Sexy Francesca

Real world dating as an adult

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I know some of you guys are not single but for those of you who are is it just me or is dating in the New Technology Age ridiculous!!! 

Its seems crazy hard to connect with someone but if you happen to overcome that obstacle, keeping them interested as well as keeping myself interested is so freaking difficult!! Maybe it’s just me.. 

Any advice from Funland participants??

Xoxo 

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7 minutes ago, Sexy Francesca said:

I know some of you guys are not single but for those of you who are is it just me or is dating in the New Technology Age ridiculous!!! 

Its seems crazy hard to connect with someone but if you happen to overcome that obstacle, keeping them interested as well as keeping myself interested is so freaking difficult!! Maybe it’s just me.. 

Any advice from Funland participants??

Xoxo 

It's not just you! No advice though I gave up long ago. 

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I don't know what to say, but POF led me to some dates I enjoyed.

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16 minutes ago, Sexy Francesca said:

I know some of you guys are not single but for those of you who are is it just me or is dating in the New Technology Age ridiculous!!! 

Ummmm...Sorry, but do you fish? I know, my stoopid handle, but when the Ladies I fish with, might not ever see, but hey, moments of conversation, silence, and way different than a session. I guess I'm Old Technology Age. 

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Finding someone that you can converse with have a good time laugh and smile and do fun things is very difficult seems they don't grow on trees😁😁😁

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1 hour ago, airamericavet65 said:

Finding someone that you can converse with have a good time laugh and smile and do fun things is very difficult seems they don't grow on trees😁😁😁

So true 😊

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I've been single for a couple of years. I've met people on Tinder, and the website Ourtime. I suspect I'd have to go on many, many dates, to find someone who would be a romantic match. I've met many women I like, and admire, but I don't have romantic feelings for. 

I may have become too cynical, and, frankly, lazy. I don't know if I have the drive, anymore, to try very hard.

 

 

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I've tried Match.com, POF, Tinder, and Fetlife.....  

For me, building the intimacy that happens in a matter of minutes with an ASP seems like it takes light years to get to in the real world dating game....  I'm with Pfunk - I'm lazy and I've lost my drive to keep trying to cultivate interest by ladies I'm attracted to....

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I actually still go out to meet people. I meet people at bars, concerts, galleries, car shows and even just out and about running errands.. I know it's old school, but it works and less drama!!!  Tinder who?? 😁

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I'm single, and I honestly have no desire to meet gentlemen outside of this hobby. I get all of my needs met that I need from any man, with the gentlemen I meet in this hobby, or my male family and friends. All other needs I have, I like to meet myself, or with other women in my life. I'm a little bit of a weirdo though. Lol. Good luck to all of you folks navigating this single world or online dating world. I just can't do it. I have a a few close single friends who I've helped with profiles on the dating sites, or are out there doing the deal. Man, I have so much respect for y'all. It takes some balls to put yourself out there for the masses...that's for sure. Things are so different from when I was younger. I wish you the best on this journey, sweet Francesca. It's an adventure for sure. I hope you enjoy the ride, and find the fun and humor throughout the process...and find your prince charming. 💘

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46 minutes ago, Laci French said:

Doesn’t love happen an hour at a time?😂

That's what I'm thinking! 🤣

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I love to travel, seeing new sights around the country, around the world. However, I dislike traveling alone. You’re surrounded by strangers all day, if you interact with people at all. If something happens, who has your back?  It’s nice to have someone to share the adventure.  But-civilians in the age bracket I seek have a difficult time getting away from home for weeks at a time (so do some escorts).

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21 hours ago, Sexy Francesca said:

I know some of you guys are not single but for those of you who are is it just me or is dating in the New Technology Age ridiculous!!! 

Its seems crazy hard to connect with someone but if you happen to overcome that obstacle, keeping them interested as well as keeping myself interested is so freaking difficult!! Maybe it’s just me.. 

Any advice from Funland participants??

Xoxo 

Love will find you when you least expect it to appear in your life. It will happen right on time.  Enjoy the journey and may you escape all the idiots.😉

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15 hours ago, Hunter VanDyke said:

I'm single, and I honestly have no desire to meet gentlemen outside of this hobby. I get all of my needs met that I need from any man, with the gentlemen I meet in this hobby, or my male family and friends. All other needs I have, I like to meet myself, or with other women in my life. I'm a little bit of a weirdo though. Lol. Good luck to all of you folks navigating this single world or online dating world. I just can't do it. I have a a few close single friends who I've helped with profiles on the dating sites, or are out there doing the deal. Man, I have so much respect for y'all. It takes some balls to put yourself out there for the masses...that's for sure. Things are so different from when I was younger. I wish you the best on this journey, sweet Francesca. It's an adventure for sure. I hope you enjoy the ride, and find the fun and humor throughout the process...and find your prince charming. 💘

❤️ You xoxo

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Posted (edited)

Sometimes even faster! Like a half hour!:cool:

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1 minute ago, a_happycamper_12 said:

Sometimes even faster! Like a half hour!:cool:

Yes, love can be made in a hhr. Lol. 😍

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I'll tell you what I tell my kids: you won't be happy with anyone else until you're happy with yourself. I tell them to get their shit together first, then they have more of themselves to share with another. I'm not assuming you're screwed up, but maybe you are stressed or distracted. That doesn't help to grow a friendship or to promote intimacy.

