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2 hours ago, CountryGentleman said:

Even though this is a business, the lovely ladies in this business are still ladies and need to be treated as such.  Especially meeting someone for the first time, we as men should act like gentlemen and take the minute or so it takes to be polite and not overly curt.  A little sugar goes a long way towards helping everyone feel more at ease.

I completely agree.  It doesn't take much more time to be polite and respectful.  When inquiring to someone new to me, I usually text (if text is the preferred method), "Hi XXX my name is ZZZ.  I saw your post on the board and it interested me.  If you text me back, I'm happy to give you my board handle.  Or if you prefer, I can PM you on the board. I look forward to hearing back from you."  If I get a somewhat positive response, I offer my board handle and offer again to PM her from the board.  At that time I also suggest a time, for how long and say that if this time doesn't work for her, please suggest another time.  And I do say "the board", not TOB, just in case it is a wrong number (which I've had happen once....thankfully I was generic enough to get a nice reply that I must have texted a wrong number). Then I see how the conversation flows.  I try to be friendly, open and polite in my texts, on the phone and in person.  So far, I've met some lovely ladies and hope it continues.

For me, being kind, respectful and polite is the way I try to live my life.  Here in our community and everywhere else.  I know I am an old guy, but for me, I've learned that being nice makes me feel better and doesn't cost anything extra except maybe a bit more time.

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37 minutes ago, average1 said:

I completely agree.  It doesn't take much more time to be polite and respectful.  When inquiring to someone new to me, I usually text (if text is the preferred method), "Hi XXX my name is ZZZ.  I saw your post on the board and it interested me.  If you text me back, I'm happy to give you my board handle.  Or if you prefer, I can PM you on the board. I look forward to hearing back from you."  If I get a somewhat positive response, I offer my board handle and offer again to PM her from the board.  At that time I also suggest a time, for how long and say that if this time doesn't work for her, please suggest another time.  And I do say "the board", not TOB, just in case it is a wrong number (which I've had happen once....thankfully I was generic enough to get a nice reply that I must have texted a wrong number). Then I see how the conversation flows.  I try to be friendly, open and polite in my texts, on the phone and in person.  So far, I've met some lovely ladies and hope it continues.

For me, being kind, respectful and polite is the way I try to live my life.  Here in our community and everywhere else.  I know I am an old guy, but for me, I've learned that being nice makes me feel better and doesn't cost anything extra except maybe a bit more time.

The polite bit is key. I will say in the example from the OP there wasn’t inherently anything rude. Maybe succinct/matter of fact but not rude. I want to know if he followed up with the requested information. 

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I wish some of these ladies who advertise here would just tell us how they would like us to respond or if they want us to send a dozen roses first or just tell us how they would like us to romance them before we ask for a HH or a Q.V. sure we could tell them they are beautiful they are hot they make me hot blah blah blah, and I would have thought they have heard that dozens and dozens of times before. I would think that they would just want to get to the point. I don't think any of them are looking for the love of their life here or any other escort site

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It also helps if you don’t come across as an uneducated doofus with a cellar temperature IQ.

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17 hours ago, CountryGentleman said:

Even though this is a business, the lovely ladies in this business are still ladies and need to be treated as such.  Especially meeting someone for the first time, we as men should act like gentlemen and take the minute or so it takes to be polite and not overly curt.  A little sugar goes a long way towards helping everyone feel more at ease.

You're mighty right.

 

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Jez,

You're not the only one that this is happening to. I had a session with my ATF last weekend and she says that since the recent changes she gets 8-10 texts like that a week. And that's despite the fact that her ad has a link to her website and lists a phone number to call to find out her availability.

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Politeness goes a long way on both sides and should be returned regardless the sitaution...It is being a professional instead of colfax and as we all know that is a huge difference, well maybe not eeryboady but some might still remember the stories as I do.....It was cleaned up long ago before I was around but I still remember the stories and they usually were not all that great....We have a good thing going here and we need to protect it as there are some trying to move in here and push us out so we need to stand strong and together....We need to let them know that is not allowed in our home....Well hope everyone is having a great weekend and keep your heads up, we should have known this was going to happen and now that we are starting to see it....Its all we can do but huddle together and weather the storm that has arrived....We will be fine and people like that will get bored soon enough...

