Posted June 1, 2018 I think it’s time I got some opinions because I’m confused. What’s the best way to engage to an empty dialogue? Option 1: Him: Hi Her: Hello, how are you? Him: good Her: Are you interested in booking an appointment today? Him: Yea Her: What time did you have in mind? Him: soon Her: How much time are you looking for? Him: How much is it? Her: xxxhhr, xxxhr Him: Where? Her: I’m in DTC Him: okay Option 2: Him: Hi Her: (copies and pastes) Hello, I’m in the DTC area. xxxhhr, xxxhr. I’m available from 2pm till 6pm. Him: (no response) I have the feeling I don’t get a response to option 2 because it looks like an auto message that may not even be acknowledged. But it’s far more simpler than option 1, and wasteful of time, since there is usually multiple people to respond to at any given time. Does option 2 seem too rude and mechanical? (Hint Hint) I prefer option 3, but it’s a rare occurrence. Him: Hello Raquel/VIPBLONDE I saw your ad on TOB and I was interested in meeting this afternoon for 1hr. Can you tell me your rates and location, also what time works for you? Her: (responsds accordingly) (scheduling appointment) 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 I don’t even respond to messages that just say “Hi” Do you get many successful dates with option 1? 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 10 minutes ago, Laci French said: I don’t even respond to messages that just say “Hi” Do you get many successful dates with option 1? In the past I use to not reply to messages like that, they were rare back then when more information was accessible. Now that there is very little information available for potential clients to see, they have to ask. And I understand that, I’m just trying to get opinions on the best way to go about it. I do get some success with option 1. And I’ve realized that it is so common now, that if I ignore them all I won’t get much of any business. It’s time to adjust to the changes. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 Oh thank god. I do option 3. Glad to know it’s the best option. I might even add a bitmoji so they know what I sorta look like in a cartoon form. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 The bestest way to go. Him:: Hi Her:: How are you Him:: I am good, here’s a picture of my Cock 6 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 8 minutes ago, Kaduk said: The bestest way to go. Him:: Hi Her:: How are you Him:: I am good, here’s a picture of my Cock I didn't know people still used microfilm. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 I also prefer option 3 but when it comes to option 2 theirs nothing rude about replying that way to a one word text the least a person can do is introduce themselves when texting a stranger 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 I do like option 3 and use a modified version. Mostly check her availability first and try to keep it from sounding like I'm getting a bid for getting my house painted or something. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 7 hours ago, Laci French said: I don’t even respond to messages that just say “Hi” A few of my ATFs will occasionally txt "Hi" out of the blue. I always respond. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 Ladies, Do you like this approach. Me: Hi, my name is ???, And I'm looking for a date. Her: what ever she says..." what time?" Me: what information do you need from me? I do have P411 info if you need it. Her usual response: ????..... I often will leave a message like this if she does not pick up. Ladies, Would knowing I have P411 info help you? In all the years I've been doing this hobby I've never been screened beyond her asking me about my self in conversation. Even before I was a P411 member and using BP. This might have changed now. I often don't see anyone that is not on P411 but I will if she is the type I'm looking for and she has multiple reviews. What do ladies usually ask for when screening? What information does a provider want? Her: What time you were you thinking 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 3 minutes ago, jdjd1989 said: Ladies, Do you like this approach. Me: Hi, my name is ???, And I'm looking for a date. Her: what ever she says..." what time?" Me: what information do you need from me? I do have P411 info if you need it. Her usual response: ????..... I often will leave a message like this if she does not pick up. Ladies, Would knowing I have P411 info help you? In all the years I've been doing this hobby I've never been screened beyond her asking me about my self in conversation. Even before I was a P411 member and using BP. This might have changed now. I often don't see anyone that is not on P411 but I will if she is the type I'm looking for and she has multiple reviews. What do ladies usually ask for when screening? What information does a provider want? Her: What time you were you thinking Lol super late to ask what time I do like if when a guy tells me he has p411. I’m just curious why more guys don’t initiate contact through p411first? The other day I received a text and he was wanting an hour short notice and he said he was a p411 member and to send him to he address. I text back asking him to send me a p411 request first and I never heard from him again. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 This is copied and pasted from one of my earlier posts. I try to communicate clearly, respectfully and hope for the best. It has served me well and has allowed me to meet some fantastic ladies from our community. "I completely agree. It doesn't take much more time to be polite and respectful. When inquiring to someone new to me, I usually text (if text is the preferred method), "Hi XXX my name is ZZZ. I saw your post on the board and it interested me. If you text me back, I'm happy to give you my board handle. Or if you prefer, I can PM you on the board. I look forward to hearing back from you." If I get a somewhat positive response, I offer my board handle and offer again to PM her from the board. At that time I also suggest a time, for how long and say that if this time doesn't work for her, please suggest another time. And I do say "the board", not TOB, just in case it is a wrong number (which I've had happen once....thankfully I was generic enough to get a nice reply that I must have texted a wrong number). Then I see how the conversation flows. I try to be friendly, open and polite in my texts, on the phone and in person. So far, I've met some lovely ladies and hope it continues. For me, being kind, respectful and polite is the way I try to live my life. Here in our community and everywhere else. I know I am an old guy, but for me, I've learned that being nice makes me feel better and doesn't cost anything extra except maybe a bit more time." I know everyone has their own way and preferences for communicating, and realize that what works for one person may not work for another. For me, trying to be fairly open and genuine in communicating (by text, phone or PM's on the board) makes life easier for me...and hopefully for the folks I communicate with. