sunshinedaydream

What to do when potential clients figure out who you are in real life???

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I really need help! I received an email from a prospective client that said that he knows me in real life/ what my job is. It almost seems like he’s trying to use that against me from the first email. I’m confused and scared and not quite sure what to do! Any help would be appreciated  ❤️

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I would simply tell him it is none of his business and then block him.

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Just block him. Fucktardness is at an all time high. Sorry he is scaring you. ugh

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He’s probably full of crap and has no clue.  That is overstepping boundaries. But just in case, send him the link and block him.

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What a shitty move on his part to approach you like that. If you want or need to talk please pm me. 

 

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59 minutes ago, JRWolfe said:

To out you..is to out himself. 

Agreed.

Sucks to hear this has happened to you Sunshine. Hope things work out and get better for you!

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With any luck, he's just a tactless idiot who doesn't know how to state things properly and didn't mean anything by it. Or he could be the other kind of idiot trying to get a "bargain" by threatening you. Like others said, send him that link and block him. I once Googled an ASP's phone number and one of the first hits was a listing of members of her HOA, which showed her full name and address. I emailed her to let her know that info was out there and how easy it was to find. She just politely thanked me and we moved on. I don't even know whether she made any changes. That's none of my business. I know others who wouldn't know how to tell her without sounding threatening even if they were trying to help. Words, especially without tone of voice or body language to provide context, can be really difficult.

Best of luck

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Again this is why you do NOT have your phone under Your Real Name... You DO NOT let first timers walk you to your car or see your plates. I learned the hard way a long time ago. Block the Jerk. Sorry you have to stress over it. 

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4 hours ago, JRWolfe said:

To out you..is to out himself. 

Yeah but not everyone lives in the shadows with this. Nor does everyone “have everything to lose” should it come out they participate. So the idea of MAD is not a sound one from my perspective. 

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On 5/20/2018 at 8:19 AM, sunshinedaydream said:

I really need help! I received an email from a prospective client that said that he knows me in real life/ what my job is. It almost seems like he’s trying to use that against me from the first email. I’m confused and scared and not quite sure what to do! Any help would be appreciated  ❤️

You could take the approach of playing dumb and saying "Oh, I have that girl next door face, people mistake me for other people all the time" and just respectfully respond to him and treat him as you would another other hobbyist as long as he doesn't overstep things.  Who knows, maybe he has always been attracted to you and this would be a good connection for both of you.  If he is being creepy or hinting at outing you then don't even engage him but if he's being cool, why not let him become a client?

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1 hour ago, Bravo1 said:

Who knows, maybe he has always been attracted to you and this would be a good connection for both of you.

Aw HELL NO!!! x1000! The dude is at best being creepy, but probably pulling a power-play. No way in hell she should setup an appointment with the dip shit.

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I'm so sorry about that!! Don't engage in any further conversation with him. You don't want to be blackmailed, so accepting meeting with him in exchange for his silence is not a good idea, actually a very bad idea. And since that's not an option, then there's nothing else you can do or want to talk with him. Begging, threatening, paying (with services) or talking is only going to give him more leverage, you'll give away even more information and he'll be having fun. My advice: total silence.

There are many good ladies here that will be more than happy to give you support and advise if things get worse!

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5 hours ago, daaacz said:

... I once Googled an ASP's phone number and one of the first hits was a listing of members of her HOA, which showed her full name and address. I emailed her to let her know that info was out there and how easy it was to find. She just politely thanked me and we moved on. ...

It’s really a matter of attitude & how he presented this to her. If he’s being an ashat about it, trying to blackmailed her with the information, ignore him & pass his name on to the other girls.

But if he’s politely telling you that the information is out there for those doing their due diligence, then thank him, change your number, and move on. Like Daaacz I’ve encountered a YL’s RW info (or was it yet another alias?).  She was a little upset, but since I was being a gentleman about it she took a chance. We had a wonderful time!