I haven't dated in decades, so take this as you will. In my personal relationships, at least, technology doesn't make a difference. It's all about my own mindset and ability (or lack thereof) to interact with those around me.

Good luck.

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I've been finding TOB members so much more respectful of me and my time than anyone I've ever met on tinder, or the like. Most men on tinder seem to be looking for a free outcall or a free unicorn.  <_<

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On ‎3‎/‎12‎/‎2018 at 4:08 PM, Hunter VanDyke said:

Yes, love can be made in a hhr. Lol. 😍

How about in a QV? :rolleyes:

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2 minutes ago, BadBoy said:

How about in a QV? :rolleyes:

Nope. No love or connection can be made in a q.v.. There might be others, But Not I. 😜

 

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This love thing is a touchy area . I can really love someone but can go out and F..k another women ?????

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I think it's symptomatic of our society.  We are are a right now culture that moves from shiny object to shiny object.  As soon as a new shiny object comes up we move on.  It may not be any shinier than our current object but its new.  Conversations happen in characters now rather than paragraphs.  People just don't take the time to just be anymore.  The things that used to work don't because people do not get together anymore, they just text and Facebook each other.  
/rant

I think what I have seen work the best is meetup.  However, my observation is based mostly on outdoor type people that meetup to hike, bike, or ski.

 

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I'll have a lash. If you are looking for a husband\father to children, don't look here. Use whatever you determine is the most serious site to meet serious family builders. Children deserve that and more. On the other hand, if kids are NOT part of this equation, my advice is to not bother. Forever love, soulmates, together for life....all of that stuff is fairy tales made into expected goals with the purpose of keeping order in society. Overcome the false, implanted obsession with finding "the one" and with each passing day, a person becomes more happy to be solo. There's a good chance part of the reason you struggle to maintain interest is that part of you understands it is a bad idea. This job will provide physical, financial, and some friendship ....,believe me, that is all you need. Children aside, the quest for love cause WAY more problems and heartache than happiness. It might still be worth the effort IF it was not based on the ILLUSIONS of monogamy and forever...neither of which are NATURAL for humans....which is the real reason it almost always fails. 

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11 minutes ago, Admiral C said:

I'll have a lash. If you are looking for a husband\father to children, don't look here. Use whatever you determine is the most serious site to meet serious family builders. Children deserve that and more. On the other hand, if kids are NOT part of this equation, my advice is to not bother. Forever love, soulmates, together for life....all of that stuff is fairy tales made into expected goals with the purpose of keeping order in society. Overcome the false, implanted obsession with finding "the one" and with each passing day, a person becomes more happy to be solo. There's a good chance part of the reason you struggle to maintain interest is that part of you understands it is a bad idea. This job will provide physical, financial, and some friendship ....,believe me, that is all you need. Children aside, the quest for love cause WAY more problems and heartache than happiness. It might still be worth the effort IF it was not based on the ILLUSIONS of monogamy and forever...neither of which are NATURAL for humans....which is the real reason it almost always fails. 

I disagree. The fairytale is reality for many. 

Just don’t bring your baggage from the past moving forward and keep hope alive!

 

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5 hours ago, Laci French said:

I disagree. The fairytale is reality for many. 

Just don’t bring your baggage from the past moving forward and keep hope alive!

 

The one thing that keeps hope alive is maintaining an erection after 50. :D

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Hello All !

I just happen to see what's going? Interesting question Francesca asked. Me: I'm over 65, fit, employed and my age has become my disadvantage. I tried the major singles websites, attended their events. And it seemed like some are looking for the unicorn. 

I try CL and occasionally meet women. Here's where it get's iffy, some want to talk politics. Some after a couple of dates or weeks later. Profess their disdain for people of color. 

What I did find was Meetup.com  years ago in the SF Bay Area. It's a great way to meet people, type in your zipcode and interests. Press enter, and hundreds of groups to check out.

Some do bar crawling, or happy hours. I'm okay with the occasional happy hour with a friend or two. Other groups are activity based. This offer's plenty of opportunity to meet people. 

I just go with what the mood is for going out. I do like to part take in the forum's, their interesting. However I spend the day at work looking at the monitor. To complete my work. 

That's just me: 1hapyfeller. 

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