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Help about losing the erection

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On 6/15/2018 at 4:25 PM, Lawyer said:

Last week I was having sex with one of the ladies in the hobby, everything was going well, there was connection and passion, but out of nothing I lost my erection.

So a little help please: Ladies (and/or gents) do you see this happening frequently during your appointments? What's the best way to react to this situation? What would you recommend me to do/say? 

Of course I know this is common among men my age, viagra, treatments, psychologist, etc. I'm not too worried about that part. My question is about the very moment when it happens and the action has to stop (if it ever happens again).

Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

It could be a few reasons that this has happened to you. One, you could have seen a new provider and even though there was chemistry, there is still the unknown variable. For some reason many have the misconception that men can just instantly get an erection and keep it. Throughout med school we learn that it is very much psychological for the male sex. If you had a very stressful week or day that can effect performance. Also something she (being the provider) May have said or done innocent enough could have triggered something in your subconscious. Now, health wise if you are on a particular prescribed medication, like certain antidepressants or antihistamines can reduce the ability to a have a normal libido. Age, is also a contributing factor honestly. Alcohol or other substances will effect your libido. Even more often then not the normal use of ED meds can reduce the desired effect they are prescribed for because you body builds a tolerance with most medications. So the dose would need to be increased and/or changed. I hope this helps. 

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A lot of great suggestions. 

Connection is probably the biggest thing.

Looks really dont matter that much.

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On 6/15/2018 at 5:58 PM, fishndude57 said:

.......into my one eyed spitting monkey. I

Now that just made me choke on my coffee this morning. One eyed spitting monkey. Too funny.. Thanks for the laugh fishindude.☘️

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"Looks like I am under inflated babe....Would you be so kind as to blow in the nozzle there and re-inflate?"

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This has happened a few times to me. I’m 65. Usually kissing brings it back. Or, just rolling around together. Rushing me at getting down to business too quick turns me off. Sexy conversation usually helps also. Once inside I’m fine.

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On 6/15/2018 at 5:42 PM, Lawyer said:

Thank you guys. My question is not about the medical part. I don't think I have an issue yet. It happened to me last week and that was the first time. I know I should go to the doctor if this keeps happening and I know there are many options and treatments.

It's more on eatu55 and pfunk's reply, and how to react in the moment. I'm just curious about the ladies point of view and their experience when this happens, what they recommend us to do, what they think and feel, etc.

There are many factors involved, and this happens for men over a certain age from time to time. It is nothing to stress about and don't let it ruin your good time. As a provider I never take it personally, and always look for other ways to overcome the problem or provide enjoyment in other ways. As long as you're having a good time, that's all that matters. I wrote a sex column & did sex talk radio before this hobby so nothing throws me off anymore, but any lady who's been in the game for awhile will know how to put a man at ease and still create a memorable experience when this happens.

Also as far as how to react - always communicate. Tell a lady what will help to get you back there, or to complete the experience for you on a high note.

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Lots of causes.  Emotional, stress, dehydration, medications (lots can do this, especially heart/bp/anxiety medications).  I sometimes have non-ejaculatory orgasm, which feels like an orgasm but no ejaculation.  The good thing about that is that it means I'm usually back into the action, although there is a refractory period.  

If concerned, see your physician to rule out physical causes, side effects to medications (even over the counter).  If physical causes are ruled out, then you're into the non-medical category, which means psychological/emotional.  NEITHER are bad, and there's help for all of it.  

Sometimes, it feels awesome, but no spectacular finish.  Either way, the experience is fun!

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I sometimes get the sensory overload that Melissa was describing. At that point, I need to let him sit for a bit; take a break, stretch, do something special to/for my companion.  He will come back!  With my regulars over the years it's a playful challlenge. 

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Although ED medication (Viagra, Cialis, etc.) is rarely the remedy an occasional failure to perform, it can be the cause. So can other medications, like certain types of drugs that treat hypertension, and alcohol.

Should you continue to have a problem, you can consult your doctor.

I'm 64 and I've found that a patient and kindly sex worker provides the best therapeutics for the kind of simple transient penile dysfunction that affects most men our age.

And aren't we fortunate to have so many willing and skilled practitioners here to help us when needed.

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13 hours ago, Old_Timer said:

A patient and kindly sex worker provides the best therapeutics for the kind of simple transient penile dysfunction that affects most men our age.

This should be a TOB search criteria! Let’s see, athletic brunette C landing strip ED healer. Yay, I know just the girl!

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On 6/15/2018 at 4:25 PM, Lawyer said:

Last week I was having sex with one of the ladies in the hobby, everything was going well, there was connection and passion, but out of nothing I lost my erection.

So a little help please: Ladies (and/or gents) do you see this happening frequently during your appointments? What's the best way to react to this situation? What would you recommend me to do/say? 

Of course I know this is common among men my age, viagra, treatments, psychologist, etc. I'm not too worried about that part. My question is about the very moment when it happens and the action has to stop (if it ever happens again).

Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

Musical disaster .... playing one of your favorite pieces and your organ fails

 

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