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Help about losing the erection

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Last week I was having sex with one of the ladies in the hobby, everything was going well, there was connection and passion, but out of nothing I lost my erection.

So a little help please: Ladies (and/or gents) do you see this happening frequently during your appointments? What's the best way to react to this situation? What would you recommend me to do/say? 

Of course I know this is common among men my age, viagra, treatments, psychologist, etc. I'm not too worried about that part. My question is about the very moment when it happens and the action has to stop (if it ever happens again).

Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

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I'm 61, too!

It hasn't happened very often. However, I just move on to a different activity, and keep playing. If it never recovers, I finish the appointment doing those other things I enjoy. :)

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I'm 63. Thank goodness, I've never lost my erection, but I have had dates where it just wouldn't fire. The girls I've been with take it in stride. I think that's why I prefer making sure I have a good connection. A good time will result, regardless.

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2 minutes ago, pfunk said:

I'm 61, too!

It hasn't happened very often. However, I just move on to a different activity, and keep playing. If it never recovers, I finish the appointment doing those other things I enjoy. :)

There ya go, it's not uncommon or selective. I don't have that issue, but I needed to know how to better satisfy my partner, not just me. Soooo, I talked to my physician about it. He, chuckling went on to help me. He's 65 and has penile implant. Yuk, literally an air bladder you pump up, then deflate, but they love it. Key part here is implant, you aren't implanting shit into my one eyed spitting monkey. I told him I was gonna go the Men's clinic that's advertised, wayyyy expensive. He got me a scrip for TriMix...google it. Wayyy inexpensive, and Boom. Thing for me is I don't need it yet, but damn, my staying power, and therefore my goal to better satisfy my partner...YUP. Moral of this reply, talk to your doctor, that's why they're there. 

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Thank you guys. My question is not about the medical part. I don't think I have an issue yet. It happened to me last week and that was the first time. I know I should go to the doctor if this keeps happening and I know there are many options and treatments.

It's more on eatu55 and pfunk's reply, and how to react in the moment. I'm just curious about the ladies point of view and their experience when this happens, what they recommend us to do, what they think and feel, etc.

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I'm older than dirt itself, and that has never happened to me yet (civilian or working society), but if it did, I guess we would just have to suck it up :rolleyes:

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I'm an old guy and it happens occasionally.  Luckily, as pfunk said, there are so many pleasurable activities that can still occur.  And sometimes, when those other activities are happening, something changes and I "wake up" again.

Also, for me, this deal is more than "put peg A into slot B".  That is a large part of it, but the main part is some sort of connection and having fun between consenting adults.  Which means there can be a variety of pleasures to explore.

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This is more common then we think there are lots of medication, pills, sublingules, and many other options if your plan on having some fun just prepare first...idk 

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7 hours ago, Lawyer said:

Last week I was having sex with one of the ladies in the hobby, everything was going well, there was connection and passion, but out of nothing I lost my erection.

So a little help please: Ladies (and/or gents) do you see this happening frequently during your appointments? What's the best way to react to this situation? What would you recommend me to do/say? 

Of course I know this is common among men my age, viagra, treatments, psychologist, etc. I'm not too worried about that part. My question is about the very moment when it happens and the action has to stop (if it ever happens again).

Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

My advice when you're with a beautiful woman from this site is a follows:

Laugh it off, perhaps some "watering of the vine" is needed and would be given in the best way! All of the ladies here really understand and would be more than happy to help out. If you are nervous, let them know, they will put your mind to rest so you can have a good relaxing session!

Hope this helps.

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11 hours ago, Lawyer said:

Thank you guys. My question is not about the medical part. I don't think I have an issue yet. It happened to me last week and that was the first time. I know I should go to the doctor if this keeps happening and I know there are many options and treatments.

It's more on eatu55 and pfunk's reply, and how to react in the moment. I'm just curious about the ladies point of view and their experience when this happens, what they recommend us to do, what they think and feel, etc.

It’s way more common than you think. Believe it or not this happens a lot. It’s almost like the penis gets overloaded with sensory. So me, I just tell my guy, no worries. We either talk and calm things down or change activities. Patience is key here. Also, I’d like to add that it happens most when it’s a first time visit. It’s all good, we’re professionals. 

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When things don't work one way just play another way have fun and enjoy what you're doing

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If you worry about it, anxiety will just make matters worse. Relax, go with the flow, and enjoy other pleasant activities. 

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14 hours ago, Lawyer said:

Last week I was having sex with one of the ladies in the hobby, everything was going well, there was connection and passion, but out of nothing I lost my erection.

So a little help please: Ladies (and/or gents) do you see this happening frequently during your appointments? What's the best way to react to this situation? What would you recommend me to do/say? 

Of course I know this is common among men my age, viagra, treatments, psychologist, etc. I'm not too worried about that part. My question is about the very moment when it happens and the action has to stop (if it ever happens again).

Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

My advice is to get out of your own head and share your time with a patient Lady. Focus more on having fun and the rest will follow  

 

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Dehydration can also deflect said activity. LOL :lol:  

 

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A musical disaster ........ your organ fails while playing your favorite piece. :)

 

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3 minutes ago, mustang said:

A musical disaster ........ your organ fails while playing your favorite piece. :)

 

I love this!!  