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 I can't imagine anything but option three. I am curious about initiating contact via PM on TOB vs texting or calling (though follow up would be through text or calling)? Email and web forms are, for me, not an option. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 8 hours ago, Kaduk said: The bestest way to go. Him:: Hi Her:: How are you Him:: I am good, here’s a picture of my Cock That’s a message I can get behind. My furry chickens need a good man in their life.😂 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 (edited) I know some ladies answer back with more information or a website address (option 2). I think that if the guy is really interested will reply back. If not, it was not worthy to try option1 or other options. I don't mind an "automatic" response with information or a website for more info. Also, personally, I don't like the question "how much is it?" might be problematic and there are more elegant and respectful ways to ask. Edited June 1, 2018 by Bora Bora 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 11 hours ago, Laci French said: I don’t even respond to messages that just say “Hi” I've learned over the years that the best way to begin any conversation, whether, via text, email, over the phone or in person is to introduce myself. I've found that in real life, and especially in the hobby it leads to a better response and more productive conversation. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 13 hours ago, Kaduk said: The bestest way to go. Him:: Hi Her:: How are you Him:: I am good, here’s a picture of my Cock I'm wondering how many people clicked on the link to the picture of your cock... I did!! LOL 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 I prefer PM till I am screened and we each have the 411 we need to make a decision. Once I see someone I'm cool texting. As far as options - lay it out in your website or your profile or your listing how you would like people to reach out to you about a date - and if people can't figure it out - let hobby Darwinism rule and tell them to enjoy the internet porn... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 24 minutes ago, Bora Bora said: I'm wondering how many people clicked on the link to the picture of your cock... I did!! LOL I did too, because I knew that whatever Kaduk linked would be entertaining. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 34 minutes ago, mountainrider33 said: I have never received a reply on TOB from a provider. I think it would work if TOB had an app that used a messenger system, so the person received the message right away and could converse like in FB messenger. If I'm introducing myself to a TOB girl, I always start with TOB PM. If her website says use email, I'll use that and ask how she prefers to communicate. Some want text, some want voice, some want email and a few start one place and land somewhere else. My approach may seem odd, but I'm almost never trying to make an appointment for the same day. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 TEXT: Me: Hey, it's BadBoy, wanna screw? Her: OMG, thank God, I have been hoping you would call for years, I can't wait to meet you. Me: I can be there in 10 minutes. Her: Can't you get here any sooner? I am all ready for you. Me: I'll try, what is the donation for an hour of your time? Her: I'm going to waive it for you, in fact, I bought a six-pack of great microbrew beer that I want to give you. Me: I'm here. Her: I'm wet. Well, that's the way it usually goes for me on a first-time date, anyway. How come the rest of you guys have so much trouble? Happy Friday 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 1 minute ago, BadBoy said: TEXT: Me: Hey, it's BadBoy, wanna screw? Her: OMG, thank God, I have been hoping you would call for years, I can't wait to meet you. Me: I can be there in 10 minutes. Her: Can't you get here any sooner? I am all ready for you. Me: I'll try, what is the donation for an hour of your time? Her: I'm going to waive it for you, in fact, I bought a six-pack of great microbrew beer that I want to give you. Me: I'm here. Her: I'm wet. Well, that's the way it usually goes for me on a first-time date, anyway. How come the rest of you guys have so much trouble? Happy Friday I just spit coffee all over my computer... 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 4 minutes ago, BadBoy said: TEXT: Me: Hey, it's BadBoy, wanna screw? Her: OMG, thank God, I have been hoping you would call for years, I can't wait to meet you. Me: I can be there in 10 minutes. Her: Can't you get here any sooner? I am all ready for you. Me: I'll try, what is the donation for an hour of your time? Her: I'm going to waive it for you, in fact, I bought a six-pack of great microbrew beer that I want to give you. Me: I'm here. Her: I'm wet. Well, that's the way it usually goes for me on a first-time date, anyway. How come the rest of you guys have so much trouble? Happy Friday The girls on the board are so lucky to have you. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 1, 2018 2 minutes ago, eatu55 said: The girls on the board are so lucky to have you. That's what they keep saying Again, Happy Friday! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 2, 2018 3 hours ago, BadBoy said: That's what they keep saying Again, Happy Friday! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 2, 2018 21 hours ago, Laci French said: I don’t even respond to messages that just say “Hi” Do you get many successful dates with option 1? I agree, I get rather irritated with the "hey" "what's up" and "sups". 😩 Also where have all the legitimate clients gone?! All day long no one can pass screening and most of them don't even try. 🤦🏼♀️ 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
