, let them find something better.

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1 hour ago, Laci French said:

Must have been a shep😂

How did you know? 🤔🤔🤔🤔

😂😂😂😂😂

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15 hours ago, Laci French said:

I’m guessing services also include acronyms and those shouldn’t be used either?  Probably also extends to massage fbsm and nuru as well as listing services that one does not provide. 

Vanilla with a hint of classy and fun sprinkles😂

Be patient with mods/admin as they probably once again have their hands full trying to help us. 

Only include Vanilla if you're posting a dessert recipe. Otherwise make sure your spice is defined using whole veggies. Laci is a great example.

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Regarding vanilla, well that is sort of me.  I don't need too much detail in a review other than things like great experience, friendly, and so on.  I also appreciate if the experience was bad such as someone jumped out of a closet, someone was on a cell phone the whole time, and someone was late or did not show up. Overall I am interested in a professional who enjoys her job. I don't think that requires a play by play description. As for ads, many of the Backpage ads were amusing with the over the top service descriptions, but not so amusing to the folk who shut down that venue. I appreciate the moderators but hope they can keep things in check lest someone else does that.

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With the recent freedoms to provide some description in the reviews, I want to be careful and mindful of what I write, while still being able to provide some idea of how my fantasy went, for my own memory and to supply some information to others.  My choice of words in describing my fantasy has changed, but hopefully some people can use the description to help make decisions on who they might like to see.  In a fantasy world, of course.

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Strange - at first I didn't see ad text, and then I noticed it for a split second and then it disappears.

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19 minutes ago, nevik63 said:

Strange - at first I didn't see ad text, and then I noticed it for a split second and then it disappears.

Click on the far left "eyeball" and it will come back, replacing the photos.  I think it now defaults to photos, used to default to ad.

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2 hours ago, BadBoy said:

Click on the far left "eyeball" and it will come back, replacing the photos.  I think it now defaults to photos, used to default to ad.

Thanks - not the most obvious design feature.

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11 hours ago, Laci French said:

Maybe if we looked at this as more of a dating site than a hobby site we would all be safer. Tying the services with donations is the NO NO. 

New times people we need to just go with the flow instead of trying to swim upstream while complaining.  

Now get out there and kick ass today!  Pack an extra smile in your pocket and be happy. 

wait a second.......this isn't a dating site....wt?!?!?

all along here i thought hobbying was just about 'dating' people with like minded date expectations ensuring a mutually beneficial time....

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One of the social groups (M&G) used the cover story at bars that we were an Internet dating group.

Works for me. We just have higher expectations for the first date. 🤗

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8 hours ago, average1 said:

With the recent freedoms to provide some description in the reviews, I want to be careful and mindful of what I write, while still being able to provide some idea of how my fantasy went, for my own memory and to supply some information to others.  My choice of words in describing my fantasy has changed, but hopefully some people can use the description to help make decisions on who they might like to see.  In a fantasy world, of course.

if they can't at first, in time they will...

recent history is just another chapter in hobby-darwinism that will no doubt cull the herd...

if everyone is smart and explains smartly how their dates went, people that really like this type of dating will no doubt figure a way to read shared experiences and close their eyes to see just whom they wish to ask out...

 

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My situation was resolved'ish. I still don't know what I wrote to warrant the action but my account was reinstated immediately. Approaching things like a sexy dating site is an excellent idea. We don't need to spell out the obvious, that's what Switter is for, LoL Gents, look at her website!!!

I will say this though, TheWhisperer as an entity is frazzled and stressed and still trying to keep our community alive. They/He/She put up with a lot of shit for us and they don't even get the satisfaction of a happy ending like we do!

I'm going to do what I can to help by keeping my eye on others and reminding my peers when they swerve out of line. I will also report anyone who doesn't heed the warnings because I don't want to lose what we've got going for us.

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3 minutes ago, Cecilia said:

My situation was resolved'ish. I still don't know what I wrote to warrant the action but my account was reinstated immediately. Approaching things like a sexy dating site is an excellent idea. We don't need to spell out the obvious, that's what Switter is for, LoL Gents, look at her website!!!

I will say this though, TheWhisperer as an entity is frazzled and stressed and still trying to keep our community alive. They/He/She put up with a lot of shit for us and they don't even get the satisfaction of a happy ending like we do!

I'm going to do what I can to help by keeping my eye on others and reminding my peers when they swerve out of line. I will also report anyone who doesn't heed the warnings because I don't want to lose what we've got going for us.

Bingo!

Keeping a collective eye on content to ensure this community cultivates a safe dating place is essential to its survival.  Always has been.  And recent history was really just a market correction on that front.  The content got way to loose under such a public purvue to ever hold its own outside of parts of NV and some really fun places in Europe...

And if those that get called out for jeapardizing content don't see it for the value it is, then may hobby-karma do her dirty work...

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On 6/23/2018 at 7:56 PM, Laci French said:

Full listings are so wonderful to have back and it greatly concerns me the lack of common sense in posting. 

We all need to be careful to not lose this privilege because some of you are including things that should not be included (donations/services) 

Clean it up before you ruin it for all of us!  

 

Girls try to be discreet when posting ads :)

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13 hours ago, hornyoldtoad said:

if they can't at first, in time they will...

recent history is just another chapter in hobby-darwinism that will no doubt cull the herd...

if everyone is smart and explains smartly how their dates went, people that really like this type of dating will no doubt figure a way to read shared experiences and close their eyes to see just whom they wish to ask out...

 

Hopefully, people will be able to read between the lines so we can increase the chances of having some incredible fantasies with compatible folks who enjoy the same types of activities.

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