 

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On 5/20/2018 at 3:46 PM, Barbi said:

Its all we can do but huddle together and weather the storm that has arrived....We will be fine and people like that will get bored soon enough...

 

Barbi, your last line is right on target.  We will be fine.  And we will have fun if we work together as a community to weather this storm.  We are resourceful.  We are creative.  We are focused.  And.....we get horny !!  So it is to our advantage to find ways to make this work.

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This is the standard kind of text message I get. It’s like with the death of  net neutrality also came the death of all traces of Common courtesy...

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On 5/15/2018 at 7:40 AM, Kandi Apple said:

If the little ad line does not indicate how to contact her or there is no website link, you may be lurking in shallow Waters.

I try to be discreet as possible, I haven't put much of anything yet more than I like on my profiles & don't have a website. With everything going on & still learning this world it makes me nervous to post much.

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On 5/16/2018 at 10:48 AM, vipblonde said:

What’s worse is... “u free today” how am I supposed to answer that? 

If you ask me, the answer to "u free..." should always be, "I'm free, but the rent for my time is $$$/hour."

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2 hours ago, Sexy Francesca said:

Sorry but if your good your good lol! Enjoy your strengths 

(not from personal knowledge, your rep proceeds you lol) 

So does my tongue. :D

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On 5/16/2018 at 9:08 PM, Mike940370 said:

I wish some of these ladies who advertise here would just tell us how they would like us to respond or if they want us to send a dozen roses first or just tell us how they would like us to romance them before we ask for a HH or a Q.V. sure we could tell them they are beautiful they are hot they make me hot blah blah blah, and I would have thought they have heard that dozens and dozens of times before. I would think that they would just want to get to the point. I don't think any of them are looking for the love of their life here or any other escort site

Man, your attitude sucks.

You are not going to have any success getting to know the women here after displaying this kind of dumb misogyny when you contact them.

 

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On 5/15/2018 at 8:21 AM, Stephanie-5768 said:

I feel like most potential clients don't realize how off-putting "u available" is. 

That's why I always try to text, "u available, sweet lips?"

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On 5/15/2018 at 8:21 AM, Stephanie-5768 said:

I feel like most potential clients don't realize how off-putting "u available" is. 

This one drives me nuts.  If I am posting, I am available.  Things are in such a dissaray right now, can't we just go back to 2014.

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On 5/20/2018 at 3:46 PM, Barbi said:

Politeness goes a long way on both sides and should be returned regardless the sitaution...It is being a professional instead of colfax and as we all know that is a huge difference, well maybe not eeryboady but some might still remember the stories as I do.....It was cleaned up long ago before I was around but I still remember the stories and they usually were not all that great....We have a good thing going here and we need to protect it as there are some trying to move in here and push us out so we need to stand strong and together....We need to let them know that is not allowed in our home....Well hope everyone is having a great weekend and keep your heads up, we should have known this was going to happen and now that we are starting to see it....Its all we can do but huddle together and weather the storm that has arrived....We will be fine and people like that will get bored soon enough...

 

I am hoping this storm passes like a tornado.  Taking new friends is almost terrifying, and having bills to pay makes it even worse.  So thankful for the amazing friends I have made over the years.

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2 hours ago, decafnaetd said:

That's why I always try to text, "u available, sweet lips?"

I go the classy route: I spell out "you". And use "sugar tits" vs. "sweet lips".

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35 minutes ago, NoCoGeezer said:

I go the classy route: I spell out "you". And use "sugar tits" vs. "sweet lips".

I don't know how I'd be able to text shortcut "Hey baby, wanna wrestle?"

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52 minutes ago, Candice Sunset said:

 If I am posting, I am available.  

But this is often NOT the case. Robo-posts often hit a weird hours. You may already be booked for the time slot.

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On 5/15/2018 at 1:56 PM, CountryGentleman said:

Personally, I try to laugh off the communication styles of some and move on to the next.  I recently had this exchange with a provider I've been wanting to meet for quite a while...

Me (text):   Good morning! I hope your day is going well. I have been seeing your ads on TOB and wanted to know if you have a screening process that I should follow before I set up an appointment.

Her (20 hours later):  Hi

:D:D  Oh well...

Hahahaha! I can not tell you how often this has happened to me. I am like you, I try be specific and detailed. I often go further and say " would love the opportunity to meet you. 6pm on Thursday works for me but I can be flexible. I have references and I am on P411 with X amount of OK's....

