Jez UaBriain

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This is a recent text message.

TEXT: Are you available (no question mark)

ME: Who is this?

TEXT: My name is _________ (name removed by me)

TEXT: Donation (again ,no question mark)

ME: I need a little more information then this _(name)_. Your asking me for classified information, and I don't have a clue as to who you might be.

TEXT: What do you need (no question mark)

TEXT: ok

ME:  References.....incall, outcall    Something about yourself....age?

That's it. How the hell am I supposed to know  if I want to see you guys based on that ? Gentlemen, it is up to you to make the ladies feel comfortable that you are indeed a good guy. And text messages such as that one (it is an actual text I received) do not make me feel anything but get my hoe-dar up.   No one wants to get busted.  I for damn sure do not need to add this to my list of accomplishments on legal paper.

:rolleyes:

 

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Be happy there wasn’t a limp noodle pic attached😂😂

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Sometimes a limp noodle is all a guy has 😂😢

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5 minutes ago, ilovewomen said:

Sometimes a limp noodle is all a guy has 😂😢

And that’s fine, just shouldn’t necessarily be captured in a pic 😂😂😂

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“Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.” 
― Albert Einstein

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Hate those kind of texts and agree you are lucky it didn't come with a photo. Ignore and move on. 

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Clearly he does not show any respect.   Ignore and move on.    The Golden Rule is profound. 

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Posted (edited)

Exactly why I only do Emails and D.M/P.M. currently in the state of things.... it has cut down on the b.s 80% ....But Buisiness has dwindled  :( 

Very Unfortunate for most ( some can afford the change, and some can't)

The good guys that haven't had a chance yet, well it is Fair to say suffering is on both sides.....

 

hopefully a change is gonna come as good Ole Sam C says :)

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It's going both ways.  I've asked what the provider needs from me and don't get a reply.  This has happened with the last two attempts with different providers.  Just like there are BP transients on the men side that don't know how to communicate, there are BP women that get weirded out if you text more than "are you available now".  There almost needs to be a sticky thread that is a required read and acknowledgement button for every person that signs up for TOB, with an outline of what/how to ask for information by men and how to reply back for women or a standard sample back and forth that is expected by both clients and providers.

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I’m the first to admit that I have gotten lazy with new providers.  I simply ask if they have references or reviews and an incall.  80% don’t respond, but I figure most are fake, scams, or worse these days.  With established providers I just shoot them an instant message.

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35 minutes ago, ynglifter69 said:

I’m the first to admit that I have gotten lazy with new providers.  I simply ask if they have references or reviews and an incall.  80% don’t respond, but I figure most are fake, scams, or worse these days.  With established providers I just shoot them an instant message.

On the flip side 

I'll be the first to admit that I have gotten lazy with the new clients. I simply ask if they have references.  80% do not, I figure most are game players and time wasters. With established clients I just respond and look forward to the rendezvous.💋

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Posted (edited)

5 hours ago, mountainrider33 said:

It's going both ways.  I've asked what the provider needs from me and don't get a reply.  This has happened with the last two attempts with different providers.  Just like there are BP transients on the men side that don't know how to communicate, there are BP women that get weirded out if you text more than "are you available now".  There almost needs to be a sticky thread that is a required read and acknowledgement button for every person that signs up for TOB, with an outline of what/how to ask for information by men and how to reply back for women or a standard sample back and forth that is expected by both clients and providers.

If the little ad line does not indicate how to contact her or there is no website link, you may be lurking in shallow Waters.

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I feel like most potential clients don't realize how off-putting "u available" is. 

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9 hours ago, Chrissy said:

Exactly why I only do Emails and D.M/P.M. currently in the state of things.... it has cut down on the b.s 80% ....But Buisiness has dwindled  :( 

Very Unfortunate for most ( some can afford the change, and some can't)

The good guys that haven't had a chance yet, well it is Fair to say suffering is on both sides.....

 

hopefully a change is gonna come as good Ole Sam C says :)

Same here. The amount of f*&^ery and frustration goes down immensely with email only.