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10 hours ago, daaacz said:

I once Googled an ASP's phone number and one of the first hits was a listing of members of her HOA, which showed her full name and address. I emailed her to let her know that info was out there and how easy it was to find.

It's usually possible to track someone down, but I always figure discretion is the better part of valor, and it's none of my business, so I just keep my mouth shut.

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Thanks you guys ❤️ I think I’m gonna let this one slide. Not interested in getting blackmailed and there are a few weird vibes. 

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There's an asswipe around every corner. I'll just put this out there.

There's a beautiful young lady working at a store i freauent. She is a dead reiger for a new giel  that advertises on TOB. There is no fucking way I will try to contact her in any way, shape or form. We have to be able to have self control or it all goes to shit. Respect for others is the least we can show. 

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19 hours ago, sunshinedaydream said:

Thanks you guys ❤️ I think I’m gonna let this one slide. Not interested in getting blackmailed and there are a few weird vibes. 

Smart! So very smart! There is no scenario I can think of where it wouldn't go sideways for you.

Sometimes is best to just walk away.

Stay safe Everyone!

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On 5/20/2018 at 8:19 AM, sunshinedaydream said:

I really need help! I received an email from a prospective client that said that he knows me in real life/ what my job is. It almost seems like he’s trying to use that against me from the first email. I’m confused and scared and not quite sure what to do! Any help would be appreciated  ❤️

One of my friends went through this as well. The guy actually did know her though and he wanted her pretty bad. What she did was set him up to think that he was coming to see her but another provider answered the door. She wanted to see if he was going to take the bait and surely he did. He told the other provider exactly who he was looking for and the provider lied to him and said that she stole that girl's pics because she doesn't want her identity out in the open. She also got him to admit all that he knew about the girl. He had went to school with her and ran across her pics on an ad. He became a regular with the fake provider and he never bothered my friend again because he fell for the stolen pic story.........

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To quote Frank Underwood: "I'd push him down the stairs and light his broken body on fire just to watch it burn" Make sure to post the video here :D

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There are definitely girls I know in real life that I would definitely love to see if I knew they worked as an escort, but it would depend on what the relationship is.  The fact that you show your face in your photos must mean that you accept people are going to find out what you do. It's hard to say what his motivation is just based on that little bit we heard. It does seem creepy that he says he knows you but didn't say who he himself is. If I were him I would have either said who I was and asked if you were still comfortable meeting, or just not said anything about this until we met and could talk in person. It really depends on how you know someone to know if it would be cool to meet up or not. 

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On 5/21/2018 at 8:42 PM, sunshinedaydream said:

Thanks you guys ❤️ I think I’m gonna let this one slide. Not interested in getting blackmailed and there are a few weird vibes. 

Good choice. If he bothers you again tell him you have his IP address and if he doesn’t let you alone, you will out him!

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On 5/21/2018 at 10:40 AM, Chrissy said:

Again this is why you do NOT have your phone under Your Real Name... You DO NOT let first timers walk you to your car or see your plates. I learned the hard way a long time ago. Block the Jerk. Sorry you have to stress over it. 

That’s a great point Chrissy thank you! Also remember to park away if possible. Close the garage door. Take pictures off the wall if it shows your real name. Certificates, bills, anything that could possibly be used agaist you in one form or another. These are all something i ask myself before someone new shows up. What is showing or present from my other life. Put it away if you question it? 

 

 

 

 

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This is the tactic some low lifes will resort to in order to eliminate someone who they consider to be competition, so unless your hobby email is also used for your personal emails, I would not be overly concerned if I were you...Odds are it is nothing more than that, as if someone really knew you that well they would be sending that type of email to your personal email address in order to make the point, which I assume from your post they did not....Always be cautious but dont allow that to interfere with your normal business activities until something might actually suggest it could really be something more than has been discussed here....

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On 5/21/2018 at 8:19 AM, JRWolfe said:

To out you..is to out himself. 

Best one yet

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