 

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It has happened to me a couple of times but only while trying a 2nd Round with not enough time in between. So I just said: "well... it was fun to try!"

As we get old musical disasters may happen. You might want to ask the lady to try on you an ancient remedy called the "Blow the Flute Method" 

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18 hours ago, mountainrider33 said:

I'm in my early forties and it's happened twice, including last night.  If I have a really bad connection with the provider then that's when it happenes but every other provider I've been with it's been at full salute the entire time and usually I'm wanting to go a second time.  Also, looks has nothing to do with it because the girl I was with last night was probably top one or two on the looks department but I couldn't connect with her at all.

20 hours ago, Lawyer said:

Last week I was having sex with one of the ladies in the hobby, everything was going well, there was connection and passion, but out of nothing I lost my erection.

So a little help please: Ladies (and/or gents) do you see this happening frequently during your appointments? What's the best way to react to this situation? What would you recommend me to do/say? 

Of course I know this is common among men my age, viagra, treatments, psychologist, etc. I'm not too worried about that part. My question is about the very moment when it happens and the action has to stop (if it ever happens again).

Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

Wow, I thought I was alone in this department... I too have recently experienced this failure myself on two different occasions with two different ladies. As mentioned, looks were not the issue and as horrible as it is to admit, I am in my thirties. 😞

I believe the ladies have said it best, you have to relax and stop any negative self talk that maybe be going on cognitively. I was unable to take this advice and excused myself after time was up in both instances. 

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Just name your dick Lazarus. Anytime that happens yell "Lazarus...cum forth!!" and that will take care of any awkwardness.

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As you age, the mind gets wiser with experiences of life, yet the body trails and falls a step behind.  As you near 100, (I didn't say how close to that I am, lol) You think back on what made a difference for me.  Hydration is an important factor and there are other things to tweak.  I find that the amount of days since last orgasm is major. Experiment with that as to how many days seems to be right for you.  Go for the experience with a bladder that is on the fuller side. (you can get those similar opinions by googling the subject)  It's fun to try to hold out for the enjoyment of the gal, but sometimes that leads to the dead end that is undesirable.  One friend that I've seen quite a number of times told me to not hold back.  Well, it does allow for more minutes of cuddle and intimate conversations then that turns out to be very fun and enjoyable.

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22 hours ago, Lawyer said:

Thank you guys. My question is not about the medical part. I don't think I have an issue yet. It happened to me last week and that was the first time. I know I should go to the doctor if this keeps happening and I know there are many options and treatments.

It's more on eatu55 and pfunk's reply, and how to react in the moment. I'm just curious about the ladies point of view and their experience when this happens, what they recommend us to do, what they think and feel, etc.

Just tell her.................. "I didn't lose my erection I think you stole it and I am expecting you to return it".  :D

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My meds can induce this problem, sometimes more than others. I haven’t figured out a pattern.  I recall telling a YL recently, “Sometimes my friend shows up for the party, sometimes not.  Don’t worry about it.  We’ll still have a good time & enjoy each other’s company.”  He didn’t show, but the YL & I got better acquainted.  Perhaps next time will be different. 

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On 6/16/2018 at 6:46 PM, PeterPrinciple said:

Check out PT 141!

Based on a Google Search.....
 
Bremelanotide is a peptide melanocortin receptor agonist which is under development by Palatin Technologies as a treatment for female sexual dysfunction.
 
 
 
 
 
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This has certainly happened to me. I think, sometimes, I get so worked up before the appointment, I actually psych myself out. It’s a funny thing. I, like the earlier post, have found that it usually only happens on the first visit. This, among other reasons, is why I much prefer being a “regular”. 

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Are you stressed out right now about anything?  I know for me, when I'm feeling super stressed I can go through periods of less rigid or quickly rigid erections.  So far with the TOB ladies regardless of what stress I'm experiencing in my life it becomes a distant concern for the hour I am meeting her.   Try reducing stress if you are dealing with that first.  Good luck

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I've lost my erection many times...but I always find it, eventually! :P

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First, THANK YOU!! for having the courage to introduce this topic. I do not have the consummate answer but the conversation is very helpful and the suggestions offered are of value to all. I am 68. Still going strong. I have had this happen. I was fortunate to be with a mature, totally professional lady one of the first times. She eased the embarrassment and stress and gently, playfully guided me to "other activities". She helped me realize the time together could still be very enjoyable for both of us. It was a lesson learned. I think perhaps Laci may have said it best  "get out of your own head"

On ‎6‎/‎15‎/‎2018 at 4:25 PM, Lawyer said:

Last week I was having sex with one of the ladies in the hobby, everything was going well, there was connection and passion, but out of nothing I lost my erection.

So a little help please: Ladies (and/or gents) do you see this happening frequently during your appointments? What's the best way to react to this situation? What would you recommend me to do/say? 

Of course I know this is common among men my age, viagra, treatments, psychologist, etc. I'm not too worried about that part. My question is about the very moment when it happens and the action has to stop (if it ever happens again).

Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

 

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