You get less inquiries but mainly more sincere inquiries that took the time to read your ad/site (although less so in recent years) 

 

 At first i didn't have a phone link due to having a career/school (who has time to carry 2 phones and pick up with private life all the time AND try to be discreet? I don't.)

And, in the past,  phone girls were almost always main LE targets in busts as it was easy to pick up and dial.......then texting came on rampant and the "u avail?" craziness started.  

I've experimented every once in a while with the hopes that a gent would listen to my voicemail for further directions..(and feel comfort in my presentation and sugar voice) .but last experiment had 150 or so one-two word texts and zero bookings...so I dropped it and went back to the tried and true method of send me an intro and screening info in your 1st email method...    I want to look back at this venture in my life loving my male company and not feeling frustrated or jaded from bad experiences...

I don't know how some of you ladies who do texts and direct calls do it.... Hugs to you. xoxo Mel

 

 

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Thanks for bringing this up, Jez! Since our contact number is clickable, I've seen a huge increase in blind texts like, "Sup" et al ........Dont get me started on that. I can handle calls, but its too easy for a client to click and text the # in the ad, than to call. I get it. Its covert communication, but its not my preferred form of communication. But I think Melinda has it right: " I've experimented every once in a while with the hopes that a gent would listen to my voicemail for further directions..(and feel comfort in my presentation and sugar voice) .but last experiment had 150 or so one-two word texts and zero bookings...so I dropped it and went back to the tried and true method of send me an intro and screening info in your 1st email method..." I may just adopt the same from now on.

I simply dont have the time to constantly stop what Im doing, often wash paint off my hands, only to answer texts like that. Plus it is also kind of rude, imho, to assume any provider will answer a text immediately. I dont take my phone into the luv shack. I would hope you would want my undivided attention as well, if you were my client. 

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Personally, I try to laugh off the communication styles of some and move on to the next.  I recently had this exchange with a provider I've been wanting to meet for quite a while...

Me (text):   Good morning! I hope your day is going well. I have been seeing your ads on TOB and wanted to know if you have a screening process that I should follow before I set up an appointment.

Her (20 hours later):  Hi

:D:D  Oh well...

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I know, for me, until I turned 60, I mostly thought with my dick. I suspect that's the case with many, many, many prospective clients. 

Eventually, they'll figure it out, if a provider doesn't kill them first. :D

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On 5/14/2018 at 2:54 PM, Jez UaBriain said:

This is a recent text message.

TEXT: Are you available (no question mark)

ME: Who is this?

TEXT: My name is _________ (name removed by me)

TEXT: Donation (again ,no question mark)

ME: I need a little more information then this _(name)_. Your asking me for classified information, and I don't have a clue as to who you might be.

TEXT: What do you need (no question mark)

TEXT: ok

ME:  References.....incall, outcall    Something about yourself....age?

That's it. How the hell am I supposed to know  if I want to see you guys based on that ? Gentlemen, it is up to you to make the ladies feel comfortable that you are indeed a good guy. And text messages such as that one (it is an actual text I received) do not make me feel anything but get my hoe-dar up.   No one wants to get busted.  I for damn sure do not need to add this to my list of accomplishments on legal paper.

:rolleyes:

 

I got a text a few days ago that said "Hey, when are you gonna come lick my kitty again". when are women going to realize that some guys are more than just a tongue? :D

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23 minutes ago, boink36 said:

I got a text a few days ago that said "Hey, when are you gonna come lick my kitty again". when are women going to realize that some guys are more than just a tongue? :D

Sorry, my inappropriateness is showing:D:D

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10 minutes ago, Laci French said:

Sorry, my inappropriateness is showing:D:D

I didn't say it was inappropriate. it just makes me feel so cheap and used and then I get horny. :D

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I love the way you put that cape on and do the double back flip and "stick" the landing.  Truth is I'm in it for the fishing holes.  I will crack you!