HER: Hi 

Me(out loud): Oh F$%K me!

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On 5/24/2018 at 6:07 PM, decafnaetd said:

That's why I always try to text, "u available, sweet lips?"

LMAO

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On 5/23/2018 at 1:13 PM, Old_Timer said:

Man, your attitude sucks.

You are not going to have any success getting to know the women here after displaying this kind of dumb misogyny when you contact them.

 

Well you might be right but I'm really not an ogre. I think I treat all the ladies I'm with nicely and if they even resemble like they are trying to make me have a good time and enjoy them I always tip might not be a lot but just a little something to show that I appreciate it. and there are a lot of ladies who don't want me to waste their time and seem to prefer that I just get to the point of what I want and they let me know what they want, certainly no disrespect intended I need these ladies. I need to be super discreet also.

 I'm sorry ladies if I offended anyone no disrespect intended

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Not long ago I contacted a lady I had wanted to see for some time cause her Denver listing said "leaving town tomorrow".  Since she had often been in COS in the past I asked if she was perhaps returning to COS and that if so I would like to see her.  She came back with "I could come down tonight".  Unfortunately, did not expect that answer and not enough cash on hand, and let her know that.  Then I tried to send another text that said I can fix that first thing in the morning and love to see you then.  For some reason that text hung up and did not go through.  Meanwhile she semi-flames me with "why are you wasting my time if not gonna see me tonight"

Moral of story, I did not think three brief texts was wasting time and I was absolutely going to schedule for the following morning.  But after her response ...... well, not so much.  Oh, and she has still not left town weeks later lol.  Time wasting, schedule ahead or only when ready, etc. are all matters of opinion that can vary alot. (she is mighty cute, so maybe try again some day, but .........)

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"Mutual" respect would be nice.

I was in Reno and was hoping to have some extra fun. I contacted what seemed like a very nice lady and she told me she was at this hotel casino which was quite a ways from where we were staying. I told her that tomorrow is our last day in town and I would like to see that casino in I would be there between 10 and 11 AM to check to see if she was available. she said she was quite sure she would be and then I would probably have to wake her up. We got there around 10 ish I told my wife don't worry about the money just gamble as much as she wants what she loves to do and that I would probably maybe play some blackjack or I might go up to the bowling alley and bowl a few games and go out to the driving range and drive golf balls and I'll see her in a few hours somewhere. I tried to call and texted my lady and told her I was downstairs in the casino and can I see her now.

About 7 hours later when I was gassing up our rental car and left my phone in the car with my wife she text back with the room number. thank goodness I had deleted our previous texts and she did not evaporate aren't any other details. when I got in the car my wife said somebody texted you 1748. I said hmm, hope it's not important because I'm not going to tell them they have the wrong number.

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On ‎5‎/‎24‎/‎2018 at 8:49 PM, Candice Sunset said:

I am hoping this storm passes like a tornado.  Taking new friends is almost terrifying, and having bills to pay makes it even worse.  So thankful for the amazing friends I have made over the years.

Yes!  And hopefully there isn't any more damage in its wake than we have already seen.

Sad how sometimes I can forget to see both sides of the challenges these days - that the livelihood formerly supplied by a steady stream of new dates is threatened by how scary first dates are these days - and just how much the fact that life keeps happening regardless can make this even more challenging.  Please just make sure that those bills that don't go away when this livelihood is challenged take a backseat to making sure you are dating safely.  Research is always your friend.  Always!  Otherwise, much bigger prices to pay may come knocking.

Hopefully those amazing friends can refer refer refer till calmer seas lay before us.

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On 5/22/2018 at 3:12 PM, eatu55 said:

If you ask me, the answer to "u free..." should always be, "I'm free, but the rent for my time is $$$/hour."

I usually reply with, "I'm available but I'm never free." 😘

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10 hours ago, fishndude57 said:

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Never cease to amaze me 

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On 5/27/2018 at 9:54 PM, Cecilia said:

I usually reply with, "I'm available but I'm never free." 😘

I totally agree with you on that Cecilia! And I can't help but crack up a little bit whenever I get this type of text. My first instinct is to reply back with "pussy ain't free".  I don't, but it's funny being asked that when any an male that contacts us knows that pussy is a commodity that we capitalize on .. 🍀

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