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Posted (edited)

Most of the women I contact in this sport, or hobby as most here like to call it,  know what they want and they pretty much know what I want. Most don't like ongoing texting like as if it was a dating site and me trying to romance them. But I'm sure there are different strokes for different folks.

if I text, I like to start with HI, hello, good morning or something like that, then send it, then maybe say I saw their ad and they look  great, pretty, hot  or something like that and ask what part of town they are in.

That way I can delete any part I don't want to risk some one else seeing, but still keep their phone #.

I don't have much luck on this site, but I have no problems on other sites, well except , like every thing else, I have to stay in my budget.

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On 5/15/2018 at 8:21 AM, Stephanie-5768 said:

I feel like most potential clients don't realize how off-putting "u available" is. 

Lol makes me want to tear out my hair and run screaming into the night 😅

 

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On 5/15/2018 at 8:21 AM, Stephanie-5768 said:

I feel like most potential clients don't realize how off-putting "u available" is. 

What’s worse is... “u free today” how am I supposed to answer that? 

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59 minutes ago, vipblonde said:

What’s worse is... “u free today” how am I supposed to answer that? 

For you honey, I’m completely free.   In fact, why don’t I just give you my home address and you can stop by any time you feel like it!

 

or...  you could just block his number 

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16 hours ago, boink36 said:

I got a text a few days ago that said "Hey, when are you gonna come lick my kitty again". when are women going to realize that some guys are more than just a tongue? :D

I know! Happens to me all the time and I’m tired of being used for my body! I have a high school degree you know!

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On 5/14/2018 at 2:54 PM, Jez UaBriain said:

This is a recent text message.

TEXT: Are you available (no question mark)

ME: Who is this?

TEXT: My name is _________ (name removed by me)

TEXT: Donation (again ,no question mark)

ME: I need a little more information then this _(name)_. Your asking me for classified information, and I don't have a clue as to who you might be.

TEXT: What do you need (no question mark)

TEXT: ok

ME:  References.....incall, outcall    Something about yourself....age?

That's it. How the hell am I supposed to know  if I want to see you guys based on that ? Gentlemen, it is up to you to make the ladies feel comfortable that you are indeed a good guy. And text messages such as that one (it is an actual text I received) do not make me feel anything but get my hoe-dar up.   No one wants to get busted.  I for damn sure do not need to add this to my list of accomplishments on legal paper.

:rolleyes:

 

Well, he should put a question mark. 

I usually don't offer my name, and no wpman who had an ad on a escort site ever asked me,  but I guess he answered.

Without mentioning money he asked how much donation you would like to see him. 

If you  would like to get to know him a little better, why can't you just ask specific questions. If that's important to you and he does'nt give it , just say no or good bye.

I don't get it,  it's the lady who posts the ad on an escort site,  the guy responds to the ad,  it's obvious what he wants,  it's obvious what she wants but unless posted we don't know how much and we don't know if she is available unless we ask.

I mean, for sure,  he could have been a little more personable but he was just getting to the point without wasting her time, IMO of course

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There will always be different strokes for different folks.

Not every lady is going to like certain language, or lack of question marks...but on the flip side, he did reach out.

Good, bad, or indifferent, no one style will fit the bill.

Given this, however, it helps to know what some ladies think and prefer. 

So if a lady has no site, and very limited details, how do you all prefer to discuss terms?  Is asking about the donation a bad move?  Is asking what part of Denver, or say main cross streets, a bad move too?   Denver is a big place and knowing that as well as other information allows one to make a decision to forge ahead or say thanks and move on.

Don't know if you don't ask.

Can't win if you don't play.

 

 

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Even though this is a business, the lovely ladies in this business are still ladies and need to be treated as such.  Especially meeting someone for the first time, we as men should act like gentlemen and take the minute or so it takes to be polite and not overly curt.  A little sugar goes a long way towards helping everyone feel more at ease.

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10 minutes ago, CountryGentleman said:

Even though this is a business, the lovely ladies in this business are still ladies and need to be treated as such.  Especially meeting someone for the first time, we as men should act like gentlemen and take the minute or so it takes to be polite and not overly curt.  A little sugar goes a long way towards helping everyone feel more at ease.

Always a good thing to do well said

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